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HE wants to play games with his ex, but I am not sure about it.

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Question - (12 January 2018) 9 Answers - (Newest, 13 January 2018)
A female United States age 18-21, anonymous writes:


I started an LDR a week ago, we talk every day, everything is good. But he just got out of a 3months relationship ( his ex gf ended it..) Now, she's texting him, and he wants to go with it. wtich means he just wants to make fun of her and make her think they're still together. she doesn't know about me though. tbh, I trust him, i guess they are not going back together.

But should i ask him to stop texting her or something? thanks

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (13 January 2018):

Tisha-1 agony auntDating a guy who plays cruel “games” with his exes means he will soon be playing cruel “games” with you. Dump him now. He’s a loser.

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (13 January 2018):

Ciar agony auntCut him loose.

One week of 'dating' and he doesn't mind you seeing this ugly side of him?

He's stringing both of you along but thinks if he does it in plain sight he can't be accused of anything shady.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (13 January 2018):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntWarning: if he feels the need to communicate with his ex, he still has feelings for her. The opposite of love is not hate but indifference. If he felt nothing for her, he would just ignore her messages.

If this guy has only just been dumped, he is on the rebound. Be careful. He has shown an unpleasant side to his character already. Perhaps he is testing you to see how much you will tolerate? You're not really involved after such a short time. In your shoes I would take a step back and let him sort out his relationship with is ex before investing any more time in him.

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A female reader, holeymoley Australia +, writes (13 January 2018):

holeymoley agony auntHis attitude belongs in the school yard not in a relationship. He has shown his mean streak-red flag!

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A male reader, Been there Now over it United States + , writes (13 January 2018):

He is doing either one of two things here: 1) He is playing the girl and making fun of her. Or, 2) he is playing you both, working to have his own harem. Either one is unacceptable. Dump this guy immediately or you'll be the one he's playing when the next girl comes into his life.

As for what's going on here, I believe it is #2: He is playing you both.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (13 January 2018):

aunt honesty agony auntRelationships can be difficult at the best off times never mind adding long distance in to it. Are you hoping to actually spend quality time with each other or is it more off an online relationship?

From what you have wrote am not sure why you would want to be with someone who is going out off there way to hurt another girl. If he was serious about you he would tell his ex that it is over and he has met someone else. I am sorry to say but it sounds like this guy is just using you possibly to make the ex jealous.

A bit of advice would be to never let a guy treat you like this, don’t get in to a relationship unless you know someone really well and you both like each other. Don’t allow a guy to use you like this or to openly tell you he wants to be cruel to his ex. He sounds very immature.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2018):

You've only started this relationship a week ago. Have you ever even met this guy? People can say whatever they want to via social media, but it may not always be true. You should really get to know someone in person.

You should not ask him to stop texting her, no matter the reason he's doing it. My belief is you likely don't know this guy very well and have no real commitments to each other. He sounds very immature, and considering the age group, (18-21), it comes as no surprise.

He doesn't sound like a very nice person and you'd be better off cutting all contact with him.

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A male reader, Allumeuse United Kingdom + , writes (12 January 2018):

Don't date a guy who is needlessly cruel. It's pretty self explanatory why.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (12 January 2018):

Honeypie agony auntHe sounds like a douchy Petty Pete.

If he is butt hurt that his ex dumped him or asked for a break and want to play mind-fXXX games with her, HOW long until he will do the same or similar to you?

What a jerk, I'd tell him to go "play" with his ex but that you don't want to date a guy who think it's OK to treat others like that.

And then I'd cut all contact. It's only been a week and he is THIS much of an a-hole? You haven't seen nothing of his nastier side yet...

Definitely NOT a guy I'd get involved with AL all.

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