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*ilk2g2
writes:Im have been dating this woman officially for 6 months. To ease the strain she asked if I would return back to our college town with her for a while, she has a yr left. When I got down here everything changed. we are staying together and she said she feels a great deal of pressure. She also says that she has been having second thoughts about premarital sex. we havent been intimate since and if we do anything she acts as if I forced her to. she has been hot and cold and I have been unable to read her. on our 6 month anniversary we didnt get a chance to celebrate because of her schedule so we postponed it. the next night we were supposed to have drinks but she spent time with her friends instead. I was upset and pushed the issue, of course she didnt have a problem wiih her actions so... The next day we were supposed to have a nice dinner together at home and celebrate since we hadnt. She was late so I cooked dinner. she suggested a break the next day, what should I do?
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reader, silk2g2 +, writes (18 September 2009):
silk2g2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you. I really will try to give her some space because it hasnt always been like this. I love her and I pray she comes back around
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (17 September 2009):
I think it's clear that she thinks she's made a huge mistake and she doesn't want to be with you.
However, rather than be mature and admit that to herself, to you, to all her friends, and be seen to be selfish and have messed you about, she is ignoring the situation and hoping it will all just go away.
She's treating you like crap and then when you finally crack and tell her it's over then none of it will be her fault.
I think you know this isn't working and since she isn't willing to be the adult, just tell her you aren't happy and you are moving out again.
Good Luck!! xx
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