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*kyjumper
writes:My bfriend smells- it is not body odor. He showers everyday and the smell is not normal BO- I can't place my finger on it but it is horrible. He does not wear cologne or any bodyspray so it is not that. Even after he showers I still smell it- it is not soap either. Soap does not smell like that. I don't know how to bring this up to him. Any help? Reply to this Question
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (1 February 2007):
 I think he probably knows he has this then. Is he immaculate about his personal hygiene?
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reader, skyjumper +, writes (30 January 2007):
skyjumper is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've known him for 4 months - and yes, since I've known him. I am not sure about before I knew him since I haven't brought up the issue to him (yet)
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reader, willywombat +, writes (29 January 2007):
Has he had this problem since you knew him or from before?
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reader, skyjumper +, writes (29 January 2007):
skyjumper is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt could be his diet? It does not smell like fish- I can't really tell what it smells like. I am thinking it is his sweat that stinks? Our bodies perspire even when we are not really "working out" It is constantly there though - not just after we eat spicy foods. He just got a physical in June '06 (before I met him) so I am assuming that everything was ok?
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reader, willywombat +, writes (29 January 2007):
Unfortunately some people suffer with something called 'Fish Odour syndrome' (you can probably look it up on some medical websites). Its proper name is Trimethylaminuria (I think that is how it is spelt!!).
ANYHOW, does it smell like rotting fish...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): I agree with the other Aunts. Diet could be his problem. If your bf is doing everything right, by washing his body daily, changing his socks/underwear daily, using deodorants, colognes, etc. If he does all of these things and he still have a body odor, something is wrong and I would say, it's highly possible he might have a medical condition, he unaware of. There is a whack of conditions that can cause bad body odor. You need to tell him lovingly and nicely, that he has an unusual odor and you are concerned about his health. Has he been to a doctor for a check up lately? Any blood work done? Perhaps it's time to go, just to rule out these possibilities and give him and you some peace of mind. Make sure he tells his doctor about this problem. Good luck, dear and I hope you find out what it is that is causing this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): Maybe he eats a lot of spicy foods with onion, garlic etc.In some people they seem to sweat it out through their skin and no matter whether they shower it still smells. So change of diet is suggested.
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reader, stina +, writes (29 January 2007):
 Hi Sky,
It might be his diet. I know that many times once people start eating healthier or have a substantial intake of water, smells seem to clear out of the system. I actually know of one person who tried everything to smell better, that her last hope was acupuncture. After the first few times of going, she didn't smell at all. That was not only a relief to her, but to everyone else, as well. lol
So how do you bring it up to him? I would try to put it in a way so that it shows you're actually trying to be caring toward him instead of accusing him of something. For example: "Hey, I don't want you to take this the wrong way, but I need to tell you something because I really care about you and care how others percieve you. I think that maybe if you change some lifestyle habits, like your diet and water intake, that you might, well, smell better." This way it's not saying that he smells *bad* but it's letting him know that he does have an odor. Plus it makes it sound better than you saying *you* think he smells bad - and that you care about him and you're looking out for him.
Any way you tell him, he's probably going to feel embarassed which will make him defensive. But he really should be told this so people don't avoid him or talk about him behind his back. I think that would be far worse than having his gf confront him about the "situation."
Take care.
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