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writes:He was my best friend and we sometimes kissed knowing we were only friends. I got feelings for him and eventually asked him to be more serious with me. He declined saying he didn't want to ruin our friendship. I took it well and decided he just liked having his cake and eating it to. I thought he probaly wasn't that into me. To my surprise, not too long after that he asked me to be exclusive and I told him I would have to think about it. Ruining our friendship did sound bad even though I really liked him a lot. We got in a fight after only one real date over him accusing me of seeing another guy which was not true. The next time I saw him he brought another girl to a party, twirled her in front of me and walked out of the room. She asked me if she was "stepping on our toes" I said no and went home very angry. He then only wanted to see this girl though he promised we would have our "someday". I tried to move on after that and it was really hard.Long story short I found another guy who treats me well and that other girl cheated on him so much they broke up. I love him and want to be with him and he loves me, he even asked me to marry him but I find it hard to hurt the guy who has treated me right. He called and asked to see me. I agreed but then he stood me up. I feel like he is so easily hurt but I don't understand why if we wants me back so much he would just let me go like that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2009): Thanks for your perspective. Read your reply on another's post about the metaphorical knife, is that Pirsig?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): And I don't understand why you like your ex when another guy is treating you much much better. Its weird thing to see a girl buy into the whole love and marriage deal so quickly yet gets easily stood up, only to ask "i dont understand". Seems like he has still a lot of issues to deal with. It's up to you to decide if you want to deal with them or not by putting up with him. Its a shame though when you can have a nicer guy in front of you.
While I don't know why he would let you go like that, I guess his actions speak louder than words.
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