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How to get my wife in a thong

Q.   Trying to get my wife to wear anything even a little sexy to bed. Nothing elaborate- would be thrilled for 5 min in a thong or anything beside cotton boring briefs. Been married 15 years- she is beautiful. Don't feel like this should be asking...

A.   12 November 2012: Just curious. You said that you have been married 15 years. But your age is 29 at the most. Does that mean you were fourteen (younger?) when you and your wife were wed? ... (read in full...)

The man I'm dating wants to borrow 20,000.00. How do I tell him no nicely?

Q.   Hello, The man with whom I'm in love has been offered a contract worth $ 270 000. He is so thrilled about this new opportunity. However, to be able to execute the contract, he has to show proof that he has $50 000 in his bank account. He only hav...

A.   3 November 2012: NEVER EVER lend any amount of $$$ you are uncomfortable with to a lover. This does sound like a scam and if it was genuine he would have went to family first, someone he can't so easily avoid if this was a hoax. My ex asked to burrow $500 fro... (read in full...)

Confused - recent ex-girlfriend who I still love is sending very mixed messages. Help please!

Q.   Hi Agony Aunts! :) My ex and I are both 24, she's 25 in November. My now ex-girlfriend of 2 years 5 months dumped me a week ago after a very unfortunate situation. I yelled at her whilst under immense stress, left her house, and didn't answer...

A.   28 October 2012: "She'll only continue to string you along as long as you let her"... (read in full...)

Confused - recent ex-girlfriend who I still love is sending very mixed messages. Help please!

Q.   Hi Agony Aunts! :) My ex and I are both 24, she's 25 in November. My now ex-girlfriend of 2 years 5 months dumped me a week ago after a very unfortunate situation. I yelled at her whilst under immense stress, left her house, and didn't answer...

A.   28 October 2012: I'm using my phone to reply to this so it shall be short due to the difficulty of pressing the keys. I completey agree with janniepeg. This girl does not love you as much as you do her. She wants to be intimate with someone else but also wants to... (read in full...)

Is giving a blow job to another guy cheating? My Bf is getting all worked up about what I did.

Q.   This is just a quick one so you guys can help see my bf that he is over reacting. We've been going out for just over 1 year and we are very much in love. at the start of the relationship we did everything that we could possibly do both socially an...

A.   20 October 2012: How can you believe than giving someone else a blowjob is more accepted that a kiss?? ... (read in full...)

Is he interested or just being polite after weeks of silence?

Q.   A quick question for you all: Hadn't heard from this guy I had a crush on, in 5 weeks, then all of a sudden I get a beautifully worded text. All it did was apologise for the lack of contact, he had been very busy and asked how things were with...

A.   14 October 2012: Op, I am sorry that your prior attempts to court a guy has yielded unsatisfactory results. The guys you have approached were either lttle boys who are afraid of a strong woman or was not attracted to you. You now know what most guys face when they ... (read in full...)

Is he interested or just being polite after weeks of silence?

Q.   A quick question for you all: Hadn't heard from this guy I had a crush on, in 5 weeks, then all of a sudden I get a beautifully worded text. All it did was apologise for the lack of contact, he had been very busy and asked how things were with...

A.   14 October 2012: Also, everyone seems to be forgetting the most important factor when they say "He's never too busy to call or text if he really likes you." The OP is doing the SAME THING in this situation. She's also not too busy but she still hasn't contacte... (read in full...)

Is he interested or just being polite after weeks of silence?

Q.   A quick question for you all: Hadn't heard from this guy I had a crush on, in 5 weeks, then all of a sudden I get a beautifully worded text. All it did was apologise for the lack of contact, he had been very busy and asked how things were with...

A.   14 October 2012: I agree with Ciar for the most part except about the section where it's best for the both of you, he's the one left guessing. I don't see how this makes it better for both of them. Take it from a guy, this annoys us, so I don't see how this wou... (read in full...)

Is he interested or just being polite after weeks of silence?

Q.   A quick question for you all: Hadn't heard from this guy I had a crush on, in 5 weeks, then all of a sudden I get a beautifully worded text. All it did was apologise for the lack of contact, he had been very busy and asked how things were with...

A.   13 October 2012: Lets be realistic. You did say that you don't even know if he likes you and by the sound of it, you haven't told him you like him either. So why would he be obligated to keep in contact with you? A lot of girls make this mistake of waiting ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend got his roommate pregnant with twins. We have a child together. What should I do?

Q.   Please help me I just found out about my boyfriend, who lives in another house, got his roommate pregnant 7 months ago. She now had twins but she's not out of the hospital yet. I found out about it today I have never liked her. the first time I...

A.   11 October 2012: Also, food for thought. If a guy is living with a girl that gropes him and he doesn't like it. He simply moves out. He doesn't give her an oppurtunity to have sex with him. And he certainly doesn't get drunk while being with her. You also men... (read in full...)

My boyfriend got his roommate pregnant with twins. We have a child together. What should I do?

Q.   Please help me I just found out about my boyfriend, who lives in another house, got his roommate pregnant 7 months ago. She now had twins but she's not out of the hospital yet. I found out about it today I have never liked her. the first time I...

A.   11 October 2012: BOOZE IS NOT AN ESCUSE! I've been drunk before, hell, I've been shit-faced before and somehow I ALWAYS remember I have a girlfriend at home waiting. I absolutely detest people who uses booze as an escuse to cheat. Guess what, that's all it is. An ... (read in full...)

How can I overcome my addiction to pornography?

Q.   I plan on quitting pornography after using it twice a day since I was 15. Now, 4 years later, I feel like it is holding me back. I've only had one girlfriend and felt guilty using it and tried to quit it, but wasn't successful after relapsing too ...

A.   8 October 2012: Sigh. I'm sorry I didn't read the link, Yos. I don't feel that it has affected my sex life negatively at all. When I do have sex, it is great for both her and I. I also don't feel any kind of damage due to masturbation. It is healthy to masturbate ... (read in full...)

How can I overcome my addiction to pornography?

Q.   I plan on quitting pornography after using it twice a day since I was 15. Now, 4 years later, I feel like it is holding me back. I've only had one girlfriend and felt guilty using it and tried to quit it, but wasn't successful after relapsing too ...

A.   8 October 2012: On the contrary good sir. You are looking at porn from the wrong perpective. I find that masturbating to porn HELPS me with the women. I know, I know, sounds crazy, right? Hear me out. When I masturbate to porn, I find that I have more time for... (read in full...)

How can I overcome my addiction to pornography?

Q.   I plan on quitting pornography after using it twice a day since I was 15. Now, 4 years later, I feel like it is holding me back. I've only had one girlfriend and felt guilty using it and tried to quit it, but wasn't successful after relapsing too ...

A.   8 October 2012: On the contrary good sir. You are looking at porn from the wrong perpective. I find that masturbating to porn HELPS me with the women. I know, I know, sounds crazy, right? Hear me out. When I masturbate to porn, I find that I have more time for... (read in full...)

I feel jealous of the man whom my partner has chosen to be our baby donor

Q.   I am a lesbian who has been in a relationship for 7 months with a woman. Her best friend is a male, whom in the past, has declared he was in love with her! Nothing ever evenyuated and they remain extremely close. In the future she want's him to be ...

A.   28 September 2012: Im sorry but you do have everything to worry about. This is how I ended up meeting my second girlfriend. I wad the donor she and her girlfriend needed. I liked her alot which is why I had agreed to it. I told her I would feel more comfortable with ... (read in full...)

Why does he stop replying for days?

Q.   This guy that I like often text quite a lot, back and forth as the conversation is really substantial and funny. He flirts with me and tells me I'm his favourite person to talk to etc etc...however half way through a conversation on facebook or over ...

A.   16 September 2012: Well, to be honest, I do the same thing to this girl that I'm currently talking to. The reason I do it is because I can name over a dozen other things I'm more interested in doing besides texting back and forth with her. I can spend time studying... (read in full...)

do straight men jerk off with other straight men?

Q.   hi friends Im not american but i live in america though so my english is not that great anyway hope you guys understand what im trying to say. my question are do straight men jerk off with other straight men? is it gay to compare sizes with ot...

A.   4 September 2012: Also, young STRAIGHT men DO NOT pleasure eachother. I'm not sure where this is normal but in america this is considered homosexual behavior. A circle jerk, you can get away with with just a few raised eyebrows but a man pleasuring another man ... (read in full...)

do straight men jerk off with other straight men?

Q.   hi friends Im not american but i live in america though so my english is not that great anyway hope you guys understand what im trying to say. my question are do straight men jerk off with other straight men? is it gay to compare sizes with ot...

A.   4 September 2012: I'll be honest with you because typically on the internet in a very controlled forum, you will get the absolute nicey nicey responce but just so you don't get any misconceptions, DO NOT just bring this up in a normal conversation. Unfortunately, ... (read in full...)

Do I leave my wife over breast implants?

Q.   my wife lies to me she had a breast implants done without my permission i dont like it what will i do. leave her?...

A.   4 September 2012: Its HER BODY. What makes you think you have the right to tell her what to do with her body? Yes she may be your wife but she doesnt need permission to do something like this. The most she could have done was ask about your opinion but if she was ... (read in full...)

Trust? Betrayal? My Girlfriend cheated and got pregnant so now what?

Q.   my GF cheated and got pregnant and the father of the baby died. now shes begging me not to break up with her.and wants me to help her with the baby... i feel like im just being used should i kick her to the curb help her out or what... and im...

A.   3 September 2012: Woah, wait, what did I miss? She apparently got pregnant on porpose just to get his money. This is something you're willing to forgive? She's exactly the kind of woman men run away from and you're running towards her?! Well good luck. Don't come... (read in full...)

I have questions about male performance

Q.   I have a question about male performance. I was married for 16 years, and my husband never really satisfied me. His age was 24-39 and mine 33-48 at the time. He could easily become erect, but then as we had sex, he could only keep thrustin...

A.   3 September 2012: I use to be this guy, mainly because she was my first and everything about her was just perfect. I found it hard to keep from prematurely ejaculating. I read some articles on the web and basically what they advised me to do was go slowly at first, ... (read in full...)

Is it ok that I tell this guy I'm dating (I'm not) just so he won't try to ask me out?

Q.   Hi! I just started my freshman year of college a week ago. It has been a pretty difficult adjustment for me and I'm just trying to hang in there and hope it sorts itself out. Well, one of the problems I had during my first week was this guy in my Fr...

A.   3 September 2012: JUST BE HONEST. Many girls lie thinking they're actually sparing the guy's feelings. NO, it doesn't. I would for rather a girl to be honest with me instead of tip toeing around the matter. Simply say "You are not my type." This way there isn't ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend used my phone to send himself a picture of my sister's fake boobs

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 8yrs and last year when I was getting ready really early for work I noticed my boyfriends phone receiving a message and I glanced at his phone and noticed the message was from me. I was confused because I had not ...

A.   3 September 2012: So...He wanted to examine her boobs to see if they would be right for you, even though he swears he thought they were completely covered up. -_- What exactly could he examine if the product itself isn't in veiw? It's like saying I liked his new ha... (read in full...)

Completely utterly totally besotted with her. What can I do? I will wait until she is free.

Q.   So here I am once again asking for help from strangers, cause I simply can't take it anymore. I need help, because from an year or so I'm incredibly depressed. I know I'm young, but I just want to finally find the person I love. Please, I don't wa...

A.   2 September 2012: Dude, you are definitely a serious case of potential clinginess. Be cool. Lay back. Stop being so obsessed with a girl you've never met before. Yes, I do think she will think you're crazy if you come at her with so much enotions. It will probably ... (read in full...)

Should I send a text saying, I miss you so much, I don't want someone else, I want to be with you . 

Q.   hello i went on a date with a woman 5 weeks ago, she said it was lovley and i was a lovley man xxx . i wanted to give her a kiss at end of date, but did not want to risk it . i told this a few days later and she said she was not interested. but we ...

A.   2 September 2012: Nope, she has already put you into the friend zone. She is letting you know that she is not interested and that you should move on and find someone else. No amount of letters or proposals of your emotions will change her mind. If she had an inter... (read in full...)

Why is it that I always wind up with cheaters? I've never cheated!

Q.   hello, i used to write on here a while ago when i used to need someplace to talk about the fact that i was sure my boyfriend at the time was cheating on me (which he was with several people). Anyway i broke up with my ex because i met someone i ...

A.   28 August 2012: While I read your post, the impression that really stuck to me was "I'll never be happy by myself". It doesn't sound like you've given much thought to being on your own for a while. It's like you're jumping from one relationship to another witho... (read in full...)

I cheated on all of these men, why are they still calling me?

Q.   I have had serveral men in my life once a point a time that I use to deal financely,sexually,mentally the whole nine yards.now these guys have saw each other but they don't know each other like that and the first guy caught me with the second guy ...

A.   26 August 2012: They don't care if you're a cheater. And no, it is not love that they're feeling. To them you are an easy lay . You are the side girl who will put out because you don't have any respect for yourself. They miss you because they miss the sex.... (read in full...)

I am concerned about the young man living in the house with my Cortland.

Q.   I am 60 dating a retired 54 year old woman.she has a 22 yo son and his best friend age 22 year old friend living in the same house. I could accept her son in our relation but I am concerned about the male friend living in the same house in terms of ...

A.   21 August 2012: This may sound harsh, but maybe a 22 year old guy would find nothing attractive in a 50+ year old woman. She's nearly three times his age. I doubt anything sexual could actually go on between them. Then again, I myself was attracted to a 45 year old ... (read in full...)

2 years and I am still in love with my ex. I'm afraid its still going to be this way in 20 years!

Q.   It has been 2 years and I still haven't gotten over my ex-girlfriend. I have done everything in the book to get rid of these feelings. I've been exercising, deleted her number and everything that reminded me of her. I dont check her Facebook...

A.   21 August 2012: Sorry I had to make it sting, dude. I needed you to understand that you won't completely move on unless you cut her from your life. I know it's hard to think of the erson you love loving someone else. You have to feel worse before you can feel bet... (read in full...)

My friend wants me to have a threesome with him and his brother.

Q.   Um...my friend(who I really like) wants to try and have a threesome with him, me, and his brother. I agreed but now nervous. I really like him but I don't want him to think I'm just the type whose up from anything. He told me, he wouldn't mind going ...

A.   21 August 2012: He's lying about going out with you. If he really wanted to be with you, he wouldn't want to share you with anyone else. He's using your affections for him to his advantage. He sees this as an oppurtunity to get both his brother and him laid. ... (read in full...)

After everything that's happened we want to be together again but I don't know if I can trust her

Q.   Plzz help me i am in a very difficult situation.I was in a relationship for 6 yrs and i used to love her alot.I done everything for her everything.Both of our parent was ready.And i was very possesive for her.Everything was going great but before 6 ...

A.   20 August 2012: "I got her off my drugs (or so I thought)," This typo is very embarassing and laughable. I meant "I got her off OF drugs." I should reread my posts before I press enter. Anyway OP, you should never resort to physical confrontation with your par... (read in full...)

After everything that's happened we want to be together again but I don't know if I can trust her

Q.   Plzz help me i am in a very difficult situation.I was in a relationship for 6 yrs and i used to love her alot.I done everything for her everything.Both of our parent was ready.And i was very possesive for her.Everything was going great but before 6 ...

A.   20 August 2012: Wrong, OP. There is nothing you can say that can justify your behavior. You became physically abusive towards her. THAT is a THOUSAND times worse that what she did to you. And yes, I too have been with someone for a long period of time. I met my... (read in full...)

He didn't orgasm on the fourth time we had sex, how come?

Q.   Okay everybody, so Friday night at my boyfriends we had sex like 4 times during the night but on the 4th time he didn't cum, he said he was really enjoying it but it just wasn't happening, he had cum the other 3 times, so how come he never the 4th?...

A.   19 August 2012: I'm surprised he did come on the third time. That's when you know the sex is really good. Usually I'm shooting blanks on the third time. It's normal for most guys not to come after two or three orgasms. There's only so much we can deplete out of our ... (read in full...)

2 years and I am still in love with my ex. I'm afraid its still going to be this way in 20 years!

Q.   It has been 2 years and I still haven't gotten over my ex-girlfriend. I have done everything in the book to get rid of these feelings. I've been exercising, deleted her number and everything that reminded me of her. I dont check her Facebook...

A.   19 August 2012: You seem to be doing everything right EXCEPT YOU ARE STILL IN CONTACT WITH HER. Cut ALL contact now if you really want to move on for good. That means no one relaying info to you about her and not checking up. That's not called moving on, that's ... (read in full...)

What makes big boobs more valuable?

Q.   I have small breasts nd I hate them. I mean, they're healthy, and that's cool, but despite my feminine body still at 23 people say I look like a 10 year old boy. I don't. I have a defined waist, wide hips, a curvy butt, thick legs... I've never seen ...

A.   19 August 2012: Believe me, there. That doesn't care how big or small your breasts are. There are guys out there who prefer a different body part besides big breasts. I am one of them. When it comes to me, breasts are among the last things I notice. My favorite ... (read in full...)

How do I date when I go out expecting the worst? Girls have hurt me in the past and laughed behind my back about my penis size.

Q.   I am 23 years old so I know it wont grow anymore. I am so embarrassed to have sex or even to show myself to a girl when the time comes. I have 4 inch long and 4.5 inch girth penis when erect. I am afraid girls might laugh at me during or afterwards. ...

A.   18 August 2012: I guess the saying "The grass is always greener on the other side" is true for this particular topic. In the past, girls have always said that I'm TOO big. Haha, imagine, that's an actually problem. But here's the thing, I can't get a date to ... (read in full...)

He has a girlfriend, but he keeps telling me I'm the one he wants. Why hasn't he done anything about it, and should I contunue to wait?

Q.   Ok this is my situation: I still have love for my first love but he is in a relationship. I broke up with him due to the fact I felt as if we were to young to settle dwn right away. After six years I met back up with him but he has a girlfrie...

A.   18 August 2012: In my experience, coming from a guy, he is using both of you. He is using one of you for sex and the other for emotional gratification. I too did the same thing as him over a year ago. I told my side girl everything he's telling you and I kept my ... (read in full...)

Trust? Betrayal? My Girlfriend cheated and got pregnant so now what?

Q.   my GF cheated and got pregnant and the father of the baby died. now shes begging me not to break up with her.and wants me to help her with the baby... i feel like im just being used should i kick her to the curb help her out or what... and im...

A.   17 August 2012: Two simple words; GET OUT. There's is no reason for you to take responsibility for her mistake. SHE cheated, so she should be the one to take responsibility. I'm sorry that the kid will grow up without knowing his true father or having you as a... (read in full...)

We seek each other once a week. He wants to change the way I dress. Is that controlling?

Q.   My boyfriend and I love each other a whole lot. He loves spending time with me and always tries to make time for me. I love spending time with him too, but unfortunately we get the chance to meet just once a week. he asked me to change my clot...

A.   17 August 2012: There is nothing wrong with wearing something different for a day or two for your partner. My girlfriend hates wearing tight pants that showed off her curves. I asked her to wear a tight pair of pants to the fair because I absolutely think she'... (read in full...)

Are women put off by skinny men?

Q.   I know everyone has different tastes and personal preferences, but in general, are women put off by skinny men? I'm 23, and while I eat like a horse, I just have never been able to put on any tangible weight, and have virtually little muscle a...

A.   15 August 2012: There's no such thing as "eating like a horse and not putting on weight". I know this because I use to be you seven months ago. A 23 year old, 165 pound male. Now I'm 189 pounds. I've been on a bulking diet and weight training for the last seven ... (read in full...)

After everything that's happened we want to be together again but I don't know if I can trust her

Q.   Plzz help me i am in a very difficult situation.I was in a relationship for 6 yrs and i used to love her alot.I done everything for her everything.Both of our parent was ready.And i was very possesive for her.Everything was going great but before 6 ...

A.   24 July 2012: You think the parents were wrong for calling the police on you because you hit thier daughter? From that statement alone, I can tell you have no remorse for striking her. You have no bussiness being with a woman if you display your anger in such a ... (read in full...)

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