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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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Whats wrong with ginger?!!
Q. Hi, I dont understand, my boy mate has ginger hair and he finds it really dificult to get girlfriends. but I dont understand it, I have been out with ginger boys, I love ginger hair :D so why wont other girls go out with ginger haired boys???...
A. 1 March 2007: How is ginger less prevelant in the UK? I dont follow this line of argument, where did you information come from?... (read in full...)
Infatuated with one of my teachers... when I leave school, can I date him?
Q. I know there are already similar questions asked but I would like a personal response to my situation. I am 17 and in my final year of school and really like one of my teachers. I think he is in his mid thirties and I know he is not married and ...
A. 12 February 2007: Can I ask is this a real law? About dating a man over 24? I am not being facetious or argumentative, just curious. It is not something I had ever heard of is all.
:-)... (read in full...)
I took the 'morning-after-pill' but it's been a while and my period still hasn't arrived! I'm beginning to worry!
Q. My last period started on Dec 23rd. My boyfriend and I use a condom and had one split on us over New Year weekend. I took the levonelle morning after pill within 16 hrs and about 10 days later I had some spotting for 4 days, it wasn't heavy enough ...
A. 11 February 2007: Glad to hear everything ok!! It is a bit nerve wracking waiting for this type of result!! I am glad it all worked out ok for you.
x... (read in full...)
My guy is choosing his son over me - now I'm thinking I won't attend his family get together!
Q. hi everyone... My boyfriend and I have been together over a year and next week end we are attending a family get together (his family) and we're all meeting up in a hotel for a few days which is great! The thing is he's bringing his son with him...
A. 11 February 2007: How has this situation rectified itself?... (read in full...)
I made a 'bitch book' and someone found it at school...now everyone hates me! Help?
Q. i made a bitch book and i regret it, but some in my school has found it, and everyone hates me at the moment! what should i do?? ...
A. 10 February 2007: I am going to sound old and silly....but what exactly is a 'bitch book'?... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with my ex boyfriend, should I tell him?
Q. i am stii in love with my ex boyfriend but i know he only thinks of me as a friend should i tell him or just remain mates...
A. 10 February 2007: The thing here is, how much do you value his friendship? If you asked him if he had any feeling for you and he said 'No, not in that way, only as a friend', how would you feel? Because the chances are this would destroy your friendship afterwards ... (read in full...)
I met him on the internet and I liked him but he sent me a reccent picture and now I don't find him attractive! How do I break it off with him?!
Q. Dear cupid I am in a very difficult situation right now. He lives in Chicago and I live in England and I'm 18 and he's 27. Ok well basically I've been talking to this guy on the internet and we've agreed to meet up and everything, I've seen his ...
A. 10 February 2007: Whoops a daisy anon female. Maybe this is something you should have thought about before you sent them!!
Look, there is NOTHING oyu can do about this situation now. You probably have to accept that you did something silly and now you have to move... (read in full...)
I met him on the internet and I liked him but he sent me a reccent picture and now I don't find him attractive! How do I break it off with him?!
Q. Dear cupid I am in a very difficult situation right now. He lives in Chicago and I live in England and I'm 18 and he's 27. Ok well basically I've been talking to this guy on the internet and we've agreed to meet up and everything, I've seen his ...
A. 9 February 2007: C'mon, he is half a world away and you have known him for five mintues. Just tell him you have changed your mind.... (read in full...)
Why do guys always seem to go for matchstick blonde women?
Q. hi i am a bit confused. it seems like only all the skinny blonde, tall girls get boyfriends! i am 16 and i weigh 8 stone :s i am about 5ft 1 Brown hair. is this any boys type? or do they only go for the skinny tall girls?...
A. 9 February 2007: if every individual liked only one other type of person then why are there so many different types of sex symbols?
Look, it is an each to their own thing.....I like red heads, my mate likes brad pitt lookalikes....
honest, it takes allsorts... (read in full...)
Crush on actress character, but she took it personally, what can I do?
Q. i have a crush on an actress's carector unfortionaly she has taken it personaly to herself .i have had cast cards and i have meet her , i'v tried to exsplain and ihave apoligised . but now i think i have been blaklisted or something .i only whant ...
A. 9 February 2007: Chances are, yes, you have harrassed her too much and yes you will have been blacklisted. SO, the only thing you CAN do is BACK RIGHT OFF. Before you end up with an injunction against you for stalking.
x... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend refuse to kiss me in front of the receptionist?
Q. Quick question. My boyfriend had started new job and had taken the receptionist mobile number and was texting her when i wasn't about. I told him i knew and he was to put a stop to it cos there was no need for it. Today we got dropped off outs...
A. 9 February 2007: I think you already know the answer to this in your heart. If something is not going on, then he wishes it was and wants to present himself as young, free and single.
Honey, confront him wihtout accusation and get it sorted before your dignity and ... (read in full...)
My guy is choosing his son over me - now I'm thinking I won't attend his family get together!
Q. hi everyone... My boyfriend and I have been together over a year and next week end we are attending a family get together (his family) and we're all meeting up in a hotel for a few days which is great! The thing is he's bringing his son with him...
A. 7 February 2007: Sorry, but I sort of sympathise with the father. First and foremost his child should come first, before any GF. I know you are not going to like this being said, but he porbably doesn't want a string of GF's in his kids life. How old is this ... (read in full...)
How can I make her see that he's a complete idiot and that she's better off without him?
Q. My friend has started going out with this guy that I know is bad news and she is making him really permanent in her life like doing things such as planning to go to a university nearer to him and talking of getting a tattoo with his name on it. ...
A. 7 February 2007: You can't is the simple answer unfortunately. You can say things to her and she may take offence at what you say and then you will find yourself pushed out of her life. But you HAVE to try...
So, how?
Try reversing the situation maybe. Tell her... (read in full...)
I took the 'morning-after-pill' but it's been a while and my period still hasn't arrived! I'm beginning to worry!
Q. My last period started on Dec 23rd. My boyfriend and I use a condom and had one split on us over New Year weekend. I took the levonelle morning after pill within 16 hrs and about 10 days later I had some spotting for 4 days, it wasn't heavy enough ...
A. 7 February 2007: How has this problem fathomed out now?... (read in full...)
Would it be horrible to break up with him by text messaging while he is in Florida for a vacation?
Q. I had a hard time breaking up with my fiance last week, and felt guilty and gave in and stayed with him. Would it be horrible to break up with him by text messaging while he is in Florida for two months for vacation? I feel like that's the only way ...
A. 5 February 2007: Have you come to a decison yet? If so what did you do about this situation?... (read in full...)
Is it legal to sleep with your first cousin?
Q. is it legal to sleep with your first cousin,...
A. 5 February 2007: Not sure, but is a bit of a stnading joke in this country....
I actually thought he sounded like that beacuse he was programmed... (read in full...)
Is it legal to sleep with your first cousin?
Q. is it legal to sleep with your first cousin,...
A. 1 February 2007: But then again, take a look at the British Royal Family for evidence of what 'interbreeding' can do if practised for generations...
This for those of you missing a humour chip' is an attempt at a joke.... (read in full...)
My bf smells-it is not normal "BO"body odor and it's horrible. What is it and how can I tell him?
Q. My bfriend smells- it is not body odor. He showers everyday and the smell is not normal BO- I can't place my finger on it but it is horrible. He does not wear cologne or any bodyspray so it is not that. Even after he showers I still smell it- it ...
A. 1 February 2007: I think he probably knows he has this then. Is he immaculate about his personal hygiene?... (read in full...)
Infatuated with one of my teachers... when I leave school, can I date him?
Q. I know there are already similar questions asked but I would like a personal response to my situation. I am 17 and in my final year of school and really like one of my teachers. I think he is in his mid thirties and I know he is not married and ...
A. 1 February 2007: You answer to what we say seems so articulate, I believe whatever choice you make will be the right one. Go with your gut. Just don't get this poor guy into any trouble hunny!
x... (read in full...)
How do you get rid of bum hair?
Q. Hi I have a question. I need to know how to get rid of bum hair. It might sound stupid but I don't know how to remove it. Could someone help me please? ...
A. 31 January 2007: Sorry hunny!! Meant you VINA!!
D'oh, blonde moment!!
sorry.
**blows kiss**... (read in full...)
Infatuated with one of my teachers... when I leave school, can I date him?
Q. I know there are already similar questions asked but I would like a personal response to my situation. I am 17 and in my final year of school and really like one of my teachers. I think he is in his mid thirties and I know he is not married and ...
A. 30 January 2007: Back off this guy now! You have to wait til you leave school at leats before making any sort of move. Plus, he may not be interested in you in that way, you may be reading too much into his behaviour, and seeing things that just are not there ... (read in full...)
I took the 'morning-after-pill' but it's been a while and my period still hasn't arrived! I'm beginning to worry!
Q. My last period started on Dec 23rd. My boyfriend and I use a condom and had one split on us over New Year weekend. I took the levonelle morning after pill within 16 hrs and about 10 days later I had some spotting for 4 days, it wasn't heavy enough ...
A. 30 January 2007: Go see your GP, good idea to sort an appointment now. As CD says this medication can mess up your menstrual cycle a fair bit. But get your mind put at rest and get yourself an appointment.... (read in full...)
Gf acts so childish and it annoys me! What should I do?
Q. In the past few months, my girlfriend has just got younger and more childish. To begin with she was a lot more mature almost as if too get me where she wanted me The main problems is she moans when people say she is 16 years old, as she thnks she...
A. 30 January 2007: How old are you?... (read in full...)
How do you get rid of bum hair?
Q. Hi I have a question. I need to know how to get rid of bum hair. It might sound stupid but I don't know how to remove it. Could someone help me please? ...
A. 30 January 2007: The brazilian wax....hurts a lot (so I am told). Shaving leaves stubble which itches like a bugger. Hair removal cream, especially designed for thos sensitive areas, like stina sez...patch test first is a total MUST!! And a ladyshave typ ... (read in full...)
What perfume turns a guy on?
Q. What perfume turns a man on? I love cotton candy would guys like that? I have a new date and don't know what perfume guys really like. I heard it's better to go w/out, something about pheromones or something. Any ideas guys? ...
A. 30 January 2007: I think this is an each to their own type of thing. My hubby loves JPG and kenzo. As long as I don't wear to much. Drenching yourself in anything is overkill.... (read in full...)
I like older guys! Do I have a 'daddy complex?"
Q. Hi, this is probably going to sound ridiculous but here goes. I’m currently dating a guy who is 8 years older than me (I’m 19). I know it’s a huge difference but that’s not necessarily what my question is about because our relationship is working ...
A. 30 January 2007: Sweetie, it takes allsorts. Stop worrying!! If we all liked babyfaced men there would be a queue round the block for them!! Honestly we all have our personal preferences and, not meaning to patronise you but as you get older age becomes way way ... (read in full...)
Would it be horrible to break up with him by text messaging while he is in Florida for a vacation?
Q. I had a hard time breaking up with my fiance last week, and felt guilty and gave in and stayed with him. Would it be horrible to break up with him by text messaging while he is in Florida for two months for vacation? I feel like that's the only way ...
A. 30 January 2007: I think he will already be half expecting this anyway. You tried to break up with him before he went away so your feelings have obviously changed towards him. I know many of the Aunt's and Uncle's on here say wait and do it face to face or AND ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my embarassing gas problem? It's painful and is ruining my social life!
Q. Right I know you'll all probably laugh at this but quite a serious question. Does anyone else feel that hours after they've eaten dinner or through the night/next morning they need to let off a lot of gas? See this is becoming quite a problem for me ...
A. 30 January 2007: Oh and you can try products with 'good bacteria' in. Like the adverts sate....worth a try.... (read in full...)
What can I do about my embarassing gas problem? It's painful and is ruining my social life!
Q. Right I know you'll all probably laugh at this but quite a serious question. Does anyone else feel that hours after they've eaten dinner or through the night/next morning they need to let off a lot of gas? See this is becoming quite a problem for me ...
A. 29 January 2007: Peppermint oil capsules like Colpermin really work, as does drinking peppermint tea. Both can be bought over the counter or in a supermarket. Eating high carbohydrate foods can often cause smelly wind, as do cruciferous veggies, pulses, onions ... (read in full...)
I'm embarrassed by my gf's crass comments to other people. How do I deal with this?
Q. My girlfriend is quite eccentric and very over the top and I cringe so much when she speaks now. Before I could cope with it but now I cringe too much when she speaks. For example when she speaks with her friends she calls them stuff like 'Whor...
A. 29 January 2007: Sounds like peer pressure then. She is trying to impress her friends....
x... (read in full...)
My bf smells-it is not normal "BO"body odor and it's horrible. What is it and how can I tell him?
Q. My bfriend smells- it is not body odor. He showers everyday and the smell is not normal BO- I can't place my finger on it but it is horrible. He does not wear cologne or any bodyspray so it is not that. Even after he showers I still smell it- it ...
A. 29 January 2007: Has he had this problem since you knew him or from before?... (read in full...)
My bf smells-it is not normal "BO"body odor and it's horrible. What is it and how can I tell him?
Q. My bfriend smells- it is not body odor. He showers everyday and the smell is not normal BO- I can't place my finger on it but it is horrible. He does not wear cologne or any bodyspray so it is not that. Even after he showers I still smell it- it ...
A. 29 January 2007: Unfortunately some people suffer with something called 'Fish Odour syndrome' (you can probably look it up on some medical websites). Its proper name is Trimethylaminuria (I think that is how it is spelt!!).
ANYHOW, does it smell like rotting ... (read in full...)
Update on the neck cyst! Doctors were not helpful and told me it was just a fatness of some sort. Antyadvice?
Q. this is an up-date to the cyst problem. i have found out its not a cyst, the doctor said its something to do with muscles, but i dnt know what he means as it does not look like muscles, but some sort of fatness on my one side of the neck. th...
A. 29 January 2007: To be perfectly honest I think you are totally obsessing over this. And I also think that maybe it would be a good idea to go back to your GP and ask for some sort of help, counselling or somesuch thing. I am not saying this is not a problem for ... (read in full...)
Is it legal to sleep with your first cousin?
Q. is it legal to sleep with your first cousin,...
A. 29 January 2007: Plus when you do the research there is only a fraction of a difference in genetic problems with children born in this sort of relationship. If you where planning children you can ask to be screened and your GP/clinic will put you in touch with the ... (read in full...)
Is it legal to sleep with your first cousin?
Q. is it legal to sleep with your first cousin,...
A. 29 January 2007: Yes it is in the UK. It is not incest and it is not morally wrong.... (read in full...)
I'm embarrassed by my gf's crass comments to other people. How do I deal with this?
Q. My girlfriend is quite eccentric and very over the top and I cringe so much when she speaks now. Before I could cope with it but now I cringe too much when she speaks. For example when she speaks with her friends she calls them stuff like 'Whor...
A. 29 January 2007: Oh dear.
You have to talk to her about this. She may be joking about but if it is upsetting you and it is a BIT crude and lewd then I think you have to ask her to tone it down a bit.
You don't need to be rude about it, just tell her that you get ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to get rid of neck cysts?
Q. dear cupid i would like to know is their any other way to get rid of a cyst in one part of the neck to even out both necks. i am self concious and do not know how the cyst happened, but when i ask my family they say their is nothing there. e...
A. 29 January 2007: Are you the same anon that posted a while back saying one side of his shoulder/neck is larger than the other, and that his family couldn't see anything?
If you are truly concerned about this you need to go to your GP. You cannot access medical serv... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has gained weight, but if I say something she'll hate me! How do I tell her?!
Q. My girlfriend is gaining weight and won’t do anything about it. I need help with my communication. How can I help her? I have a wonderful girlfriend whom I’ve been dating now for the past 13 months. Since the day we met she has slowly been gaining ...
A. 28 January 2007: Wow female anon, You have inspired me as well! Seriously. I shall show your message to my hubby so he will 'prod' me when I get low about my weight....
I am not fat, but I am a bit overweight and yes it does make me miserable...and that show... (read in full...)
Do you think its weird for a 32 year old man to be going out with a 24 year old woman?
Q. Hi there...do you think its weird for a 32 year old man to be going out with a 24 year old woman?...
A. 28 January 2007: No I don't think it is at all weird....why do you?... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to tell my family and friends that I am bi...should I or shouldn't I?
Q. Hey, i'm struggling to tell my family and friends that i'm bi. Should i or shouldn't i tell them? and if so how? i know the consequences of me "coming out" to them but it feels wrong lying. What do i do?...
A. 28 January 2007: I would think long and hard before as you say 'coming out' at the moment. At your age , presuming you are coming up to exams, do you really think that creating more stress for yourself by them maybe having a negative reaction to this is worth it?
I... (read in full...)
I can't stop masturbating and people are noticing
Q. hello- i am 15 years old, and this is going to sound a bit odd...but i cant stop playing with my vagina. i get the urge to just slip my fingers in, even at inapropriate times! its becoming embarassing and people ask what im doing......
A. 27 January 2007: Sweetie you just have to explain what you mean by inappropriate times. I just have visions of you doing this in the queue at the Post office or something........ (read in full...)
Whats wrong with ginger?!!
Q. Hi, I dont understand, my boy mate has ginger hair and he finds it really dificult to get girlfriends. but I dont understand it, I have been out with ginger boys, I love ginger hair :D so why wont other girls go out with ginger haired boys???...
A. 27 January 2007: I am a gingerphile (if there is such a thing) I ADORE every shad of red hair. I have been out with red haired men, but married a man with dark hair and now have a red head for a son!
Ginger is THE nicest colour. It is also the colour I cont... (read in full...)
I give good advice, so why are my ratings bad?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I am feeling a bit down at the moment. Why? Because like you I am an agony aunt but unfortunately my ratings have been going down and it makes me feel well (excuse my French)…“sh***y.” I don’t think I give bad advice so I don’t ...
A. 27 January 2007: People either love or hate my advice. I have crappy ratings, but I also have help to give. If I can help one person then I will do so. Please don't let the ratings system make you miserable.
xx... (read in full...)
I address my boyfriend as "sir" he seems to like this but everyone thinks he's controlling me. What do you think?
Q. Everyone thinks he over-powers me and tells me what to do, but that's not true! I call him 'sir', but that's of my own will. He'll call my name from the next room and I'll obnoxiously and jokingly answer 'Yessuh' or 'Sir.' and they look at me like ...
A. 27 January 2007: I think it is cute.... You stick with it hun. Am happy now, I knew somebody in Peanuts did that!!... (read in full...)
I address my boyfriend as "sir" he seems to like this but everyone thinks he's controlling me. What do you think?
Q. Everyone thinks he over-powers me and tells me what to do, but that's not true! I call him 'sir', but that's of my own will. He'll call my name from the next room and I'll obnoxiously and jokingly answer 'Yessuh' or 'Sir.' and they look at me like ...
A. 27 January 2007: Is it the peanuts cartoon with the girl that calls everyone 'Sir'?... (read in full...)
I address my boyfriend as "sir" he seems to like this but everyone thinks he's controlling me. What do you think?
Q. Everyone thinks he over-powers me and tells me what to do, but that's not true! I call him 'sir', but that's of my own will. He'll call my name from the next room and I'll obnoxiously and jokingly answer 'Yessuh' or 'Sir.' and they look at me like ...
A. 27 January 2007: It is just an idiom of your speech and if you like it then you carry on.
I call my husband 'your majesty', sarcasm always wins!
lol
x... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has gained weight, but if I say something she'll hate me! How do I tell her?!
Q. My girlfriend is gaining weight and won’t do anything about it. I need help with my communication. How can I help her? I have a wonderful girlfriend whom I’ve been dating now for the past 13 months. Since the day we met she has slowly been gaining ...
A. 26 January 2007: I like Max's idea, bedroom aerobics!
On the whole it is nearly always difficult to address weight issues with either sex, as most of the time they are already aware of it. No matter how nicely you try to put things they will nearly always hear it a... (read in full...)
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