Why is my husband still here?
Q. In 2016 my husband had affair whole that year I also fell pregnant with our third child during the mid of his affair. He ended it with mistress because he said he wants life with me and kids. Its now 2018 and its just hard for me now to understa...
A. 5 March 2018: He said he wants a life with you and the children, but his actions are not matching his words. It is possible he did not want to walk out on his children, yet he is living with you as a room mate, not as husband and wife. Did you both have ... (read in full...)
Why do friends ignore me on social media?
Q. When people ignore you and your posts on social media, But respond to others what can do you do? Why do people do this? It’s like “Fomo” aka “ fear of missing out” We Are sadly in a digital world”, feels like school or work cliques all over ...
A. 5 March 2018: They might notice your posts but they just don't say anything. Don't rely to much on social media for communication. I know personally I scroll past a lot of things on social media, it doesn't mean that I did not see it, it's just I did not feel the ... (read in full...)
As much as it hurts badly do I need to cut guy 1 off to give myaelf time to get over him? And focus on guy 2?
Q. Dear Cupids! I am torn between two men in my life. Guy 1 and I dated for 7 months then he had to go back to Greece as his contract for work ended. Now we still chat long distantly it was hard and I broke it off with him. We still talk via Skype a...
A. 5 March 2018: It is okay to feel panic. It is difficult accepting that a relationship is over. Most of us have went through break ups in life, and no it is not easy. But the only way to begin to get over it is to accept that it is over. If you still cling on to ... (read in full...)
I think I’m falling for someone who has a woman!
Q. I think im falling for someone who has a woman.... We met at my job about 4 months go, when his lady was on her way to jail.. She has to sit out a year and a half in there, ans though they're still "together" hes still spending all hos time with me ...
A. 2 March 2018: First off if your boyfriend is so useless and he is cheating why on earth are you still with him? Two wrongs do not make a right, and it does not justify you cheating on him! Honestly if you are in a unhappy relationship then end it. If you like ... (read in full...)
His female friend makes me uncomfortable!
Q. My boyfriend's female friend makes me uncomfortable. He is always adoring me most times. But when we all hang out and she drinks, she rubs his head,or hugs him when I leave the room; she lifted his shirt to see his belt buckle design. It drives me ...
A. 2 March 2018: Have you spoke to him about how this makes you feel? You have the right to feel the way you do, but you need to talk to him and tell him. Next time she lifts his shirt ask her politely not to, if she is waiting until you leave the room then tell ... (read in full...)
I’m a 25 year-old lesbian trying to figure out why I am almost exclusively attracted to older women
Q. 'm a 25 year-old lesbian trying to figure out why I am almost exclusively attracted to older women. I'm currently in a relationship with a woman 20 years older than me. When I was 19 I was dating men and women in their late 30s. Ever since I w...
A. 2 March 2018: Honestly why do you even care? I think you are over thinking everything. Some people like blonde hair, some people like black skin, you like an older woman. Really there is nothing wrong with it, and it doesn't mean that you have mother issues. It ... (read in full...)
I was happily single and living a full life ad then I met this man!
Q. I have been happily single for three years now and although missing the physical intimacy and all else that goes with having a close partner, have been busy with family and friends and not really been actively looking for a relationship. I ...
A. 2 March 2018: Are you afraid of rejection? Are you scared to let your guard down and for him not to feel the same? That would be my guess. Maybe you are scared to get back out there again, and that is okay. It can be really scary to get back on track with dating. ... (read in full...)
Sex feels like a chore.
Q. Hello, I met my boyfriend almost 4 years ago, and we have been together for about a year and a half. We used to have a great sex life, really experimental and open to trying new things. I've hit a rut where we don't have sex as much any more an...
A. 2 March 2018: All I can suggest is talk to him. You are living a nightmare in your head. If you want to travel then tell him that, if you want to move tell him that. It is your life and your choice and if you can't break up with him then come up with a plan ... (read in full...)
Should I try a free cuddle buddy website?
Q. Does anyone have experience with free cuddle buddy websites or know anyone who has used one? I may sign up for one and would like to hear other people's experiences with it because I'm not ready for another relationship, but I do miss being cuddles ...
A. 2 March 2018: Why on earth would you want to cuddle a stranger? Would that not be awkward and strange? Have you know family or friends you could cuddle with?... (read in full...)
I friend zoned him, he is trying to be more, which annoys me!
Q. I have known this guy for 4 months, everything was good and we had a very good connection. After a while, he started falling for me, he confessed his feeling to me and he wanted a relationship. He was so desperate for my love which turned me off a ...
A. 2 March 2018: Yes he is hurt because that is his male pride. He likes you and he wants nothing more than for you to like him back, so he is trying to make you jealous! He will always have hope for as long as you allow him to be friends with you. Now you need to ... (read in full...)
How should I react to this coversation between him and her?
Q. Ok, so I am going out with an older man, he is 16 years older than me(me 30 he is 46), divorced no children,we get along really well,and he treats me super nice,he is a gentleman and much more,we don’t have a lot of time of being together,yet we ...
A. 2 March 2018: Did you ask your boyfriend about any off this? Honestly it doesn't sound like he is up to anything. He texted in front of you which makes me think he has nothing to hide. She asked for a picture probably so they both knew who to look for if meeting ... (read in full...)
Toxic relationship with my mother and my family have decided to completely ignore me since I don´t live with them anymore!
Q. I need advice on a problem that is making me miserable, and it´s that my family are completely ignoring me and my mother was all that I had left but she is neglecting our relationship. This is not a new event, this has been going on since I was a ...
A. 28 February 2018: OP I didn't find you rude, if you are not getting anywhere with therapy after two years it might be worth looking in to another therapist?... (read in full...)
We bathed together in a spa while on a trip. Does she like me? I feel closer to her now
Q. I have a friend (J). She and I are very close to each other. We are housemates and study in the same college though different courses. Recently we went backpacking in Europe to several countries. While staying in Austria we rented an AirBnb...
A. 28 February 2018: The question is do you have feelings for her? I cannot read her mind but if you like her then you should ask her out on a date. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell if she ever felt anything for me or if does feel something for me now?
Q. I met this girl 12 years ago. I had already been in 3 relationships my relationship with her. My first relationship lasted for 2 years. But it feels like she is the only girl that I have ever truly loved and the only girl I will always love. Anyw...
A. 28 February 2018: It sounds to me like this girl uses you as a comfort blanket. She knows you love her and she is using that so she has someone to show her attention. Have a talk with her and tell her it is all or nothing, but honestly OP I think she is only going to ... (read in full...)
Am I fooling myself that we can hold this relationship together long term? Anyone else experience this type of situation?
Q. 30 years ago I was dating a guy who was a male version of me. Stubborn. Determined. Intense. He was my first love and I’d never loved anyone so deeply. I have never been a jealous person but I wanted him all to myself. We’d argue because he hated...
A. 28 February 2018: I didn't say you where a bad person or man, I just meant a selfish one. If you can live with your lie then that is your choice. I know personally I could never live with the guilt. It would eat me up inside. ... (read in full...)
I think I might have scared her away!
Q. Hello everyone, Recently I got out of a long term relationship. It's been about 2 months and now recently got hired to a new job 16 hours away from home. So, with the break up going down, I figured I would give myself time to heal and a lot of peo...
A. 27 February 2018: I am not sure if it is friends or family offering you the advice to get out there, but they couldn't be any more wrong! It is a really bad idea rushing in to dating after a break up. Things are still raw and well you will still be getting over it on ... (read in full...)
Husband is making my life miserable because I told both our families of his affair
Q. Married for last 25 years. Husband had affair with girl 20 yrs younger to him 5 yrs back.. myself and my 15yr old son badly affected. I had to divulge the matter to my in-laws and my mother. They broke up last year. Last year my mom died. Before she ...
A. 27 February 2018: Have you got any family members that you can turn to? Your husband is a very selfish disloyal man. You need to protect you and your son. So try and see if someone will help. If not then hide money and run away if it is your only choice. You need to ... (read in full...)
I can’t shake the things he told me! Am I being unreasonable and paranoid or is he lying?
Q. So from a very young age of around 13 I was always strongly attracted to my teacher he was a lot older than me but there was just something. Fast forward 7 years and we start speaking every day problem is he’s married. At first we talked very ...
A. 27 February 2018: What is that that you care for? Honestly he is old enough to be your Dad. You are right it won't go anywhere, he is probably just delighted he can get to bed with someone so young and is making the most of it. He sounds like a predator.
You can'... (read in full...)
Am I fooling myself that we can hold this relationship together long term? Anyone else experience this type of situation?
Q. 30 years ago I was dating a guy who was a male version of me. Stubborn. Determined. Intense. He was my first love and I’d never loved anyone so deeply. I have never been a jealous person but I wanted him all to myself. We’d argue because he hated...
A. 27 February 2018: Your husband deserves the truth, you promised to be faithful to him and you have broke that promise. The very least you can do is stop making excuses and let him decide his future. It is not simple to tell him. Of course not, it will more than ... (read in full...)
I feel worse after breaking up with my married lover
Q. I finally pulled the plug and broke up with my married lover but now i feel worse. I am having an extremely hard time getting over it. It was an ugly break up and even though he begged to remain friends and promised to be the man i met in the beg...
A. 27 February 2018: Well first off well done on doing the right thing, am sure it was hard when you had feelings for the man but he belongs to another woman. He begged you to remain friends because he more than likely wanted to try and win you back around. I am glad ... (read in full...)
Why does a cheater cheat and then beg his gf or wife not to leave him if she finds out?
Q. Why does a cheater cheat on a woman he loves and then if she finds out, begs her not to leave him? Why would he even commit the worst relationship sin of all if he loved her? Seemingly he did not care enough about her not to hurt her. So, if ...
A. 27 February 2018: Why does someone cheat? Well because they have no respect for there partner and they care more about themselves. If they loved there partner enough they would not cheat they would work out the relationship or else end it. Why does someone beg ... (read in full...)
My partner sleeps too much and it's irritating
Q. My partner works evenings, and he finishes work at midnight. I'm usually still up when he gets home around 12.15 and we go to bed shortly afterwards. Now, I get up around 9am (unless I am at university for the early lecture, then we both get up at ...
A. 26 February 2018: Does he sleep when he gets to bed? I work evening (4pm - 12am) and I must admit it is tough getting out of bed in the morning, mainly because it is hard to get to sleep for a few hours once I get home from work, I chill in bed and watch some tv or ... (read in full...)
Should I stay friends with her when her partner is not a nice person?
Q. I have a friend who is in a relationship with someone who wasn't so nice to me and this person is not a nice person at all . I never expected to become friends with her under the circumstances of how I met her but in the few years I've known her ...
A. 26 February 2018: You don't need to go in to detail but it is making it very hard for us to give you good advice. When you say he is a very nasty person, was it just to you? Or was it to her as well? It sounds like he treats her well would you agree? So if she ... (read in full...)
I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love
Q. I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...
A. 26 February 2018: How would you feel if your husband found out and left you? ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to still be a rebound if a guy left his ex to be with you?
Q. Is it possible to still be a rebound if a guy left his ex to be with you? My boyfriend and his ex broke up after she found out about us on Facebook. He’s with me now but he still entertains his ex and is still in contact with her....
A. 23 February 2018: It sounds like you where the other woman and he got caught so he had no choice but to leave, he probably still keeps in contact with her because he may want her back. Yes it does sound like you are the rebound. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him where our relationship is going?
Q. Hi all! Over the years, i find myself returning to this place whenever I’m in the need of a little advice. Hopefully this could be the last time lol... Okay, so I started dating this guy about 4 weeks ago. Totally took me by surprise, becaus...
A. 22 February 2018: OP it has only been four weeks so this is still all new to you both. You facetime ever single night which is a great start, texting every day is also a good sign. You say its been four weeks, eight dates, so that is average two a week! Everything ... (read in full...)
A relationship with an attached man is making me feel so sad?
Q. I've been seeing a man who lives with his baby mama for a year and I've fallen head over heals in love with him.He told me that he was in the process of leaving her and they are not really together but idk..He still live her a year later with no ...
A. 22 February 2018: I had a feeling your meet up's where purely sexual that is why I asked you. You got involved because you thought he was ending his relationship, but still you don't just jump in to sex with a man, you get to know them, allow them to take you out and ... (read in full...)
A relationship with an attached man is making me feel so sad?
Q. I've been seeing a man who lives with his baby mama for a year and I've fallen head over heals in love with him.He told me that he was in the process of leaving her and they are not really together but idk..He still live her a year later with no ...
A. 20 February 2018: What does these lunch time visits consist of if he never takes you out? Where do you both go? What do you both do? Do you grab food together? Explain to us more what he does to make you love him. ... (read in full...)
A relationship with an attached man is making me feel so sad?
Q. I've been seeing a man who lives with his baby mama for a year and I've fallen head over heals in love with him.He told me that he was in the process of leaving her and they are not really together but idk..He still live her a year later with no ...
A. 20 February 2018: First of, why would you even get involved with a man who is living with another woman? Surely you know it is unacceptable to start dating another women's man, never mind the fact that they have a baby together, surely you must have knowing that this ... (read in full...)
My husband is my mother’s suspect because he’s a recovering addict!
Q. My husband is a recovering addict. We live with my family at the moment and yesterday my mom wanted me to check the pockets of my husbands jeans because she found that she’s missing 4 pills. This is the 3rd time in the past couple months that she...
A. 19 February 2018: Did she ever find out who took the pills the first two times she accused him? I can understand why your mother would automatically blame a recovering addict, I can also understand why you want to believe your husband. First off I think your mother ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid if I have a baby I will have to do all the housework and take care of the baby too
Q. My husband and I are planning a baby. I’m a bit worried however that I’ve to do all the housework and take care of the baby as well. I have told my husband that we should move to The West Coast to my friend so she can be involved throughout. My ...
A. 19 February 2018: First of if you are worried then talk to your husband about how you feel, these are things you both need to discuss before actually having a baby. So it is good to talk about it just now if you are planning on having one! Why would you want your ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my very difficult father?
Q. My father is emotionally distant and is never respectful of me and my mother in public.As a father, He has never attended any of school events, has never allowed me to bring home friends, was emotionally unavailable all through my childhood. I ...
A. 19 February 2018: Just because he had issues growing up never excuses abusive behavior. No man has any right to lay a finger on his wife or 'roar' at an innocent child.
Your fathers friend was very cruel for saying that about a teenager, he is the ugly one not ... (read in full...)
He talks marriage but I think he is just using me for sex.
Q. So I was with a guy when I was younger we didn’t date but we would make out etc teenager stuff right (No sex) it lasted like 4 years so I consider it a relationship he ghosted me and then 3 years later came to see me and we talked made out etc he ...
A. 19 February 2018: You said you both didn't date you just made out but yet you considered it a relationship, but did he? It sounds like you like him more than he does you. If you were both young and making out for four years without talking about things and making it ... (read in full...)
My partner cheated on me, can we make it work?
Q. My question is simple. This is something I'm trying so hard to move past, for around the last 6 months now. I feel like I have progressed, but in real baby steps! Is it really possible to forgive and continue a relationship with someone who chea...
A. 16 February 2018: He has cheated once, why would he not cheat again?
Honestly OP if you are an insecure person this will never work. Trust takes years to build and seconds to crush it. You might never get the trust back. ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't understand how important my sister is to me.
Q. My husband recently lost his job. I told my sister immediately. My husband is now angry at me and said I should have asked if he wants me to make it public. I told him he cannot control me and that I share everything with my sister and also that my ...
A. 16 February 2018: I would be angry with you as well. It was your husbands business that he lost his job, not yours to go and tell people. He is not controlling you he just wants to be able to talk to you about things and for you to be able to keep them between ... (read in full...)
He didn't get me a present for my birthday or Valentine's Day
Q. My boyfriend and I got into a huge fight, and in the end I decided to break it off with him because it was getting nowhere. Last year on my birthday, my bf didn't get me anything or take me out to eat anywhere. It was literally NOTHING. But I ju...
A. 16 February 2018: If you have broken up with him now then why does this matter?
A tip for the future though, men are not mind readers, you told him you did not want anything and not to buy you anything! He done as you asked and you got upset! You getting upset on h... (read in full...)
Do men catch feelings from having sex?
Q. Do men catch feelings from having sex? I ask because I was talking to my best friend the other day and she said that she and the guy she is seeing, wants t stop having sex with her because he doesn't want to get too attached. she didn't understan...
A. 16 February 2018: I have heard of a man stopping sex with a woman before because he loved her and it was not returned. Not all men put sex first. Plenty of men don't have sex until they are in love. ... (read in full...)
As much as it hurts badly do I need to cut guy 1 off to give myaelf time to get over him? And focus on guy 2?
Q. Dear Cupids! I am torn between two men in my life. Guy 1 and I dated for 7 months then he had to go back to Greece as his contract for work ended. Now we still chat long distantly it was hard and I broke it off with him. We still talk via Skype a...
A. 16 February 2018: Best way is not to reply. If he keeps texting you then block him from your phone and tell him you need space and goodbye.... (read in full...)
Does she want to marry me or not?
Q. I'm trying to seek advice on what to do next here, and what will be the best way to proceed. I asked my girlfriend to marry me about two months ago. She said yes, but not yet. The reasons she gave to wanting to wait, was that she felt she was so ...
A. 15 February 2018: You sound like an amazing man! I really hope you both have a happy future. She is a lucky woman. ... (read in full...)
My husband spends more time with his female co worker than he does with me.
Q. My husband has a female coworker that he has been friends with for a while. They go out to lunch together and text each other here and there. I’ve never had a problem with this, I have male coworkers that I am friends with as well. My problem is ...
A. 15 February 2018: Honestly if he loved you he would put you first. He is being very selfish and from the sounds of it he has fallen for this co-worker. I mean yes it is okay to have friends ( I have male co-worker friends) and I am also married. However I would ... (read in full...)
I treated her good but she ghosted me, I still want her back.
Q. Asking for advice,over a year ago, my ex girlfriend ghost me, no contact since, she didn't even say goodbye,I didn't do anything wrong, but treat her special,what I am asking is ,would it be stupid, in my part to try to contact her,I know every one ...
A. 15 February 2018: I can never understand how someone can just be in a relationship one day and then just ignore there partner for a year and not have the deceny to finish with them. If I was you I would be angry that someone I cared about didn't even have the guts to ... (read in full...)
Toxic relationship with my mother and my family have decided to completely ignore me since I don´t live with them anymore!
Q. I need advice on a problem that is making me miserable, and it´s that my family are completely ignoring me and my mother was all that I had left but she is neglecting our relationship. This is not a new event, this has been going on since I was a ...
A. 15 February 2018: The only advice I can give you is to get out of this toxidity and look at your children, boyfriend and family as your new family. It may also benefit you to seek out therapy for the way you have been treated, you may have a lot of built up issues ... (read in full...)
As much as it hurts badly do I need to cut guy 1 off to give myaelf time to get over him? And focus on guy 2?
Q. Dear Cupids! I am torn between two men in my life. Guy 1 and I dated for 7 months then he had to go back to Greece as his contract for work ended. Now we still chat long distantly it was hard and I broke it off with him. We still talk via Skype a...
A. 15 February 2018: I think you need to let guy one go, you don't have a future and you are holding on to hope that is not there. Now normally I would also tell you to let guy two go and take some time for yourself and focus on you and getting over guy 1. However in ... (read in full...)
Do men catch feelings from having sex?
Q. Do men catch feelings from having sex? I ask because I was talking to my best friend the other day and she said that she and the guy she is seeing, wants t stop having sex with her because he doesn't want to get too attached. she didn't understan...
A. 15 February 2018: Some people catch feelings from sex and others can seperate the two. It depends on lots of different factors that is happening in a persons life. Age has a lot to do with it as well. I say person because it happens with both sexes, both men and ... (read in full...)
Does she want to marry me or not?
Q. I'm trying to seek advice on what to do next here, and what will be the best way to proceed. I asked my girlfriend to marry me about two months ago. She said yes, but not yet. The reasons she gave to wanting to wait, was that she felt she was so ...
A. 14 February 2018: Her reasons that she gave you does sound to me like excuses, things done around the house and work, you are right there is always something to do and something to repair. So yes those excuses do sound like she was trying to delay everything.
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I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love
Q. I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...
A. 21 June 2017: Stop cheating on your husband, you have to much to loose.... (read in full...)
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