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Archived questions from: August, 2009 (see latest in Faded love category)

Faded love: Help and advice

My g/f is depressed and I feel that I am developing strong feelings for my coworker!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5353 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I am having really mixed feelings. I have been with my current girlfriend for a little over half of a year. At first, things were pretty good. Lately, she is always depressed about something, never wants to do anything, and is an all around downer. ...

I hardly hear from him any more -- what can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5312 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I have been feeling quite sad recently. My boyfriend ended up staying in states, in our hometown, for college. I left to a college five hours away from home. This first week of school has been tough, and I'm not referring to the books. It seems ...

My boyfriend keeps breaking up with me, and told me he's not in live with me anymore! I know I should let go, but how?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5353 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Im really confused and don't know what to do. I'm 19 and ive been going out with my boyfriend for a year now. Last month he broke up with me because he didnt want to be in a relationship, but we got back together, he has done the same thing 4times ...

I'm in love with her she doesn't return the love

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5354 days ago

30 August 2009 (M) - Hi Guys, just looking for some common ground on this one. I have been with my girl friend over 5 years and we have had a lot of ups and downs and have two children togeather. Recourring conversation is she is not in love with me and more and wou...

Don't know where we stand!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5313 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - At the beginning of this year I admitted I had feelings for one of my best friends, we're both female and have known eachother for about 3 years. She told me that she felt the same way and since then things have developed. At first she was always ...

If someone withholds love because of pressure from others, isn't that a type of punishment?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5353 days ago

29 August 2009 (M) - If someone suddenly withholds love from you and intentionally becomes distant, because of pressure from other family members whom she loves, isn't that like a punishment? In religion, the definition of excommunication is: "A form of censure b...

My girlfriend broke up with my last night, and I have a lot of questions running through my mind. Please help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - My girlfriend broke up with me last night. I am a 5th year senior and she is a senior at our college. This past summer, we spent the majority of our time together because we were living up at school working, and most of the time we didn't have any ...

How do I tell my girlfriend how I feel and get the spark back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5357 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have been dating for around 6 months now and I love her to death, but we are exact opposites. I'm almost 6' tall and shes about 5' 2" maybe, I'm around 250 LBS and shes less than 100 LBS. I'm 16, shes 14. I listen to country, ...

It feels like her love for me is fading...what can I do? Can I fix things?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5310 days ago

26 August 2009 (M) - Ok this is probably going to be a long story. So Like a year ago I was going out with this girl she's in the 10th grade now and I'm in the 9th, We broke up some time ago. Well about 6 months ago I started seeing her sister and we are still together...

Too young to be engaged & in love with someone else, what do I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5335 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - I am 19 years old and engaged. I have also been in love with a different man for almost 6 years. Recently, the man that i've been in love with for 6 years confessed how he wants to be with me and has had mutual feelings for the same amount of time. ...

My girlfriend doesn't know if she's in love with me anymore!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

25 August 2009 (M) - So me and my gf have been together for almost 2 years now. We were having problems a while back because I wasn't doing anything with my life and I wasn't making any effort in attempting to fix it. We broke up for a good 2 months or so and just ...

She is my life, but I feel like nothing to her as she seems to be looking elsewhere... please help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5360 days ago

24 August 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, I wonder if you can help me with some advice. I've been with the my partner for 6 years and we have two children togeather. Everything is perfect but I feel so sad its unpresidented. I love my partner so much and we have had a lots of ...

How can I overcome my destructive insecurities?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5358 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - Hi, Basically I need some advice regarding my current relationship, or more precisely how I can change my behaviour/outlook so that I dont ruin it. Ive been seeing my current man, Sam since January. At first it was very casual, meeting up once...

Don't want it to end, but scared I am no longer 'in' love

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5359 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - I have been with my fiancé for eight years now. I was madly in love with him and I still do love him but I am scared I am no longer 'in' love with him. I have to make a decision about what to do. We have always had hard things to deal with. He...

Am I post natal? Not in love? Or living in the past??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5361 days ago

23 August 2009 (?) - I'm all out of love? please help....I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and half years.we have 2 sons aged 2 and 9 months.so as you can see I fell pregnant soon after we met.my problem is I don't know if were just not right for each other or I'm ...

Who do I do this to myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5357 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice here or if I just wanted to type this out. Hopefully that makes sense, but to me sometimes typing something out for others to see can be as therapeutic as actually telling someone what's on your mind. The ...

Do I move away and follow my heart?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5173 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - My wife and I got separated in December and we have been apart for 8 months now. We have 3 woderful kids aged 10-16 who we are both unbelievably close with. The kids have handled the separation and impending divorce well. Our relationships have ...

He isnt the man I used to know...I need help with this!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5359 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - Hey, I've been with my bf for over a year now and we have lost our romance!! i asked him to take me out... but he would rather sit at home. i've been asking him for months to take me out to dinner but i always get a straight out NO and it annoys m...

At 33, could this be just a mid-life crisis?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5362 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for 9 years and majority of the time it was good till recently. Lately it seems he doesn't care if I'm here or not. I feel he is looking for things to do to deliberately make me mad. Lately I do nothing right in his ...

I don't understand it - why he won't talk to me now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5362 days ago

21 August 2009 (F) - Hey guys, some really good advice would be great right now :) I had been seeing a guy for about 5 months, but it was always off and on. One week I would hear from him every day, then I wouldn't see or hear from him for maybe a couple of weeks. We ...

I have no enthusiasm to see my girlfriend! What's wrong with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5363 days ago

21 August 2009 (M) - I no longer feel enthusiastic about seeing my girlfriend. We haven't been together all that long, but in the early stages she was a lot of fun. Unfortunately, she's gotten very clingy. She wants to see me every day. I'm flattered, but if I say no, ...

Our relationship is ending soon... but should we break things off earlier?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5364 days ago

20 August 2009 (M) - I'm having a rough time just now. I'm in a relationship that is going to finish in a few weeks time, because we are both going off to Universities and neither of us want a long distance relationship. But for the past couple of weeks, I've found my ...

I'm trying to do the best for her and she's distancing herself from me

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5352 days ago

20 August 2009 (M) - Should I admit to seeing my partners writings and how can I deal with this? Recently my partner made a list of things she wanted. 1. To visit her family. (500 miles away) 2. To go on holiday abroad to the sea. 3. To move in to ...

My life is going downhill

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5364 days ago

20 August 2009 (?) - hello, my problem is that im doubting my reason to live, latley my sex life has just gone downhill. my husband is ignoreing my signs that i want to say that im attractive. i have no idea what to do and on top of that my children are out of control ...

He constantly lies and seems to be cheating, should I get a divorce?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5364 days ago

20 August 2009 (F) - I am almost 8 months pregnant and am having serious marriage problems. We have been married for just over a year and our arguments are more and more serious. This time we have separated for over ten days now and have been talking about divorce. T...

How do I get out of something I don't really want to be in?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5361 days ago

20 August 2009 (M) - I met my girlfriend about six years ago and we've been together coming up 5 years now I think, but I feel like I've lost interest in the relationship. I don't know, cause she's a nice and lovely person. But things just keep coming up, like ...

Is she still in mourning, or is it over?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5362 days ago

19 August 2009 (M) - My girl has been acting differently for the past two weeks or so. She's 30, I'm 28. We met in church years ago, she was dating a guy I went to high school with back then (he's actually getting married in three weeks). We've been dating for 10 months ...

I'm scared that I'm depressed again. What can I do to get myself back to normal?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - How do I know if I've fallen out of love? I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years (next week). In the beginning, obviously, everything was perfect. Then after a few months, I got depressed (for about 2 months), and I felt like nothing (not ...

How do I cope with this break from my boyfriend? Does this mean we're over?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5363 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Ok my boyfriend just asked for a break! it sucks!! It came up all of a sudden for me. We arent seeing other people which im really really happy about but this hurts!! He wants No communication between us. he decided to have this break and when it ...

I still love my boyfriend but this relationship just isnt working anymore!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5365 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - i dont even know how to start this, I will try my best to keep it short telling you my problems it might be a little confusing as i am telling 5 years of built up frustration in a couple of paragraphs, but here goes. Ok well i have been in a ...

I am changing, and my boyfriend isn't....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5365 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have lived together for almost 2 years. I love him very much. I can't imagine my life without him. But, we are experiencing a lot of strife due to the fact that I feel like I am growing as a person much more rapidly than he. Maybe ...

Do I hang on in there in the hope it is a blip or end the relationship? I feel like I'm in limbo....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5366 days ago

18 August 2009 (F) - Have any of you ever been in a relationship where you feel like you are no longer going out with your partner yet nothing has been said by the other person? For the last year I have felt like my boyfriend, who is in his mid-thirties, is completely ...

Who should I be with...my ex or my fiance? I love them both!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5154 days ago

18 August 2009 (F) - I have a major problem. I have been together with my fiance for just over 3 years. We have our ups and downs. I always find myself yelling at him but he will do everything from my laundry to rubbing my feet. However he has also hurt me in the past ...

A wonderful b/f, vs. first love recovered?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5366 days ago

18 August 2009 (F) - Hi, so this is long, but I need help. April 2006. I met someone - I didn't know then that he would change my entire life. How could I have possibly known? It started out easily enough, that much was true. We just talked online at first. It was so...

He said he doesn't feel the same, but he's still talking about getting engaged

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5367 days ago

18 August 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i started dating last june. we became very close very fast, yet we took things slow at first. after 2 months we both said we loved each other. he applied for school 2 hours away, and before he left, he got me a ring to let me know ...

What's really going on with men over 40?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

18 August 2009 (F) - This is a question to man over 40...Do you beleive in andropause? That your sex life dies, and you don't feel like having sex, and your erections are gone? If its true, how common is that? Is this just in long term marriages? I'm just really c...

We can go 2 days without speaking. Is this because he's busy or because he doesn't care?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

17 August 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. Lately, I feel he has been acting distant. He is busy with work and school, so there are times we go 2 weeks without seeing each other, and I am understanding about that. But what frustrates me is that ...

More Info added: Should I get out of this marriage and take a chance with the younger woman?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5366 days ago

17 August 2009 (M) - I am posting this question for a second time -as I have left out some important details the first time around.I am currently married for 16 years and we have one child, a boy. during the 16 years, my wife packed her belongings and moved to her ...

Now that we've set a date I'm having doubts!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5357 days ago

17 August 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years now. We started dating when we were 18 years old. We've now been engaged for about 2 years. Recently, we set our wedding date... March of next year. My problem is this: I've always had fleeting feelings of ...

Was I wrong to ask her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5362 days ago

17 August 2009 (M) - I've dropped a bollock! I was friends with a girl and I've asked her if we could ever be more than that. She said no but she also said that "maybe we shouldn't hang out as much" which basically means "get lost! I don't want to be your friend any ...

Do I deserve to be treated like this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

17 August 2009 (F) - I am 22 and I have been with my bf for over 4 years, after about a year of being together he said that I had to choose him or my friends, and that if I forgot my friends he would forgot one of his mates who is always nasty to me. 3 years later he ...

Is she still into me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

17 August 2009 (M) - Hello, to make it quick, I'm in the military and was away for some time in Afghanistan, I returned home after 4 years, but I noticed somehow my girlfriend rejecting me in some way, she isn't returning my calls, she doesn't answer my emails, could ...

All of the sudden, he doesn't "want a girlfriend". What do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

17 August 2009 (F) - okay so my ex boyfriend and me still hangout and hookup..tonight i gave him head and i swollowed for the first time thinking that it would show him that i care!..WRONG..after i did that we talked about us and he said that he has to much going on for ...

He seems to be losing interest in me. Does he even like me anymore?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5368 days ago

17 August 2009 (F) - wow my boyfriend... he was really great he was my first kiss but now it seems like he doesn't care about us first he never calls me and i have to call him and when i do he justs sits there and tells me how much he doesn't like talking on the phone ...

How do I leave with no money, no help and get the children to understand?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

16 August 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 13 yrs now and I'm pretty sure I am no longer in love with him. We have 2 children together 6 and 11 and I’m afraid to leave because I don't want to hurt them. Although he doesn't spend much time with them I know they ...

I don't feel that I am in love with her!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5368 days ago

16 August 2009 (M) - Please help me! I am very confused about my relationship. I am a 23 and my girlfriend is 24 and we have been dating for about a year and 2 months. The problem I have is that I don't feel like I am in love with her. I definitely have love for her and ...

We seemed so happy together and then all of a sudden it was gone

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5366 days ago

16 August 2009 (F) - Here's a summary of before and current. Bf and I broke up a mo ago - said he was no longer feeling it, which Is BS because he messaged/saw me daily*he has financial/work problems*.Hung out as friends/ended up having sex. I messaged and he ...

Is he playing with my feelings, or does he really love me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5368 days ago

16 August 2009 (F) - Hai, well,i have a boyfriend,and i really love him.Its just tht..whenever i needed him,whenever i have a problem,whenever i want to talk to him,he's not always there.He said he loves me and all,but Like last month,i really didnt expect him to forge...

Am I falling out of love with my boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5369 days ago

15 August 2009 (F) - I have been dating my current boyfriend for four years. When we first started dating, I found him to be extremely handsome, intelligent, and funny. However, from the beginning, I did notice that he had a slight drinking problem, was prone to ...

How do I let go of the only person in my life that matters?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5359 days ago

15 August 2009 (M) - I've been with my gf for about a year and a half and we live together. I love her very much and I know she loves me back. I've known her for many years as we had met in high school through mutual friends, but we never really progressed into anything ...