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writes:I was married for fourteen years and got a divorce and stayed gone for seven months. So we got back together for another year and a half. I left again due to her going to bars with her girlfriends two to three nights a week. Now we have started dating again and the same thing happens. So now she says that she needs some space but still wants me around for sex two to three times a week. Doesnt make no sense to me. Can you help? Part of me wants to give up on her but my love for her won't let me.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (15 September 2009):
 I somewhat agree with rcn. I think she's basically using you for sex.
If the sex is good, then why should you be committed to her? Its apparent that she's living the high life with her friends, and you're a convenience to her.
The really sad part about all of this is that you're missing out on all the other parts of a healthy relationship which includes true companionship, love, emotional support and intimacy.
Why settle for the life she wants you to live when you should be living the life you want to live. If she can't change her behavior then you need to stop seeing her and find someone else.
There's no point in letting her use you like this. Its only breaking your heart over and over again, you're being used by her, and except for the sex she's basically treating you as a non-person in her life.
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reader, rcn +, writes (15 September 2009):
 Do you go around for sex those times she wants you too? If so, why have a relationship? why get married? why be committed? You're giving her what she needs or I should say desires. Be free to party, and use you for your sexual abilities. When she's getting what she desires from you and living the free, easy and party life, their's no incentive for her to change. She's playing, and the problem from your end, by going over there, you're enabling her to keep doing what she's doing.
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