What are the odds of this girl getting pregnant?
Q. Hello. I went out on a date with a young 26 year old lady that I met online, and things went pretty well. Anyways afterwards she invited me to her room and well we started making out and one thing lead to another and we ended up undressing and ...
A. 30 January 2018: Yeah you will need a paternity test and you will also need to get yourself checked out at a STI clinic. ... (read in full...)
Can you help explain my boyfriend's strange behaviour?
Q. I have a bizarre problem! I've been seeing my boyfriend for ten months and we often go away and stay at hotels but the thing is he picks me up after work about 3pm then when we arrive at our hotel he wants to literally go to bed straightaway and ...
A. 3 January 2018: Have things changed yet or is he still making the effort? I mean your original post made him sound like all he was wanting was sex but your updates said something completely different. Can I ask what is it that is stopping him from staying with you?... (read in full...)
I've worshipped this girl since I was 16! Do I tell her?
Q. Basically, I've reconnected with a girl I had a relationship with in school. I was 16, she was 15 and we went out for about a year. She was my first love and in the end we mutually broke up for a number of reasons but it was not on bad or bitter ...
A. 3 January 2018: So OP tell us how did you get on?... (read in full...)
I know I don't have any claim on him so why do I feel bad?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and my bestfriend, who I work in the same office with, started hanging out with this guy we also work with. The guy works in the field so we only get to hang out when he is in town, which happens about once a month. Anyway...
A. 3 January 2018: This guy tried to get close you and you pushed him away. My guess is your friend is keeping it quiet because she doesn't know how you will react. Which in fairness its up to them if they want there relationship kept quiet or not. Maybe you did have ... (read in full...)
Should I end it with my bed buddy or fight for him?
Q. This is kind of a long story... I've had this weird on-again, off-again thing with this guy for two years. I wouldn't call him a friend; just a bed buddy. We'd meet up once or twice every month or two just to hook up and then we wouldn't talk un...
A. 3 January 2018: You could never have a future with him now I mean how could you when you have had sex with this brother? That is crossing a huge line. Either way he just seems to look at you as a sex object so the best thing for you to do is stop contacting him, ... (read in full...)
Going cold on wedding plans
Q. I'm engaged to be married next August, and although I do not have any doubts over whether it's what I want, or my fiancée feelings either, I'm just not excited about any part of it. Recently we have been seeing friends and family due to Christmas...
A. 3 January 2018: I was extremely excited for our wedding but I think that is because we both organised it how we wanted it and therefore we where both happy. Stop putting everyone else first and start putting yourself first. Your parents and his should not be making ... (read in full...)
I'm crushing on my ex's brother, his partner is my friend
Q. I no this might sound really bad. But I am so confused right now!! I split with my ex over 3 years ago we have a child together. I have stayed close with his brother and with The brothers current partner. Me and the brother have always been flirty ...
A. 22 December 2017: Think about your child and put them first. Don't get carried away with lust because believe me if you do you will regret it when it all unravels and effects your child. My child would be enough for me to stop temptation and to add extra measures ... (read in full...)
1st date, he touched my butt
Q. So i was texting my coworker for almost 2 months and sometimes we were flirting and sometimes we were talking about work or trying to get to know each other. He has no girls, he does not drink like me, and he does not go out so often.Finally 2 ...
A. 22 December 2017: Believe me you are better finding out now than to have got carried away had sex with him and then watch him disappear. You had a lucky escape. His loss. ... (read in full...)
Would a guy settle for one woman if he can't have another?
Q. A guy complained that girl A does not like him. Girl A treats him indifferently. At the same time the guy was, and has becoming closer to girl B; who has always been in love with him. This guy and girl B having a relationship now. It seems like the...
A. 22 December 2017: Well if you are neither off these girls then I think you need to get a life off your own and not meddle in others. ... (read in full...)
1st date, he touched my butt
Q. So i was texting my coworker for almost 2 months and sometimes we were flirting and sometimes we were talking about work or trying to get to know each other. He has no girls, he does not drink like me, and he does not go out so often.Finally 2 ...
A. 21 December 2017: From the sound off your post it sounds like you are wasting your time. He tried his luck with you and you rejected him (good for you!). He knows he has to work with you so he wanted to check you where okay and apologize for wanting to get in to your ... (read in full...)
21 year old currently lost in the world, any help?
Q. Hello all, Lately, I have grown incredibly depressed. It seems like last year, I had everything I could of wanted at the time. I had a boyfriend, I lived in a nice house, I had a great and fun job, I had a good relationship with my co-...
A. 21 December 2017: People around age tend to think aw that person doesn't drink so they must not be much fun. Off course you can be fun, I would have a much more fun night out with a couple of drinks than I would getting drinks every five minutes.
Firstly if you are ... (read in full...)
Two questions about my breasts
Q. First Question: my boyfriend keeps asking me to show him my chest and am afraid. when i date him i always wear light clothes and no bra. when hugging him i stick soo close to him hoping that he will feel my brests and strip the clothes for hims...
A. 21 December 2017: Hi Claudia Tasha,
You say that your boyfriend keeps asking you can he touch your breasts? But do you actually want him touching you like that? What is it you are afraid off? I think firstly you need to make sure that your body and mind is read... (read in full...)
Would a guy settle for one woman if he can't have another?
Q. A guy complained that girl A does not like him. Girl A treats him indifferently. At the same time the guy was, and has becoming closer to girl B; who has always been in love with him. This guy and girl B having a relationship now. It seems like the...
A. 21 December 2017: I remember your first post and I mentioned that he sounded like he was in the play ground, but now I am truly confused. My guess is that you wanted people to say in your first post that he was interested in you because you have feelings for him. Is ... (read in full...)
Should I go and see my ex and offer my condolences because his father died?
Q. I received a text message from my ex boyfriend this morning saying that his dad passed away last Thursday. I hadn't heard from him for two months before that and haven't seen him for three months. We broke up ten months ago . Strangely enough, I ...
A. 21 December 2017: I don't understand this situation at all. I don't get how you could be with someone and have never met there father when they live in the same house. Also you left him for your ex so I don't think now is the right time to be trying to get him back. ... (read in full...)
My sister is toxic and bitter, and she hates me, what do I do about her?
Q. Dear aunts, I have a sister who I love only for the fact that she is my blood, but everything else about her I just can't stand because we have a toxic relationship ever since I was a kid she always told me that I'm ugly, that I'm dumb, that i am ...
A. 21 December 2017: Sounds like she is jealous off you. A lot off children are like this with their siblings, yet if things haven't improved now when you are both adults it might just be best to distance yourself.
It does sound like it is a both way street and you ... (read in full...)
My father and I have different views on life and it's holding me back from being myself
Q. I live with my mom and dad while working and going to school part time to finish my degree. My mom and I have always been close but my dad and I not so much. I was always his little 'princess' growing up and loved to go camping/fishing ...
A. 21 December 2017: No he is not being unreasonable. He is still your Dad and you are still his little girl to him. It is completely normal that parents ask you not to party to much ect. The thing here though is you are still living under there roof so you will not be ... (read in full...)
Could it be my social anxiety or am I right to feel left out?
Q. Hey guys I need your help with something. About a month ago I went out with my boyfriend and a few of his friends, two of them being a girl and her boyfriend. My boyfriend still has a big friend group from when he was at school (girls and guys)...
A. 21 December 2017: This is a group off friends who you have only came in to and you are making demands and asking them to change plans. Then when they don't you go mad. You sound very judgmental from your post, they are all adults if they want to get drunk that is ... (read in full...)
Signs he is a compulsive liar? what the heck is that attitude after breakup?
Q. Hey everyone, So I broke up with my bf about 1 month and a half ago. I am 22, he is 25. We had been together for 1 year and a half. We met as international students (in Australia, I was exchange student and he was studying engineering ther...
A. 21 December 2017: The answer to your questions is he is a pathological liar and it is an illness. You can wreck yourself trying to figure out why he would do half the things he done, but you need to draw a line under it and you need to say to yourself there is no ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...
A. 21 December 2017: Look it is clear to see that he does not love you, he takes your money, he abuses you, he eats away at your confidence he forces you to do sex acts on him. Honestly what is it that you love about this guy? What does he have to do before you say ... (read in full...)
Why do people question that we are just friends?
Q. I have a male friend who is one of my closest friends and we’ve known each other about a year and a half. Earlier this year I met his girlfriend and we too have since become friends. I socialise with them as a couple and individually. There’s n...
A. 21 December 2017: Honestly I wouldn't allow it to worry you, a lot off people feel it is impossible to become friends with the opposite sex without ending up with feelings or an attraction. So a lot off people will question it. If you come across as close then yes ... (read in full...)
Her kids and mine are cousins, is it okay to date?
Q. So I have started to date or have been with and seen, my ex wife’s brothers ex wife I have a son with my ex and she has two kids with her ex who is my ex wife’s brother. Our kids are cousins but we both want no more kids. We both feel this could be ...
A. 20 December 2017: Technically it is okay, but I would talk to your ex wife and her brother about this as it can get very confusing for the children, am sure you can all be adults about it and talk things over so the children don't get caught in the middle. ... (read in full...)
Do I need to step out of my bubble with this outgoing guy?
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles I'm not in any precarious situation but just looking for some advice on things in my relationship i've just not encountered before. About two years ago I left a long term relationship, it was wholly amicable and ende...
A. 20 December 2017: I do think good manners are important and its the first thing I automatically do if I have been giving a gift and that is to thank them. Same if I have done something wrong I would need to say sorry straight away.
As for posting it on Social M... (read in full...)
Our intimacy is gone and I don't know what to think or say?!?
Q. Don’t know what to think or say!! I haven been married for 15 years to a wonderful lady. Like every marriage we have encountered ups and downs. For about a year our intimacy is gone. She gets off work at 5:30pm arrives home at 8:30pm. She is a...
A. 20 December 2017: You need to talk to her!! A relationship breaks down when the two people in it are not communicating properly. Honestly have a talk with her. Should it take her three hours to get home from work? As for Christmas party why would you have taken time ... (read in full...)
My negative body image is ruining my life in every way
Q. Dear cupid, without going into too much detail, I used to be overweight through out all my teen years, and after a major depression for a period of over 3 years, I was obese at 340 pounds. Over the past 2 years I got weight loss surgery and have...
A. 20 December 2017: Try joining a fitness class and see if you can begin to tone some off it up. Did you loose the weight fast? If you did then that is probably why the skin is quite loose. However if you eat healthy now and up the exercise it will sure help with the ... (read in full...)
In a long term relationship, partner isn't paying attention to me, I'm cheating on him with someone who's also in a relationship but isn't "long term boyfriend material". So confused! What do I do?
Q. Hi there, so I’ve been with my partner for 7 years, living together for 2. I’ve been completely loyal until now, but have been feeling unhappy and a little taken for granted for a while now. My boyfriend has a good heart and is loyal, but he is also ...
A. 20 December 2017: If you loved your boyfriend you wouldn't find yourself in this situation. You need to come clean with him, be honest and talk to each other, you need to tell him how you have been feeling, and also about the cheating. If you wanted to keep this ... (read in full...)
My female friend said she had an "inappropriate" dream about me. What could it be?
Q. A friend of the opposite gender brought something up. We were talking about dreams, all sorts of dreams, and then she said 'I had a dream about you recently'. I asked what the dream was about and then after a long pause she responded with 'it's ...
A. 20 December 2017: Do you like this girl or do you feel she likes you? If she brought it up to you, she must have wanted you to know why, maybe she has a soft spot for you. ... (read in full...)
He wants me to change, I want him to love me as I am.
Q. I'm feeling kind of hopeless in the relationship I'm in. We'e been together nearly 10 months, age gap between us is 15 years. We get a long great, there is so much chemistry. We love each other very much. There is however an issue that we find ...
A. 20 December 2017: You both will never last. Off course you should not change, you are who you are! If he likes going out and you don't then that is fine, you are both clear to do that but it just means you both want two different things. If he is not willing to ... (read in full...)
Hard for me to tell if he is genuine
Q. Hi everyone. I’m just asking for advice because I’ve been out of the dating game for a while and I’m not sure how to go about pursuing a relationship. Basically, my ex and I broke up in March and it took me until October to really get over him. I ...
A. 20 December 2017: You are young and I don't want to sound harsh but from your post it is clear he only wants to hook up with you, I think you know that deep down as well but you like him and want to carry on. If he had any respect for you and wanted a relationship he ... (read in full...)
Religion may be the stumbling block for us
Q. I'm an atheist (born to Christian parents) and my fiancé is Christian. We both want kids. She recently asked me if I was willing to give them a Christian upbringing when they arrive. I want them to make the decision about a deity when they can think ...
A. 19 December 2017: For me personally I would not have the children be brought in to any religion and let them choose when they are older. My personal view is a religion should not be forced on to a child but from another point off view you both have different beliefs ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty I missed hen do
Q. Hi everyone. I'm having a friendship dilemma. A close friend is no longer speaking to me because I didn't attend her hen do. I declined months prior due to the dates not being good for me - it's a month of birthdays and prior planned trips. ...
A. 19 December 2017: Maybe she feels because she organized a hen party for you that you would do the same for her. You need to talk to her about it and communicate, it is the only way that this is going to be sorted. From her side she probably feels that she went to a ... (read in full...)
My roommate and her boyfriend constantly hog my couch, but other than that, they're not much of a bother. Am I right in feeling irritated?
Q. I'm not sure if this is ok to ask, but I'm having issues with my roommate. I feel like I may possibly be overreacting, so tell me your thoughts. We've lived together without issues since July. However, she has a long distance boyfriend who vi...
A. 19 December 2017: Wow you should be thankful you have such a great housemate. Are you sure you want to be house sharing? It could be a case that you are used to your own space and that is fine, but when you are renting together you need to learn to share things. She ... (read in full...)
I am lonely and get depressed and can't seem to make friends. What can I do?
Q. Hello everyone in dearcupid. I have a situation I would like some advice. I am due to be married soon me and my fiance have been together 5 years and we have been living together only for 2 years I love my husband so much I call him my husband ...
A. 19 December 2017: You cannot rely on your Husband for company all the time it is not healthy for you both. You need to make a life for yourself as well. It is good to see that you work at least you are not home alone all the time. I would suggest trying new hobbies ... (read in full...)
How do I control something that is so compulsive in my nature?
Q. I dunno if this is the right place to ask this question but here goes... I'm a motorcyclist and I'm impulsive and crave the thrill of speed.I had another accident today... This must be my fifth and it looks like I have completely torn my rotator ...
A. 19 December 2017: If you cannot control it then do the sensible thing and get rid off it and give up the motor bike completely. It really is the only option I see here if you keep going you will end up killing yourself or worse killing innocent people and children. ... (read in full...)
My best friend is faking he is straight even though we had sex.
Q. I'm a bi man and in the last year I've had intimate moments with my best friend, for whom I have always had doubts regarding his orientation. It's true that we have both enjoyed it but recently he seems to distance himself from situations where ...
A. 19 December 2017: Thanks for the update it is good to hear that you are staying strong and looking after yourself. Remember that you should always put yourself first. ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my girlfriend about an unwanted kiss?
Q. Hi I am a male aged 25 , I have been with my gf for almost 2 years , I am studying abroad so we are in a LDR for like a year , yesterday I went out and I was with my friend there and he talked to a girl and I was his wingman and started talking with ...
A. 18 December 2017: Honestly it is up to you what you tell her and what you don't but personally I would have to tell my husband, I would feel it eating me up inside if I didn't. ... (read in full...)
This is the second abusive relationship I've been in. Am I picking the wrong type of men?
Q. Last night my boyfriend punched me in the mouth. I've left him. He asked me not to leave. But I said I have to be alone right now. It came about after an argument over a male friend of mine. My boyfriend said that my face lit up when my friend a...
A. 18 December 2017: Why do you need to meet up with him to tell him it is over, I mean you already done that so just send him a message tell him you are scared off him now, the damage is done and you don't want anything more to do with him. Then block him from being ... (read in full...)
On and off relationship with FWB has me confused
Q. So I been seeing this guy off and on since 2011, we hooked up, gone out slept over each other houses and all. We got into a huge fight stopped talking and recently start talking again. But this time he's more distant when I text him so doesn't reply ...
A. 18 December 2017: You should block his number and end the friendship. He is not a true friend he is only using you for sex. If he was a friend it would matter to him how you feel. I am not sure if you are actually in your thirties because it sounds like a question ... (read in full...)
First time sex was this normal?
Q. I had sex for the first time and I noticed it wasn't that comfortable. As it was my first, I assumed it was just a matter of getting used to it. However at one point, it really hurt and was uncomfortable around my bum which I wasn't sure about. L...
A. 18 December 2017: Yes it does hurt. As it is your first time and even for the next while your partner needs to be gentle with you and make sure he uses plenty of lubrication and goes gentle. It does get better.... (read in full...)
Just lost a parent and he’s gone away. Should I break up with him for this?
Q. Hi All, Just looking for some advice at what is already a confusing and low time. I’ve just lost a very close family member, a parent and I feel like my partner hasn’t been as supportive as he could. I’m not taking it well at all. We were very clo...
A. 18 December 2017: I am sorry for your loss, if he cannot put you first and treat you right then it is his loss and you deserve better than that. ... (read in full...)
What are the odds of this girl getting pregnant?
Q. Hello. I went out on a date with a young 26 year old lady that I met online, and things went pretty well. Anyways afterwards she invited me to her room and well we started making out and one thing lead to another and we ended up undressing and ...
A. 18 December 2017: It is clear this woman wants a baby when she is acting like she is, she has no interest in you or getting to know you. My guess would be that she tries to hook up with as many guys as possible from the internet so she can try and get pregnant. I ... (read in full...)
How can I slow a guy down when he's getting physical too soon?
Q. There's this guy I went on a date with. On the first date, he kissed me, and I wasn't expecting him to use tongue, but he did. I usually don't kiss guys on the first date, but I kind of wanted to kiss him. Later on in the date, he managed to ge...
A. 18 December 2017: It is clear all this guy wants from you is sex. If he wanted to be respectful he would never have behaved like this on a first day. I am struggling to see why you would want to see him again unless it is something casual you are looking for. ... (read in full...)
Troubled relationship don't know how to deal with my mother in law
Q. Can someone help me to identify what personality trait my mother in law has? She is not a very motherly figure. She has 2 daughter and 1 son who is my husband. She look up on the first daughter as she has luxury lifestyle,but behind that she ...
A. 18 December 2017: You have asked this question so many times now but you have just worded it differently each time. If she is so bad then why live under her roof and eat her food and accept her meals? Go and find a place where you can look after yourself and then ... (read in full...)
Can you help explain my boyfriend's strange behaviour?
Q. I have a bizarre problem! I've been seeing my boyfriend for ten months and we often go away and stay at hotels but the thing is he picks me up after work about 3pm then when we arrive at our hotel he wants to literally go to bed straightaway and ...
A. 1 December 2017: Why can you not both stay at each others houses, does his mum disapprove? Your parents? I mean this sounds like a very strange set up for people in there thirties. Or is that your real age?
For me it sounds like he just wants sex from you, this does... (read in full...)
I've worshipped this girl since I was 16! Do I tell her?
Q. Basically, I've reconnected with a girl I had a relationship with in school. I was 16, she was 15 and we went out for about a year. She was my first love and in the end we mutually broke up for a number of reasons but it was not on bad or bitter ...
A. 15 November 2017: Sounds like things are going well and you both seem to be on the right path.... (read in full...)
My best friend is faking he is straight even though we had sex.
Q. I'm a bi man and in the last year I've had intimate moments with my best friend, for whom I have always had doubts regarding his orientation. It's true that we have both enjoyed it but recently he seems to distance himself from situations where ...
A. 14 November 2017: It seems that you have three choices here:
1. Keep his friendship but say good bye to all the intimate stuff and be strictly friends. The only down side to this option is it can be hurtful if you have stronger feelings for him.
2. Carry on the w... (read in full...)
I've worshipped this girl since I was 16! Do I tell her?
Q. Basically, I've reconnected with a girl I had a relationship with in school. I was 16, she was 15 and we went out for about a year. She was my first love and in the end we mutually broke up for a number of reasons but it was not on bad or bitter ...
A. 9 November 2017: You answered your own question here, you need to know how she feels! Therefore you need to ask her. She is not your friend, you have went way passed the friendship line and there is no going back now. It is clear you are head over heels for this ... (read in full...)
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