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Hi i am a 21yr old female who is currently attending college. Im from houston,tx and im studying psychology. Im in a long term relationship and you kno it has its up and downs but hay I appreciate it. I love helping people in any way I can because i kno i need advice and someone to turn to sometimes so why not to the same for others. Ne ways im a nice person over all and luv havin good people around it makes me feel prosperous.

Is she genuine or using me as a way to find someone else?

Q.   hi there im a 23 year old and i recently broke up from a 7 year relationship.i first met her when i was 15 and she was 31 and had a daughter.a couple of years i had 2 kids of my that the relationship is over im havin difficulty coping.i ...

A.   6 February 2011: Wow.. I really question her motives in this relationship being that there is a huge age gap. And it seems as if she is just stringing you along and using you as a play toy. I say that because she tell you to find someone else like she is trying to ... (read in full...)

S It Sex Or Commitment Issues

Q.   Hey im a 22 year old male. Two weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me after being together for a little over a year. One day we were texting and she said she didn't want to do anything wit me anymore (meaning sex). When i called her to inquire a...

A.   6 February 2011: Well. Not sure what the actual problem could be here... maybe she is really afraid of committing to you. And also she may want to experience more... it seems as if she has some sort of affection toward you since she stares.. but you should just try ... (read in full...)

Long history of flirting, is there something more?

Q.   Well it all started when I became close with this guy in one of my classes at college, I'll try cut the story slightly. :) Well we began talking and soon were quite good friends, he'd sit with me and my group of friends (who are all girls) s...

A.   6 February 2011: Honestly hun.. since he never mentioned anything about leaving his gf. It seems as if he wants only one thing which is sex. Guys commonly gravitate toward the oppsite sex especially when she is beautiful and is showing some interest. The fact that ... (read in full...)

My Fiance is in Prison... Should I stand by him or move on?

Q.   Hello, My fiance and me been together for almost 3 years. He is in prison and I visit him every week. As of the end of January we had an argument at the visit and he got up in visit and I was very embarrased. He told me hes not chasing the visi...

A.   6 February 2011: Well.. it all depend on how long are you willing to wait and how long will he be locked up.. honestly everyone I know who tried waiting on that 1 guy in jail always had good intentions on waiting but ended up moving on and finding some one else. You ... (read in full...)

How do I tell people I am gay??.... No one knows!!

Q.   Im gay and iv always known that but no 1 else does how do i come out????? plz help...

A.   6 February 2011: This is a very touchy situation... sometimes you just have to show it rather than tell it. If you are and you been in the closet your true friends who really love you will not care. But may feel a certain way about it at the same time. Which cause ... (read in full...)

I want to talk on the phone, and my BF doesn't!

Q.   My boyfriend and I are having terrible disputes over being on the phone. Ikay I've been with my bf for 2, going on 3, years and he knows I love talking on the phone and particularly with him. So he always gets on the phone and don't say anything and ...

A.   6 February 2011: Lol although that was yrs ago.. and we are totaly over that. I just learned to accept it and respect how he felt and stopped pushing him as much about it and eventually he came around lol.. I kno sit and think sometimes why did he call me.. and have ... (read in full...)

Please Help Me With My Autistic Niece!!

Q.   Do any one knows how i can get help for my 10 yr old niece who is believed to have autism or PDD? She is suffering very bad because her parents really dont know how to care for her. They often just try to shunt her out of their life and never take ...

A.   7 November 2008: Thank you soo much everybody for the replies and concern i really appreciate it. especially the vocab builder im going to google up some diagnostic centers and get started, pray for the best! Thanks!... (read in full...)

I want him to stop talking to her but he's stubborn, what should I do?

Q.   I need all the help I can get right now, my boyfriend is going to drive me crazy, he's talking and seeing one of his ex girlfriends and I know 4 a fact that she still wants to be with him and I have the strongest of feelings that he is cheating on ...

A.   14 October 2008: well, this is a case! this is how i feel, he should respect what you want in this realtionship just as much as he would want you to respect him. although you guys arent married you still have rules to follow in a reltionship. now i feel that you ... (read in full...)

I truly am in love with my teacher!

Q.   Wow, so all day I have been going through everyones columns and reading the Q and A's about this topic and I have found some really good advice, but I figured it would be helpful to just get my story out there. Well to start out with I'm 15, alm...

A.   14 October 2008: ok. i had this experience before, it wasn't this deep, it ended up fading and i just look up to him as an example of what i want in guys.. but in your case it seems serious, but try this 1, get to know some more guys around school or whatever, they ... (read in full...)

How do I get more gay friends?

Q.   Need to get some new friends to discover something about myself. I'm male, 22, and single, and curious. I've many friends, different genders, different race, but not different sexuality. How do I get more gay friends, I've not been to any gay ...

A.   4 June 2006: I agree with richie the internet is a perfect tool to manuever through a new experience because its a 50/50 chance of success, its discreet, and also its plain blunt {if thats wut u want its wut u gonna get}... but i have a lot of male friendds that ... (read in full...)

Why do I love him more when he's away than when he's with me?

Q.   When I'm around my bf I don't really like him "that" much anymore. But when I'm not around him I think about him constantly and miss him a lot.. What's the deal?...

A.   4 June 2006: There could be many of reasons why you are encountering this problem.. It could be something that he does that agravates you or makes you feel uncomfortable. Or it could be that the relationship has shifted and theres is a change in him that you ... (read in full...)

Will my relationship with my girlfriend work out?

Q.   On and off again, 5 times in 5 months. Is she going to change her mind again this time? To make this as short as possible, i'll leave out the insignificant details...I moved to where I'm at now, 2100 miles from home, last year and met a girl at the ...

A.   1 June 2006: Its sounds like your mate is a inconclusive im not sure if she is in a stable mind right now. It seems like she is in love wit you but not ready to settle down wit u.. More like she wants u to be there for her and her baby but she wants to do wut ... (read in full...)

We broke up but I don't understand why!

Q.   My girlfriend and I recently broke up. I really don't know why. i think it's cuz she is afraid of getting hurt, but i love her(havent told her that yet though) and i wont ever hurt her. but i dont think she believes me. right now i'm giving her a ...

A.   1 June 2006: These situations are very difficult, everything u do or say can contribute into the outcome. I feel that if u truely feel you love her u have to let her kno. No im not saying pester her or sound like a desperate person. Let her know that you are ... (read in full...)

I want to talk on the phone, and my BF doesn't!

Q.   My boyfriend and I are having terrible disputes over being on the phone. Ikay I've been with my bf for 2, going on 3, years and he knows I love talking on the phone and particularly with him. So he always gets on the phone and don't say anything and ...

A.   1 June 2006: Hay guys i have great news!!! thanks soo much ur advice really worked.. i tested it out a few days and gave him space and didnt ask him why he didnt call or called him and everthing is going great... he calls me on his own and actually be in a good ... (read in full...)

I want to talk on the phone, and my BF doesn't!

Q.   My boyfriend and I are having terrible disputes over being on the phone. Ikay I've been with my bf for 2, going on 3, years and he knows I love talking on the phone and particularly with him. So he always gets on the phone and don't say anything and ...

A.   30 May 2006: well he do like texting better but me i dont like to be alone im so spoiled cuz im the baby and i just have to be on the phone.. He is not a phone person he said he never talked on the phone like this be4 he met me.. But i want to talk to him.. Is ... (read in full...)

He just left for the army and i miss him, how do i through the lonely nights?

Q.   i know this is gonna sound sad bt my bf went in the army 2day and i miss him so much already, ive been with him over 2years and normally i wouldnt b writing how much i miss him at 3 in the mornining but i cant get it out of my head that im not gonna ...

A.   30 May 2006: hi anon.. Nothing is too hard for u to do.. ok put that in our mind and remember that.. dont dwell on the fact that he is gone reminisc on those times you spent with him sweet things that he said and plan out everything you are goin to do when he ... (read in full...)

In love with my ex again but I also love my boyfriend, help!

Q.   Help me Please... My ex left me because one girl says he is pregnant with him, at that time my ex left me with out any explanation,leaving me nowhere to go, i knew it from our friend and iwas really hurt.... then after 6 months i got my new ...

A.   30 May 2006: hi anon... well the only one that can help you solve this chaos of love is yourself.. I kno you know that u can't be in love with 2 people at the same time.. u may love your ex but you are not in love with him.. Are u?? but ne ways i always live by ... (read in full...)

I wasn't enjoying our sex as much as my boyfriend, so now he's not enjoying it much either!

Q.   My boyfriend and I just lost our virginity to each other, and everything is OK but it's hard for me to have an orgasm and he usually comes much too fast. When I recently told him, he was anxious to make me have an orgasm but now when we have sex...

A.   15 March 2006: Thammks for the advice, i really appreciate the input. I got a few ideas that i think might work out. I'll give them a shot and see if they work out for me. because i truely love him and its hard for me to pretend im satisfied when im not, when he ... (read in full...)

An old ex-girlfriend keeps contacting my partner. He says he doesn't want to talk to her, but his emails show different!

Q.   I have been with my partner for 2 years and we have 2 succesful businesses. He is australian and I'm UK. We live in greece. I have just returned to UK to visit family; he is currently in Greece. A few weeks ago we were shopping and his mobile r...

A.   14 March 2006: I agree with the first answer entirely you should just stand up to him and let him know how you feel and if he love you he will respect how you feel. ... (read in full...)

The woman of my dreams is married... but her husband is away for months at a time!

Q.   I recently met the woman of my dreams through a mutual friend. Only problem is, she's married!!! We've sorta struck up a friendship, we've chatted, sms'd, had coffee, etc, but I can't stop thinking about her. She drives me crazy, I've never felt ...

A.   14 March 2006: Please don't fool yourself do this woman love her husband? One thing about a woman is that no matter how much stuff she go through with a man, if she truely love him she going to try her best to work it out. Please don't leap into something too ... (read in full...)

I am sick of being lied to about porn! Where are the men who 'forsake all others'??

Q.   I was just wondering as i am considering leaving my man over his constant looking at pornographic images and other women lustfully if there are in fact any men out there that dont do this? Men who love thier woman and worship thier woman in a way th...

A.   11 March 2006: Hi charlotti, i read your post and its quite interesting to me because it has occured in my relationship. I found out my bf looked at porn and i was shocked i couldnt believe he did that he didnt seem like the type of person. but when i asked him... (read in full...)

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