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Hello to anyone reading this :)

I'm 20 at the time of writing this [born Nov 1990], and I live in London. I was born in England but my parents are originally from India.

My username is lacrymosa_652, titled after the song "Lacrymosa" by Evanescence - one of my favourite bands. I wish I'd looked up the definition of "lacrymosa" before I put it as my username though!

I first came on dear_cupid when I was about 17 to receive advice for a couple of problems. It was only recently though, when I asked a couple of questions (I always ask anonymously though :P) and received brilliant advice that I felt I should return the favour, and so now I come on here regularly to answer people's questions. I'm not a judgemental person and I understand that what may not be a big deal to one person is a problem for another, so I rarely view questions as meaningless or pointless. I try to give responses and advise people as best as I can, and I try to not answer questions that I feel are out of my depth.


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Friends vs. Relationships

This question has 6 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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1 March 2011: Have you ever been in a situation where you want to be with someone, but another person isn't happy about it, and therefore is standing in your way? Perhaps you've liked a sibling's friend, or a friend's relative, or someone your friend likes as ...

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Does he like me or am I getting tricked?

Q.   A really popular guy is always saying hi to me and asking me how I am and he asked me if I wanted to do something with him when my friend left. He's got some friends who are super-popular and i'm a nerd. Is it possible he likes a nerd or is he ...

A.   27 July 2011: Do you really like him, anyway? Don't just go out with him because he's popular. And people playing tricks don't usually let it play out for that long... they won't want to spend a lot of time hanging out just to play a trick. See if he wants to be ... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend but I don't want to have sex with him! Help!

Q.   my boyfriend loves me but he wants to have sex with me and i don't want to, what should i do with my boyfriend? although we can't break up because I LOVE HIM...

A.   6 June 2011: Don't have sex with him. He should respect your decision and if he keeps pushing you then he's not worth being with. Don't let your feelings for him cloud your judgement. Anyway, you're too young to have sex and it would be illegal. Wait until ... (read in full...)

Do you believe God gives signs to tell us things about our relationships?

Q.   I'm just wondering if any of you truly believe that if we pray for a sign of something, God will show us. For example, this might sound really silly, but I've fallen in love with this guy, and seriously, it's love. Not lust or infatuation. I'm ...

A.   3 June 2011: If he's giving you "every sign in the book" and other people have said it, then he probably does like you. As for the Nun thing - freaky coincidence, in my opinion. If God exists, I don't think He would care about our romantic relation... (read in full...)

Trouble with my boyfriend and thinking about breaking up......

Q.   Dearcupid, I am at the most confusing stage. I love my boyfriend a lot. We met online. He is 26 and I'm 16. I have asked this question before,please check. He disappeared...

A.   3 June 2011: Tell him that you don't want to be in a relationship with him anymore because it's not working out, and that you don't want him to call or message you again, as you think it's better that you both part ways. If he tries to call you, don't answer, ... (read in full...)

Why do guys keep hurting me like this?

Q.   Why does this keeps happening to me? what is wrong with me? Am all cried out! I've had 4 boyfriends who I felt really strongly about. I did everything a good girl would do. I wasn't easy, I stick to the rules and made them all wait a reasonabl...

A.   1 June 2011: You've just had bad luck when it comes to guys. I'm sorry that that's happened to you, but there's nothing wrong with you. Someone cheating says more about them than the person they're cheating on. You sound like a great girl, and someone would be... (read in full...)

I want to go to this dance, but my mum won't let me. Should I lie about it?

Q.   I want to go to a teenage disco which my other two best friends have gone to, they said it was class. Its June now and the one for school finishing is on this Friday the 3rd, though my parents wont allow me till the one on halloween and I'm not ...

A.   30 May 2011: I think you should ask your parents what their reasons are for not letting you go, and see if you can compromise - e.g. if they say they don't want you going off with boys or something, say you'll just stick with your friends and you just want to ... (read in full...)

He thinks I'm psycho, how do I let go?

Q.   My ex and I met 2 years ago through a mutual friend. We ended up becoming really good friends who had similar wants and desires out of life as well as a relationship so it was pretty natural when our friendship turned into more. We would talk all ...

A.   27 May 2011: While our situations differ, a lot of what you've said reminds me of my ex and I. I'll just skip to the break-up part... well we tried being friends but then he stopped responding to my messages. I knew I should leave him alone but it was hard to ... (read in full...)

Heart spamming on facebook makes me sick. Normal, or am I jealous?

Q.   This is a mixed question, but I will try to explain what I mean best as possible. This is about how people choose to use facebook and the reactions people have to it. Im especially thinking about the couples who declare their undying love for...

A.   27 May 2011: It IS annoying. I don't witness what you call "heart spamming" as frequently as you seem to, but I can't help but roll my eyes when couples constantly write on their other half's wall all sorts of lovey dovey messages. There was one guy on my ... (read in full...)

Feel so guilty for ignoring her...

Q.   Hi, I cut this woman out of my life some time ago. I did it only after a long effort of trying to talk to her to reach a common understanding. And I did it only after a long period of deliberation and only after I was convinced that she was lying to...

A.   27 May 2011: It sounds as if you had a good reason for doing what you did, and that it was sort of a last resort. I wouldn't feel guilty about it, if I were you. There's people who are more heartless when it comes to cutting people out of their lives, they do it ... (read in full...)

I don't want my boyfriend to know that I'm not a virgin!

Q.   im not virgin n i dont want that my boyfriend know that im not virgin on our wedding night plz help...

A.   14 May 2011: If this was an arranged marriage I'd probably understand why you want to hide it, but you say that this man is your boyfriend so I'm assuming this is a love marriage. In which case, is it necessary to lie? Why did you lie in the first place? You c... (read in full...)

I give him oral 24/7, but NEVER has gotten it in return, am I being selfish?

Q.   Hello, I am a 18 year old female and i am mixed. I am native american and black. I been with my boyfriend for a year in a half and i have done everything to please him. I even pay for every single damn thing. I wait for him all the damn time ...

A.   14 May 2011: If you're not happy being with him, then don't be with him. Some people are happy to give without expecting anything in return, but if you feel as if things should be 50:50 [which is totally fair] and he just takes and does not give, then it doesn't ... (read in full...)

Will I lose my virginity if I give him oral? Will he love me more if I do it?

Q.   i'm a 17 years old girl and still a virgin. my boyfriend is asking me to have an oral sex with him, he's 18 and were both virgins. i keep telling him that i don't want to because i'm reserving my virginity till the day i'm married. (even though im ...

A.   28 April 2011: I don't know why your relationship is illegal, but if it is (and it's not just a figure of speech) then you shouldn't be with him. You shouldn't give your boyfriend oral sex just so that he'll love you more, or if it's because he won't love you... (read in full...)

Oral Sex Can Be A Sharing Experience - Swallowing IS Equal...

Q.   I am in my early fifties and my man is as well. We've only recently become intimate and I was not involved with anyone for a few years prior. So, I had a long time to think about sexuality and what I would do when back into it. My thoughts are tha...

A.   27 April 2011: Although I haven't had penetrative sex before, I have given my ex oral sex, and yes I prefer to swallow for some of the same reasons you've mentioned. I also find it sexier... if that doesn't sound too weird. I don't think a man should feel any... (read in full...)

What is wrong with incest?

Q.   This is an unusual question, but I'm curious to see what your answers will be. I was watching the HBO show Game of Thrones the other day, in which it is hinted at that one of the characters is having sex with his sister. On IMDB, this brought up ...

A.   23 April 2011: I'm against incest purely because I think it's unfair on any child born from the relationship, as there's a high risk of physical and/or mental handicaps, as you said. Other than that, I can't think of any reason as to why I'm against it. Ther... (read in full...)

Hope to cope when boyfriend goes away for a week?

Q.   hello, I want advice and ways 2 cope on a few things. Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 months. We got commitment rings, (his idea) and he said he does want 2 be with me and loves me but it feels like i want him more and love him much more...

A.   23 April 2011: I think you need to be a bit less... dependent on him, and learn to not be bothered by how much he texts you and so forth. It seems like you are going through that feeling of wanting to be with your significant other all the time. However, it's just ... (read in full...)

Should I remove this girl from my friend list on facebook? She broke my heart...

Q.   Right now I am hesitating about kicking a girl whom I love on Facebook. This is not internet dating. She is a really good friend of mine and during the past two years both of us experienced a lot of things but now everything has turn bad. At t...

A.   15 April 2011: If you honestly think you're not going to speak to her again, and you can wait a while to make sure, then you can delete her. It may just hurt you to see her popping up on your newsfeed and so forth. Good luck, I'm sorry you're going through th... (read in full...)

What is your opinion of someone who has quite a few piercings on their body?

Q.   I currently have my first and seconds (lobe piercings), and my helix done (upper ear cartilage piercing) and in my left ear first piercing (lobe), i have a 3mm fleshy (stretcher) And i want: -My thirds -My tongue -My nose -My belly ...

A.   15 April 2011: I have nothing against having a lot of piercings, I quite like piercings myself. I have three in each earlobe, and used to have two in my upper left ear as well, but then they closed up. I'm considering getting my tongue and navel done as well. ... (read in full...)

Do kids turn out good or bad based on genes?

Q.   Do kids turn out good ,or bad ,based on their parents genes,or how they were raised? In my family , there is a strange situation, our kids got most things, what kids needs. Not perfect, but very stable, and loving environment. But the most hor...

A.   13 April 2011: Well this is a huge debate, nature vs nurture. I don't know how much research has gone into this but I think our genes determine our personalities to an extent. But nurture has a big influence. For example, alcohol addiction can run in families. But ... (read in full...)

Why is my boyfriends Facebook status single?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. It is a long distance relationship. He is shy, and private. We keep our relationship quiet. I respect his character, and do not have him listed as my boyfriend on facebook. I simply have a ...

A.   12 April 2011: You can simply ask him, I'm sure he won't mind, as long as you ask him nicely and not like "WHYYY ARE YOU STILL LISTED AS SINGLE??" Lol, you know? I'm sure it's just because he doesn't want people asking. If he's shy, it can be quite embarass... (read in full...)

I miss my ex! Should I contact him again?

Q.   So this guy and I broke up 6 months ago I still haven't gotten over him sadly...i miss him. The break up was really bad it was mostly my fault..but I really want to talk to him. He deleted me off Facebook back when we split. Is adding him again like ...

A.   11 April 2011: It's tempting to text or email your ex just to say hey. But I think you should try and avoid doing this, and try and get the idea out of your head because the more you think about messaging him, the more you'll want to do it. Don't worry, y... (read in full...)

One ourtcome of casual sex may be incest

Q.   This is an interesting point I've been thinking about for a while and am curious to see what anyone else has to say. It seems like more and more it is becoming socially acceptable to have children outside of marriage, even to have multiple childre...

A.   10 April 2011: This is an interesting [and worrying] thought. Whilst it's not impossible, it's probably not very likely that it would happen [that is, that a half-brother and sister would end up sleeping together] so it's almost not worth worrying about.... (read in full...)

Is animated "better" than real porn?

Q.   Hi, I've been reading the questions regarding porn, and I was wondering if animated porn was "better" than real porn as it's just cartoons? Or are they as bad as eachother?...

A.   10 April 2011: As strontiumdog said, you'd have to explain what makes porn "bad" first. But I'll say... Why Anime Porn is better than 'Real People' Porn: -They're not real so actors can't catch infections/diseases. -They're not real so actors can't be mistreat... (read in full...)

He blocked my number and then lied about it!

Q.   Hi My bf and myself had fight few days back and he blocked my number. I knew that he blocked my number since i hv asked my friend to call him and she was able to reach him and but from my cell i was not able to reach him. After few days he call...

A.   8 April 2011: Ask yourself if it really matters that he lied about blocking your number. He may just not want to have another argument about it. I think what really matters is that you and your boyfriend work on how well you communicate, because if you both have ... (read in full...)

Why did my ex suddenly tell me to leave him alone?

Q.   Hello, I broke up with my ex bf 14 years ago (I am now 33 and he is 35). We were teenagers and we moved on, I saw other people and through a mutual friend I heard he has seen one or two but that I was his only real relationship. I feel I still lo...

A.   8 April 2011: It could just be that he's not someone who wants to remain friends with his exes or start anything up again, even if it is just a friendship. It was a bit blunt of him to just say "leave me alone, stop contacting me" and I'm not surprised you're ... (read in full...)

He says girls leave him because hes too nice. Is that my cue to walk away?

Q.   Hi everyone I am a african american female and I just started talking to a white/Caucasian male he's really nice and sweet but he tells me that girls leave him cause they say he's too nice should that be my cue to walk away now? We've only been ...

A.   6 April 2011: He does seem sort of clingy, maybe even desperate. He said he loves you after ONE DAY [*ahem* sorry] and made you promise that you'd answer.. why wouldn't you answer? He seems a bit paranoid. It seems like girls used the "you're too nice" excuse ... (read in full...)

How can you mend a broken heart?Does any one know

Q.   So there was this guy i really liked.I thought he felt the same.we were friends and in class he would come sit by me he would flirt with me.And then one day at school he wanted me to ask out my friend for him.I was so sad and i still am.She said ...

A.   6 April 2011: Firstly, I hope you've learned a lesson where playing games are concerned - you tried to make this guy jealous by asking him to hook you up with his friend. How was he supposed to see through this? He probably assumed you didn't like him and liked ... (read in full...)

Who answers the questions on this site?

Q.   Hi Andew Not really sure how I got here virtually!!! Must be on a cloud? who is it that actually answers these questions people have? other users or do you have a staff of lisc. social workers, Ph.d's ect...who purse this site and chime in when th...

A.   6 April 2011: If you register, then you can answer people's questions. You don't have to be qualified or anything, sometimes just having life experience helps people out :) Annalisa.. 2.5 kids?... (read in full...)

Condom break, now I'm 4 days late, could I be pregnant?

Q.   My boyfriend and I had sex a few weeks ago and the condom broke. Now I am 3-4 days late for my period and I am worried I am pregnant. Could the spermicide on the condom have killed all the sperm before they could get me pregnant or is there still a ...

A.   4 April 2011: Yes, there's a possibility. Only way to know for sure is to take a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)

Getting over an ex

Q.   1. First, put yourself in the opposite position: If YOU didn't want to be with someone, and let him or her know it, what would you expect the other person to do? Hopefully let go, and move on with dignity. 2. The biggest "cure all" every time ...

A.   25 March 2011: Hmm, I quite like this article, it really focuses on doing the best for yourself, and how to keep positive and move fowards.. nice job.... (read in full...)

Friends vs. Relationships

Q.   Have you ever been in a situation where you want to be with someone, but another person isn't happy about it, and therefore is standing in your way? Perhaps you've liked a sibling's friend, or a friend's relative, or someone your friend likes as ...

A.   15 March 2011: GeeGee, if it's helpful to at least one person, I'll be satisfied. And thank you for saying that.xXx... (read in full...)

Friends vs. Relationships

Q.   Have you ever been in a situation where you want to be with someone, but another person isn't happy about it, and therefore is standing in your way? Perhaps you've liked a sibling's friend, or a friend's relative, or someone your friend likes as ...

A.   14 March 2011: Thanks :) I'm glad you managed to rebuild your friendship with your friend.xXx... (read in full...)

I'm 19 and I've never had a relationship! As I get older I get more and more desperate, turning to internet chat sites etc. Please advise me!

Q.   Hello. So I'm 19 and I've never had a relationship. Is that weird? It's not that I don't want one, trust me I do, but it just hasnt happened. Also as time goes on I find myself more and more attracted to men who are older than me by 5 to 30 years...

A.   10 March 2011: You're probably getting "desperate" because you feel as if you're getting past the age where you "should have been in a relationship by now". Relax, because you're not the only 19 year old who's never had a boyfriend. I'm 20 and had my first ... (read in full...)

If a guy is using you, would he actually add you on facebook?

Q.   Ok,if this helps,we're both 23 and he's a uni student.I'm not sure it will but hey...Anyway,my question is if a guy is using you would he actually add you on facebook-I mean,what if his other girls are on his facebok too and I contacted one of ...

A.   6 March 2011: Using you in what sense? If he's just using you for sex, then why would he care if you contacted other girls on his Facebook? Unless he's having sex with them as well? Then maybe he still wouldn't care because he never said you both were ... (read in full...)

I'm bored and feel like breaking up

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for about 1 year 2 1/2 months but I got a problem. You see I love her but I get bored with her. We are in high school but it really just feels like a friendship. One day she didn't come o school and I was amazingly ...

A.   6 March 2011: If you're not gaining much satisfaction from this relationship, you may as well break up with her. You're only 16/17, this isn't some long marriage where you may as well try and work for it. So yeh.. break up with her if you don't see your relatio... (read in full...)

As a teenager, why do I find older men attractive?

Q.   Am I weird? I mean for some reason I am attracted to older men. I feel attracted to some of my teachers. (they are just stupid little crushes, nothing out of the ordinary). Anyways ive told my friends some think its weird, I didn't st first. And now ...

A.   5 March 2011: I think it's normal. Until I was about 17 I just found older guys really attractive, like men in their 30s onwards [and yes, plenty of teachers, haha]. Then I just started liking guys my age. I think it's okay but it's probably better to not ge... (read in full...)

My dominating boyfriend who thinks he's "Gods Gift" is making my life miserable...

Q.   hey, so im about to turn 17 and my boyfriend is about to be 21. we have been together for a couple months and things are getting very complicated. im becoming scared of him. he keeps pressuring me about falling in love... he always says "i dont thi...

A.   4 March 2011: It was pretty horrible reading this :/ Break up with him NOW. I say "now" because do it while you still can, before you think you're too in love to leave him. Why are you with him? I can see NO redeeming qualities at all. Even if he is gorgeous... (read in full...)

What am I doing wrong? Guys ignore me. Would going blonde help?

Q.   I'm 15 and I've never had a boyfriend. It may sound annoying to some of you because there are bigger problems but I have a bunch of friends and I wouldn't say that I'm ugly but I'm not going to say I'm drop dead gorgeous either. I'm about 5'3" and...

A.   4 March 2011: Don't change yourself to suit guys. Be yourself, then when a guy does like you, you'll know he likes the real you. Just because it hasn't happened yet, doesn't mean anything is "wrong" with you. And for all you know, someone has liked you, but... (read in full...)

He broke up with me, so I deleted him from Facebook. Now he's upset with me! What is going on here?

Q.   I've written about a million messages on here for help and now something else had added to the story.. So to sum it up, everything was cool with a guy I was seeing, really well actually, to a point where he wanted me to open up to him about my feeli...

A.   4 March 2011: It's probably a pride thing, with the whole "you deleted me before I could delete you." Ah I don't know, it makes sense in my head. You don't have to explain yourself to him, you've just done something for yourself, to help YOU move on, not to s... (read in full...)

My boyfriend accessed my facebook account behind my back...and I am mad at him! How do I approach him about this?

Q.   oh man, okay. so i've been with my boyfriend for a bit above a year now, and i thought i could trust him more than anything. when i logged into my facebook today it said my account had been accessed by someone in the exact same location as where he...

A.   3 March 2011: It was unnecessary for him to go on your Facebook, but it might have just been curiosity, rather than that he doesn't trust you. Hey, it may even have just been that because he knows your password, he thought he'd just try it out, rather than he ... (read in full...)

Friends vs. Relationships

Q.   Have you ever been in a situation where you want to be with someone, but another person isn't happy about it, and therefore is standing in your way? Perhaps you've liked a sibling's friend, or a friend's relative, or someone your friend likes as ...

A.   3 March 2011: Thank you, your comment is much appreciated :)... (read in full...)

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