Why does my partner bring up my ex?
Q. Why does my partner bring up my ex? This will happen if she wishes to upset me in an arguement or even from right out of nowhere; which can be particularly problematic. I have told my partner that I really dont want to talk about her. I have reas...
A. 15 February 2018: It is really tough when you love someone and they won't help themselves. If she has depression it should be treated not used as an excuse to bring you down when you are already down enough. I could never imagine living that kind of life. Of course ... (read in full...)
Is he using me as a means to come to Canada?
Q. Hello I married a man from Africa and I am Canadian. We have been together for 11 months and I am trying to get him to Canada. He has been good to me but very dominant and expects I be submissive and do whatever he says to me. If I don’t he ge...
A. 2 February 2018: I am sorry that you have fallen for his charm. But I hope you learn from this. Online dating is very risky because off this. Unfortunately not everyone in the world is lovely and honest, so you need to have your guard up online. It is just sad that ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to go away with his friends, not with me!
Q. Lads holiday to Berlin when in a long term relationship of 5 years??? My boyfriend of 5 years and his friends want to go on a lads holiday after we finish our A level exams this summer. They are thinking of going to Berlin however, I’m rea...
A. 2 February 2018: Honestly you don't have the right to tell him where he can and cannot go on holiday, if you are worried then it is obvious you don't trust him, and if you don't trust him then there really is no point in being with him. Also it is his money so it is ... (read in full...)
We live with his parents they heard us fight and now I'm ashamed to see them
Q. Hi.. we are asian married couple living with my in laws. We married several months ago and been together for 5 years before. My husband isnt perfect, but he is the most approriate man for me. When we first marry we are so happy and he is protec...
A. 2 February 2018: If you are not getting what you need from this marriage and you have tried everything in your power, then it might be best for you to move back home for a while until you figure out what you want from life. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to give my friend false hope
Q. Dear all I just need some advice. A good friend of mine told me she had feelings for me last November. I didn't have those feelings so rejected her and she was upset. It was tough for some weeks but eventually she stopped being upset and we seeme...
A. 2 February 2018: Honestly it sounds like she is going through a tough time. She has developed feelings more you and she is struggling to let go. Unfortunately the best thing that you can do to help is stay away from her. A friendship will never work between you both ... (read in full...)
Whats with my husband saying the things he says to me?
Q. I don’t understand why my husband says things that he says example : I tell him I’m running to the store after giving me that yeah right look he says ok. I’m gone 30 min and he texts stuff like. Having fun or what are you killing the cow. Or I kn...
A. 2 February 2018: Have you gave him a reason to not trust you? You need to give us more information so that we can offer more advice. ... (read in full...)
Should I wait and see? Or end it?
Q. I met a guy through a friend and we've been seeing each other for over 2 months. In the beginning, everything was great. We went out on dates, talked on the phone, texted eachother often, and he was really sweet. We went away to Niagara falls for 2 ...
A. 2 February 2018: Honestly it doesn't sound like this guy is looking for a long term relationship with you. If he has lost interest already then that is not a good sign. At the start all was going well and he took you away for a couple off days. Great it all sounds ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why this guy sends screen shots of conversations with other women.
Q. A guy I just met keeps sending me screenshots of conversations with other women. I don’t understand why. We would be having a normal conversation and then a random screenshot. Is he trying to make me jealous or boost his ego? He also has over 600 ...
A. 2 February 2018: It sounds quite random in fairness, honestly I have no clue why he would do that, probably to see how you will react and maybe also to show you he is in demand. Either way it is really not a good sign. 600 unread messages? He must be addicted to ... (read in full...)
He said he feels we aren't a good match but he also said he can see us together for a long time.
Q. I think some advice would be helpful so here I am. My boyfriend told me he doesn't want marriage and children but he also doesn't know for sure. He adds our personalities are very different and feels we aren't the best match (this kind of confused ...
A. 1 February 2018: I honestly don't see how he is being selfish. Wanting to be together doesn't make him selfish. I understand you both want different things so yes off course than may get in the way eventually. But people do often change there minds about marriage ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but not sure I love our relationship
Q. I love my girlfriend but not sure I love our relationship. I think shes an amazing gal, and really enjoy the time we spend together. We've been together nearly 3 years, but live in different cities - enough to see for a quick evening or long ...
A. 1 February 2018: Has the relationship advanced much in those three years? I mean personally at this stage I would expect to be living together in the same city unless it was impossible. If she is not working can she not come and live with you and find work where you ... (read in full...)
We've been together for 4 years but I now I'm torn
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years now and are living together.Now I've kinda hit a point where I'm torn.I need help as to what am i doing wrong or how should I take this.Every now and then my boyfriend hits these points where ...
A. 1 February 2018: Could he be suffering from depression?... (read in full...)
Seven Year Relationship - Ended Over Phone Call
Q. Hi friends... It's been ages since I posted here, however I'm stuck in yet another dilemma. I live with my boyfriend ('fiance') of 18 years. I never got to date, or try others, since I was 13/14 when we started dating. The first few years were g...
A. 1 February 2018: He was the other guy for seven years, he waited for you to get your life together, and he has finally given up. In fairness he must have the patience off the saint to be the other man for seven years while you still live with your boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
Do I contact him again?
Q. im not sure how to go about this and would rather see it from other peoples views. A year ago i joined a dating site i met up with a guy i had already had 1 date with previously couple of years earlier. we drifted apart and lost contact. Anyway last ...
A. 31 January 2018: He told you he wasn't interested so personally I wouldn't contact him again and feel rejected all over again. ... (read in full...)
How to ask him if he likes me as a friend or something more?
Q. I have been in touch with a guy every so often. We have known each other for 13 years. When we first met, he said that he liked me. We went on one date, but we didn't see each other after that. I can't actually remember why. He sent me some ...
A. 31 January 2018: I think you should just see how it goes, meet up see how you both get on and see if you can be friends. ... (read in full...)
He seemed so into me, said he had no wrong intentions... Then why did he ghost me after that evening of no sex?
Q. I commute to work and every Friday, as I'm waiting at my bus stop, a young man would come and wait for the bus as well. We would exchange polite nods of the head, smiles, "good mornings" and then both of us would retreat back to our cell phones, ...
A. 31 January 2018: He was a stranger who you gave your address to, hoped in to a car with and went home with him. You are lucky you are not a rape victim at the moment. There are so many sick people in the world and you trusted a complete stranger who tried to take ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always distracted when talking to me on the phone and it's getting on my nerves!
Q. I'm confused. My understanding of being on the phone with someone is to have an active conversation. That each party should be holding on to the phone (or have on ear phones) and giving undivided attention to the person on the other line. Why is it ...
A. 31 January 2018: Honestly a lot of relationships have there own little pet hates. I doubt he means to be rude or disrespectful it seems he just has a short attention span. If this is the case, don't try and educate him, he is not a child. Simply stop having phone ... (read in full...)
Should I have waited till he said “I love you”?
Q. I have been seeing my bf for 3 months now. I feel like everything is great. Iv been bursting to tell him i loved him, but wanted to wait until he said it first. The other day i just said it and he said it back. Now i worry that he doesnt actually...
A. 31 January 2018: Three months really is not a huge long time so try and not panic about these things just yet. If you feel that you love him and wanted to say it to him that is fine, but you are both still in the early stages so just take things slow.
Don't be worr... (read in full...)
The thought of breaking up with my boyfriend is hard but I can't get the new girl out of my head
Q. Hello! I have a sticky situation and need advice on what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for roughly two years, we have had plenty of ups and downs during this time. He has been steadfast through each fight, though, as have I, u...
A. 31 January 2018: Tell him it is over, if you loved him you wouldn't be grinding up against other guys or wanting to kiss other girls. End the relationship and then you are free to date whoever you like. ... (read in full...)
LDR has been 8 years now he wants me to wait 4 more before marriage
Q. Hi, am a 25 year old arab lady and ive been in a long distance relationship for like 8 years now. I love this guy and we use to have it all clear that marriage is the goal. he recently said that marrige is not possible until 4 more years. he is ...
A. 31 January 2018: How often do you both see each other? I can give you better advice once I know the answer to this. ... (read in full...)
Should I get someone else to tell him I am not going on the cruise?
Q. Thank you for your patience... First some background; week before Christmas my soon to be EX apologised for hitting me, minutes later I said “that will be the last time you touch me like that!” He immediately erupted too accuse me of hitting him ...
A. 31 January 2018: Did you hit him first? Or is it just him lying and he is the only violent one? Nobody has the right to be violent to anyone so why not report it to the police? I know I would if someone was being abusive to me.
His therapist suggested bowling? Sure... (read in full...)
What are the odds of this girl getting pregnant?
Q. Hello. I went out on a date with a young 26 year old lady that I met online, and things went pretty well. Anyways afterwards she invited me to her room and well we started making out and one thing lead to another and we ended up undressing and ...
A. 30 January 2018: Yeah you will need a paternity test and you will also need to get yourself checked out at a STI clinic. ... (read in full...)
I want to know if I am crazy for wanting him back!
Q. I had been with my ex boyfriend for 10 years, we were both leaving in the same city. We met in University . He is 32 and I am 27. After finishing his degree he had been looking for a stable job for a while, he was lucky enough to get two job offers ...
A. 30 January 2018: No you are not crazy but I promise you if you take him back that will be crazy! I understand that you love him, but you need to take time to get over him and cut all the contact. If you don't he will keep using you, you will keep going back, you ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want my advice
Q. What should I think of this? I'm feeling negative and weird about it. I've been together with my boyfriend for over only half a year. I think it's natural to make suggestions for someone you care about when they are going through a problem. He is ...
A. 30 January 2018: Honestly weight can be a touchy subject for many people. He is obviously struggling and he probably knows what he should do to help him loose weight so I doubt he needs you to tell him. The best thing to do is support him without actually telling ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my fiance about my fantasy of letting him have sex with others?
Q. Hello. I have a 35 year old boyfriend he is very handsome and active. He looks younger than his age which is a bonus. I love him so much and we have great sex since day one. He has introduced me to his family and friends and recently we got engaged. ...
A. 30 January 2018: Honestly plenty of people imagine this fantasy but once it is acted out, a lot of the time it back fires. Why? Because so many things can go wrong. You might not think you could get jealous but it happens more times than not. If you are watching and ... (read in full...)
What can I say to my MIL to make her realize that I have had enough of her treatment
Q. Hello everyone.. i came here to get some advice on my current situation dealing with my in laws as we live together. They are kind hearted people but i always feel suffocated near them especially the mother in law. Some detail that i can descr...
A. 30 January 2018: OP I have truly lost count off how many times you have came to this site asking varieties off questions about your mother in law and your husband. Plenty off people have taken time out to guide you and answer you, including myself but you never seem ... (read in full...)
My job interviewed didn't offer me a job but asked me out on a date. Is this appropriate?
Q. I am job hunting. I recently got call from one of the jobs I was interested. In the middle of the interview, the interviewer did not offer me the job due to my school schedule clashing with the days he had available. Instead he asked me out on a ...
A. 30 January 2018: Honestly I would be flattered and move on, what more is there to handle? He told you the job didn't suit you with your school schedule then afterwards asked you out yes? Now I would understand if he was trying to blackmail you with a job but he ... (read in full...)
Why does my partner bring up my ex?
Q. Why does my partner bring up my ex? This will happen if she wishes to upset me in an arguement or even from right out of nowhere; which can be particularly problematic. I have told my partner that I really dont want to talk about her. I have reas...
A. 30 January 2018: It sounds like she lives off the drama. If you don't want that life then walk away now as she is never going to change. ... (read in full...)
How do you feel ok with being single at 30?
Q. How can you learn to be ok with being single at 30? I’m 30 and single, and I know I’m not the only one and that there are probably other single women out there my age or older. I’ve only had one relationship in my life that was “serious” (yr and a ...
A. 30 January 2018: The bliss off choosing you over someone else for a few hours? I am sorry OP but not person should feel good about having sex with another woman's man. If that is what makes you feel good then I really am not sure what to say to you, most people ... (read in full...)
Contact him? Or jut move on?
Q. So, I was texting a guy that I met online for a few days. He asked for my number and we continued texting and then he asked to meet a few days after. We set to meet the next day, Friday at 5:30pm for coffee. Friday comes and I texted him asking him ...
A. 26 January 2018: First dates = first impressions!! This guy really failed. He didn't even apologize for being late or recognize that he was in the wrong. It sounds like he was wasting your time which unfortunately does happen when meeting people online. His loss, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mother is a little too involved in our relationship
Q. Hey everyone wondering if anyone can offer some friendly advice on my situation. I've been with my boyfriend about a year and a half although we split in the summer for a couple months due to not getting on and silly little arguments. My boyfriend ...
A. 26 January 2018: When you have a disagreement or argument with each other don't you run to your Dad and same goes for his Mum. At the end off the day even if you are adults it is still her son and it is under her roof. She is obviously dealing with some issues at ... (read in full...)
Will we ever come to a compromise or are we just way too different with our goals in life?
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for just over 3 years. We have been commuting back and forth for 2.5 of the 3 years (6 months ago my fiancee decided he'd move a little closer so that we could see each other more) And since the first week we met, ...
A. 26 January 2018: It sounds like at the moment you are both good at discussing things and compromising. However it has stuck in your head that he said he wanted to move to your hometown when you both first got together, but unfortunately for you people can and do ... (read in full...)
I wanted our mutual breakup to end on a good note but it hasn't and I am not coping with it
Q. I was with my girlfriend since last two years, n we were good together. She always relied on me whenever she needed me even for d most small of her requirements but den few months back, according to our Hindu mythology we matched our stars or as we ...
A. 26 January 2018: I would love to know how this kundli knows that marrying you will follow with her having a serious illness. As for dying well we all will die at some point. But I would love to know what the method is behind these beliefs and why a happy couple ... (read in full...)
How do you feel ok with being single at 30?
Q. How can you learn to be ok with being single at 30? I’m 30 and single, and I know I’m not the only one and that there are probably other single women out there my age or older. I’ve only had one relationship in my life that was “serious” (yr and a ...
A. 26 January 2018: There really is nothing wrong with being single at 30. People find themselves single at all ages. Am guessing with you personally though you feel that you have never had the chance to know what it is like to have a boyfriend, and I would imagine ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to say I would leave my girlfriend if she became an addict? Is it right of her to say that I can't keep things that might "tempt" her around?
Q. I was having a conversation with my girlfriend the other day about her being upset because her brothers have started smoking weed again. I have no problem with weed. I've smoked it before myself, but apparently for them it starts them on harder ...
A. 25 January 2018: Your post is quite confusing though, is your girlfriend a recovering addict? It sounds like it is her brothers who are the addicts and then you just casually told her that if it was her you would leave, that to me sounds fair enough, that is your ... (read in full...)
Strong mutual attraction with my married supervisor. Should I continue working with him?
Q. So I just completed my first year in a master's program at a pretty prestigious university and I'm held at very high standards due to the field I'm working in. For the next year I am required to complete several hundred hours of an internship before ...
A. 25 January 2018: Do you not feel you could go four months working with a married man and resist jumping in to bed with him? Honestly I think it is a bad crazy looking for other work just because there is chemistry and flirting. It does happen a lot in the office. It ... (read in full...)
He is very confused, should I give up?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 25 years old homosexual guy. two months ago I met a guy on Skype (who lives not so away from me). At first we talked like friends, but then we started flirting and now it seems that we like each other very much. we talk on Skype...
A. 25 January 2018: Hi OP,
I am really sorry but I have a high suspition that you are wasting your time here and that down the track you are going to get hurt.
He talks to you over the internet so that he can release the feelings he has for men. But that doesn't ... (read in full...)
Do I mean anything to him? Why is he with me if he doesn't see a future with us?
Q. Some background: I (27 years old) have been seeing this man (33 years old) for four months now. We get along incredibly well and always have fun together. It is very comfortable when we are around each other and we naturally give off an impressi...
A. 25 January 2018: It sounds like this guy is not giving you 100 percent. Maybe he has some issues with commitment, or maybe he is the one afraid that you will up and leave for work. Either way it has only been four months, so give it a chance I say. It sounds like ... (read in full...)
Married and seriously falling for my doctor
Q. I am head over heels for my surgeon. I have been seeing him for about 4-5 months and my feelings keep getting stronger. There was only one time when I thought he might be interested. He told me I had a nice smile and put his hand on my thigh. Since ...
A. 25 January 2018: You are married but you don't care? Did you not realize what vows you where taking the day you got married? What reason did you marry your husband? I really cannot understand why some people think so little off marriage and what it represents. You ... (read in full...)
Should I try online dating to get dating experience or is it better for me to continue waiting to find the right guy?
Q. I am 22 and never had a boyfriend before. Sometimes I get really sad and depressed, especially when I see women on social media with their bfs and dating while I am always alone and single. I don't really receive a lot of male attention/intere...
A. 25 January 2018: You mention you have never been asked on a date, but have you ever asked anyone on a date? It does work both ways you know, it doesn't need to be the man showing interest. If you are not going to show interest to a man then maybe you are not very ... (read in full...)
Its to the point where anything with my family causes problems between my husband and I
Q. So my sister and I have never got on, even when we were kids. Now days we have little to do with one another, we have to get together occasionally because, you know, family, but we never talk, or have a conversation unless i'm being made fun of (I'm ...
A. 25 January 2018: If I had to take a guess I would imagine that your sister is very insecure with herself and that is why she feels the need to put others down. I actually feel sorry for her. It seems you are confident and happy and I hope that you don't allow her to ... (read in full...)
Is this the end of our relationship
Q. Hi my question is how do you tell a relationship is coming to the end I’ve been with my partner for 5 years in the beginning things were good we moved in together after 2 and half year by this time he still hadn’t told me he loved me lately ...
A. 25 January 2018: Is this the second time you have posted about this guy? All I can say is if you are miserable in a relationship then things need to change. If he doesn't listen to you and won't make the effort then I cannot see any other choice but to either end ... (read in full...)
How to get rid of a clingy yet toxic friend ?
Q. I am a female student presently studying at a university where I met this other woman friend at a social gathering through some common friends.She was whining a lot about how she was not coping up at studies and with university life in general. Some ...
A. 24 January 2018: Its as simple as this, you are both different kind off people who have different interests and traits. It is clear from your post that you don't see her as a good friend, she annoys you and her personality is just not for you. That is fine, nothing ... (read in full...)
Why does my partner bring up my ex?
Q. Why does my partner bring up my ex? This will happen if she wishes to upset me in an arguement or even from right out of nowhere; which can be particularly problematic. I have told my partner that I really dont want to talk about her. I have reas...
A. 24 January 2018: OP I think you are right. I know it is hard having to end a relationship, but you should not need to suffer this all the time, and well she is obviously not happy either if she keeps needing to talk about your past. I wish you all the luck in the ... (read in full...)
Is he using me as a means to come to Canada?
Q. Hello I married a man from Africa and I am Canadian. We have been together for 11 months and I am trying to get him to Canada. He has been good to me but very dominant and expects I be submissive and do whatever he says to me. If I don’t he ge...
A. 23 January 2018: I would love to know why you felt the need to marry him? My guess is so that he can get a visa for Canada? Did that not raise suspicion that he could be using you? Either way I think you need to contact a lawyer and hopefully learn from this ... (read in full...)
Why does my partner bring up my ex?
Q. Why does my partner bring up my ex? This will happen if she wishes to upset me in an arguement or even from right out of nowhere; which can be particularly problematic. I have told my partner that I really dont want to talk about her. I have reas...
A. 22 January 2018: OP I am so sorry for the loss that you have had in your life, nobody should ever have to bury there child. As for your partner surely she knows what you have been through and yet she still treats you like this. She is insecure over a dead woman and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to go away with his friends, not with me!
Q. Lads holiday to Berlin when in a long term relationship of 5 years??? My boyfriend of 5 years and his friends want to go on a lads holiday after we finish our A level exams this summer. They are thinking of going to Berlin however, I’m rea...
A. 15 January 2018: If he is as controlling as you say he is then why on earth are you still with him? He CANNOT I repeat CANNOT tell you that you are not allowed to go away with your friends, he doesn't own you, you are not a child or his pet so stand up for yourself! ... (read in full...)
We live with his parents they heard us fight and now I'm ashamed to see them
Q. Hi.. we are asian married couple living with my in laws. We married several months ago and been together for 5 years before. My husband isnt perfect, but he is the most approriate man for me. When we first marry we are so happy and he is protec...
A. 14 January 2018: First off all married couples have arguments so don’t feel ashamed. This is the problem when you live with your in laws they will see and hear many things. It sounds like his mother just wants you both to be happy. This is a problem you need to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to go away with his friends, not with me!
Q. Lads holiday to Berlin when in a long term relationship of 5 years??? My boyfriend of 5 years and his friends want to go on a lads holiday after we finish our A level exams this summer. They are thinking of going to Berlin however, I’m rea...
A. 10 January 2018: Just because you are both in a relationship you should never tell each other what to do. Same goes for him if he doesn't like you going on a night out without him. Honestly it sounds like the both off you might need some time being single and young ... (read in full...)
What are the odds of this girl getting pregnant?
Q. Hello. I went out on a date with a young 26 year old lady that I met online, and things went pretty well. Anyways afterwards she invited me to her room and well we started making out and one thing lead to another and we ended up undressing and ...
A. 18 December 2017: It is clear this woman wants a baby when she is acting like she is, she has no interest in you or getting to know you. My guess would be that she tries to hook up with as many guys as possible from the internet so she can try and get pregnant. I ... (read in full...)
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