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My boyfriend seems more interested in his XBOX than in me

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now and we have a really strong bond . Well we used to. He used to always text me and always call me and seemed to really care . But now when I need to talk to him he never answers because he’s on ...

A.   24 February 2018: When did this start? I keep hearing a LOT of young ladies who feel ignored in place of video games, his friends, or whatever hobby. It seems to happen at the three or six month mark. Did you talk so much that he thinks you've already talked about ... (read in full...)

How do I approach my very religious and conservative parents about my clothes?

Q.   Hello! I wrote in about my parents before and I updated what their problem was and I am having another issue. This one is actual clothes. My parents, especially my mother, are really worried I’ll end up re-doing my whole wardrobe since I got all ...

A.   19 February 2018: Its a little late in the year/semester, but I discovered that the campus clinic offers FREE counseling for students. I explained to the nurse practitioner (when I had a sinus thing sorry to be graphic) that I was afraid my parents would find out if ... (read in full...)

How do you ease into dating for the first time?

Q.   I'm curious as to how people ease themselves into dating for the first time. Especially if you're very hesitant about it. I'm 23 (almost 24), and have never dated or been approached for a date and believe me, I know that's my own fault. I tend to...

A.   18 February 2018: Where I come from its EXPECTED that you wait until marriage to even kiss so you're not alone in wanting to be courted and that you want to hold off on physical intimacy until you get emotional intimacy. There's nothing wrong with what you want. If ... (read in full...)

I want to be his girlfriend..not his FWB

Q.   Am in a fwb situation..we are monogamous with each other..he tells me he loves me..I tell him that too.. But he says he does not want a girlfriend..he did take me out on valentines day..but next morning referred to me as his fuck buddy...I hate t...

A.   18 February 2018: I'm not trying to be mean but if you already gave him something meant for a spouse, what motivation does he have to have you as a girl friend? As far as he's probably concerned, he shouldn't have to woo you or take the time to get to know you. I'm ... (read in full...)

He talks marriage but I think he is just using me for sex.

Q.   So I was with a guy when I was younger we didn’t date but we would make out etc teenager stuff right (No sex) it lasted like 4 years so I consider it a relationship he ghosted me and then 3 years later came to see me and we talked made out etc he ...

A.   16 February 2018: One way to tell if he's using you is to say, "I will not have sex with you until we are married then." If he's serious about marrying you, he will be willing to work on the relationship. Do you share the same values? Do you know your values? Do you ... (read in full...)

How do I convince my parents that I'm an adult? They have my entire college schedule mapped out and a GPS on my phone!

Q.   I'm new in here and I've tried to help others and so far I hope I'm doing a good job. But now, I need some advice on how to convince my parents that I am an adult and deserve more privacy and freedom. I'm a college student and to be honest, I'...

A.   3 February 2018: I realized that my mother’s problem with the underwear thing is twofold: she likes all white everything because you can bleach it, she likes granny panties and sports bras with undershirts because there’s more coverage and I’m heavy-chested and ... (read in full...)

How can I find out her feelings for me?

Q.   I have a female friend and have a crush on her from last three months. She is having a boyfriend and their marriage talks are going on. But its not confirmed as of now. While talking to her, it seems she is having interest in me.Maybe I am wrong, ...

A.   18 January 2018: I'm sorry but it sounds like it would be best to leave her alone. How does her future husband feel about you two being friends? You sound like you don't want to break up the relationship and try to take her for yourself though. I guess I just don't ... (read in full...)

Why did he block me? Was it because I didn’t have sex with him?

Q.   Hey guys.. I randomly met this guy last week and as soon as I saw him, I liked him. He seemed shy and I could tell he was into me but I knew he wouldn't ask me out, so I did. He took my number and he asked me to dinner on Saturday. Well he knew how ...

A.   17 January 2018: You're lucky he didn't make a move on you! After he established you weren't up for that, he let you spend the night probably bc he hoped you would change your mind. Congratulations on sticking to it! :-) he sounds like s real jerk to me. Next time, ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't like public displays of affection and it bothers me

Q.   my boyfriend of year and a half just doesn't like public displays of affection and it bothers me. I am a very romantic woman and I like to cuddle, hold hands and kiss in public but he never does any and when I approach him he backs off. I cant ...

A.   17 January 2018: Ew! I'm really sorry he wants to do something like that in public places. He sounds like he doesn't respect you at all especially when you say no and he gets upset? It sounds like he doesn't like romance at all but only wants one thing. While my ... (read in full...)

Is my diet likely to work?

Q.   Hey there folks. I am an unfit teen who is grossly over weight. I have heard about the apple a day thing. Does that work? I do excise Monday-Friday for about 40 mins. My mother has bad very bad eating habits, which I have grown up with and she'll ...

A.   16 January 2018: I don't know anything about the apple diet. I hope that's not all you're eating! I am not a doctor or a nutritionist but we had one visit our school one day a week she suggested lean proteins, whole grains and about half your diet of fruits and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't like public displays of affection and it bothers me

Q.   my boyfriend of year and a half just doesn't like public displays of affection and it bothers me. I am a very romantic woman and I like to cuddle, hold hands and kiss in public but he never does any and when I approach him he backs off. I cant ...

A.   16 January 2018: I can see wanting to hold hands in public, but kissing? That's a bit much. To him, and many others, kissing happens before sex. Why would you want to act sexual in public? To him and many others, acts of affection are meant to be done in private. My ... (read in full...)

I just want some to love ... who will love me back!

Q.   Hello aunts What does someone do when they can’t find love? I want to give a background ( been in two relationships) long term( both same type of guys) negligent - over powering - verbally absuive - and non emphatic . Learned my lesson that I ne...

A.   14 January 2018: I agree that you won't find husband-material in bars. Sure, you can dance or watch a game but you can watch games at games themselves or in your living room with friends. And why would you want strangers complimenting dancing or your dancing clothes ... (read in full...)

How do I get over a girl and how do I stop feeling like I constantly need to be in a relationship?

Q.   In my Sophmore year of high school I thought that I met my dream girl and my future wife. All through out middle school I was very self conscious and i would get nervous around every girl I talked to. Once I met K that all changed for me, she was ...

A.   13 January 2018: I think it might be because you had sex that you got so attached. For you, if you did it everyday, you could get almost addicted to it! You can also make that a huge part of the relationship too. And what if you got her pregnant? Then you'd really ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is travelling with another woman and told me not to call him

Q.   My bf told me to stop texting him for 2 weeks. I am on my 8 days of no contact it's really hard specially I am seeing him online all the time. We've been together for 7 years. But recently for the past 2 years we do not see each other in person due ...

A.   11 January 2018: You should absolutely leave him alone like he asks. Eccept: don't text him after two weeks AT ALL. In fact, DELETE and block him. If you have to delete all your own accounts and make new ones that exclude him, DO IT. He's stringing you along because ... (read in full...)

I feel too shamed to talk to my family

Q.   Sorry this is a lot but I need to get it off my chest as its too shameful to tell my family and friends. I met an ex vet on Instagram. We fell in love through each others art. He lives in the US and I live in the UK. There is a 20 year age gap betw...

A.   10 January 2018: I think he's stringing you along for sure! He's in terrible debt yet he could afford to take you to dinners and show you off to family? Ew! I'd never want someone to show me off! Sounds like you agreed to marry the guy you met online and the guy who ... (read in full...)

I feel like the third wheel around my boyfriend and my friend.

Q.   Hey all, I'm just looking for some advice on how to get a grip of my jealously and paranoia. My boyfriend and I have been official for two months now, when we started to date each other over the summer and at the beginning of our relationship we ...

A.   8 January 2018: No! I don't think you're being paranoid! Imagine if your friend were a girl, how would you feel? Probably the same, if not more worried. Is your boyfriend bisexual? Is there a danger of him being attracted to your friend? If not, he probably sees ... (read in full...)

Is he showing interest in me in a more than a colleague way, or not?

Q.   Hi all. I'm a bisexual (for lack of better labels...) man 28 y.o., in a situation that needs your input :) I'm not gonna go in detail about myself, I just wanna state that when a girl fancies me I can tell, however I dont seem to be able to ...

A.   7 January 2018: This is a hard one, but I don't think it matters if he likes you or not. I agree it could get awkward if he doesn't like you and even more awkward if he's not even gay! If you don't have a gaydar (I don't and I didn't even know what that was until a ... (read in full...)

Its hard since a co-worker every day when I still have feelings for him

Q.   I have liked someone at work for quite a while, and have always had a good relationship, quite flirty and friendly, but i never really knew if they liked me back. They've recently admitted their feelings (while drunk) and then changed their mind, ...

A.   7 January 2018: Get away with his or her behavior of what? Flirting when he or she only liked the attention? I think he/she said he/she liked you while drunk bc many people say anything while drunk. Before my dad got saved, he drank a lot and said all kinds of mean ... (read in full...)

I've done all the normal things to block my former fwb partner but he keeps trying to find me

Q.   My former fwb keeps looking for me. He found out where I work and used that as an excuse to message me. He wants to have sex of course. I've been single and abstinence from sex by choice and I'm content with that. I've had declined his advances, ...

A.   7 January 2018: Answer his call ONCE to tell him you blocked him for a reason! You won't be having sex anymore and he needs to leave you alone. Tell him you'll call the police if he tries to contact you. Document everytime he tries after that. Tell your boss there ... (read in full...)

I think he's cheating and we had unprotected sex!

Q.   I posted a question few weeks ago about this guy that I’m seeing, a 46 years old physician divorced with no kids. From the beginning I made my dating rules clear and told him that I don’t want to have any physical contact or intimacy if he is seeing ...

A.   7 January 2018: It's good you set boundaries but I don't think you lived by them. I have my own rule of no sex till I have my college degree and I still have guys try to change my mind. It's extra hard at your age, no offense, because you're expected to be ... (read in full...)

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