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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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Here is my list of the "perfect" boyfriend! What do you think?
Q. Here is my list of the perfect boyfriend. Are there any men like this? 1. Shares all email and IM passwords 2. Has none, or only one, female friend 3. Tell's me when his only female friend calls 4. Tell's me when he goes basically anywher...
A. 24 February 2007: It does doesn't it. Not only is this poor person trying to look for somebody to control they have gender diorientation too!!... (read in full...)
Here is my list of the "perfect" boyfriend! What do you think?
Q. Here is my list of the perfect boyfriend. Are there any men like this? 1. Shares all email and IM passwords 2. Has none, or only one, female friend 3. Tell's me when his only female friend calls 4. Tell's me when he goes basically anywher...
A. 22 February 2007: It's a he, not a she.... (read in full...)
I think he loves his DOG more than he loves me!
Q. My boyfriends dog was diagnosed with cancer, and it tore him up. So much now that he spends more time with his dog than me. Im worried about him and jealous of his dog, wierd as it may sound its true. He sleeps on the sofa to be closer to his dog, ...
A. 22 February 2007: Do you want the truth now? I think you may have over exaggerated somewhat. If the dog is going to die, why would you then contradict yourslef now and say the dog could have years ahead of it? And why would he keep waking it to see if it is ... (read in full...)
How do I reduce this burden of opposition that I face in every major decision I take in life?
Q. I have a different (often the one not tried before) way of doing things in life as compared to majority. I feel a lot of opposition in that but in the end i find what i did to have been good for me. But i also derive a sense of grandiosity for being ...
A. 22 February 2007: Right, lets be straight. People offered you differing opinions to the one you had about working abroad? Ok, so that is all they were OPINIONS. What you do at your age is your choice. If they said 'these are the negatives' just tell them thanks ... (read in full...)
Can a born again christian and an aethiest marry? I'm really wondering whether this would work or just cause problems.
Q. Can an Born again christian and an Atheist marry? I've been with my girlfriend for near 10 months now and we have very strong feelings for each other. I am an atheist but I hide under the title of a catholic. I don't believe in Satan, I simply ...
A. 22 February 2007: C'mon, please do not insult atheists by lumping them all together as being people who 'usually' have/do/say something. They have as much right to their beliefs as Christians, Muslims and Jedi warriors have to theirs. Live and let live.... (read in full...)
My gf took an overdose when I went out w/ friends. Now she claims she's pregnant to keep me from going out!
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for about 6 months but i don't feel for her what i used to. we get on but she's making me feel claustrophobic, she's stopped seeing her friends and wants to spend all her time with me. last year she took an overdose ...
A. 22 February 2007: At the risk of seeming critical, taking an overdose is not something that should really be debated or discussed as a life option/attention seeking device on here. It is wholly inappropriate considering some of the people who read this site are ... (read in full...)
I was molested and b/c of it have a hard time dating. I've broken it off w/ a guy b/c I was scared of getting too sexually involved! What should I do?
Q. so i have relationship issues. i was molested when i was 6-7 years old and its hard in relationships because of it. i never told my exboyfriend even tho we didnt date long. i broke up with him cause i was afraid that we'd get too sexually involved ...
A. 21 February 2007: Allow yourself to grow up. Stop these forays into adulthood until you have learned to live with and accept your past. If dating is hard then just maybe this is your psyche telling you that you are not ready to experience these emotions yet.... (read in full...)
I am seeing a married man, is there really any hope that he'll want to leave his wife to be with me?
Q. Hi i have been seeing a married guy now for about 7 months, when i first met him he told me he was married so when he offered me his number i declined but we bumped into each other a few more times and i still refused to get into a relation...
A. 21 February 2007: You KNOW this guy is married. If you were to do the honerable thing it would be to bow out and tell him he needs to either work at his marriage or leave his wife....and this needs to be done with him having a clear head. Not befuddled with ... (read in full...)
My gf took an overdose when I went out w/ friends. Now she claims she's pregnant to keep me from going out!
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for about 6 months but i don't feel for her what i used to. we get on but she's making me feel claustrophobic, she's stopped seeing her friends and wants to spend all her time with me. last year she took an overdose ...
A. 21 February 2007: You need out of this relationship. You must not give in to any form of emotional blackmail. When you tell her make sure somebody else is with you and then tell her that trying to 'blackmail' you by taking pills etc is not going to work. Stick to ... (read in full...)
I think he loves his DOG more than he loves me!
Q. My boyfriends dog was diagnosed with cancer, and it tore him up. So much now that he spends more time with his dog than me. Im worried about him and jealous of his dog, wierd as it may sound its true. He sleeps on the sofa to be closer to his dog, ...
A. 21 February 2007: The dog is dying. How can you be jealous of a pet that is dying?... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a married man and I know it's going nowhere, so why can I not say goodbye?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for three years and i know it is not going anywhere.So why have i not got the courage to say goodbye? As i know it,s what i need to do before someone gets really hurt...
A. 21 February 2007: Because you love him. But this is a situation that only you can rectify. He will never finish this whilst he is having his cake and eating it is he? He is getting the best of both worlds and having a whale of a time. Try to remember he will not ... (read in full...)
My friend feels like a prisoner in his own home - his mother is so controlling. What can I do to help??
Q. Hi all.. i got a small problem.. my friend hes male 22 lives at home and no job.. his mother is very controlling and christian too, she treats him like a 5 year old.. this is stressing him out he sleeps all the time and is getting very depressed im ...
A. 21 February 2007: Lets address all his problems first shall we...
If he is 'depressed' then this guy needs to go to his GP and be properly diagnosed. BUT, if he is rwacting to his situation (which I am pretty sure is the cause of this depression) then he needs to s... (read in full...)
Can a born again christian and an aethiest marry? I'm really wondering whether this would work or just cause problems.
Q. Can an Born again christian and an Atheist marry? I've been with my girlfriend for near 10 months now and we have very strong feelings for each other. I am an atheist but I hide under the title of a catholic. I don't believe in Satan, I simply ...
A. 21 February 2007: It's true what has been said. Each relationship is different. The biased advice that has been given on here by hyjacking anons is slightly, sorry make that VERY one sided.
Things can work between any faith, colour, creed, religion, gend... (read in full...)
How do I reduce this burden of opposition that I face in every major decision I take in life?
Q. I have a different (often the one not tried before) way of doing things in life as compared to majority. I feel a lot of opposition in that but in the end i find what i did to have been good for me. But i also derive a sense of grandiosity for being ...
A. 21 February 2007: **How do i reduce this burden of opposition that i face in every major decision i take for life?**
You asked this question and I think you need to look inwards as to why you repeatedly 'fly in the face of convention'. I know this is probably... (read in full...)
Can a born again christian and an aethiest marry? I'm really wondering whether this would work or just cause problems.
Q. Can an Born again christian and an Atheist marry? I've been with my girlfriend for near 10 months now and we have very strong feelings for each other. I am an atheist but I hide under the title of a catholic. I don't believe in Satan, I simply ...
A. 21 February 2007: My husband is agnostic. I am Protestant Christian. (Not born again, just plain old fashioned type).
Our marriage works.
End of....
xx... (read in full...)
I have been such an idiot and I love my wife so much but now we're going through a divorce which neither of us really wants, how do I get my wife back?
Q. I cheated on my wife with someone who I would not normally look at( Work colleague), This woman treated me so amaizingly to try to show what I could have!!! She ended up being a nutter and told my wife all about it. My intention at the time was to ...
A. 21 February 2007: Look, HAVE YOU TOLD YOUR WIFE THIS?
You have made a HUGE mistake and now, if you truly want to try to rectify it then you have to do evrything you possibly can in order to put it right. Marriage /relationship counselling, giving up your email ad... (read in full...)
How do I reduce this burden of opposition that I face in every major decision I take in life?
Q. I have a different (often the one not tried before) way of doing things in life as compared to majority. I feel a lot of opposition in that but in the end i find what i did to have been good for me. But i also derive a sense of grandiosity for being ...
A. 21 February 2007: I think you have issues with being seen as the 'same' as everyone else, and that you are still stuck in 'teenager rebellion mode' to be perfectly honest.
I am not saying your way is wrong, but why do you go out of your way to make life more diff... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man and I am sick of living with the lies! Advice appreciated!
Q. I'm 24 and I've been dating a 36 yr old married man for two years. He has three small kids. I love him so much and I know he loves me, but the more I love him the more it hurts every time he leaves me for the night. I know this is wrong, but I ...
A. 21 February 2007: If he asked for a divorce then you have got what you set out to achieve. You and him have bust up a home and made his children deeply unhappy...
I am a little perturbed by your comment **I don't know if i can deal with this**, I mean what do you ... (read in full...)
I put a camera in my sister's bedroom and watched her have sex with her boyfriend.
Q. Im obsessed with my sister. Im 16, she's 18. recently i started having dreams about having sex with my sister, so i thought if i could see her naked I could fullfil this fantasy and it would stop. So i secretly put a camera in her bedroom and reco...
A. 21 February 2007: I just have a feeling that these sorts of incest questions (and we have had a lot of them) are totally inappropriate and half the time are made up.
BUT...
If this is true, then you have some serious issues to sort out. I suggest that you sta... (read in full...)
He said he wished I wasn't his best friend's sister. What difference does it make?
Q. ok, there is this guy who is my brothers best mate i really him and he has a girlfriend and on saturday we ended up kissing and he sed he wished i wasnt his best mates sister and he said he doesnt love his girlfriend.what do i do?...
A. 19 February 2007: I think what he probably meant was he could potentially be treading on his BM's toes, and offend him if it goes wrong with you. After all your brother would probably HAVE to pick you over him, and he could wreck a good friendship....
Maybe, but ... (read in full...)
Bf has herpes and I am resenting all the restrictions we undertake, to prevent me catching it. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend has genital herpes and now the fun beginning part of our relationship is over, I'm starting to think I'm missing out. I enjoy sex without a condom, obviously we can't do this, and I also love the intimacy of just making love whenever ...
A. 15 February 2007: Oh and a vaccine to help prevent the spread of HPV.... (read in full...)
Want to ask my wife's sister out for supper...how do I go about this?
Q. Dear Cupid, My sister in law is currently living with me and my wife, well over 5.5 years. I am 34, the SIL is 45, and the wife is 42. My sister in law is very sweet. Soon, my wife is taking a trip to London the last Tuesday of next month,...
A. 15 February 2007: I don't think anyone here is making out they are saints, just trying to help you before you find yourself in an inappropriate situation that may mess up your marriage or hurt other people.... (read in full...)
what is the meaning of a single rose, compared to a dozen roses?
Q. what is the meaning of a single rose, compared to a dozen roses?...
A. 14 February 2007: The same, but with a cheaper price tag. Do you know how much ONE costs, never mind TWELVE!!!!... (read in full...)
What are the first symptoms of being pregnant?
Q. what are the symptoms of the first couple of days being pregnant? ...
A. 14 February 2007: In my own experience i got this disgusting taste in my mouth, like I had been sucking copper pennies and no matter what I did my teeth didn't feel clean....I know weird.
Plus my boobs became tender - not sore like before a period - just unco... (read in full...)
What do I do? I'm new in the office, should I make the first move and ask him out?
Q. I like this guy that i'm working with at the office so i like him a lot and it looks like he likes me too but there's lots of tension in the office i don't know why theres lots of girls who will feel like who is she to have just arrived and got ...
A. 14 February 2007: Truthfully? NO, back off and give this some major time before you go charging in there. If your gut feeling tells you not to do it then follow your instinct.
Check out the dynamic of the office first, take a couple of months to get the lay of the ... (read in full...)
Here is my list of the "perfect" boyfriend! What do you think?
Q. Here is my list of the perfect boyfriend. Are there any men like this? 1. Shares all email and IM passwords 2. Has none, or only one, female friend 3. Tell's me when his only female friend calls 4. Tell's me when he goes basically anywher...
A. 14 February 2007: This is soooo weird...
Can you not see that you are potentially a major control freak...when does this 'ideal' man get time to breathe. As for other women thing, how about his family or don't they count.
Look, get yourself some counsell... (read in full...)
This is a bit unusual I know, tomorrow is V's day. (I'm the female) but I want to stay in and watch the FA cup replay!!! How do I tell my boyfriend?
Q. Hi everyone, I am in a bit of a pickle here! My partner and I have arranged to go out tomorrow night (we try and go out for a meal at least once or twice a week) - now, unless you live in a cave, you will realise that tomorrow is Valenti...
A. 14 February 2007: HAHA!!
Is this for real?
Do you know how many blokes would KILL to have you as their GF?
Honey, enjoy your football!!! Go out after the match, or go to the pub to watch the match...
Me? I hate football, but seeing as I celebrated my weddi... (read in full...)
What's the average number of sexual partners for a 17 year old in the UK?
Q. im 17 and only slept with 1 person, all my mates have slept with about 5 by now lol whats the avergae for a 17 year old in the UK?...
A. 14 February 2007: Not sure what the answer is for this. I suppose it is whatever you feel comfortable with. you would have to take into consideration all sorts of backgrounds and weed out all sorts of variables in order to work this out.
Sorry can't help!!... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and having Quads ..please help !
Q. i was with my boyfriend daniel for 1 year. and last year when i was 13 we decided to have sex. we used the pull-out method but it obviously didn't work. i kept on being sick so dad took me to the doctors. that was when they told me that i was ...
A. 14 February 2007: I was going to suggest that this was a put up question, then I read the answer below. This is BS and should be treated as such.... (read in full...)
Is my boy too young to start puberty??
Q. When do boys start puberty? The reason i ask is because my 7 year old son has started getting pubic hair not under his arms! I thought this was a bit too young but anyone who can help would be much appreciated. Thankyou...
A. 14 February 2007: Hi there.
This is known as precocious puberty and whilst uncommon is not unknown. It is something which can be 'partial', meaning one or two signs of sexual development can occur without the child going thru the full onset of puberty and all that... (read in full...)
In a fit of anger I slapped him! I regret it so much and I apologised but now he is distant. How can I put things right again?
Q. I am in a complicated situation at present. Two years ago I had a beautiful baby boy. The situation with my little boy's biological father hasn't been good, nor was the ending of our relationship while I was pregnant(he cheated). I started dating ...
A. 14 February 2007: I am going to say this. If this was a man hitting a woman, say a friend of yours, what advice would you give her?
Physical violence is never the correct thing to do, but as you have done it you need to prove, not to him but YOURSELF, that you will... (read in full...)
I find my husband-to-be an irritating little nerd... give me a wake-up call
Q. I find my bloke an irritating little nerd! Honestly, we are getting married in 8 weeks time and he gets on my nerves. He picks at my son (aged 15). States all the jobs he is 'going to do' and nothing gets done. He works shifts and sometimes we don't ...
A. 13 February 2007: You need to halt this wedding and start to look after you and your son. If you marry how long will it be before you divorce? And lets face it a divorce costs money and it costs emotional heart ache as well.
If he picks at your son and it is unwa... (read in full...)
Bf has herpes and I am resenting all the restrictions we undertake, to prevent me catching it. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend has genital herpes and now the fun beginning part of our relationship is over, I'm starting to think I'm missing out. I enjoy sex without a condom, obviously we can't do this, and I also love the intimacy of just making love whenever ...
A. 12 February 2007: There are NO treatments that 'cure' HSV. There are however treatments which will shorten the duration of an attck. If this is very new research I would like to know about it...this is not (by the way) me being sarcastic!! I would really like to ... (read in full...)
I'm going out with a boy but he keeps hitting me and I can't explain the bruises to my parents.
Q. i am goin out with this boy, but he keeps hitting me and treating me like a pig. wat shall i do? i dunno how to explain 2 my parents with the bruises are HELP wb xxx...
A. 12 February 2007: You want the truth?
Tell me your parents address so I can tell them.
Then hopefully they will kick his ass all the way from here to kingdom come.
WHAT ARE YOU DOING GIRL??
Please get some dignity and self esteem back and tell him to take a hike!!... (read in full...)
Bf has herpes and I am resenting all the restrictions we undertake, to prevent me catching it. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend has genital herpes and now the fun beginning part of our relationship is over, I'm starting to think I'm missing out. I enjoy sex without a condom, obviously we can't do this, and I also love the intimacy of just making love whenever ...
A. 12 February 2007: PLUS.....
You are greater risk from viral encephalitis during an attack of HSV, I think iot is during the first attack....but NOT a 100% sure. Will find out and get back to you.
In other words, please don't risk your health!!... (read in full...)
Infatuated with one of my teachers... when I leave school, can I date him?
Q. I know there are already similar questions asked but I would like a personal response to my situation. I am 17 and in my final year of school and really like one of my teachers. I think he is in his mid thirties and I know he is not married and ...
A. 12 February 2007: Can I ask is this a real law? About dating a man over 24? I am not being facetious or argumentative, just curious. It is not something I had ever heard of is all.
:-)... (read in full...)
Bf has herpes and I am resenting all the restrictions we undertake, to prevent me catching it. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend has genital herpes and now the fun beginning part of our relationship is over, I'm starting to think I'm missing out. I enjoy sex without a condom, obviously we can't do this, and I also love the intimacy of just making love whenever ...
A. 11 February 2007: This guy is looking after your sexual health even if you don't think it is very important, and for that you should be thanking him!! NOT complaining about having to use condoms.
have you the slightest idea of how painful an acute attack of geni... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has just "disappeared" after being with him for 6 months. Should I send him a birthday card?
Q. hello, my long distance boyfriend just disappeared after a 6 month relationship without giving me any explanations, and i knew he called his ex girlfriend.. his birthday is coming soon in few days, and im confused if i should send him a birthday ...
A. 11 February 2007: This was a long distance relationship to start with, so who knows what he has been getting up to before this. LDR's can work, but sometimes they never really get off the ground if they originally start off as long-distance unfortunately.
This guy ... (read in full...)
I took the 'morning-after-pill' but it's been a while and my period still hasn't arrived! I'm beginning to worry!
Q. My last period started on Dec 23rd. My boyfriend and I use a condom and had one split on us over New Year weekend. I took the levonelle morning after pill within 16 hrs and about 10 days later I had some spotting for 4 days, it wasn't heavy enough ...
A. 11 February 2007: Glad to hear everything ok!! It is a bit nerve wracking waiting for this type of result!! I am glad it all worked out ok for you.
x... (read in full...)
My guy is choosing his son over me - now I'm thinking I won't attend his family get together!
Q. hi everyone... My boyfriend and I have been together over a year and next week end we are attending a family get together (his family) and we're all meeting up in a hotel for a few days which is great! The thing is he's bringing his son with him...
A. 11 February 2007: How has this situation rectified itself?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's friends lead her astray
Q. Dear Cupid,
My name is Chris and i've been going out with my girlfriend for about 5 months or so, i think she is the one, in fact i know she is the one but i am a very jealous over-protective person. Since we've been going out i havent hung out ...
A. 11 February 2007: Ha! Had already answered this before.
Whoops!!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's friends lead her astray
Q. Dear Cupid,
My name is Chris and i've been going out with my girlfriend for about 5 months or so, i think she is the one, in fact i know she is the one but i am a very jealous over-protective person. Since we've been going out i havent hung out ...
A. 10 February 2007: I have only read your question, not the other answers in order that I might give you my opinion without it being 'contaminated' by other opinions.
Well, here goes.
Issue one "Since we've been going out i havent hung out with a single frien... (read in full...)
I made a 'bitch book' and someone found it at school...now everyone hates me! Help?
Q. i made a bitch book and i regret it, but some in my school has found it, and everyone hates me at the moment! what should i do?? ...
A. 10 February 2007: I am going to sound old and silly....but what exactly is a 'bitch book'?... (read in full...)
My guy is choosing his son over me - now I'm thinking I won't attend his family get together!
Q. hi everyone... My boyfriend and I have been together over a year and next week end we are attending a family get together (his family) and we're all meeting up in a hotel for a few days which is great! The thing is he's bringing his son with him...
A. 7 February 2007: Sorry, but I sort of sympathise with the father. First and foremost his child should come first, before any GF. I know you are not going to like this being said, but he porbably doesn't want a string of GF's in his kids life. How old is this ... (read in full...)
I took the 'morning-after-pill' but it's been a while and my period still hasn't arrived! I'm beginning to worry!
Q. My last period started on Dec 23rd. My boyfriend and I use a condom and had one split on us over New Year weekend. I took the levonelle morning after pill within 16 hrs and about 10 days later I had some spotting for 4 days, it wasn't heavy enough ...
A. 7 February 2007: How has this problem fathomed out now?... (read in full...)
Infatuated with one of my teachers... when I leave school, can I date him?
Q. I know there are already similar questions asked but I would like a personal response to my situation. I am 17 and in my final year of school and really like one of my teachers. I think he is in his mid thirties and I know he is not married and ...
A. 1 February 2007: You answer to what we say seems so articulate, I believe whatever choice you make will be the right one. Go with your gut. Just don't get this poor guy into any trouble hunny!
x... (read in full...)
Infatuated with one of my teachers... when I leave school, can I date him?
Q. I know there are already similar questions asked but I would like a personal response to my situation. I am 17 and in my final year of school and really like one of my teachers. I think he is in his mid thirties and I know he is not married and ...
A. 30 January 2007: Back off this guy now! You have to wait til you leave school at leats before making any sort of move. Plus, he may not be interested in you in that way, you may be reading too much into his behaviour, and seeing things that just are not there ... (read in full...)
I took the 'morning-after-pill' but it's been a while and my period still hasn't arrived! I'm beginning to worry!
Q. My last period started on Dec 23rd. My boyfriend and I use a condom and had one split on us over New Year weekend. I took the levonelle morning after pill within 16 hrs and about 10 days later I had some spotting for 4 days, it wasn't heavy enough ...
A. 30 January 2007: Go see your GP, good idea to sort an appointment now. As CD says this medication can mess up your menstrual cycle a fair bit. But get your mind put at rest and get yourself an appointment.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's friends lead her astray
Q. Dear Cupid,
My name is Chris and i've been going out with my girlfriend for about 5 months or so, i think she is the one, in fact i know she is the one but i am a very jealous over-protective person. Since we've been going out i havent hung out ...
A. 17 March 2006: I think you both have a lot of growing up to do. You say you have dropped all your friends for your gf? That is slightly wierd, we all need more than one person to fulfill our needs and by putting pressure on your gf to behave the same way as you ... (read in full...)
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