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writes: I’ve been dating a guy for about five months will call him, RichardThe first two months we weren’t physical and then the second two months we started sleeping together. No issues except he is on antidepressants and if any of you have ever been on them you know that often times it’s hard to climax. Other than that he could get hard that wasn’t an issueAbout a month ago he started having another medical problems separate from his depression. Suddenly he wasn’t getting erect anymore. He blamed the medication I believe him. Now he’s off that medication but still can’t and says he is feeling stressed and his mind is too distracted I’ve never had this problem with a man before he’s only 36 please please help me is there something else going on that I don’t know? I’m really sad to see the passion go away Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2020): Unfortunately, erectile dysfunction is a common side-effect of antidepressant medications; even many over-the-counter medications like some allergy meds or antihistamines. You mentioned he has other medical-issues; and that might attribute to his continued and long-term ED.
If he doesn't take his medication, he will suffer from depression. That in itself can cause impotence.
If sex is very important to you in a relationship; you should decide now should you progress or proceed with this relationship any further. It only gets worse, not better.
Sometimes ED can be countered with Cialis or Viagra; but there are some hypertension medications that can't be mixed with ED drugs. He should see his doctor; but I'm not very optimistic, if he needs to take antidepressants. Clinical depression often requires combination therapies, may include anti-anxiety drugs; or can be taken in combination with other prescribed meds to counter psychotic or suicidal-behavior.
If he avoids his prescribed medication for your sake, he is doing himself serious harm; and you will be dealing more with his untreated-illness than with his functioning personality. Forget about sex!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2020): Has he tried the blue pill? It does wonders for my 70 yr old husband. His forks fine for a BJ where I'm doing all the work, but he needs the pill for full sex. Girl up.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (19 December 2020):
 It can be the medication, for sure.
But there can be other underlying medical reason. And stress is another possible culprit.
I think he ought to go see his doctor and see what hi/she has to say.
You say he started having other medical problem - do you mean erectile issues or something entirely different? Because again, there can be OTHER medical issues that he is not aware of that can cause ED.
While you two wait on his seeing a doctor, do a months of no sex. You can still be tactile, make out, etc. just NOT sex. See if you take the "pressure" for actual intercourse of the guy if that can lower his level of stress.
Doesn't mean the passion has to go. Plenty if fun passionate things a couple can do that doesn't involve penetrative intercourse. You both got to use your imagination here.
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