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I'm addicted to cheating

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Question - (12 January 2018) 8 Answers - (Newest, 15 January 2018)
A female Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Well my life is the biggest mess ever im in two relationships one long distance and one local. Yet i keep dating other guys and girls i just cant seem to stop cheating. What is wrong with me ? I have been abused alot by men i dont know if that has anything to do with it. Ive tried to stop but its like im addicted

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A female reader, Stepmama United States +, writes (15 January 2018):

Read a book by Patrick Karen’s, sex addicTion is like all addictions and the fact that you are aware and reaching out sounds like you have a great prospect of kicking it with help

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (12 January 2018):

Honeypie agony auntI agree with the therapy because your line of thought is seriously messed up.

The fact that others in your past hurt you doesn't mean you now should have a free pass to hurt others.

Go find a counselor and STAY single. That way you can date around and have your casual trysts without hurting people who actually CARE for you.

You need to work on yourself and doing therapy or counseling might give you the tools to figure this out for yourself.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom + , writes (12 January 2018):

N91 agony auntWhat you went through is no excuse to hurt other people.

Break off all your relationships, seek help for what you went through and don't get into any more relationships until you don't have the urge to cheat.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (12 January 2018):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntBeing abused isn't an excuse to cheat.

Being bisexual isn't an excuse to cheat.

I'm so sorry you were abused, but you're messing with people and that's not fair.

It's great that you've come here and know you need to stop. You need therapy, though.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (12 January 2018):

aunt honesty agony auntEnd the relationships you are in at the moment. Being abused is not an excuse to go on and hurt other innocent people. The best thing you can do for yourself at the moment is end both relationships and seek therapy. You obviously have demons that you need to face.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2018):

I mean treated badly by men verbal and physically abused and sexually mistreated. Also had a strict upbringing where i wasnt allowed out the house to socialise. I am also bisexual and never told my familybecause dont think.they approve

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A female reader, chigirl Norway + , writes (12 January 2018):

chigirl agony auntWhat do you mean by "abused"? If you could give more info, it would be helpful.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (12 January 2018):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntThen you need to do what addicted people do to get better - therapy.

End all of your relationships and be single until you can be in a relationship without cheating.

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