She has cut me completely after our families learnt of our same sex affair
Q. Hello I fell in love with my same gender best friend of 4 years, we are both married to our husbands with children, had an emotional affair that turned physical for 2 months. We ended the affair but still work in the same building. She has cut me ...
A. 21 March 2018: Well swing it around the other way if your husband had an affair would you mind him being friends with her down the line? The way I see it is you crossed a line and now that friendship is over. You should concentrate rebuilding your marriage if you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't approve of my modeling career!
Q. My partner and I live together, we had an argument last night. He is 25 and I’m 23, I am pursuing a modeling career that is just taking off but he doesn’t approve the photoshoots; last week it was because the photographers are men and he feels ...
A. 20 March 2018: He is a hypocrite and he is controlling. You both need to sit down and talk. He has double standards. It is not his place to tell you if you are 'allowed' to model. It is your choice. It is your life and your decisions. If you allow him to control ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my boyfriend becoming less motivated.
Q. My bf and I have been going out close to a year. When I 1st met him he was working 2 jobs, over 12 hours a day and was miserable. He told me he had to get out of his job to move forward. Well now he is and is exploring options to go back to ...
A. 20 March 2018: I can understand why he would be miserable, working two jobs is tough! I done it myself and it does make you miserable! You don't get enough rest or you don't have a great social life. He obviously wasn't happy in his job so he took the decision to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had a threesome dream about me & one of my closest friends
Q. This question goes out to those of you with some expertise in dream analysis... My boyfriend had a dream of him having a threesome with me and one of my closest friends. It was very porny and intense and he was having sex primarily with her in it. ...
A. 20 March 2018: Honestly? It doesn't mean anything just because it was your friend doesn't mean he wants to have sex with her. He needs to be less honest with you though, really who want's to hear about there partners sex dreams. As for you saying your friend is ... (read in full...)
How do approach him about what I heard?
Q. Hi everyone my boyfriend of 4 years pocket dialled me yesterday while he was at work I overheard him and his mate on about some woman who was fit and my fiancé says I didn’t notice surprisingly we have had trust issues in the past due to his roving ...
A. 20 March 2018: Honestly he is still a man and he is still going to appreciate a good looking woman. Am sure as women we can appreciate a good looking guy also. If you have trust issues due to him cheating and you cannot get over that then I would suggest not ... (read in full...)
My husband’s friend is trouble!
Q. Please advise what to do if your husband always likes to hang out with a friend that is trouble. My husband has a friend who is married but likes to go drinking and partying with single women. They dance and touch.. not sure if they have sex. His...
A. 15 March 2018: I agree 100% with honey pie, great advice! ... (read in full...)
I had to test his loyalty but now he won’t talk to me!
Q. okay, so today i had the idea of making a fake snapchat account and adding and texting my boyfriend as another girl while simultaneously texting as the real me on my real snapchat...(i had two devices). he added the fake one and and asked who is it ...
A. 15 March 2018: Why on earth would an idea like that come in to your head? Are you insecure? Has he cheated? Why would you think to do that?
You openly lied to him and told him it wasn't you. So do you think now he could trust you? I know I couldn't. I coul... (read in full...)
Holiday dilemma
Q. Hey everyone. I recently broke up with my boyfriend but we booked flights to visit his home country for easter (at a different time to him but to the same place). I can't afford to change them or move them or the place I was supposed to be s...
A. 14 March 2018: If you know deep down that you are only going for a holiday and not to check up on him then do it. But if you are going in the hope to see him I would advice not going. Only you know the answer to that. ... (read in full...)
Did my wife believe me about the dinner receipt?
Q. Hi. I am a married man having an affair. My wife went out of town to her mother's for two weeks and I spent that time with my mistress. Last night my wife found a receipt of dinner for 2 when my mistress and I went to a restaurant the day her flig...
A. 14 March 2018: I think the girlfriend comment was a joke, but am sure your wife is a smart women, and it won't take long to notice other things and question other things. It might be a case that she has an idea but does not want to know, or it could be a case that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is on the dole and his mother wants money
Q. hi my boyfriend of 2 years moved in with me.he is on the dole.he gives me 30 pounds a week to help with bills and food.i work min wage so I pay for all the bills really.if we go out I pay.i never expect my boyfriend to pay because he only has ...
A. 14 March 2018: It is your choice to take care of your boyfriend and pay most off the bills. If he wants to give his money to his mother again it is his choice. I do understand your point of view. Sit down and talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel. You do ... (read in full...)
I feel like a dirty secret
Q. I have been involved with a guy who was originally an affair who i left an an abusive relationship for. It hasnt been easy to say the least as we also work together. He stays at mine all the time and is with me every night, however, I just ...
A. 14 March 2018: This is the danger with entering in to affairs with colleuges it gets messy.
You both want different things, he is using you as a place to live while he gets back on his feet.
Did he leave the ex for you or was it a case that she caught him havi... (read in full...)
My brother does not accept my older boyfriend
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, So I have this new boyfriend. I have been with him for nearly 6 months now (which I know isn't a long time at all) however he is 10 years older than me and has 3 children. My family were aware of this and do not accept it at all...
A. 14 March 2018: Nothing you can say or do is going to stop your brother worrying. I do understand why he feels the way he does. But you are an adult and in control of your own life. You are able to date who you want. So the best advice I can give you is to carry on ... (read in full...)
Bf doesn't want to come to my graduation ceremony. Is this an indicator that our relationship is not worth my while?
Q. My boyfriend of one year does not want to come to my graduation ceremony, and honestly I'm pretty upset but don't know what to do. I don't want to force him, and i just dropped the subject. so I don't know what to think of our relationship if he ...
A. 14 March 2018: What is his reason for not wanting to go? Surely he told you why?... (read in full...)
Family and friends want me to present as more "girly girl."
Q. I’m a girl, I’m not really girly but I don’t dress like a guy either. I just prefer to wear normal casual clothes like a crop top a bomber and nice jeans, vs heels and dresses. I don’t wear makeup, I don’t judge people that do but they seem to judge ...
A. 13 March 2018: I am quite a plain dresser as well, hair is always throwing on top of my head for work and I never wear make up unless am heading on a night out. Honestly it is your body your choice. Next time someone says something to you, just ask them why they ... (read in full...)
Money mean son is refusing to bring his family to a family vacation.
Q. My youngest son has a good job with the US Postal Service. He has a wife and a daughter. His wife is a nurse. The problem is he is really tight with his money. I think he goes overboard with being tight with his money. He has always been tigh...
A. 13 March 2018: If it means that much to you then offer to pay for them to come. If that is not in your budget then don't press the situation. Maybe his money is tied up. You never know what situation people are in, good jobs or not. It is his money and if he ... (read in full...)
I made a joke. I'm now wondering about my boyfriend's response.
Q. I told my boyfriend to look for a girl to marry as a joke and he told me he would after tomorrow, since tomorrow is his birthday. He said he prefers a blonde chick, and i am a brunette. I feel upset that he said that. Would anyone else be?...
A. 13 March 2018: If you are looking for some compliments or positive attention from your boyfriend then this is the wrong way to go around it. Don't joke with him unless you are prepared to take it back. ... (read in full...)
Some of my boyfriends comments hurt.
Q. Hi how can i stop being so sensitive to some of my boyfriends comments? Just yesterday he had to travel a few hours to fix something for work on his day off. He was already down about it so when he asked me to come with him i jumped at the id...
A. 13 March 2018: Instead of cheering him up you made it about yourself and your feelings. I would be pretty annoyed if I had to do something with work on my day off. He obviously had plans with his friends and this disturbed them. I really am not sure how you made ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if this should be ringing alarm bells.
Q. Hi everyone This isn't a serious issue, i'd just like some of your thoughts. My girlfriend asked me if she thinks it is true that if someone cheats once they will cheat again. I said I think it depends on the person. I didn't know why she wo...
A. 13 March 2018: For her to start the conversation about once a cheater always a cheater suggests to me that she does not trust herself to not cheat. If she needs to question that while chatting to her ex again then I would be worried she still has feelings for him ... (read in full...)
I feel like its my fault that my former lover has given up and gotten so heavy. I love her but know I couldn't take care of her
Q. This is kind of complicated and weird, so please bear with me. I will say up front that I have a fetish - I'm attracted to very fat girls. Please don't judge me for that - it's something that's always been with me and I can't do anything about it. ...
A. 13 March 2018: None of this was your fault so you need to stop beating yourself up. It is obvious she has had issues with food from a young age if she was always chubby so anything you done wouldn't have made a difference. It is her issue with food and you are ... (read in full...)
Things are not working out now that his daughter is in the picture and I'm just not sure what to do
Q. I separated from my husband over 5 years ago. Since then, Ive been raising my three kids alone. They're great kids, sweet, respectful, considerate, they have a great relationship with each other. We've had ups and downs, and we've survived and ...
A. 13 March 2018: What age is his daughter? I can't really give you advice unless I know are we dealing with a child or a teenager. ... (read in full...)
I like him but can't take the disresect anymore.
Q. Hi. I met a guy recently and we stared talking online . He said he is looking for something serious with me and is not here to waste time. At first I tried to invest my time in him by answering his calls in the morning and at night which ruined my ...
A. 9 March 2018: This guy sounds abusive and controlling, I fail to see why you haven't blocked him yet. Don't fall in to a trap with this guy. ... (read in full...)
How do you heal a wound so deep in your heart? How do you stop being jealous?
Q. How do you forget something so hurtful as seeing your partner make love for hours to a much younger woman in her teens and that moment when you see it you have just given birth and you are not as fresh and new as her teen body and your boobs have ...
A. 9 March 2018: I would be seriously worried at the fact he is having sex with someone who you describe as a teenager. Is she the legal age of consent? Also why would you want to watch something like that for hours?
If he treats you bad then you leave. You take... (read in full...)
I could be in a relationship if I hadn't pushed him away
Q. I still have feelings for someone and it has been 4 years now , I feel really odd and obsessive for still having feelings for him . we didn't speak for very long because of my behaviour as I got really worried when he told me he liked me and I ...
A. 9 March 2018: Just because you pushed him away doesn't mean he has the right to be nasty to you. Honestly would you want to be in a relationship with someone who is going to treat you like that?
Have you tried meeting other guys and dating? It sounds like you ... (read in full...)
I get too attached to people
Q. I seem to get attached to people really easily and I want to try to not get so attached . I know why I do and its because I always want to be with someone and have company as I value company so much . one of the problems about the fact I can grow ...
A. 9 March 2018: Hi OP, I am guessing you posted the other question about sending people messages and worrying if they don't reply?
We all value company but sometimes we need to learn to enjoy our own company as well. I am a very sociable person but I love not... (read in full...)
I worry a lot and don't know how to deal with it.
Q. I get worried quite a lot and I don't know how to deal with it or how to focus on something else . At the moment I get silly unnecessary worries that if someone doesn't reply to a text I think they don't like me , don't want to talk to me anymore ...
A. 9 March 2018: It sounds like you have extremely low self confidence. You need to learn to love yourself and believe that you can and do make a difference to other people's lives.
Okay so if someone doesn't reply back to a message, the best thing to do is not t... (read in full...)
What is the best way to end my obsession with my co-worker?
Q. Hello, I am a happily a married woman with a 4yr old daughter and an awesome husband. With that said I want nothing more than to have crazy (50 shades of grey) sex with my coworker who is also married with 3 kids and one on the way. It started ...
A. 9 March 2018: You are a happily married woman? But I bet your husband wouldn't be a happily married man if he knew the truth. You want nothing more than to have sex with your co-worker?? Really? Well nothing is stopping you, go and do it, hurt your husband, split ... (read in full...)
Should I wait to date until I’m completely over my ex? Or is it impossible to be completely over an ex so I might as well date?
Q. Hi I was dumped about six months (We dated for about a year and I genuinely believe we were in love) ago after we went travelling for a month and had lots of stressful arguements but a couple weeks later he told me he missed me and that he didn't ...
A. 9 March 2018: You will never allow yourself to get over him if you keep in contact with him all the time. I understand it is difficult when you are in the same group of friends and you work together but you need to try harder to stay away from him and avoid him. ... (read in full...)
Issues at home stopping me moving forward
Q. Hi everyone, I grew up in a difficult living situation with a lot of mixed messages, repression and boundary issues. This was not helped by my parents strange and messy separation which was dragged out more than five years. There was a lot of ina...
A. 8 March 2018: First off I think you need to move forward from the past. A lot of us grow up in difficult situations but it does not mean that the defy us. We are who we say we are, so you can say you are broken or you can say no your past has made you stronger. I ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is unemotional and giving me the silent treatment!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm living with my bf of 3 years , and he is nice most of the times, but he is very unemotional and practical and had not told me he loves me yet, though I said couple of times and no response So I got pregnant , we both agreed it...
A. 8 March 2018: Okay so what you need to ask yourself is do you need to be with someone who shows emotion and tells you that they love you? If the answer is yes then you are in the wrong relationship. If after three years he cannot say he loves you well then this ... (read in full...)
Did I dodge a bullet?
Q. Hi everyone I guess i'm just looking for some encouragement or advice. I met a girl at the end of last year and I liked her a lot from the start. We grew closer and would talk often. Then I had to go abroad with university for 3 weeks and once ...
A. 8 March 2018: It sounds like she needs attention and reassurance. She said she stopped her feelings but once you told her you liked her she seemed interested again. To me that sounds like she is insecure and needs reassurance from you. If you don't answer ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mum’s intrusiveness?
Q. Hi Everyone, not a love question but hope someone can offer advice... My mom is the most intrusive woman in the world (maybe over exaggeration but still..) I have two little ones (6 and 11) and i live on my own with them, self employed, and he...
A. 6 March 2018: Honestly it sounds to me like your mother might be feeling a bit useless now that you have growing up and you are the mother to children now.
Does your mother work? It sounds like she is bored and possibly lonely and she is taking it out on you.... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my parents when they won’t listen to my side?
Q. Hi all, I started seeing a guy and I really like his company and he likes mine too. So basically, there isn't a definite label on our status but we've been out several times. However, he does want to make it a point to see me on every other week...
A. 6 March 2018: If you have already told them and they have not stopped you from seeing him then what is the problem? Your post doesn't make sense because you say you have been honest with them, yet you are saying you don't want them thinking you are disobeying ... (read in full...)
How do I work through our sex drive imbalance?
Q. I am currently living with my trans ftm boyfriend and everything is so perfect in our relationship except for one area. Some backstory, I am a straight cisgender female and I met my boyfriend just before he started on T about a year ago. He and...
A. 6 March 2018: Honestly? The only option I see here for you is to visit a therapist. It is nice to see that you are in a loving relationship, but you are both going through some major life changing events at the moment, so it would be best for you to seek ... (read in full...)
Another woman on my man's shoulders?
Q. My guy's great. Sex life isn't that much due to health issues, but I'm not as concerned about that as his, 'don't give a shit' attitude, which is great in some ways. He's lived in a town I moved to his entire life, so he knows everyone, and was a ...
A. 6 March 2018: Has he saw these women in the two years you have both been together? Or is it a case of old friends who he doesn't really see? So when these women touched him and you got annoyed did you say anything to him? I mean if he almost had a fit one time ... (read in full...)
Married two months and not enjoying it!
Q. I have a real problem.. I got married to a man 2 months ago but I'm. Not enjoying being married. We have become boring and don't have much to talk about anymore. Everytime I suggest doing something fun or exciting he makes an excuse and we end up ...
A. 5 March 2018: It sounds like since you got married you have both just fell in to a routine, this can happen. Also a lot of women feel down after a wedding because they don't know what to do with there time now. If he keeps making excuses about doing something fun ... (read in full...)
Please help me!! No one is helping me.
Q. Posting Questipn again as no one answered before. Please help me. Don’t ignore me please! When people ignore you and your posts on social media, But respond to others what can do you do? Why do people do this? It’s like “Fomo” aka “ ...
A. 5 March 2018: I did not ignore your last post, I actually replied to you. I think you are focusing way to much on social media. ... (read in full...)
The guy with the reputation treats me differently to everybody else, my friends don't trust him.
Q. I have a crush on this guy. He's known for being a playboy, so i'm not sure it he has feelings for me or if he's just flirting by accident. However, he's even acting different towards me than he was acting towards the other girls he's hit on. He's ...
A. 5 March 2018: I doubt he is flirting by accident. If he has a reputation then it is there for a reason so listen to it. If he likes playing around then he is not going to change over night for you. You say he has been treating you differently, but you are only ... (read in full...)
What if I’m not his first?
Q. I've recently fallen in love with one of my guy friends who has been in love with me for 8 years but I never felt the same until now. I don't know for sure if he's a virgin or not, he's very good at somethings but feels a little "shy" in others. ...
A. 5 March 2018: Grow up!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't reach climax like he used to
Q. I am in a relationship with a age gap. I'm 29 and he is 47. We have a 5 year old together. Our relationship and sex life have always been great. But the last while he isn't reaching climax all the time. We have sex almost every night. Sometime...
A. 5 March 2018: This is the thing with relationships with such a big age gap, these issues come up from time to time as you are both at different stages of life.
There could be a million reasons that he is not reaching climax. I doubt it has anything to do with ... (read in full...)
My fiance lied to me about his health
Q. Dear cupid , Ive been engaged for a year now , my fiance and i we're supposed to get married at the end of this year , but last minute he drops a bomb on me saying that he has financle issues he needs to take care of and cannot get married this yea...
A. 5 March 2018: From the sound of things you should be glad that you did not get married this year. It sounds like you both are no where near ready for marriage and a life together.
Do you both live together? Surely it would be a very hard thing for him to hide... (read in full...)
Why is my husband still here?
Q. In 2016 my husband had affair whole that year I also fell pregnant with our third child during the mid of his affair. He ended it with mistress because he said he wants life with me and kids. Its now 2018 and its just hard for me now to understa...
A. 5 March 2018: He said he wants a life with you and the children, but his actions are not matching his words. It is possible he did not want to walk out on his children, yet he is living with you as a room mate, not as husband and wife. Did you both have ... (read in full...)
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