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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest in Faded love category)

Faded love: Help and advice

I've done everything so why does my husband keep cheating?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 104 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - i have been with my husband 23 years and married for 18 years, in the past ten years he has had three affairs and he has always come back to me, but this last one has really got to me. he has been staying at his mums as she has mental health issu...

I am pondering an affair because my husband won't initiate intercourse!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Thanks for reading my question... My husband has over the last few months lost interest in me sexually. At first i didnt notice, we are busy and all. But suddenly realised that it had been 4 months... I spoke to him and said hon, whats happenin...

How can I make my girlfriend fall in live with me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 107 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - out relationship is just three months old and she is scared because she thinks i dont love her and i would dump her when i finished my schooling. i have tryed to make her to understand that i wouldnt leave her, but she just made up her mind on the ...

I don't know whether to carry on and to hope that I'll feel like I did, or to let him go.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Basically, to try and cut a long story short.. I was in an abusive relationship for 11 months, i got cheated on and there were kids behind my back etc.. And at 16, getting knocked out by your 'loving boyfriend' was pretty horrible :( as i finally ...

Stick with my boyfriend or try with another?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I am in a relationship which began about 3 and a half years ago. I have always imagined marrying my boyfriend, having children, all the rest, up till about a week ago. It is true that he does annoy me lately, pretty much every day as whenever I ha...

I ran into my childhood crush, things were going great, we slept together...and now he seems more distant

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I made a big mistake. You would think a woman 44 years old would know better. I ran into a man i had a huge crush on when I was in High School. We bacame friendly while online where we belonged to many of the same sites. Once we exchanged phone ...

I feel so belittled and want to break up with him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 117 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I used to have the most incredible relationship. For the first year and a bit, he'd go out of his way to talk to me. He'd sometimes call me the second he woke up. He would tell me I'm beautiful right out of nowhere. But for a ...

Am I just not attracted to him anymore?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for two years, and I love him. I have a lot of fun with him and he's my best friend. But I think I'm no longer attracted to him. He is good looking, but I have no drive to do anything with him, even kissing. He has always ...

Should I forgive my husband?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - After 32 years of reasonably happy marriage, I suspected my husband was messing around with another woman. I asked him what was going on he told me his feelings for me had changed. He had strong feelings for another woman and she felt the same. It ...

My controlling husband won't except that I don't love him anymore.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I told my husband i don`t love him like i used to,the fact is that i love him but i`m not in love with him.I told him and he don`t accept what i said.We been together for 4 years we have a son 2 years old..i want to end the mariage,he is to ...

He was the one for me, maybe?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Do you think it's possible to date someone for a year, decide they are absolutely and never will be the one, be totally, totally certain of it, bet your life on it certain, break up with them based on this certainty, start looking forward to really ...

She says that she will not fight for any man, including me. This makes me feel so disposable, insignificant, and unwanted. Am I over-reacting?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - She says that she will not fight for any man, including me. This makes me feel so disposable, insignificant, and unwanted. Am I over-reacting? So here is the history on us: A number of years ago I was engaged to Solange but our egos got the bes...

He acts oddly, does he like me or Not?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi, Basically i was friends with a guy in my class from college, i really really liked him ad from what he did and the way he acted i think he felt the same. Also i was told by people that he liked me. Because things had got weird, he;d denyed ...

Is he just curious or does he still have feelings for me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 113 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - Hi, im gay and i need help, my boyfriend and I broke up some time ago, almost one month, we ended up in bad terms, i have a lot of feelings for him, im still in love even though he really hurt my feelings, i just cant stop thinking about him, once I ...

Maybe we focused too heavily on the relationship and not our friendship? What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 118 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - There's a friend of mine. We are so close it's unreal, and she told me she liked me. I fell in love with her, and we went out for a month. But then- Recently, she said she just was unhappy, she preferred it when we were friends, and she broke up...

She ignores me all the time. What can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 118 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - hello, i have a problem, me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 3 months now, and well... I'm just not happy, she is a year younger than me and a virgin, although i do not want a sexual relationship with her i just know she may be ...

I can't stop thinking that he stole money from me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I think my boyfriend may have stolen from me, but I can't prove it. Saturday night, I came home from my waitressing job and counted my earnings and put it all away very neatly in my wallet to take to the bank. The next day, a large bill was m...

This whole year with him has been trying! What's going on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I need help with some advice from some wise people. The relationship im in now is going sour atleast from my view it is. Its almost been a year and In the beginning my bf wasn't as bad as he is now. He cared about how I felt when he acted a way I ...

My boyfriend told me he needs a break. What does this mean relationship-wise?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 76 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - My Boyfriend said to me last night i need a break.. i was shocked at his behaviour..and i still am. i kept saying to him... it means you dont love me anymore, and also i said you have your eye on someone else. you see i have been with this guy ...

I'm breaking her heart and not caring as much as I think I should. But I'm not sure if I want to be with her anymore

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 119 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - I've been with this girl for five years our relationship ever since high school she also is the person i lost my virginity to but our relationship has never been as stable as it could of been since ive always had doubts on how i felt for her. she ...

We were practically dating, and he told me he loved me. Now have those feelings just gone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I'm so heart broken. my best friend and I have always acted like we were dating. we practically were, we've just never ask each other out. he and I have been "together" since last september. I mean at first we both knew just never said our ...

He swears he has no feelings for me but then he says "I luv you"

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 119 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - PLEASE TRY TO READ THE WHOLE STORY. I KNOW ITS BORING BUT PLEASE HELP MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE:( here’s a guy and we are together since 2.5 yrz. our relationship was just fine before the last few months that we started to argue and quarrel A LOT ne...

Why does he want to marry me if he treats me so badly?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 119 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I have been dating a man for about a year and a half. He has had a very tough year due to unemployment and has become very discouraged in just about every aspect of his Life. In order to try and provide what I can for solidarity to the relations...

She's really sending me mixed signals and I'm confused! Any advice on what she's thinking?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 120 days ago

26 July 2009 (M) - OK, so i met this girl a few months back, and I fell for for her very fast. She knew how i felt about her, and for a month and a half or so things were extremely perfect! we never fought, and always enjoyed being around each other. About a month ago ...

Should I stay with him for the sake of our son?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 120 days ago

26 July 2009 (F) - I've been w/ my "fiance" for 5 years, with our son 3 yrs, he wants to marry me but he has cheated several times,even while and after pregnant he'd continued I've left him, kicked him out but because of our son we kept trying to work it out, I ...

We've broken up, he's sent me a cryptic email, what do I make of it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 120 days ago

26 July 2009 (F) - i need to know how to respond to an email from my boyfriend of two years. we broke up last week. for the past few months we have been riding the breakup/cant live without you roller coster. this past week, i flipped out and completely went ...

We broke up, I told him I needed space, but now I want him back, how do I know how he feels?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 92 days ago

26 July 2009 (F) - Hi, I broke up with my bf a few months ago. We stayed friends in the interim. I just sent him a "would you consider getting back together" letter. I told him to take his time to think about it. I think I was so subtle in the letter that I never ...

I had my heart broken in the past and became cold-hearted. Then I opened my heart to this girl...but she is pulling away. Why is this happening?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 114 days ago

26 July 2009 (?) - So, I never in my life chased after women. Just a male ego. I had fun with girls here and there that came my way but never chased after one, because i've been heart broken in the past and i'm not ready for that again but it seems like its happening ...

How can I end this abusive relationship safely? And is there any way I can restore the self-esteem he has damaged?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 120 days ago

26 July 2009 (F) - Hey everybody. I don't know what to do. I have recognized that I'm in an abusive relationship. It's a mixture of extreme control/jealousy, verbal abuse, slight physical ("play hitting", has hit me 1 time, threatens to punch/hit me if I dont do somet...

I love him so much, but I feel like I am single in this relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 120 days ago

26 July 2009 (F) - My problem I don’t know how to approach or to deal with my boyfriend or to discuss this issue with him cuz its not very clear to explain it to him ? I feel that I love him loads more than he does, no no its not feeling its true , I keep missing...

He's being hot then cold! Is he just getting me back for saying I wanted a break and not knowing what I want?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 95 days ago

25 July 2009 (F) - Ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 8 months now. Our relationship was fantastic, madly in love, couldnt keep our hands off eachother, loved spending time with each other etc. We had a little dis-agreement a couple of weeks ago and i told him that ...

How long does it take a person to decide whether they want to get back together with you or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 121 days ago

25 July 2009 (F) - I sent my ex a let's get back together letter. I told him to take his time and think about it. I know he'll definitely answer (he would never not answer) but it's been 4 days. It's a good sign that time is passing bc I know he actually is thinking ...

I'm not sure about my feelings for my ex. But I think I might want him back...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 121 days ago

25 July 2009 (F) - So I've been talking to my ex frequently. Even though our breakup was recent and andom and didnt seem to have much behind it *hes having financial/work trouble* and ended it but still wanted to stay in contact/hang (we supposedly broke up cos ...

I broke up with my boyfriend, but my feelings for him won't go away.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 122 days ago

25 July 2009 (M) - I really need help, I broke up with my boyfriend like a month ago and I´m having hard times trying to move forward, we had really good times together, but we ended up in really bad terms, he was rude and mean to me. Trying to escape from my reality ...

She stopped answering her other line calls from me, what could this mean?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 122 days ago

24 July 2009 (M) - what does it mean when a women you known for a long time say a year ...stops answering your calls or when she is talking to someone esle doesnt stop what she is doing and pick up call waiting and let you know she is on the other line ...and w...

How do I get rid of my annoying boyfriend without breaking his heart

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 122 days ago

24 July 2009 (F) - im with this lad that really gets on my nerves everythin he does annoys me so ive bin thinkin about finishing it but he keeps saying he needs me an he cant live without me an it will break his heart if i finish it we have only bin together 5 an a ...

Whether to go or not to go...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 122 days ago

24 July 2009 (F) - To go or not to go? that is the question. The guy i like lives 8 hours away, its apparently a rule that the guy should come see u, we havent met yet and i AM DYING TO SEE HIM. He cant afford it though and nor can i. my friend told us to talk and ...

I'm damaged goods... should I just settle for him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 123 days ago

24 July 2009 (F) - Ok so I hope you can take time and read this, as I dont know know who else to reach to. I am a woman in my mid twenties, I have a small child that I raise at home alone. I was married to the father of my child for four years. The relation...

He wasn't making me feel good, so I broke up! Should we try again?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 123 days ago

23 July 2009 (M) - Well... my boyfriend and I been dating close to a year, never been perfect, he sucks in bed, but I have fallen in love regardles. For some reason, can't explain it why, he casues for me to withdraw, I like him and want to be cheerful and happy ...

How do I leave controlling bf without being guilt-tripped back in?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 123 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - Hello everybody. I have been in a relationship for about 2.5 years (with 2 "breaks" in between). In the 1st break he went out with someone else and hid it from me and lied about it. Yes I know I'm dumb to take him back. He showed great improvem...

I'm not sure I want to be in this relationship, but I'm scared of breaking up and being lonely

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 123 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - I'm really confused!! I'm 22 and currently with my boyfriend of two years. I dont know if he is the one, I dont even know if I really wanna be in this relationship anymore, but at the same time in not sure about breaking up either. I think im just ...

When we next go out, how can I stop her love for me from "unclicking"?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 124 days ago

23 July 2009 (M) - Im almost 15 and my ex gf is almost 14 ok so she loves me now but she is afraid that she will keep hurting me like when she dumped me. she likes me when we arent dating then when we are dating she stops liking me, the way she worded it is something ...

How can I let her go when I love her so much?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 123 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - After eight years, my g/f and I decided to have a open relationship with others on the internet because she said she was having problems with being faithfully..not cheating on me just liking on getting to know other people. I was having problems ...

I love him...but I think he hates me!!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 124 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - My now ex, isnt with me anymore because since he came back from the war he seems to be way distant than normal. Ive tried to be there for him but he always tells me hes all alone and no one understands him. We were always getting into arguments just ...

Did being pregnant ruin our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 119 days ago

22 July 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I are 21 and she is pregnant. When we first found out the news we were both scared and shocked, I would be lying if I said anything different. In the next few days we both talked and were very excited, she always wanted to start ...

My boyfriend leaves me for his ex-gf. How do I move on from this extremely hurtful pain?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 113 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my bf for 6 months. I know it may sound like a short amount of time, but I began to fall for him. However, towards the end, we were having a rough time and he ended up leaving me for his ex-gf. Supposedly she was asking him back and ...

With him, it's constant kisses and hugs and "I love yous" and it's really starting to annoy me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 124 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 months now and hes become totally obsessed with me. I constantly get txts asking "wuu2" or "ily so much babe x" and its like really freaking me out....at first it was like aww now i find myself i...

Long long story short, rekindle or put out the flame? Please help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 125 days ago

22 July 2009 (M) - Me and my boyfriend broke up 2 months ago after dating for 14 months. It seemed right we both, yes even myself at the time, decided maybe friends would be better, the spark just wasn't there anymore. It was a lot harder then i thought it would be ...

One day I'm the girl he's going to marry, the next day he's stand-offish!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 125 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - I am quite hurt and confused and would really appreciate any advice! Me and my boyfriend of six months broke up about a month ago but during that month we have been in contact every day, talking meeting up and even going away on a trip together! For ...

Am I heartless for even thinking about this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 125 days ago

21 July 2009 (M) - I'm engaged to a lovely girl. We've been together for over 5 years, but ever since we bought a house together she's become very distant. She still chooses to live with her mother rather than at our house, and openly admits that she doesn't know if ...