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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): Honestly...it's wrong in a lot of other people's eyes because of their definition and the ACTUAL definition of "family". But to me, I support it to the fullest. I am with my 1st cousin and we're about to have a baby. We're in love, grew up together and were always very close. No regrets EVER...Love comes in all mysterious ways that are not alwayz meant to be understood. Everyone has their own opinions, but if your just an ignorant someone just out there trying to belittle everyone who supports 1st cousin relationships...
1. You will never know unless you experience it
2. If you have nothing nice to say...shut it
3. Live your own life and stop critisizing everyone elses
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): I think ive heard something about cousins having a child together, i seem to remember that because the genes are so close together it can cause some abnormalities in the child, im not 100% sure, worth a think about tho!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): well im in a relationship with my first cousin, and if others wish to see it as wrong; go ahead. it doesn't bother us. we fell in love, from a young age we were very close. its legal so theres nothng wrong with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): i dont care if it is im sleeping with mine and we are very happy i think that is all that matters....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): I am just about to celebrate my silver wedding with my husband who is my first cousin and I love him more each day he is my rock
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): I have to say that it all depends on the individuals involved. My ex fell in love with his first cousin but they were raised as basically brother and sister. It ended because she felt embarassed by the situation and he did not tell anyone about it and when I asked him he got very defensive. I think that if you think that it is wrong and then do it anyway then there is something wrong with it. If you can announce it proudly and not act like you have a problem with it it is ok. If that makes sense
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reader, xx Penny xx +, writes (23 January 2008):
me and my boyfriend are first cousins and see nothing 'weird' about it at all. We have never really been close family and just fell in love by chance. we are though wondering what would be the best thing to do about having children?????? any help???????
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): I dont see any problem with it and I can imagine cousins in a relationship will have a little fun poked at and then it'll be soon forgtton about. Brother and Sister ye thats bad but its not that is it!!! I have heard that we're all 15 cousins away from one another. And it is only the last century if that that we dont here so much about it because in the Uk before transport you would simply marry someone in the town our village often a cousin with no prejudice. So it seems a minority of people only quite recent have these daft thoughts. People that think its not right need to lay there cards on the table to themselves and think of the skeletons from there own cupboards and they'd probably shut there mouths. Its not illegal, its not hurting anyone, its not wrong. The amount of prople that steel, mug, have affairs, bigamists, adultry, perverts and the rest and they have to have an opinion of this subject, well they quiet clearly need to stop gossiping, curtain twitching and get on with there own lives and I bet a cousin couple would generally make a better job of there lives, shouldn't even be discussing it your all mad if this is what bothers you in life!!!!!...Really!?! think about it lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007): I think it is sick especially between older male and younger female cousins u cud imagine him watching her grow up. Plus people may not say it but the majority will b thinking u r twisted not to mention if they have kids come on! There r 6 billion people in the world find sum1 else i know they say blood is thicker than water but this just takes the mick.A.L edinburgh
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reader, willywombat +, writes (5 February 2007):
 Not sure, but is a bit of a stnading joke in this country....
I actually thought he sounded like that beacuse he was programmed
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reader, martini  +, writes (2 February 2007):
 Is that why Prince Charles sound like that? [wink]
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reader, willywombat +, writes (1 February 2007):
But then again, take a look at the British Royal Family for evidence of what 'interbreeding' can do if practised for generations...
This for those of you missing a humour chip' is an attempt at a joke.
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reader, martini +, writes (29 January 2007):
And I second what Pete said. 8]
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reader, willywombat +, writes (29 January 2007):
Plus when you do the research there is only a fraction of a difference in genetic problems with children born in this sort of relationship. If you where planning children you can ask to be screened and your GP/clinic will put you in touch with the relevant people.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (29 January 2007):
Yes it is in the UK. It is not incest and it is not morally wrong.
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reader, Dr Pete + ♥, writes (29 January 2007):
 Personally I don't really see what the big deal is about first-cousin relationships.
I actually know some first-cousin relationships that have happened and they seemed to work out pretty well. One person I spoke to said 'I get on with them so well it's like we have a connection' - what connection would that be, I thought to myself. That they are almost like a brother? ha ha.
Here are some points I found on the Internet:
* 20% of marriages around the world are between first-cousins.
* Albert Einstein and Charles Darwin married their first cousins.
* Is prohibited in half the United States, is legal in Canada and throughout Europe.
* a study by the National Society of Genetic Counselors says that having a child with your first cousin raises the risk of a significant birth defect from about 3-to-4 percent to about 4-to-7 percent.
My view, political if you like, is that if two consenting people want to do something together then what business is it of anyone else's? no ones. If we want to force these people to not reproduce then we should also start euthanizing all people with genetic problems, we could start with the disabled, move on to blind people then finish with everyone who has a lower than average IQ. Large gas chambers seemed to work well. If we're going to improve our genetic future we might as well be consistent about it..
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reader, Nikita +, writes (29 January 2007):
 Well, here in the Uk, its legal so yes but its really a question of how you and others feel about this. Im not sure that having any children with your frist cousin would be agood idea but as the others have said, it is a moral issue and soemthing that you have to think seriously about. x
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reader, martini +, writes (29 January 2007):
Yup, legality depends on where you live. Morality in question depends whom that morality originated from, why, how, and if any, who does it harm.
People tend to say it's wrong, but have no viable reasoning to back their ideals up. Some people say it's wrong because there is a good chance babies between cousins will come out retarded - but that figure is highly exaggerated. Cousins having babies have that deformation percentage only mildly higher, and this also depends on environment as well. Then again, many cultures and regions in the world allow cousins to marry and have kids, and a huge majority of what I have researched have depicted cousins to have normal families for generations. So think about that.
Then again, if you're just having sex, then it's just pleasure.
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reader, Tanyas247  +, writes (29 January 2007):
 Bad idea! Family is always going to be there, and since the relationship probably won't lead to marriage, I would keep it simple and look outside the family for relations.
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reader, melschatbox +, writes (29 January 2007):
 I think it depends in what state...the question then becomes is it moral to sleep with your first cousin.
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