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He acts like nothing happens after sex. Does he like me? I really like him...

Q.   there's this guy i really like i had a "thing" with. i wasn't into him at all when we first met, but after a friendly night out we ended up sleeeping together. the day after he acted like nothing had happened at all, so i did the same. we didn't ...

A.   24 March 2007: Hey sweetie You poor thing you, its sad that this keeps on happening but in my opinion he is just using you for a jump once every month then deafing you like it never happened my advice is sweetie your worth 10 of this guy stop sleeping with him... (read in full...)

I lied that i slept with someone else so then he DID sleep with someone else!

Q.   I told a terrible lie to my boyfriend of 5 years. We had got in a fight and he told me that he might want our relationship to be over so i told him he was free when i didnt mean it i then also told him the next day that i had slept with someone ...

A.   24 March 2007: Hey sweetie Your perfevtly right to be feeling disgusted he reassured you that nothin like this would happen between these two then it happened anyway how can you ever trust him again after that, not that i am in anyway saying that what you di t... (read in full...)

She assures me she loves me, but Im not sure how to act as she keeps feeling suffocated!

Q.   Hmmm. I'm a little confused here. So around January, the most amazing 6 or 7 months that I've had w/ anyone. My girlfriend broke up w/ me almost w/o a warning. No fight, no bad feelings, nothing. She freaked out on the phone and after crying hys...

A.   23 March 2007: Hi Sweetie Well to be honest i can completely understand why your so confused, man what is you g/f's problem you sound like a really sweet guy and she is obviously in love with you and you with her... when you broke up the first time you say you ... (read in full...)

I need some excitement ibn my life...and am looking at my sisters husband!!

Q.   My name is Helen. I'm married with 2 kids, but I'm feeling a little unhappy lately. My husband is a migrant (from Lebanon) and lately I don't feel like we have much in common. He doesn't really challenge me enough intellectually, and sexually things ...

A.   23 March 2007: Hey Sweetie :o) Firstly i'm sorry to hear that you are so unhappy in your marriage babe that can be easily fixed, but your other problem you mentioned, the key words in the whole of your sentance there are MY SISTERS HUSBAND honey thats a big no, ... (read in full...)

What do I tell my friend???

Q.   Me and my cousin have been secertly together for about 8 months but not properly, he specifically says we are not going out, yet kisses me and loves me. But now hes been emailing one of my friends as well as me and came up to a social and saw her, ...

A.   22 March 2007: Hey there Well sweet my advice to u is very simple remain honest stay true to yourself, tell Ur friend whats going on because when all else fails your friends will stick by you though thick an thin when a man dumps on u for a great height, ... (read in full...)

How do you tell your guy that you're pregnant?

Q.   Well... I have a boyfriend and we have only slept together twice since we got together a month ago but at the moment I'm late and thinking I may be pregnant. I know its sounds silly worrying now before I have even done a test, but how do you tell ...

A.   22 March 2007: Hey there :o) Well sweetie no i don't think your silly at all, i can completely understand that cause Ur late your already at the panicking stage :o) but sweetie its not as bad as all that, once u sit down with him an share the load that's o... (read in full...)

I can't shake the fear that some other girl will take my bf! What should I do?

Q.   Hi my "friend" developed feelings for my boyfriend and would do anything to spend time alone with him at a party she had i found them jus sitting in the kitchen talking (fair enuff) then in the living room, and when i walked in she walked out, ...

A.   21 March 2007: Hey there Firstly you poor thing you, for that to happen to u in your previous relationship is definitely enough to make u paranoid :-( and sweetie i can honestly promise you that that's all this is paranoia, you were hurt quite badly before b... (read in full...)

Why do men behave in this way, say they want more than sex, but seldom do!?

Q.   I've got a close friend to me; she was due to meet a guy on Saturday who had claimed to love her for 3 years and said he even wanted to marry her and take her on holidays. However, she rang me at 1 Sunday morning (I was still up), saying that he ...

A.   21 March 2007: Hey there Well sadly its not just a male thing there are some women out there who also behave in just the same way as this guy did towards your friend, its just a trait of the human race I'm afraid to say to take people belief an trust and just... (read in full...)

How many previous partners are acceptable at 23??

Q.   I just got engaged to my girlfriend and have always avoided the topic of her past because of the fear of her having had a lot of exes. Somehow, recently we got talking in that line and she told me how much she liked oral sex and that she had had ...

A.   21 March 2007: HEY SWEETIE WELL FIRSTLY BABE CALM DOWN, I CAN UNDERSTAND UR CONCERNS HERE BABE BUT BASICALLY I THINK YOU SHOULD LEAVE THE PAST IN THE PAST, DON'T RAKE UP THINGS THAT HAVE ALREADY HAPPENED YOU SAY SHE WAS RELUCTANT TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT THE NUMB... (read in full...)

I have more feelings for her than just friendship and it's not right...what should I do?

Q.   I am a married man of early-thirties with one child and ridiculously i have fallen for a single woman in her late twenties who used to be in an art group with me. This is NOT about whether i should leave my wife but how should i handle this sit...

A.   26 May 2006: HEY THERE I FEEL FOR YOU I REALLY DO SWEETIE, BECAUSE ITS OBVIOUS TO ME BY WHAT YOU SAY THAT YOU DO DEEPLY LOVE YOUR WIFE BUT VALUE YOUR FRIEND ALSO. KINDA CAUGHT BETWEEN A ROCK AND A HARD PLACE SOME WOULD SAY, BUT FEAR NOT SWEETIE I WILL TRYT MY B... (read in full...)

Any tips on making friends... and keeping them?

Q.   Why am i so a lone. I try to make friends but nothing happens. Or they will be friends with me for a little while then one day they act like they don't no me. I NEED HELP!!!! What do i do...

A.   25 May 2006: hi there don't be so down on yourself your not alone hey i'll be your friend the more you panic and fret over this alone thing the worse it will get, try joining clubs going to evening classes take up a hobby all these things can help you to meet... (read in full...)

The girl at school don't believe me, but her friends do! What can I do?

Q.   erm this ones a bit complicated, Basically the girl I fancy at school is really annoyed at me, she says I've been telling her secrets to people because people know about them now, I haven't told anyone anything but she doesn't believe me. This girls ...

A.   25 May 2006: hey there well to be honest with you its really hard school can be a tough enough time without any extra probs i will try my best to advise you ok. well i understand what your sayin that you have not betrayed this girls trust by telling others h... (read in full...)

We want to go further, but I've never done this stuff before...I need advice..

Q.   Im really worried because my boy and i want to go further but i keep getting scared to take the next step. Also Ive never had anything done to me before and ive never like given head or anything what do you do? Another thing is that i know we are ...

A.   25 May 2006: Hi there It's completely OK that your scared about having sex for the first time. It really is a big thing to deal with alone. I will try to help you OK? It's OK to experiment safely of course but don't be pressured into doing anything you are... (read in full...)

She's way obsessed with my boyfriend, what can I do?

Q.   Hi there. My boyfriends ex wants him back. I asked her to stop texting him at wierd (late) hours then she told me she had sex with him last week. He denied but admited he went to talk to her to leave him alone. We have been together 6 month...

A.   25 May 2006: Hi there well my answer honestly is talk to ur man about how this situation is making you feel, you obviously love this guy to be able to stay with him even though he has slept with his ex my advise to u is be the bigger one talk this through ... (read in full...)

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