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writes:I can send you the whole story if it will help to give better advice. This past week my bf of 2 1/2 years broke up w/ me. He said he was bored although I had no indication anything was wrong. I was never given any info about how he was feeling and so it was a huge shock to me. I believed we were headed in a good direction (I have good reason to believe this). What got into his head that things went stale? how could he throw away so much time together without trying to work it out first? we never fought and he was like my best friend. We work together and last night was the 1st time I have seen him since it happened. He didn't say a word to me all night but I figured since he was the one who asked for his space i was going to wait for him. Do we have a chance at getting back together? I really thought he was the love of my life and I don't want to let go.
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reader, janie  +, writes (29 May 2007):
I am going through exactly the same thing right now and have decided that it just didnt work out and he wanted out and I have to accept it. Its painful and I don't think I shall ever get over him but its happening all the time and we have to be strong and just let them go. My man wont be coming back to me - neither will yours. It hurts but if he loved you - he would never have left. Its that simple.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (28 May 2007):
 Saying that he wanted to finish things because he was 'bored' sounds like an excuse to end things to me; what was the reason he was bored with your relationship for.He wants to end things fine - but you deserve an explanation - if only to help you let go and move on. you could give him some space and see if he comes back to you or you could try and talk to him and find out what is behind his behaviour. To ignore you is inconsiderate and cruel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2007): I dont think boredom had very little to do with it. I just think that his feelings for you have faded away. It happens! Feeling the way he did...he didnt want to work things out. All you can do is give him his space, and see if maybe in time he will realize that you are the one.....or arent!
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reader, DV1 +, writes (28 May 2007):
 I agree. If he was bored, and it took you that long to pick up on it, you shouldn't be suprised. When you have a partner, you need to be in constant communication with their feelings. If he was really like your best friend, you would have taken the time to notice. If you really love him, you'll fight for him, and not just let him slip away.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (28 May 2007):
 He was bored with the relationship and you didn't pick up on the signs. You weren't as "in tune" with your boyfriend as you should have been and although you never had any arguments you maybe haven't had many really deep conversations either. I suggest you ask him to meet with you for coffee one day so you can talk to him and have your questions answered as he is the only one that can truthfully answer them...
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