I am devastated to think maybe our marriage doesn't have a future
Q. Hi everyone, not been on here for absolutely ages and had a rough few years. So my question is the following! Sorry it’s a bit drawn out. Ok so I met my husband 22 years ago at work, he was married to the daughters boss, but not happily. Anyway I...
A. 11 December 2017: I do think use both need to get help in finding a way back for this relationship because at the moment it is just simply not working, you are like flat mates not a couple. ... (read in full...)
My ex isn't apologetic about his behavior and its starting to turn me off
Q. I broke things off with him because he kept gaslighting me. Anytime I wanted to talk to him about something he’d call me a drama queen, sensitive, emotional. I got so drained trying to salvage things. The last straw was when he told me to shut up as ...
A. 8 December 2017: I know this is difficult for you, you have knowing him for a long long time so off course you are going to worry and off course you are going to care. We as outsiders can see from your post that you breaking up with him was the right thing to do, he ... (read in full...)
The guy I'm dating doesn't believe I have social anxiety, does it matter?
Q. I've been on a few dates with this guy. I feel a bit of a spark but I am worried about something he said to me. Part of me feels that if I liked him enough to date him I won't worry about what he said. I told him that I suffer from social anxi...
A. 8 December 2017: OP don't worry about him being sympathetic. Honestly he doesn't understand anxiety and that is why he won't have sympathy. Personally I don't want people to have sympathy for me when I am taking an anxiety attack. I prefer to deal with it myself. It ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my drug addicted friend's girlfriend
Q. Hey guys! I'll try be brief. So I have a friend who is going psychotic due to his drug use that he denies to a psychotic extent. He twists reality and makes everyone his enemy if they try to confront him (I have tried a few times and he angrily l...
A. 8 December 2017: There is nothing that you can do for your friend. He needs to be able to help himself and want to come off the drugs and be a better person. Sure people can support him but it needs to be his decision and his choice. I think the best thing that you ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife to work on her weight problem and not just moan about it
Q. How can I encourage my Mrs to lose weight. We have been married 6 yrs, she was gorgeous slim when we met. Over the years I have told her she is getting big and she should try and maintain shape before it gets out of control. Her response is that she ...
A. 8 December 2017: Honestly some times we are never happy with ourselves. A lot off people complain about there image yet do nothing about it, it is probably more common than you think. My guess is that your wife is unhappy with how she looks and probably moans so ... (read in full...)
I am devastated to think maybe our marriage doesn't have a future
Q. Hi everyone, not been on here for absolutely ages and had a rough few years. So my question is the following! Sorry it’s a bit drawn out. Ok so I met my husband 22 years ago at work, he was married to the daughters boss, but not happily. Anyway I...
A. 8 December 2017: You need to be honest with him about how you feel. Reading your post it makes me wonder why you would be with someone who only seems to care about money. His love for you should over come all off that. You both need to sit down at talk to each ... (read in full...)
He doesn't turn me on but I don't want to hurt him by dumping him harshly!
Q. One of my closest male friend asked me out 3 years back. He swept me off my feet with his romantic gestures and when he asked me to be his girlfriend i said yes to him.Some 6 months into the relationship I realised that I am do not have any passion ...
A. 8 December 2017: You need to realize now that he is no longer your friend. There are feelings involved and he is in love with you. You cannot go back to being friends, it would just continually give him false hope and hurt. You need to be honest with him and tell ... (read in full...)
My ex's actions make me feel like I was never worth fighting for
Q. Hi guys, So this is an ongoing problem with my ex bf that has left me feeling confused, angry, resentful, but mostly hurt, and I need advice on how to deal with the situation. So earlier this year, I posted on this website about whether or no...
A. 8 December 2017: Stop allowing him back in to your life. Ask him to leave you alone and tell him you don't want any more contact from him. Stop giving him chances and stop expecting him to change. You need to accept that this is who he is and it has nothing to do ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with boyfriend or leave and hope something will happen with this other man?
Q. Hi everyone Looking for some advice. Im 32 years old and when I was 18 I met a lad (lets call him A) through a group of friends. I had just recently entered a relationship and A also had a girlfriend who he had been with a few years. There was...
A. 8 December 2017: I think you should end things with your boyfriend. You say you love him, but it is clear that you don't. You would never have lied and cheated on him if you loved him. If you want to do the decent thing then let your boyfriend go and be with someone ... (read in full...)
I broke it off. Was I right? How do I move on?
Q. I was with her for 1 year. Everything was going great until 3-4 months in we started having problems. We both made mistakes and we’ve been on and off many times. We somehow managed to move past all of that and we fell in love. It’s then when we got ...
A. 8 December 2017: As you say all you know is you have had enough so that is enough to accept that the relationship is over and now work towards moving on with your life. Personally it wouldn't bother me in the slightest if my husband gave a gift we had both bought to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mother isn't accepting of my children and myself
Q. i met my boyfriend 6yrs ago I have 2 children from previous relationship and left their father due to domestic violence. We are happy and since meeting my boyfriend we have so much in common and my children love him like a dad. We met his mum and ...
A. 8 December 2017: I do admit that I feel sorry for him because he is stuck in the middle. You shouldn't put him in the situation to take sides between you and your children and his own family. However I know if someone was rude to me that my husband would be in my ... (read in full...)
He wants me to trust him but he doesn't behave as someone that I can trust!
Q. Hello. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I've been seeing my current boyfriend off and on for about eight months now. During that time we have had several breakups. Once over him being too flirty with another girl as I stood by as a ...
A. 8 December 2017: Forgiving is one thing, but allowing someone to treat you like a piece off dirt is another thing. Honestly I don't know how you have any confidence left. Look at it this way you say you love him, but do you think he loves you? Because if I loved ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to after he left me?
Q. Hi. I had a short relationship only 3 months (but very intense holidays etc) I really thought I had met someone who could handle me - i have bipolar - however he ended it saying as he lived so far away he couldn't help me when I needed it. I was so ...
A. 8 December 2017: I think it is to soon yes. You have not moved on so you need to give yourself some time. To some three months might not seem long, but it is you who is feeling how you do and it is you that needs to cope with it.
I am sorry for the loss off your... (read in full...)
Mental health problem blighting my life
Q. I wanted to come in here because I feel I need to ask for advice/feedback after some therapy had not worked. I have OCD and excessive rumination. I worry to the point where I feel I am handicapped from my thoughts. For example this incident jus...
A. 8 December 2017: I think that you need to find another therapist. One that specializes in OCD and anxiety. Are you on any medication? Off course it must be a daily struggle living inside your head, and you cannot go on living like this. It is mentally and physically ... (read in full...)
Am I being over sensitive about this guy who keeps cancelling on me?
Q. Hey guys, I need a little advice on weather or not I handled something correctly.. So a few months ago I was working for a company and I became friends with my manager's younger brother who had just started working there the week I left. I left ...
A. 7 December 2017: He is flaky and well no you are not being to sensitive. I would just be polite to him when you see him but stop trying to be friends because I honestly don't think it would work. It sounds like he is playing games with you and is messing with your ... (read in full...)
The boyfriend and the friend who doesn't know we're together: I want to be put first for once
Q. One of my boyfriends friends and I don't get along because of things that happened in the past between us, so we mutually agreed not to speak to one another. My boyfriend tells me that he likes the guy, but they aren't that close. I don't mind them ...
A. 7 December 2017: I know that I wouldn't be anybodies secret anyway if you both want to be together the don't keep it a dirty little secret. No wonder you are being left paranoid. Tell the friend you are together and see how it goes. Don't be anybodies secret.... (read in full...)
What do I do and say? His depression is hard to deal with
Q. I need help. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 months and a bit more , and I love him so much but he has depression . I help him as much as I can and I’m here for him all the time but he always complains to me how he feels and I understand that he’s ...
A. 7 December 2017: You are very young and off course this is going to upset you, relationships are not easy and they are even harder when a person has depression. Is he on medication? Does he have a therapist? I just hope he is getting the help that he needs. Also you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is really depressed what should I do
Q. My boyfriend is really depressed, we have been going out for 2 month and hes saying he feels on a scale of 1 - 10 ( 10 feeling really good ) that hes about a 2 . He has been seeing the doctor and a mental health worker but i dont feel hes getting ...
A. 7 December 2017: You need to be sure that you are strong enough to be in a relationship with someone with depression. It is tough going on you and him, and its tough going on a relationship. Glad he is seeking help, and well I am glad that you are sticking with him ... (read in full...)
Handsome man being hot, but now cold. Should I just assume he's not interested?
Q. Long story short, he asked me for my number. He texted me that day saying that he'd like to go to the movies later with me. I had a really busy day and didn't reply till the following day cause I didn't want to rush and say the wrong thing. I re...
A. 7 December 2017: Send him a message and set up a date, the ball is in your court now. No need to wait until he texts ect. No point in rules and playing games, if you like him ask him out! Simple as that!... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with the man I had a little bit of fun with, 16 years ago!
Q. This is really weird. So, some 16 years ago, I had a one night stand with this acquaintance - we traveled together to a new city with a group of friends and stayed in the same house. I was relatively sexually inexperienced and socially inept. The ...
A. 7 December 2017: Honestly I don't see why this guy is a catch at all, it sounds like he was a horny teenager and well you offered it to him on a plate. Honestly the best thing to do is block is facebook and carry on with your life. ... (read in full...)
Heartbroken he has returned to porn
Q. My boyfriend (27) and I (24) have been together for 2 years. We had been friends for 3 years before he asked me out. Around the 1 year mark maybe a little later my SO commented on how he doesn't even watch porn anymore. He said he just thought about ...
A. 7 December 2017: I think you need to work on your own issues or else this is going to effect your relationship and any future relationships that you have. You need to learn to love yourself and only you can work on that. If you need to see a therapist to work ... (read in full...)
I have these gut feelings she's cheating so how do I figure out what I do?
Q. I'm a female in a relationship with another female. I have trust issues due to previous infidelities in past relationships. I know that it's unfair for me to question her when she's done nothing wrong, but, honest to god, I can't help it. I feel ...
A. 6 December 2017: Yeah OP you do need therapy this relationship won't work without trust and keep going the way you are with all these thoughts and you will go crazy. ... (read in full...)
Am I selfish for not wanting a relationship? My parents are desperate for a grandchild but I'm not so sure I'm ready
Q. I'm just curious as to what others think about this situation or if anyone else has had a similar problem. I'm 23 and I've never dated nor been in a relationship (and therefore obviously a virgin), but that is mainly by choice as I have no desire...
A. 6 December 2017: I am sorry for the loss off your brother, I am sure that has hit all the family very hard. However you are still only young and you should not be rushing to have children especially since you don't even have a boyfriend yet. Most parents can't want ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him? I just want to be friends and cuddle from time to time
Q. Hello, I don't know how to start this. I'm a 19 years old girl and I've never had a boyfriend before. I met a guy at school, we barely talked though. once there was a camping event, and we ended up cuddling one night. We didn't talk about it a...
A. 6 December 2017: Okay I think what you need to do is to sit down with him and talk to him. It is time to be honest with him and tell him where he and you stand.
You have said you don't want a boyfriend at the moment because off studies but does he know this? You ... (read in full...)
I've been hooking up with my ex and now he wants proper sex but I'm hesitant because I want my first time to be with a boyfriend
Q. I am a 16 year old girl. I dated this guy for a year and a half, but we broke up in January when I found out he had been sexting other girls. Over the summer, he changed a lot, and he decided he wanted to get back together with me. I told him I'd ...
A. 5 December 2017: Do what you always wanted to do and hold out for a boyfriend who actually loves you and doesn't just want sex from you. I think loosing your virginity is a special thing. It is great you feel comfortable with your ex, but emotionally he doesn't want ... (read in full...)
How do we choose which couple to ask To join us on the cruise?
Q. My husband and I used to be very close with 2 other couples. It was always the 6 of us doing stuff together. We never made plans without including both coupled and vice versa. Well the 2 couples had a very serious falling out and are no longer ...
A. 5 December 2017: Personally I wouldn't invite any off them or else invite both and leave it up to them to decide, they are all adults. ... (read in full...)
I said yes to a guy but I just don't like him that way
Q. So I know this guy for about 4 days now. We met when I was stuck in my car on a road and he helped me to get back home. Then he asked me for my phone number and I gave him, because he was acting sweet and I thought we could make good friends. He ...
A. 5 December 2017: If you are so shallow that you would only date a guy who lifts then yes be honest with this guy and don't lead him on. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my son that his girlfriend is cheating on him?
Q. My sons girlfriend is cheating on him??? Both she and my son are 25 and have been together for just over 9 years. I received an e-mail from someone who has sent me evidence that she has been cheating on him for the past 5 years with his BFF. I ...
A. 5 December 2017: Why did you ignore the last advice that was given to you and write the same question? Seriously why would any mother in there right mind not have told there son this yet. I think you are lying. ... (read in full...)
I was a virgin, didn't bleed and now my husband says I wasn't a virgin
Q. It was totally my first intercourse, but i did'nt bleed....i only felt a very little pain...even my hubby said that i'm not virgin as my vagina is loose. He said my vagina is not like virgins have.... But It was my first time. Why it happens to...
A. 5 December 2017: You say that you love him, but do you think he loves you? If he loved you would he not believe and trust you? Because to me it sounds like he doesn't love you or should I say he does not trust you. There is nothing that you can so or do to get him ... (read in full...)
He cheated on his boyfriend, do I tell?
Q. I used to fancy a friend of mine, he knows but clearly has no interest I’m coping with that. Now his started going out with a guy 10 years younger than him, he told me they were fun buddies cause he couldn’t go out with someone younger than him...
A. 5 December 2017: You say that you are coping with him not returning your feelings but from the sounds off your post you are not. It is clear you still want to be with him even though you no that he does not feel the same for you.
Your feelings for this man mean... (read in full...)
I'm tired of trying to avoid him ...
Q. Okay so this is a really weird situation. I liked this lad since my first year of high school, we had flirty banta untill he left in 2016. After showing up on the bus on my way to the first day of college a few months ago, it bought old feelings up. ...
A. 5 December 2017: If you want to avoid him then it is probably best that you end the friendship. Tell him you don't want to be friends and move on. Take from this experience that if you like someone take your time on getting to know them and don't rush in to intimacy ... (read in full...)
Does she want my help?
Q. Hi guys... Well, there's this girl. I see her almost every day at NA meetings. NA stands for Narcotics Anonymous. Yes, both of us are recovering addicts... We're doing really fine, she's been clean for a year and a half now and myself for about...
A. 5 December 2017: Honestly OP you wrote a beautiful post. But this girl sounds so lost and so confused. She is obviously fighting some sort off demons. From the sound off your post it seems that she is not ready for a relationship. She has a battle ahead off her and ... (read in full...)
Caught him out. What should I do?
Q. Looking for honest comments from anyone especially if you’ve been through this. Until 6 weeks ago,All was really nice in my 3year relationship with my partner. We have lived together for 2 years. He moved over from his town to my after graduati...
A. 5 December 2017: Do you want to be in a relationship where you need to always wonder what if and check up on his phone? You obviously had your doubts when you invaded his privacy.
Look I know personally I could never forgive this. He was chatting sexual to othe... (read in full...)
Staying with his mum is taking all out savings
Q. Hiya.. I currently have been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years.. we are in a very happy relationship- no problems and we get on like a house on fire.. we are currently saving to buy our first house and are currently living together at his mums ...
A. 5 December 2017: It is difficult to save money but you must remember that life does also get in the way and we do need money for other things these days. I mean car repairs are always going to come up and also Christmas happens every single year. what exactly does ... (read in full...)
I'm in a horribly abusive relationship and I need a way out for me and my daughter
Q. Hi basically just looking for some advise plz, I really don't know what to do or how to. Basically I haven't been happy with my partner we have been arguing lately quiet a lot we have a small child but the arguments ain't in front of her as he ...
A. 5 December 2017: This is not your fault and it is common for abusers to make you feel that way, that is how they get in to your head and destroy your confidence. I am glad to hear that you are leaving him and that you have family support. If the house is in your ... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with my wifes cousin.
Q. So my wife has a really attractive cousin who I only see on holidays and up until now she’s been in a relationship. Well she’s newly single and I noticed she seems to be interested in me as well and has given vibes that she’s feeling it too. I sat ...
A. 5 December 2017: I think you should stop thinking with your penis and start thinking with your head. Do you remember why you married your wife? What made you take them vows?
I mean yes we all love sex, but don't let it take over your life. Try spicing things up with... (read in full...)
Where would a 24 year old find a guy? What should I do to get a boyfriend?
Q. Hi aunties, I need some help. I'm 24 years old I've been single all my life, never been in a relationship and I've never been in love. I like to consider myself okay looking and I believe I have a good personality. However, I just can't seem ...
A. 5 December 2017: Could it be that you are coming on to strong to guys and that is why it doesn't last? When you meet someone you need to remember to take it slow and take your time getting to know them. You don't want to move to fast or scare anyone off.
For me I... (read in full...)
I love her, but can't say it out loud!
Q. i knew this girl for 3 months now and we are getting along so well, i love everything about her and i feel like home when i'm with her. we match to each other and have the same frequency. i'm a great listener and i love to listen to her speak. ...
A. 4 December 2017: How can you loose her when you do not have her? I will be honest with you here, if you move in with her it will only be yourself that you will be hurting. If you have feelings for her moving in together will make it worse, how would you feel living ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to get it all together to be an adult and be ready for the world but my mom thwarts my every move!
Q. Hey, I'm in a frustrating situation right now. I am a legal adult and I want to become independent and learn how to handle school and work at the same time; however, my mom is dead set against it (even though she helped me apply for a job at Publix ...
A. 4 December 2017: You say you almost wish that your mother would let you learn the hard way. But I wonder if she did this would you then see how lucky you are? I get that you are at an age now where you want to be an adult and make your own choices and you have the ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 he's 16 and I'm worried about what people would think if we dated
Q. ok, I'm 19 and I became friends with a boy whos 16 years old and I notice that i started to get feelings for him a little bit so i tried to put it to the back of my mind and ignore it, but recently he admitted that he has feelings for me which is ...
A. 4 December 2017: Hi OP honestly I think this age gap is much to big for you both at the age you are. You are an adult now and well he is still a teenager. Not only that but females tend to mature more than males anyway. I think you would both not work in a ... (read in full...)
I like her but I'm confused
Q. So me and this girl have been talking for quite a while now. I didn't want to rush into anything and we like eachother lots but I don't know i'm confused about it.I really like her but on the other hand, I feel like i'm not good enough for her. I'm ...
A. 4 December 2017: What did you do to hurt her in the past? Has she forgiven you for that?
You need to not put yourself down, if she tells you that she likes you then believe her. If you feel you are struggling with depression then go to your doctor to get chec... (read in full...)
Does he even like me? Or is it all in my head?
Q. So I met a guy a year ago at my mothers work and he and I got along very well we had an instant connection. We grew our friendship for a while and then he left for college about 2 hours away. When he left his mom asked me to plan him a graduation ...
A. 4 December 2017: Yeah it sounds like this guy likes you as much as you like him. He probably doesn't want to be rejected by you. Would you feel comfortable asking him out? You could make it quite easy and just simply ask him would he like to go on a date with you to ... (read in full...)
The guy I'm dating doesn't believe I have social anxiety, does it matter?
Q. I've been on a few dates with this guy. I feel a bit of a spark but I am worried about something he said to me. Part of me feels that if I liked him enough to date him I won't worry about what he said. I told him that I suffer from social anxi...
A. 10 November 2017: OP a lot off people suffer from the things that you mention (including myself), so why let it define who you are? If you want to label it as social anxiety then that is okay, but he obviously views social anxiety as something else, which yes is okay ... (read in full...)
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