Why does my partner bring up my ex?
Q. Why does my partner bring up my ex? This will happen if she wishes to upset me in an arguement or even from right out of nowhere; which can be particularly problematic. I have told my partner that I really dont want to talk about her. I have reas...
A. 15 February 2018: It is really tough when you love someone and they won't help themselves. If she has depression it should be treated not used as an excuse to bring you down when you are already down enough. I could never imagine living that kind of life. Of course ... (read in full...)
Is he using me as a means to come to Canada?
Q. Hello I married a man from Africa and I am Canadian. We have been together for 11 months and I am trying to get him to Canada. He has been good to me but very dominant and expects I be submissive and do whatever he says to me. If I don’t he ge...
A. 2 February 2018: I am sorry that you have fallen for his charm. But I hope you learn from this. Online dating is very risky because off this. Unfortunately not everyone in the world is lovely and honest, so you need to have your guard up online. It is just sad that ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to go away with his friends, not with me!
Q. Lads holiday to Berlin when in a long term relationship of 5 years??? My boyfriend of 5 years and his friends want to go on a lads holiday after we finish our A level exams this summer. They are thinking of going to Berlin however, I’m rea...
A. 2 February 2018: Honestly you don't have the right to tell him where he can and cannot go on holiday, if you are worried then it is obvious you don't trust him, and if you don't trust him then there really is no point in being with him. Also it is his money so it is ... (read in full...)
We live with his parents they heard us fight and now I'm ashamed to see them
Q. Hi.. we are asian married couple living with my in laws. We married several months ago and been together for 5 years before. My husband isnt perfect, but he is the most approriate man for me. When we first marry we are so happy and he is protec...
A. 2 February 2018: If you are not getting what you need from this marriage and you have tried everything in your power, then it might be best for you to move back home for a while until you figure out what you want from life. ... (read in full...)
Why does my partner bring up my ex?
Q. Why does my partner bring up my ex? This will happen if she wishes to upset me in an arguement or even from right out of nowhere; which can be particularly problematic. I have told my partner that I really dont want to talk about her. I have reas...
A. 30 January 2018: It sounds like she lives off the drama. If you don't want that life then walk away now as she is never going to change. ... (read in full...)
How to get rid of a clingy yet toxic friend ?
Q. I am a female student presently studying at a university where I met this other woman friend at a social gathering through some common friends.She was whining a lot about how she was not coping up at studies and with university life in general. Some ...
A. 24 January 2018: Its as simple as this, you are both different kind off people who have different interests and traits. It is clear from your post that you don't see her as a good friend, she annoys you and her personality is just not for you. That is fine, nothing ... (read in full...)
A guy I was dating said how hot my sister was, and I dumped him the same night! Am I overreacting?
Q. Hey, everyone. So I met a guy a few weeks ago and we have been on 3 dates total. I enjoyed my time with him and he's quirky in the way that he thinks and he can come off like an ass, not in a malicious way, but it intrigues me and he has treated me ...
A. 24 January 2018: Holy Moly, OP it is only the third date!! Believe me you might think this is normal behavior but it is not, and nobody will ever get passed the dating scene with you if you continue to act this insecure. First your friend, now your sister. Stop ... (read in full...)
Am I right to feel humiliated?
Q. Why was this cAfe server laughing at me? Ordered a coffee from a mall cafe 3 weeks earlier.. I ordered a Coffee and a small cookie,( the same order I ordered 3 weeks ago) Same server. Whilst ordering she began laughing at me saying “...
A. 24 January 2018: OP I don't think you are unhappy with the waitress if I had to guess it sounds like you are unhappy with yourself and your life and you have a lot off built up anger. If you need to talk to anyone or share a problem we are all here, there is also a ... (read in full...)
I can’t figure out what happened with him?!?
Q. So I was talking to this guy for like some months now. We found each other online though we already knew each other beforehand, we started talking in a dating manner only from like 4 months before... so i had never really met him after we started ...
A. 24 January 2018: The only tip I can give you here is try not to form any relationship online even if it is with someone you met before. People can hide behind a computer screen and pretend to be anyone. From the sounds off this guy he likes having girls to talk to ... (read in full...)
How do we build a lasting partnership?
Q. Hi. I’m in my 40’s and recently started seeing a chap in his 50’s, who I knew over 20 years ago. There was always something there, but we were both attached to others, so lost touch. The spark was still there, when we bumped into each other. We ...
A. 24 January 2018: What is it you are feeling insecure about? You need to try and get to the bottom off why you are insecure and work on that. You need to realize that you deserve to be happy and loved and learn to love yourself and know that you deserve only the ... (read in full...)
Why does my partner bring up my ex?
Q. Why does my partner bring up my ex? This will happen if she wishes to upset me in an arguement or even from right out of nowhere; which can be particularly problematic. I have told my partner that I really dont want to talk about her. I have reas...
A. 24 January 2018: OP I think you are right. I know it is hard having to end a relationship, but you should not need to suffer this all the time, and well she is obviously not happy either if she keeps needing to talk about your past. I wish you all the luck in the ... (read in full...)
What hope for this relationship?
Q. I’m heartbroken and confused by all of this and appreciate any insight. Please bear with me and my story. I’m 30 and he’s 32. He’s Single. Never married. About 6 months ago, our friendship progressed to us having mutual feelings towards each other. ...
A. 23 January 2018: Honestly it sounds like you are more in to him than the other way around. He may have told you what he thought you wanted to hear, but I still think he was using you to try and have sex. Maybe it is a case off he likes the chase, either way he has ... (read in full...)
Should I try to reconnect with him now that I live nearby?
Q. In October of last year, while I was on the west coast for a job interview I met a guy from Tinder. His profile said he wasn't looking for a relationship but just looking to meet cool people. We went on a date, had a great time and while it wasn't ...
A. 23 January 2018: I will be honest, not many guys will look at women as potential partners after a one night stand. It seems they loose respect for women, and yes it is double standards!
If you are felt left wondering then by all means drop him a message on face... (read in full...)
Is he using me as a means to come to Canada?
Q. Hello I married a man from Africa and I am Canadian. We have been together for 11 months and I am trying to get him to Canada. He has been good to me but very dominant and expects I be submissive and do whatever he says to me. If I don’t he ge...
A. 23 January 2018: I would love to know why you felt the need to marry him? My guess is so that he can get a visa for Canada? Did that not raise suspicion that he could be using you? Either way I think you need to contact a lawyer and hopefully learn from this ... (read in full...)
How do I handle troublesome ex?
Q. My boyfriend had a son from a previous relationship. We have 2 children together now and one on the way. This ex of his won't let him see his other child, and talks a lot of nonsense about him on social media, whether it's directly or indirectly. I ...
A. 23 January 2018: The best thing you can both do is block her social media so you cannot see her posts and she cannot contact you. Believe me all she wants is a reaction from you, if you ignore her it will only annoy her more. As for access if your boyfriend really ... (read in full...)
I feel I owe this married man an apology
Q. Hello Aunts, I met this man sometime in 2015 when i was on a temporal job in another state in the country. He is Married with a son. When we first met, he was attracted to me and we pretty get along so well. He dropped hints about dating me bu...
A. 23 January 2018: You were hoping to be sex mates with another woman's husband? Have you no morals?... (read in full...)
21 and I've never dated or had a boyfriend
Q. I'm not going to say that it's a *sad* truth as some people might think. Im 21 years old and have never ever had a boyfriend or went on a date. My parents are even shocked of this fact, and they think that im might be dating or being in a relation...
A. 23 January 2018: Is it normal to enjoy your own company? Yes off course it is, just because people at your age tend to be out looking for love or to date doesn't mean that you are not normal because you don't want to. As long as you are happy that is all that ... (read in full...)
Is it mean to ghost someone who is nice but you just don't want to see anymore?
Q. Would it be mean to ghost, a guy who treated you good for over six months, but it just isn't working for you, I don't want to cry when I break up with him in person, so I just want to block him, my girlfriend tells me, that be cruel,not giving him a ...
A. 23 January 2018: That is how you always do it? Why would you treat people like this? It might make it easier on you, but it can completely destroy the other persons self confidence and self esteem. I don't understand how people can be so selfish and cruel in life. ... (read in full...)
Does he want me anymore?
Q. Hiya sorry if this is long I’ve been with my partner for 4 years we have a 2 year old daughter together we have had a few relationship problems this last few months such as our sex life has been non existent then I find porn on his phone which makes ...
A. 23 January 2018: Honestly I think the only way out here is for you to end the relationship. Porn is one thing, but adding random girls to social media and openly telling you it is because they are attractive is another thing. It is extremely disrespectful to you and ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to keep in touch with ex's now he's married?
Q. Hello My husband and I have been together for 11 months. Our relationship for the most part is very passionate and loving. We have had a few arguments but who doesn’t? Overall I love him a lot and want to spend my life with him There are a...
A. 23 January 2018: You have only been together 11 months and you are already married? Can I ask why you rushed in to getting married so quickly?
It sounds like you have a good enough relationship, you say you love him, but does he show you the same kind off love in r... (read in full...)
Ideas for sex with a submissive man
Q. Hello! It's been a long time since I've been here. I've across a few new things. First off my boyfriend and I of 3 years broke up the day before new years. It's been hard. We've had sex since then. Honestly, we still love each other to death but ...
A. 22 January 2018: You need to talk to him about it, you where with him for three years so surely you must have an idea what he likes. But I will be honest with you, sex with an ex gets very messy very quick and feelings get hurt. ... (read in full...)
Why does my partner bring up my ex?
Q. Why does my partner bring up my ex? This will happen if she wishes to upset me in an arguement or even from right out of nowhere; which can be particularly problematic. I have told my partner that I really dont want to talk about her. I have reas...
A. 22 January 2018: OP I am so sorry for the loss that you have had in your life, nobody should ever have to bury there child. As for your partner surely she knows what you have been through and yet she still treats you like this. She is insecure over a dead woman and ... (read in full...)
I'm in the relationship because of obligation and chivalry. Should I give her another chance or end it for good?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend on and off for over 3 years. In the beginning she was a work colleague I was hesitant to get with her as although we flirted, played about together and eventually slept together, I wasn't looking for commitment. ...
A. 22 January 2018: Please just end the relationship. This is not the way you would talk about your partner if you where in a happy relationship. It is best for the both off you if you just end it. Yes she will be hurt but it will be best for her in the long run. ... (read in full...)
So Do I go to what broke me who I love or the new guy who has fallen for me completely.
Q. Never felt so confused in my life .. Where to begin .. I was with a guy for two years, absolutely head over heels we was very happy but our issues from past relationships soon cropped up, no excuse but this guy began messaging a lot of girls r...
A. 22 January 2018: It is funny how he declares his love for you now when you are with someone else. Honestly the best thing for you to do is stay well clear off your ex. What do you love about him? cheating on you? Treating you bad? Paying for sex? I don't see why you ... (read in full...)
I got cold feet and let him get away. I want him back!
Q. Dear Aunts. I need serious advice here. I never get cold feet around people but with this one guy I just get weak on my knees. I don't know what to do. I managed to get his number and told him through WhatsApp that I have feelings then stopped ...
A. 22 January 2018: Honestly I don't think either off these guys are right for you. Your ex is an ex for the reason, the relationship didn't work out so I would suggest moving forwards instead off backwards. Cut all contact with him and move him from your life.
... (read in full...)
I’m feeling guilty for our breakup!
Q. First of I was married for 7 years I have two boys they r young 3 and 7. I divorced my husband can give a straight reason we just didn’t get along couldn’t work as a team. It was like we where against each other all the time. He was depressed and I ...
A. 19 January 2018: You cannot change the past and you cannot be held responsible for your ex feeling depressed. All you can do is be a good mother, and put yourself and your children first. It sounds like your children are happy and that is the main thing. There dad ... (read in full...)
Should we split so that I can folllow my dream?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for three years and we've been living with each other for 2.5 years. I feel as time is going by that I'm changing and he isn't (this is probably because he's 25 and I'm 22). I do absolutely love him and he's my best ...
A. 19 January 2018: Your boyfriend is right it could be tricky you both getting on to the same cruise ship at the same time for the same length off contract. It can be requested but not usually on your first cruise. If you want to travel and he doesn't then the best ... (read in full...)
I'm getting married soon so why am I thinking of this other guy?
Q. Hello, a few days ago i went to a family wedding with my fiancee. Everyone had a great time and got on well, it was brilliant! Only problem is, my cousin brought a friend with him who i now cant stop thinking about. We found we had a lot in com...
A. 16 January 2018: Some guy showed you some attention and you where flattered because you are stuck in a rut at the moment. All I can see is that is NORMAL! If you close your eyes can you picture life without your fiance? What would you do? Who would you see? Can you ... (read in full...)
Do we ever stop dreaming about our ex boyfriends?
Q. Why can’t I stop having dreams of my ex boyfriend? It’s been two years since we broke up and with a good reason. Why can’t I just forget about him like I have with my other bfs? Is it because I dated him the longest? ...
A. 16 January 2018: Possibly yes, it could also be that if you are single at the moment he is the last relationship you had so he is still in your head. Either way don't stress about it. It doesn't mean you are not over him, it just means that you still have memories ... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling jealous and insecure?
Q. Dear aunts, How do I stop feeling insecure and jealous? I have a girlfriend who is very friendly and extroverted, she has a lot of friends that are both male and female. We've been together for 3 months but known each other for about 2 years.I ...
A. 16 January 2018: You need to start building up some more confidence in yourself. You have very low self esteem. First you need to realize she wants to be with you, if she didn't she wouldn't be in a relationship with you. Also if she is pretty then you need to ... (read in full...)
Why send me a video of his girlfriend?
Q. My to be ex husband sent me his intimate vdo of him with his girlfriend. After we have been talking about divorce for these past years. We have been lived in 2 different countries though. So he sent me that last week, saying I should know and he ...
A. 16 January 2018: He wanted to hurt you its as simple as that. He sounds like a horrible man and you should be glad that you got rid off him. I think you should contact a lawyer and get on to that divorce. ... (read in full...)
Why am I still tempted by my ex that didn't treat me well when I have a great guy in my life?
Q. Hi, I have been broken up with my ex for 1.5 years now. While we are mostly "off" there have been a few instances where we talk, get caught up on our lives and sometimes hook up. We both know it's not going to work out but he'll say things like ...
A. 16 January 2018: You are a creature off habit, you know that the ex doesn't treat you well, yet you still like the attention that he gives you and well you where with him in the past so he is almost like a comfort blanket.
You don't need me to tell you that if you ... (read in full...)
Ending Long-term Relationship
Q. I currently live with my boyfriend of almost 4 years. We live 2 hours from our home town due to me being in college and us wanting to be closer to each other. We've lived in an apartment for almost 8 months, but since living together he plays games ...
A. 16 January 2018: Does he actually know how you are feeling or have you been bottling things up? If you have told him and things still haven't changed then fair enough. But if you haven't then the relationship might still be worth saving if you tell him how you are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like public displays of affection and it bothers me
Q. my boyfriend of year and a half just doesn't like public displays of affection and it bothers me. I am a very romantic woman and I like to cuddle, hold hands and kiss in public but he never does any and when I approach him he backs off. I cant ...
A. 16 January 2018: It is who he is, you cannot and should not change him just to suit yourself. If you need public shows off affection then you are with the wrong guy! ... (read in full...)
How can I help him with his terrible snoring?
Q. Dear Cupid. I need advice on how I can help my partner with his snoring! My partner and I have been together for just over three years. In the first year, year and a half my partner barely snored, we had a great bedtime routine. Fast for...
A. 15 January 2018: He refuses? It is your bed so you have the right to ask him to leave it so that you can get a good nights sleep! ... (read in full...)
My friend wont stop pestering me
Q. Since mid December i decided to cut back on social media ( im not on it much ) i let my friends know i was having a break from it so they knew they wasnt being ignored. I really enjoyed having a break from it ive felt free and relaxed so this ...
A. 15 January 2018: ....and you still want her to be your friend?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to go away with his friends, not with me!
Q. Lads holiday to Berlin when in a long term relationship of 5 years??? My boyfriend of 5 years and his friends want to go on a lads holiday after we finish our A level exams this summer. They are thinking of going to Berlin however, I’m rea...
A. 15 January 2018: If he is as controlling as you say he is then why on earth are you still with him? He CANNOT I repeat CANNOT tell you that you are not allowed to go away with your friends, he doesn't own you, you are not a child or his pet so stand up for yourself! ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to do a boudoir photo shoot, help?
Q. First of all, this is the first time I'm posting stuff like this on the internet, so excuse whatever mistakes I make, but I have literally nobody else to give me a single different perspective on this matter. Here goes: I've been with this girl o...
A. 15 January 2018: It is her choice at the end off the day. But be honest with her and tell her how you feel. Tell her if you are working towards being in a relationship then you would rather not have her male friends seeing her naked. I think that is a fair enough ... (read in full...)
I thought my luck had changed! Now what?
Q. Hi, I have just come out of relationship with a wonderful guy, i was never treated as good in my life before by any guy, he brought me everywhere, family functions and so on, he was always very affectionate towards me, forehead kisses which are ...
A. 15 January 2018: Just because he broke up with you doesn't mean that you cannot trust men any more. Relationships do fail and for whatever reason he felt it wasn't working for him so he ended him. He done the right thing in fairness and you shouldn't say it has ... (read in full...)
I want marriage and children, is he wasting my time?
Q. So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about five years we both have crazy work schedules so I suggested that we get a place together somewhere located centrally Between both of our apartments.In my mind it’s the perfect solution so we can spend more ...
A. 14 January 2018: If he is still not ready after being together for five years then I think you should be ending things. Off course talk to him and tell him how you feel and have a listen to what he has to say but honestly if he’s still unsure after being together ... (read in full...)
Am I an evil step mother?
Q. I am a stepmother who will be inheriting my husband Home instead of his adult child. I want responses on whether * am the evil stepmom everyone fears. Here is my story. My husband was a widower when we married,that was 14 years ago. His daughter ...
A. 14 January 2018: You sound like lovely and fair person. She sounds like she is spoilt and expects everything handed to her on a plate. For me if my dad died I would be devastated I would not care about his money or our home if it was not his wish to give it to me. ... (read in full...)
How can I help him with his terrible snoring?
Q. Dear Cupid. I need advice on how I can help my partner with his snoring! My partner and I have been together for just over three years. In the first year, year and a half my partner barely snored, we had a great bedtime routine. Fast for...
A. 14 January 2018: You need to be firm and say either he sees a doctor about it or else you are going to move out. It might seem darastic but I do know what you are going through and it is tough to live with. If he refuses to see a doctor then the only choice you have ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my parents that I'm an adult? They have my entire college schedule mapped out and a GPS on my phone!
Q. I'm new in here and I've tried to help others and so far I hope I'm doing a good job. But now, I need some advice on how to convince my parents that I am an adult and deserve more privacy and freedom. I'm a college student and to be honest, I'...
A. 14 January 2018: You are an adult now and you need to tell yourself that. They are controlling your life and the only way to stop that is to tell them enough is enough. You need to stand on your own feet now don’t accept any money from them if you need to get a part ... (read in full...)
We live with his parents they heard us fight and now I'm ashamed to see them
Q. Hi.. we are asian married couple living with my in laws. We married several months ago and been together for 5 years before. My husband isnt perfect, but he is the most approriate man for me. When we first marry we are so happy and he is protec...
A. 14 January 2018: First off all married couples have arguments so don’t feel ashamed. This is the problem when you live with your in laws they will see and hear many things. It sounds like his mother just wants you both to be happy. This is a problem you need to ... (read in full...)
To love, or not to love, that is the question
Q. I really don't know how to put this out there, I normally like to keep things pretty private, it's simpler that way. I am interested in dating again after many years of being alone. I meet women all the time, lovely women, but there are some t...
A. 13 January 2018: Your story has pulled at my heart strings, I really admire you and I feel for you that you cannot find someone to share your life with. First off well done on getting over your addictions and continuing to be clean. You should be very proud of ... (read in full...)
HE wants to play games with his ex, but I am not sure about it.
Q. Hi, I started an LDR a week ago, we talk every day, everything is good. But he just got out of a 3months relationship ( his ex gf ended it..) Now, she's texting him, and he wants to go with it. wtich means he just wants to make fun of her and make...
A. 13 January 2018: Relationships can be difficult at the best off times never mind adding long distance in to it. Are you hoping to actually spend quality time with each other or is it more off an online relationship?
From what you have wrote am not sure why you woul... (read in full...)
My friend wont stop pestering me
Q. Since mid December i decided to cut back on social media ( im not on it much ) i let my friends know i was having a break from it so they knew they wasnt being ignored. I really enjoyed having a break from it ive felt free and relaxed so this ...
A. 11 January 2018: If you don't want her in your life then block her mobile number, block her on social media and then you won't have the problem off your phone beeping every hour.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to go away with his friends, not with me!
Q. Lads holiday to Berlin when in a long term relationship of 5 years??? My boyfriend of 5 years and his friends want to go on a lads holiday after we finish our A level exams this summer. They are thinking of going to Berlin however, I’m rea...
A. 10 January 2018: Just because you are both in a relationship you should never tell each other what to do. Same goes for him if he doesn't like you going on a night out without him. Honestly it sounds like the both off you might need some time being single and young ... (read in full...)
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