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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest in Faded love category)

Faded love: Help and advice

I struggle to trust men and I think this has taken its toll on my relationship, how do I stop my boyfriend from leaving me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone ! I need some help. I have ruined my relationship with my boyfriend. I love him a lot and so does he. But in the past i had unsuccessful relationships and due to my past i couldn't trust my boyfriend. I always fought with him and blame ...

How to tell my girl of 6 years that its just not there anymore

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 51 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Ok so i have been with a girl for six years and we have had our ups and downs like every one else, but the problem is ive sat down for a long time and asked myself do i really love her? i have feelings for her and i do like seeing her but not being ...

How do I keep my relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 51 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - I arrived to Bogota at 2008 and since then I started relating to women because I am divorced. I met a woman who was also divorced and with two children. She was living with a man but I did not know . I tried to coquer her and it was p...

I miss him so much

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 50 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - hi i was really good friends with this boy in my class and we used to have fun hanging out tgether. We were reasonably close for about a month but then suddenly on monday, i went to school and i felt like he was cold shouldering me. I thought it...

I can't take this marriage anymore!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - We got married december 2008 we met on the internet, hes too controlling..i see red flags, emotional ones, i came back once before he gave me an std. I feel dirty dont want to pursue my marriage with him no more..dont want to have sex with hi...

Staying with him out of pity! Do I break up with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - I'm not attracted to my boyfriend anymore and people have told me that I can do a lot better. He has treated me like crap before and my moving on is way overdue. I'm forcing myself to stay with him because I somewhat pity him and all of my friends ...

I don't know if I love my g/f anymore

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

25 September 2009 (M) - I don't know if I really love my girlfriend anymore. It's simple as that, I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 6 months now and for the most part it's been long distance. I am her first boyfriend and shes a little I don't know how to s...

Is our love fixable after 20 yrs together?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - We have been together for 20 years I am 40 and he is 39 . We were college sweethearts and very intensely in love. HE would play guitar and serenade me outside my window. Bring me flowers the whole thing. THen we had a child. I watch enough OPRAH to ...

How can I get over my spanish teacher?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - i am really confused because i am a 15 year old young woman and i am in love with my spanish teacher. i thiought i was in love with another teacher about 2 years ago but he was a worthless piece of crap. what confuses me is that my spanish teacher ...

Falling out of love or running out of things to say?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 59 days ago

24 September 2009 (F) - I have been feeling very disconnected and withdrawn from my partner. Because we are what would be termed as an 'opposites attract' couple, I have found that NOT having certain discussions w/ him is a way for me to avoid - what I feel - are the ...

Will she come back to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 59 days ago

23 September 2009 (M) - hi i am an 18 year old that has jus gotten out of a great relationship. the problem was my 16 year old girlfriend was not ready for the responsibility of being serious. i understood her point of view( she has been really closed in her whole life and ...

Creepy ex using our daughter to get to me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 51 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - Hi I have a question regarding visitation. I have full legal and sole custody of my daughter due to the fact that he never showed up for the court dates. Child support is set up, but he has not paid a dime and he owes about 1,000 dollars. He is set ...

She said she wants 3 days to decide about the future of our relationship.....what does this look like from an outsider's perspective?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 59 days ago

23 September 2009 (M) - hello i have been with my girlfriend for 4 years now and recently we seem to have drifted apart a bit i spoke to her about this last night because it has been an on going thing now for a while. Just to give you a bit of back ground we've been on ...

Should I leave the relationship or stay unhappy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 59 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - I am forty years old and have been in a relationship with my partner for five years. We have a three year old daughter together. For the last two years we have only had sex twice, and now our daughter remains sleeping in our bed, while I choose to ...

After 5 years the relationship is so boring!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - Hi I've been with my boyfriend for about five years now. The relationship has become so boring. We do not do anything like go out to a movie or dinner. We just stay at home. He's pretty cold to me too. No cuddling or kissing. We don't even ...

Her past relationship screwed her up mentally, physically and emotionally, so she pushed me away!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - So here's the deal me and my ex were together for nearly 2 years and throughout those 2 years our relationship was amazing. I must add that we were and still would be long distance (her sf me la) anywho we were really good together.....she shared ...

I'm confused! We haven't had a real conversation for a week.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 61 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - okay..so my borfriendd is the type that needs to talk to me every single day..and more then once. He always makes sure we communicate one way or another..and he always makes it a point to tell me he loves me everyday. this past week, he was away on ...

Are we falling out of love?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 62 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - Okay, so I'm going to start this question by saying this... I'm 21, and this is only my second serious relationship ever. Anyway, I started dating a woman (I'm also a woman) in April. We hit it off right away. We were madly in love with each other ...

Intimacy has become non-existant in our relationship. Any suggestions?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 59 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - Hello... I am seeking an opinion to what I believe I already know within a relationship that I am in. Intimacy has become almost non existent within it and even though I express the need nothing happens. There is no more touch these days and ...

I've repeatedly told her I don't love her and don't want children with her but we are still together

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 61 days ago

20 September 2009 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend for about five years and lived with her and I have reapeatedly told her that I don't love her and I don't want her to be the mother of my kids I just don't know what to do. She has lost her job and now has a new job ...

I wish he was more romantic

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 63 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - right, so ive been with my boyfriend a while now, 2 and a half years, and were in love. well I'M in love, and i think he is too, he just doesnt really show it anymore. you know what its like being in a new relationship, you're getting to know eac...

Why doesn't he call me anymore?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 63 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - hi, What if a guy called u once every wk, once every other week, to not calling in a month. He messages me online all the time but theres a difference between IMing and calling. I was the last to call hm (3 weeks ago) and I was the last to...

M girlfriend is distancing herself from me, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 63 days ago

19 September 2009 (M) - so my gf and i have been official 3 weeks.she is Amazing..but i noticed she is distancing herself from me.she doesnt seem to want to cuddle or let me hold her as much..the other day we were together and she was doing it again..i was irritated,but we ...

I want to settle down but g/f is still running around

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 63 days ago

19 September 2009 (M) - I'm 24 yo and my girlfriend of over 4 years isn't into me anymore; we first met at school fell in love and had a wonderful first 2 years together. Both of us are our first relationship. She then continued her education and met new friends. She'd ...

I feel lost and unwanted!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 61 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - I am married and not happy. I am 60 but look 50 my husband hasn't given me any affection for many years. i have worked at my company for 14 years and have meant someone who is married and 6 years younger than me. i have commented adultrey and ...

Do I get out?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 47 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Do I get out? I am a 30 yr old female. With husband for 10 years and married for 4.5 with no children. I am very unhappy with my relationship and with my husband. I have been unhappy for years. And I hate to admit it but I was unhappy before w...

He says he's bored with me and that I'm unattractive. Should I still try?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 64 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little more than two years now and we have been living together close to two years. Just a couple of weeks ago he had been coming home late at night around 4 in the moring every night. He says he is with ...

Knowing when to get out of a dying relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 63 days ago

18 September 2009 (M) - Being in a relationship has been compared to being on drugs, the highs being really high and the lows being the pits, both end with withdrawal symptoms. Unfortunately when the relationship begins to go sour we tend to do what drug users do, we chase ...

Would you stay in a marriage where you aren't loved?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 65 days ago

17 September 2009 (F) - What are the signs that your husband loves you? I feel my husband does not love me, and i wonder, if you could describe, how you would feel loved. I just want to make sure I'm not mistaken ,when I think he does not love me. Because would you stay i...

Do you think she regrets "settling" while she was so young?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 65 days ago

17 September 2009 (M) - I fear this may be a long post as I have a lot on my mind at the moment. My situation is as follows: I have been happily married to my wonderful wife for the past 7 years but our relationship dynamics have changed drastically over this ti...

If he wants me back so much why would he have let me just like that?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

17 September 2009 (F) - He was my best friend and we sometimes kissed knowing we were only friends. I got feelings for him and eventually asked him to be more serious with me. He declined saying he didn't want to ruin our friendship. I took it well and decided he just ...

Should I stay with him? Or is this just crazy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 63 days ago

16 September 2009 (F) - I met this guy on a Christian Dating site. I was sick of all the guys i had been dating, they were pressuring me into sex, i felt used and worthless. I'm a Christian, so i think - That's the problem, they don't share my faith! I had always wanted to ...

Married but in love with another but I don't want to lose my children!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 66 days ago

16 September 2009 (F) - I have been married for 15 years. For most of those years I have not felt that desire, longing for my husband. I do not feel passion or any sexual desire for him. Within the past 2-3 weeks, I have been talking to someone I graduated high school ...

Ever since I moved back to her town, our relationship has been different. Now she wants a break?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 64 days ago

16 September 2009 (M) - Im have been dating this woman officially for 6 months. To ease the strain she asked if I would return back to our college town with her for a while, she has a yr left. When I got down here everything changed. we are staying together and she said ...

Stay in my marriage that my heart isn't fully in or go with my ex I still have feelings for ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 67 days ago

16 September 2009 (F) - Part 1 - I have been married for almost ten years. Last year we almost got divorced 3 times. He has cheated several times and that's not even the worst of it. In my mind, I have every right to leave. He has tried really hard to make things up to me ...

My ex is sleeping with his cousin how can they get away with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 67 days ago

15 September 2009 (F) - i fingerd out my ex is sleeping with his 1st cousion. i woz goin out with him till i found out but i cant seem to be able to get it out of my head. his whole family thinks im sick and then to just act like thay wouldnt do that in front of every1. ...

After one month apart she got a new boyfriend but I still want to marry her!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 66 days ago

15 September 2009 (M) - Me and my ex have been together for 5 years and after a month apart she got a new boyfriend. I had planned to marry her before we broke up and still I want to marry her. What should I do?...

Part of me wants to give up on her but my love for her won't let me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 67 days ago

15 September 2009 (M) - I was married for fourteen years and got a divorce and stayed gone for seven months. So we got back together for another year and a half. I left again due to her going to bars with her girlfriends two to three nights a week. Now we have started ...

My son is saying he needs his space; I love his g/f like a daughter. Is there any way I can help them stay together?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 68 days ago

14 September 2009 (F) - My son is 23 and he has been dating a girl, also 23, for 5 years, since they both started college. I love the girl like my own daughter, she is smart, kind and patient and up until now, my son and her seemed to have had a wonderful relationship. I ...

Haven't been attracted to my husband since the baby arrived. But I really like his friend!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 68 days ago

14 September 2009 (F) - Hi there I have been married for 3 years my husband and I have known each other as friends for 11 years when we decided to get together in 2005 we moved in together in 1 month got pregnant in 4 months and married in 9 months. Sex was great the best ...

I left my shy, dull wife for a wildcat. I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 67 days ago

14 September 2009 (M) - Left my wife of 15 years because we grew apart and it seemed like we just wanted different things in life. The thing is, my wife has always been painfully shy. Always hates crowds, or parties or bars. I live for the crowds and the parties and the ...

I have not seen this person in 5 years and it is completely crazy that I ever would want to see him again.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 68 days ago

14 September 2009 (F) - When I was 21 years old I met someone who has somehow preoccupied my thoughts for the last 8 years. This person is confusing and hateful but has everything someone like me could ever want though I am sure many would say he is out of my league. I ...

I feel restless and want to move on!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 68 days ago

14 September 2009 (F) - I recently spent sometime away with my b/f to savage our relationship. Out of the 14 days - I saw him for 3. He has been back 7 days in the UK and I have not seen him. He called and I called back a few days later - he was ill. I feel its time...

He's stopped calling, emails or texting and I do not know what to do!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 47 days ago

13 September 2009 (F) - Hey everybody, I would appreciate if i could gather everyones opinion in my dilemma :( Basically my boyfriend and I have been in an on off relationship for about 2 and a half years, lately the past month, hes been completely distant from ...

Do I need to accept that my marriage is over? Or is there anything I can do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 69 days ago

13 September 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been together for 4 years now, married for 1 year and 4 months and we have 2 beautiful boys, nearly 3 and 6 months. 4 weeks ago he said to me that he was unhappy and that he felt empty. Subsequent conversations have revealed ...

Why hasn't he made contact? Is it because he doesn't care?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 69 days ago

13 September 2009 (F) - Hi, I'd like some opinions, especially from any guys out there, on why my now ex-bf might be acting how he is. To cut a long story short, we were together for 8 years. He split with me 18 months ago, saying he wanted space/time to himself (I later...

One minute everything was great, the next I had lost the person I love most in the whole world. How do you get over that?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 69 days ago

13 September 2009 (F) - So right now I feel like an utter mess and am not sure how to deal with it. Could use some advice. Here's the story: I have had the most amazing year with my first love (who I was close friends with for 6 months first as well) and I love so many t...

What should I do with this Capricorn guy? I feel like I'm the only consistant in this relationship!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 68 days ago

12 September 2009 (F) - I have been dating my Capricorn guy for 5 months,everything was just great at the begining and slowly he was pulling away stopped calling txting..etc, unless if i did! second he was like let us be close friends! and thats what he told me that he ...

Is this a sign of the end of us? Or are my own problems to blame?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 72 days ago

11 September 2009 (F) - how do you know when a relationship has run its course?? me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 3 yrs, its our first proper relationship and i always thought of us as a strong couple. weve had our ups and downs, weve been through alo...

Please advise on my dilemma - to let go or not?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 71 days ago

10 September 2009 (M) - This is going to be a long one...I thought I'd lay out the background info first, so please bear with me! My girlfriend and I are both of the same age, and have been dating for 3.5 years. It was quite a storybook romance: boy meets girl throu...