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writes: Hello...I am seeking an opinion to what I believe I already know within a relationship that I am in.Intimacy has become almost non existent within it and even though I express the need nothing happens. There is no more touch these days and even though I ask nothing much happens.Recently when I expressed the need for sexual intimacy I was told that he is masturating to relieve himself and I repsonded by grabbing my vibrator and leaving the room. No response still.I am pretty much in a space where I feel he is just not interested anymore. Just looking for another opinion. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): with replies like the last one is it any wonder so many leave the site never to return you may disagree with posted advice but there are ways of offering an alternative view
As the first poster pointed out communication is the key here as... you could go into town any Saturday night and someone will readily give you cold hard meaningless sex for their pleasure and thereby satisfy the "lust" but if you want a relationship then you need to discuss what is wrong as clearly you note that something is wrong
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): She IS talking about sexual intimacy, ans she brings up a question about sexual intimacy. How is she self centered, because she wants sex?LUST IS GOOD, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG TO FEEL LUST FOR EACH OTHER, IT'S ACTUALLY VERY VERY GOOD
Sorry, girl, back to you. I don't what to tell you, it's obvious that your guy is displaying indifference. Did you have straightforward converstaion?
Is he a boyfriend, have any kids together? If not then it depends if you want to make an effort to make it work.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): Intimacy is far more than bump and grind and orgasms Communication seems to be sadly lacking in your relationship and I am sure you felt a whole lot better grabbing your electronic friend and gaining sexual relief
I suspect lovely lady that that was certainly not what you either wanted or needed try a little wooing a little patience and a little selflless Love
Sex is important to a relationship but it isn't on its own intimacy it becomes just sex and the satisfying of lust if you want it to be intimateyou need to engage fully and try to be a little less self centred
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