Troubled relationship don't know how to deal with my mother in law
Q. Can someone help me to identify what personality trait my mother in law has? She is not a very motherly figure. She has 2 daughter and 1 son who is my husband. She look up on the first daughter as she has luxury lifestyle,but behind that she ...
A. 18 December 2017: You have asked this question so many times now but you have just worded it differently each time. If she is so bad then why live under her roof and eat her food and accept her meals? Go and find a place where you can look after yourself and then ... (read in full...)
I want to help my niece but I'm not sure how to do so
Q. So, I have a niece that just turned 18 and I just turned 25, my sister had her early and our parents had me when they were a little older. So, my niece has always been very shy and quite. But she started to break out of her shell when she was in ...
A. 18 December 2017: To begin with your sisters boyfriend do you know what he was in prison for? Was it violence robbery any idea? It is strange to me that he would stay nights and then leave when your sister wasn't even there. What makes you think that he done ... (read in full...)
She's left me twice does she deserve my respect? Or do I just be her friend like nothing ever happened?
Q. Hello ladies, got a question for you, I was seeing this woman, she left me for another guy, OK, five years later we started to see each other again, she did it again, with a friend in a band, now he dumped her and she is trying to talk to me, am I ...
A. 18 December 2017: You are right she doesn't deserve any respect from you therefore you should stand your ground and not let anyone treat you the way that she has done. It is hard enough to forgive someone for cheating once, but twice just goes to far. She will never ... (read in full...)
I still don't know if he's prepared to be in the sort of relationship I want to be in.
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years have spent the last 4/5 months very much on off. We initially broke up 4 months ago because we started back at uni and he was spending none of his time with me, with all his free time dedicated to going out with his friends, ...
A. 18 December 2017: Honestly it sounds from your post that this relationship has run its course. He sounds like he is very confused and doesn't know what he wants at the moment. Off course that is not fair on you. Generally when a relationship is on and off like this ... (read in full...)
Triangle friendship double cross!
Q. Ive been friends with my friend (Samantha) for 5 years and its really had its ups and downs throughout the years but things started to get worse, the competitiveness, the jealousy etc. We love each other very much but there is a lot negativity and ...
A. 18 December 2017: No I disagree with you not all women bitch and gossip behind their friends back!! I know for sure that I don't and if I had anything to say to them then I would say it to there face. So if you are the sort off person that back stabs there friends ... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid about getting someone pregnant.
Q. I'm paranoid about getting someone pregnant. I'm currently 31 and have had 1 or 2 sexual partners every year since my mid twenties. Every time I do have sex I use the condom properly, and most of the women I've been with are also on the p...
A. 14 December 2017: I think you need to see a specialist who deals with anxiety disorders. It is clear that you have some sort off anxiety disorder and you need to get to the bottom off that before making any life changing decisions about a vasectomy. ... (read in full...)
A practical joke gone horribly wrong
Q. My friend Bailey and I played a joke on our friend Eve just to embarrass her and teach her a lesson but Bailey took it too far and now Eve got suspended and her parents punished her real bad. She's not aloud to talk to us or anyone or go anywhere ...
A. 14 December 2017: You are a bully and it is people like you who bully people so much that they have no confidence and do silly things to themselves, do you know how many people kill themselves over people like you? You should do the right thing and own up about it ... (read in full...)
I'm having some trouble with my crushes
Q. I'm having a lot of trouble with my crushes. Do you have any advice on what I should do? How should I deal with this? I'm dealing with a lot right now and I want to resolve all my crush problems first. Basically, around a year ago I started li...
A. 14 December 2017: Hey sweetie believe it or not you are not to young for this. You are at an age where you start looking at boys or girls in a different light. You will develop crushes and feelings and it will be good and it will be bad. Please remember though that ... (read in full...)
Will he always cheat on me?
Q. Hi, so my boyfriend and I have been together for two years now and a month ago I caught him talking to other girls on snapchat and receiving nudes. I pulled him up on it and was going to leave him however gave him a second chance. A few days ago...
A. 14 December 2017: Do you love him? If you do then would you talk to other guys behind his back and ask them to send pictures to you? Then after seeing how much upset it caused your boyfriend would you then do it again to him? My guess is your answer is you wouldn't. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I only get to see one another every 3 months
Q. I'm almost have one year dating with my girlfriend and the problem is that we don't see each other often.we might take about 3 months before seeing each other. my girlfriend is 18 years old but her parents doesn't allow her to go out for funny wi...
A. 14 December 2017: One year is a long time dating someone at your age, however how well do you know your girlfriend? It sounds more like a cyber relationship than anything else. You need to be able to spend quality time together for any relationship to work, how many ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with his ex and his family during Christmas?
Q. I have met the most wonderful guy ever. I have totally fallen for him after years of rubbish relationships and I love him wholeheartedly. He has a young daughter with his ex and he never gets to see her despite trying over and over to be civil wi...
A. 14 December 2017: I think he needs to contact his lawyer. Have you spoke to him about how you feel and what you heard? I think you both need to talk, off course it is going to make you feel pushed out if she is clearly admitting she wants him back. Your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
I need help to control his binge drinking
Q. I need some advice. My husband has a problem with binge drinking. He can't stop at a couple and will just keep on drinking to he passes out. We don't really drink at home so it's only a problem if he goes out for drinks with friends. He normally ...
A. 14 December 2017: This story is very close to my heart. If he has admitted that he needs help then yes he is not going to stop at a few. He is not going to stop because he cannot control it. Believe me if it was that simply we wouldn't have such a big issue with ... (read in full...)
What can I do to deal with his attitude?
Q. Is my husband a narcissist? At the moment I am not working outside the home. The company I was working for went under. Even when I was working I still did 100 percent of the household chores and never once complained about doing it. If I go ou...
A. 14 December 2017: I doubt he is a narcissist. But I do believe he is arrogant and feels that the women's place is in the kitchen. Honestly if he does not appreciate you then stop treating him like a child. Tell him he can make his own lunch, let him take a tantrum. ... (read in full...)
Is it OK to ask him if he's serious about me?
Q. I’m currently in a long-distance relationship. I met him last 2015 but our relationship become more interesting when he come to visit me in my country April 2017 and again Oct 2017. It is our first time to be together, it was fun and we got the c...
A. 14 December 2017: Off course it is okay to ask him what is happening and where does he see this going? If I am being honest with you though I cannot see you both having a future unless you both decide to move to be with one another. Meeting up twice a year is not a ... (read in full...)
Are they together or is she now his ex?
Q. I went on my first date with a guy. I asked him if he's married and he said no. He is semi-famous and has all his life online basically. I did some research and found out that it's possible he has a girlfriend or wife or some sort. On her IG,...
A. 14 December 2017: Ask him, only he knows the truth. In fairness though after one date this sounds like its already a lot of drama. Am guessing that you had your suspition and you don't do all this detective work with everyone you meet. If you feel that he is lying it ... (read in full...)
When will sex start to feel good?
Q. I have had sex a few times now (Like 4). When is it going to start feeling good? It doesn't hurt, I just don't really feel anything. Is that a bad thing?...
A. 14 December 2017: When you fall in love and you and your partner spend time exploring each others bodies and finding out what you both like and what works for each off you. ... (read in full...)
On dating site for six years. Should this be a worry?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for a month and a half now. We text everyday, talk on the phone and we have been on multiple dates. Each time he is initiating it. So far things are looking spectacular! However, when I asked him how long he has been on the d...
A. 13 December 2017: In fairness yes six years is a long time but who are we to judge. He might be picky and didn't find anyone he wanted to date, or maybe he dated a few and it didn't work out. Also he could have wanted something different six years ago and is only ... (read in full...)
Troubled and confused by girlfriend and her kitten
Q. Dear all This problem is a bit strange and you may think I am weird, however this is just the way I am. I am in a long distance relationship with a girl I love very much. We have plans to be together soon. Recently she out of the blue to...
A. 13 December 2017: Okay I understand why you are feeling the way that you are, as an animal lover I understand why you are feeling emotional. However I wonder is she living on her own or with her parents? What age is she? She does need to realize that having a kitten ... (read in full...)
I'm unhappily married but in love with a man who's engaged but hesitant to leave his fiance
Q. Please could I ask for some advice on my situation... I have been married for 3 years but for the last year the marriage has been very difficult and we both feel that we have grown too far apart to fix things, although haven’t yet said we will div...
A. 13 December 2017: Sit with your husband and decide as a couple where you are both going to go from here. If you have fell out off love it is sad but the thing with marriages is you need to work at them and fight for them. But I think you have already gave up because ... (read in full...)
My friend is behaving differently since we had sex
Q. So I'm 25 best friend is 29. So I have been really good friends with an American man for about 12 years now, we met online and were penpals , we have emailed nearly every day for 12 years and always ring each other and there for each other if we ...
A. 13 December 2017: I think he likes you more than a friend. I know you are afraid off getting hurt but just give it a chance and see what happens, you both have kept up a great friendship even from such long distance between you both so you deserve it to each other to ... (read in full...)
Do you find this touching odd or it’s normal?
Q. Hi, I have a question and would appreciate your inputs. I’m 40 years old and just started dating 5 years after my divorce. I’m independent with a great job. I met a guy online who turned out to have some mutual friends with. He is 45, professional, ...
A. 13 December 2017: He is coming on a bit strong, however you getting your friend to try and trick him is a very childish thing to do. If you are trying to trick the man already then it might be best that you leave it alone. ... (read in full...)
Should I get her approval that I attend a fetish party?
Q. Im a closeted crossdreser, I'm totally straight, No bi tendencies. I have a long term wonderful girlfriend. I'm loyal to her, She knows about my crossdressing habit and she is cool with it as long as she doesn't see me dressed up. Never. This c...
A. 13 December 2017: I think you should talk to her about it and see what her opinion is, just be honest with her. However don't ask her can you go because at the end off the day she is not your boss and you can make that decision for yourself. But do talk to her and ... (read in full...)
I’m worried commitment means forfeiting sexual fulfillment, any advice?
Q. I’m in my mid-twenties and have been in a loving relationship six years, but I’m frustrated by my attraction to others. Whilst my partner has a colourful sexual history, I’ve only ever been with them and I feel by staying, I’m losing opportunities ...
A. 13 December 2017: What do you feel you are missing out on? Awkward first dates? I don't get it, just because you have only had one sexual partner doesn't mean you have missed anything. Unless off course you would like to try swinging or group orgies. I am glad you ... (read in full...)
Is going to New York alone for 6 months a good or bad idea?
Q. im want to make a big move to new york. not permanently just for few months maybe 6. i feel a pull to be there now. i went when I was a kid so i don't remember anything. i have no special reason i just want to visit. ny sounds fun and full of cool ...
A. 13 December 2017: I think sometimes in life you need to make your own decisions and don't allow other peoples opinions to cloud your own judgement. I mean me personally I have never been to New York but some day I would love to go. I don't think it would worry me to ... (read in full...)
What do I do about this weird attraction for my teacher?
Q. Lately, I've been feeling a weird attraction towards my teacher, I know it sounds inappropriate, but I really like him! Some days, I can't stop thinking about him, but other days, I just feel uncomfortable around him, I know that most of you reading ...
A. 13 December 2017: Nobody is going to be disgusted by this. Honestly honey you are growing up and becoming a woman and your hormones are flying all over the place. Believe me this happens a lot off girls at your age as they are transitioning in to an adult. So please ... (read in full...)
My husband is having an affair with a woman half his age and lies about it!
Q. Married 19 years my husband 54 is having an affair with a girl who is 27 he sits with her in different areas of the city and goes to her house when we go to church he knows that I know and continues to lie about everything what should I do?...
A. 13 December 2017: You should end things with him. Get talking to your lawyer as he is cheating on you which means he is making a mockery out off your marriage, and lying to you even though he knows you know what is going on.
Why would you want to be with some... (read in full...)
His daughter found my text messages to him and now he wants to cool things
Q. Hi I met a guy whom Ive known for years .. he was married before twenty years ago . He has three kids two grown up another who is eleven he lived with a woman before but didn’t work out I’ve just been seperated six months and for years I ignored ...
A. 13 December 2017: It sounds like he is using his daughter as an excuse. It might be a case that he felt the relationship was not working and well he is not man enough to admit it. If you need closure then call him and tell him how you feel. Other than that I would ... (read in full...)
I want her back but she doesn't want a relationship. How can she just walk away?
Q. So, there was this girl I met two years ago and I am in love with her (we dated and were pretty serious) . I am in the military and I was stationed in Alaska.( Where I met her, I am originally from Florida). But I hurt her and she well I left ...
A. 13 December 2017: I don't think I have ever come across a post so selfish and self absorbed. You feel that leaving a person after there father dies and run away with another women is okay? How would you feel if she left you for another man. Why should she want to be ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my job even though I'm knee deep in student loan debt?
Q. I've been in advertising for about 2 years now. The work load I have have can easily be divided among 3-4 people, my pay is pathetic and myself and a few other workers were harshly reprimanded by our boss a few months ago for something we/I didn't ...
A. 13 December 2017: Get out off the mind frame that you don't want to work for anyone for the time being. You are in debt and you need to work so that you can pay that off. I think we all wish we could go work for ourselves and not have to answer to anyone but it is a ... (read in full...)
His family is getting me down. What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone.. i need help and opinion from you about my husband. We are newly married and still living with his parents house for financial security and cultural things. We plan that once we can financially stable we will move out and live on ...
A. 13 December 2017: I remember reading your posts in the past and answering you. Yet you always post with the same question but nothing ever changes. You need to stop blaming the world for you being unhappy. You need to start taking some responsibility for your own ... (read in full...)
Jealous of our unfair treatment
Q. Before I get into it, I'm well aware of the bad rep age regressors have. I know what many of you think of us, but please just refrain from passing judgment. I've heard it all already anyway. I regress to ease anxiety, depression, the bad thoughts...
A. 13 December 2017: Okay look he didn't understand you and the relationship was hard work for him. I guess he did not care enough to stay and work hard enough through your issues. Yet here he is with another women the same issues as you have. The only difference is, he ... (read in full...)
I need a plan to win her back
Q. i need help getting my ex back. we broke up december 2016. here's the brief history: we met 3 years ago. her and i started dating in october 2016. our relationship was absolutely wonderful! however, things started going downhill shortly a...
A. 13 December 2017: No you don't need a game plan. Playing games is a dangerous route to go down. If I am being honest this went down hill after only being together not even a month so it is clear that you both are not meant for each other. You need to focus on what ... (read in full...)
Dealing with low self-esteem and body image from acne scars
Q. Hi guys, I have been dating a guy for close to 2 months. We have a great connection and i really like him. But he cares too much about physical appearance. I think I am good looking, both body and face, but have hypopigmented acne scars on my...
A. 13 December 2017: It is never okay for a man or indeed a woman to judge you on how you look. My bet is you are more worried about it than he is. If he is so vain that he cannot love you scars and all then believe me this is not someone you want to have in your life. ... (read in full...)
Why the strange reaction to my bridesmaid offer?
Q. Hi Everyone :) I have a best friend who is acting strange. She recently started acting odd ever since I got engaged in August of 2017. I asked her if she would be my maid of honor? She said yes, then I met up with her at a restaurant and got...
A. 13 December 2017: Yeah it sounds like she has some envy because you are getting married and that is what she wants for herself. It could also be the fact that she is scared off loosing you.
Either way if she is a close friend talk to her and let her try and expl... (read in full...)
Desperately in love with my teacher
Q. Hello everyone. I'm a sixteen year old girl and I have this one teacher who is just the most amazing guy ever. He's really smart, funny, and his personality is wonderful ;I'm just so in love. I have never really been in an intimate relationship with ...
A. 13 December 2017: Can you talk to your parents about this situation? You are a romantic person and that is okay. But you need to remember that you are still a school student and that you have your whole life ahead off you to have a relationship and have all those ... (read in full...)
My sons are using the house for dating. What should I tell them?
Q. I’m a single dad of two teenage boys, one is 17 (almost 18) the other is 15. My oldest has a girlfriend and recently I found out they have been using my house after school for their hook up spot. I came home from work last week and found an empt...
A. 12 December 2017: Honestly they are both 17 and both are a legal age to consent. You have taught him safe sex and well I know I would much rather have them safe under my roof than out in the streets somewhere. It is not your place to tell her parents unless you are ... (read in full...)
My long time friend is distancing herself from me and I am not sure why
Q. I have a friend that ive been close with for years, we told each other everything and did everything together. Shes been a big part of my life but this following year i sense a change... I’ve been so busy with work and school 6 days a week I am ...
A. 12 December 2017: If she was a true friend she would not be jealous off your success. It could be she felt you where to busy for her or that you both just grew apart. Yes it is sad but friendships end all the time. Why not write her a message and ask her is ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty I cheated on my boyfriend with his boss
Q. I’m 20 and my boyfriend is 22. We’ve been together for about 2 1/2 years and I’m beyond happy with him. The other night, we were fighting and I ended up leaving our apartment and just going for a drive when I stopped at the gas station and saw his ...
A. 12 December 2017: You wanting children and him not is enough to break up a relationship because you both want different thing.
Honestly I am not sure how you are going to tell him but you need to do it soon. I hope when you see the look on his face it will make you ... (read in full...)
How do you get over the first person you were sexual with?
Q. How do you get over the first person you were sexual with? I don't understand why I am so stuck on this. My first kiss was at 17, and he was also the first guy I ever touched or let touch me. However we did not have sex. I wasn't in a relationship ...
A. 12 December 2017: Have you used social media to try and track him down? If not then I would start there I think the best way to see if there is anything there is to contact him and see how it goes. ... (read in full...)
I am devastated to think maybe our marriage doesn't have a future
Q. Hi everyone, not been on here for absolutely ages and had a rough few years. So my question is the following! Sorry it’s a bit drawn out. Ok so I met my husband 22 years ago at work, he was married to the daughters boss, but not happily. Anyway I...
A. 11 December 2017: I do think use both need to get help in finding a way back for this relationship because at the moment it is just simply not working, you are like flat mates not a couple. ... (read in full...)
My ex isn't apologetic about his behavior and its starting to turn me off
Q. I broke things off with him because he kept gaslighting me. Anytime I wanted to talk to him about something he’d call me a drama queen, sensitive, emotional. I got so drained trying to salvage things. The last straw was when he told me to shut up as ...
A. 8 December 2017: I know this is difficult for you, you have knowing him for a long long time so off course you are going to worry and off course you are going to care. We as outsiders can see from your post that you breaking up with him was the right thing to do, he ... (read in full...)
I am devastated to think maybe our marriage doesn't have a future
Q. Hi everyone, not been on here for absolutely ages and had a rough few years. So my question is the following! Sorry it’s a bit drawn out. Ok so I met my husband 22 years ago at work, he was married to the daughters boss, but not happily. Anyway I...
A. 8 December 2017: You need to be honest with him about how you feel. Reading your post it makes me wonder why you would be with someone who only seems to care about money. His love for you should over come all off that. You both need to sit down at talk to each ... (read in full...)
Triangle friendship double cross!
Q. Ive been friends with my friend (Samantha) for 5 years and its really had its ups and downs throughout the years but things started to get worse, the competitiveness, the jealousy etc. We love each other very much but there is a lot negativity and ...
A. 29 November 2017: I don't think this friendship can be mended and I don't think you deserve Sam's friendship. What age are you 10? Honestly how you treated Sam is nothing short off bitchy, cruel and bullying. You should be ashamed off yourself and try and learn to be ... (read in full...)
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