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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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I feel ashamed of my body since he's been looking at porn - I feel this could break us apart
Q. Pornography - How do I cope, I can't compete Found out my fella has been using pornography when he stays in hotels.....this comes after an event 2-3 years ago when I found out he had been looking at porn on my computer.....nearly tore us appart t...
A. 18 December 2006: I love to read 'alternative' answers and am with open minded people like Martini (Bay-be!) and beentheredonethat. I am also slightly jealous of btdt, girl, you have got your life so together - even tho it is way off the 'normal' radar. And you are ... (read in full...)
I feel ashamed of my body since he's been looking at porn - I feel this could break us apart
Q. Pornography - How do I cope, I can't compete Found out my fella has been using pornography when he stays in hotels.....this comes after an event 2-3 years ago when I found out he had been looking at porn on my computer.....nearly tore us appart t...
A. 17 December 2006: Hey Willy is back to muddy up the waters again.
Can nobody here see the bigger picture?
In the UK at the moment there is/are nutter(s) on the loose, so far he/she/they (let's be open minded here)may have murdered up to nine women - 5 of the bodi... (read in full...)
The ring thing??
Q. My boyfriend of 7 months and I have each got a pre-engagement ring, but there is some confusion as to where the ring is supposed to be worn. I say on the wedding finger of the left hand, and he says on the wedding finger of the right hand, saying ...
A. 13 December 2006: I hope my remark was not classed as 'catty'. I just can't get my head around being engaged to be engaged. But when you said a 'commitment' ring it made sense!! D'oh!!!... (read in full...)
My husband likes 'transexual' porn..should I just take the kids and go?
Q. My question is...My husbands porn of choice is transexual porn - porn in general does not bother me...this is a bit disturbing, especially since I have made my views very clear including an ultimadum tranny pron or us. We have kids and I love him ...
A. 13 December 2006: What is 'tranny pron' anyway....
;)... (read in full...)
I'm her 46 year old teacher, but I think I'm falling for my 16 year old student!
Q. The thing is: there is this girl - a student of mine. I notice things about her that I shouldnt: well I have always noticed things I shouldnt about various girls I am just.. well very aware of the female species lets put it that way. However with ...
A. 13 December 2006: Open-minded?... (read in full...)
I feel ashamed of my body since he's been looking at porn - I feel this could break us apart
Q. Pornography - How do I cope, I can't compete Found out my fella has been using pornography when he stays in hotels.....this comes after an event 2-3 years ago when I found out he had been looking at porn on my computer.....nearly tore us appart t...
A. 13 December 2006: Wahay, same debate yet again. Some women and men have no problem with porn, some do. Lets just deal with the issue in hand for the questioner....please.... (read in full...)
The ring thing??
Q. My boyfriend of 7 months and I have each got a pre-engagement ring, but there is some confusion as to where the ring is supposed to be worn. I say on the wedding finger of the left hand, and he says on the wedding finger of the right hand, saying ...
A. 13 December 2006: What?? You are engaged to be engaged??
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I don't understand bra sizes - what's the number for? what's the letter for?
Q. I bought some lingerie for my girlfriend (and a vibrator but I'l0 give her them two items when I leave her parents house). But the one thing I don't understand about Breast size is what something like 34C means. What does the 34 mean and what does ...
A. 13 December 2006: AT LEAST YOU DIDN'T SNORT IT OUT OF YOUR NOSE!... (read in full...)
What will I get (?) for having sex with a 15 year old?
Q. can any one tell me wat i will get for having sex with a 15 gal rely need help plzs and i am 18...
A. 13 December 2006: A smack in the teeth if I was her Mother.... (read in full...)
I don't understand bra sizes - what's the number for? what's the letter for?
Q. I bought some lingerie for my girlfriend (and a vibrator but I'l0 give her them two items when I leave her parents house). But the one thing I don't understand about Breast size is what something like 34C means. What does the 34 mean and what does ...
A. 13 December 2006: You have been perving again haven't you bunny.....?... (read in full...)
I ended a brief affair w/ my coworker, but I would like to hear others' opinions about it - any thoughts?
Q. I can't believe I'm writing this, my head must be mashed! Well, where do I start? I've been married for 4 years and have a beautiful daughter coming up to three years old. I care for my wife deeply but cannot honestly say I'm in love with her any ...
A. 13 December 2006: The probable reason this happened was because of
a.the proximity of this girl at work, so you need to find another job to remove this temptation
b.boredom within your marriage, so try to find the 'spark' you used to have...easier siad than don... (read in full...)
Was the gay porn dvd his?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months, we get on reasonably well and never argue. The relationship has moved quite quickly and he often mentions having children in the future and that he`d like me to leave some belongings in hi...
A. 13 December 2006: Is this issue about the gay DVD porn or about your relationship? I am unable to fathom exactly what it is you ahve a probelm with. This is not meant to be harsh, jsut asking for clarity...
x... (read in full...)
Happy Holidays agony aunts! Thank you Dear Cupid!
Q. I would like to wish everyone on this website HAPPY HOLIDAYS! All the discussions have really helped me a lot, and I have gained much understanding about love and relationships from reading everyones answers and the different perspectives...
A. 12 December 2006: Merry Christmas to you all too!!... (read in full...)
I felt hurt and betrayed..I ended it! Did I over react?
Q. I really need some advice on a partner that I suspect of cheating. A few weeks ago(call it womans intuition)that I felt that something was not right in the relationship. To cut a long story short I confronted him about my feelings and he told me ...
A. 12 December 2006: If you have made your decision then I applaud you. Many people allow these sorts of situations to drag on creating an unhealthy life for both people.
I wish you luck.
Stay strong.
x... (read in full...)
Is it safe for my gf to fart during anal sex or can this cause harm?
Q. Is it safe for my gf to fart during anal sex or can this cause harm?...
A. 12 December 2006: As long as she doesn't 'follow thru' you should be safe....lol x... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits?
Q. What do you say when a guy says that he only wants to be friends? Yet wants to have sex? I feel like a whore!...
A. 12 December 2006: If you were comfortable with this you would not be on here asking this question. Stop doing it now!! ... (read in full...)
I told my friends a secret, and they told everyone and now spread lies about me!
Q. my friends never believe me, well here's the thing, i slept with someone i shouldn't have and i completely regretted it so i went to confide in my friends! When i told them at first they promised not to tell anyone and i felt much better after i had ...
A. 12 December 2006: Laern form this, and chose your friends more wisely!! How many tiomes have you passed on juicy gossip about somebody else? It is part of the human condition and we cannot resist it. It is nothing to do with age!!
Discretion is the key!... (read in full...)
In love with a married man, but how do I cope with our break up?
Q. Hi, i hope you can help me out of this absurd situation. i fell in love with a guy i work with in the same office, he is married, with two kids. out of guilt we both called it a very close friendship, then he called me his soul mate and then his...
A. 12 December 2006: You are merely a diversion. He has told you that it will never 'be' between you in the way you want it. What more can he say? Whilst you feed into his little pretend fantasy world you destroy your own self esteem, you are allowing his behaviour ... (read in full...)
I feel ashamed of my body since he's been looking at porn - I feel this could break us apart
Q. Pornography - How do I cope, I can't compete Found out my fella has been using pornography when he stays in hotels.....this comes after an event 2-3 years ago when I found out he had been looking at porn on my computer.....nearly tore us appart t...
A. 12 December 2006: Even porn stars cannot compete with porn stars!!
Just remember ALL the images we see in the media (naked or not) are airbrushed, made up and professionally lit to within an inch of thier lives!! NOBODY looks like that in real life, news read... (read in full...)
Am I stoopid for dating a 37 year old married guy? Age 16...
Q. I'm not sure what to do. i am 16 years old and have been dating a 37 year old married man for nearly a year now. He i adore his children and i am friends with his wife. We have recently told each other that we love one another and i've stopped see...
A. 12 December 2006: There have been several very silly and judgemental comments passed on this forum about your behaviour. You are not stupid - but you have been totally manipulated by a player. Look, this guy says he will never leave his wife....so what he basically ... (read in full...)
I neglected her while I was working alot so I cut down and now she is neglecting me....what can I do???
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 and a bit years of which we have been engaged for 7 and 10 months. We have always loved each other so very much. We still laugh at each others jokes and have fun. Even say the same things at the same ...
A. 11 December 2006: Don't look at this as the end of eight years of your life. This is the start of a new beginning. It is better that you figured this out BEFORE you have children or major finnacial commitments together. Ok, it hurts like salt in a raw wound, but ... (read in full...)
I'm getting a colonoscopy - will the doc know I've partaken in anal sex?
Q. I am getting a Colonoscopy and want to know if the Doctor will beable to tell that i have had anal sex?...
A. 11 December 2006: MARTINI!!!!!
***blushing****... (read in full...)
Was it a man talking in the background or a woman with a deep voice? Could she be cheating?
Q. As My Girlfiend Cheated On Me or am i being silly? last night my girlfriend planed a night out with some work friend's. she went out 9.30pm she was going to the night club down town. i agreed she could go i give her money 2 go. at 3am the nigh...
A. 11 December 2006: Sweetie, you have NO TRUST WHATSOEVER in this girl and you will always be looking for an indication that she has betrayed you.....and the sad thing is even if she has not you will find it. Thats because you WANT to find it. Move on with your ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to go out with a guy younger than me?
Q. im a girl and i like a guy who is younger than me, most people say its wrong to go out with guys who are younger than you and im worried what people will say. should i just forget him or is this acceptable?...
A. 10 December 2006: My husband is 5 years younger than me.....
Age should not matter, but it actually depends how old you are in the first place. If you are 18 and he is 12, then.....you catch my drift?... (read in full...)
Is there any possibility that I could be pregnant?
Q. Hi there i am 17, i have sex at least once a week every week, my boyfriend wears a condom every time, but just lately i have not been interested in sex with my boyfriend. I am also begining to worry that there may be something wrong with me because ...
A. 10 December 2006: Do a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
HAd unprotected sex and took the morning after pill but..I missed my period. Am I pregnant?
Q. i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend at least 7 times in the same night 5 weeks ago and i took the morning after pill 4 days later. the lady at the clinic said it is only 65% effective because i took it late. Now i have missed my period and i ...
A. 10 December 2006: Emergency contraceptive effectiveness reduces the further away from the time of having sex you take it. It is not reccommended you take it more than 72 hours after sex fro medical reasons.
Do a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
When a woman is on the pill..is there a distinct symptom that will tell her she could be pregnant?
Q. Does anyone know what is the symptom if you're on the pill all along but got pregnant? I know it's rare, but would you still have your period?...
A. 10 December 2006: Do a pregancy test.... (read in full...)
"Hooking-Up"What does it mean?
Q. What does "hooking up" mean these days? Long ago, being "hooked" meant being married. But now, does it mean immediate physical relationship?...
A. 10 December 2006: It is a term which is quite generic. It can mean meeting your friends, being with a BF or married..... anyhting, just depends on you interpretation.... (read in full...)
My man is ignoring me and goes to the bar every night! What's going on?
Q. Is My man leaving me? He won't have sex with me, won't kiss me, won't touch me, He doesn't want me to touch him. he goes to the bar everynight after work and lies to me about it. I confronted him about it, so now he really won't talk to me and won't ...
A. 10 December 2006: I would say he is treating you badly in order that YOU finish things with him, so he doesn't have to do the messy painful break up thing. After all he will reason it is YOUR choice. Talk to him and pin him down to a yes or no answer.
Good luck... (read in full...)
My parents don't get along with my bf and it's driving me crazy!
Q. Hi. I am 21 years old and have been dating my bf (first ever), 23, for almost a year. We've never had any problems or fights or anything, and i know he has a good heart and he treats me well. He loves me very much and i love him too. The only ...
A. 10 December 2006: You are 21, live your life the way you want. I think it may be time you left home and started to stand on your own two feet don't you?... (read in full...)
Could my medication interfere with my pregnancy?
Q. i think i might be pregnant and i am worried that the medicine im takin for my condition could harm my baby what should i do ...
A. 10 December 2006: What medication is it? Make an appointment asap and see your health care provider NOW.. Only a trained professional can help you.
The general rule of thumb is not to trust any medication in pregnancy....Tetracyclines can cause problems with the ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to find out a withheld number?
Q. Ok - does anyone know of a way of finding out the telephone number of someone who has called my mobile - As I didn't answer it, it was listed as a missed call (no number). It wouldn't normally bother me, but I was getting ready for bed @ 1.30am ...
A. 10 December 2006: You are working yourself into a tiz over very little here. It could have been a wrong number, a call centre, sales call from you mobile service provider, a drunken friend calling for a chat... the list is endless. ASK the people you suspect it ... (read in full...)
I'm a teacher. Do you think it is wrong that bossing students around turns me on?
Q. I am a bit of a power freak and I enjoy bossing people around. I am a teacher and I love my job, sometimes I do go little too far but not often. Thing is though, the power thing relates directly to my sexuality. I enjoy bossing students around ...
A. 10 December 2006: If you don't have a problem yet you are on your way to developing one. You need help and you need to get it fast. I agree with a lot of the other copmments on here. I would like to add tho' that if this is transferring over into your private ... (read in full...)
I asked him out and he said no! I can't get over him-any advice?
Q. i really like this boy in my class and he flirts with me a lot but when i asked him out he said no!i can`t get over him what should i do? from,young girl in need...
A. 10 December 2006: Babe, it is early days yet. You must try to froget about him. Concentrate on school, not this other boy. You were brave to tell him how you feel, but you can't make other people do what you want and if he is not into you then that's it!!
S... (read in full...)
I just cant get my ex out of my mind. I so desperately want to see him and tell him I love him. I just dont know what to do
Q. I just cant get my ex out of my mind. I seem to spend so much time during the day thinking about him and when I wake he is the first thing I think about, and my heart just aches so much. It has been 4 weeks since I last saw him, and 3 months sin...
A. 10 December 2006: Write him a letter and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't reply you have your answer and must move on. Give him a time frame to answer by, say two weeks and then if he does not then you know you have to get your life back on track and forget ... (read in full...)
How do I know if my husband wnats to be with me for a lifetime?
Q. How do I know if a man (my husband) loves me to such an extent that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me? ...
A. 10 December 2006: Life is a gamble and you must live each day theorectically as if it is your last. How long is a piece of string? You cannot answer this nor can anybody else. Why worry about the future, live in the present...enjoy the NOW!!... (read in full...)
Update on my relationship with former Art teacher.
Q. I sent in a question in November about me and my realtionship with my former Art teacher. I just want to thank every one who gave me advice and to let you how things have worked out. I spoke to Oscar* (not his real name) one night about it and he ...
A. 10 December 2006: You give your age as in the 18 - 21 range. You are an adult, I wish you well.... (read in full...)
Was it a man talking in the background or a woman with a deep voice? Could she be cheating?
Q. As My Girlfiend Cheated On Me or am i being silly? last night my girlfriend planed a night out with some work friend's. she went out 9.30pm she was going to the night club down town. i agreed she could go i give her money 2 go. at 3am the nigh...
A. 10 December 2006: Look honey, there is something seriously dysfunctional about this relationship. Chances are you are not going to be together for much longer even if she hasn't cheated 'cos you both have some serious trust issues going on.....as for the'she thinks ... (read in full...)
During sex or masturbation I don't feel any pleasure!
Q. When i masturbate i do not feel anything good. Why is this even when the opposite sex does it to me there is still no pleasure? whats wrong with me?...
A. 10 December 2006: Please stop rushing things, it will all happen in time.#
x... (read in full...)
Are braces a turn off for teenage boys?
Q. are braces a turn off for teenage boys?...
A. 10 December 2006: I had double 'train track' braces for 4 years nearly twenty years ago and was never short of a bf. AND they where one of the best decisions my parents made for me as I have lovely straight teeth now and I thank them in my head every day for ... (read in full...)
Do you think I could be a model?
Q. I'm 14 years old and 5ft 7, I've got striking eyes and cupids-bow(or whatever it's called) lips, i've got prominent cheek bones and know how to pose for photographs. I'm often told I could be a model, but I've got a reasonably big nose, VERY VER...
A. 10 December 2006: Without seeing you photo can't really pass judgement.
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Are most men sex-mad beings who hop from female to female? Any thoughts?
Q. Are most men generally sex-mad beings? Who if finished with one girl they happen to be seeing or been with, go straight onto the next, without a thought of the person they had been involved with before?? Just curious on your opinions with th...
A. 10 December 2006: No, all humans differ in opinion and beliefs, regardless of gender. You should judge each person as they stand alone, not on how you EXPECT their gender to behave.... (read in full...)
I'm getting a colonoscopy - will the doc know I've partaken in anal sex?
Q. I am getting a Colonoscopy and want to know if the Doctor will beable to tell that i have had anal sex?...
A. 10 December 2006: Martini, what planet are you on? And where did you get that little piece of empirical research from?
If you have been damaged by anal sex (ie, your sphincter muscles are lax) then maybe. But they don't care, they are not judging you, they are look... (read in full...)
Was it a man talking in the background or a woman with a deep voice? Could she be cheating?
Q. As My Girlfiend Cheated On Me or am i being silly? last night my girlfriend planed a night out with some work friend's. she went out 9.30pm she was going to the night club down town. i agreed she could go i give her money 2 go. at 3am the nigh...
A. 10 December 2006: Something here strikes me as odd, mainly the controlling aspect of your relationship. Why should she ring to ask your permission to stay out? Are you har Dad and she is thirteen? Yes by all means she should tell you that she is staying out as ... (read in full...)
I'm her 46 year old teacher, but I think I'm falling for my 16 year old student!
Q. The thing is: there is this girl - a student of mine. I notice things about her that I shouldnt: well I have always noticed things I shouldnt about various girls I am just.. well very aware of the female species lets put it that way. However with ...
A. 10 December 2006: You do not strike me as a very mature 46. Nothing about your letter suggests that you are a 'grown-up' in a position of responsibilty. I think what is happening here is a typical case of a midlife crisis. An attempt to recapture the heady days of ... (read in full...)
I neglected her while I was working alot so I cut down and now she is neglecting me....what can I do???
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 and a bit years of which we have been engaged for 7 and 10 months. We have always loved each other so very much. We still laugh at each others jokes and have fun. Even say the same things at the same ...
A. 12 October 2006: I am going to keep my answer short and not get bogged down in the logistics of what you have said.
You neglected your GF, she in turn found ways of coping with the neglect before she addressed the problem verbally to you. Then you addressed the ... (read in full...)
In love with a married man, but how do I cope with our break up?
Q. Hi, i hope you can help me out of this absurd situation. i fell in love with a guy i work with in the same office, he is married, with two kids. out of guilt we both called it a very close friendship, then he called me his soul mate and then his...
A. 23 April 2006: For some reason I think you view his wife with some disdain, which is a bit rich coming form somebody trying to break up a marriage. Honey she is 30 and you are 20 - you have no life experience yet and obviously have no concept of the utter ... (read in full...)
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