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Heavy period after unprotected sex- is this normal?

Q.   Im 21 with one child and my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex 1 week before my normal period and then I started on schedule like normal, but then now 2 weeks later I just started again and its kind of heavy, is something wrong with me?...

A.   22 August 2008: if your thinking you may be pregnant then visit this link http://www.babycentre.co.uk/preconception/activelytrying/toptensignsofpregnancy/ Heres something about heavy periods http://clinicalevidence.bmj.com/ceweb/conditio... (read in full...)

Can I succeed in life even if I don't totally complete school?

Q.   iM A graduating at the end of the year and most likly wont get all my senoir point on my certificate. Im stressing so much that i will never be anything or wont get anywhere. Has anyone else failed grade twelve but still become something great? I am ...

A.   22 August 2008: You dont always need good grades to be something great. Most rich people are rich not from being brainy. Really try your hardest if you want to specify in something which you have your mind on ... (read in full...)

My partner is undermining my self confidence. Can he possibly love me?

Q.   Help! I'm lacking in self confidence and my partner has started making me even more insecure about myself. When we first met over 4 1/2 years ago, I was a size 10/12 ,my hair was shoulder length and I wore glasses and at the time felt quite confi...

A.   22 August 2008: Speek to a counciller or someone. Someone who focuses in this point. He doesn't seem good for you if he puts you down. You deserve a happy relationship. Being unfaithful isnt good either. Either have a serious conversation with him explaining how ... (read in full...)

Both my new guy and I like to be sexually dominant.

Q.   When I have sex I like to dominate. This used to make my ex go crazy (in a good way), but it doesnt turn my new guy on at all, he prefers me to be the submissive one. What do I do? He is perfect in every way apart from this, but the sex just isn't ...

A.   22 August 2008: Take it in turns :) ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't want me to have contact with my ex, or with guys on line.

Q.   I've been dating this guy for 5 months, he doesn't like me to have any contact with my ex, even texting because his ex cheated on him with her ex. I don't talk to my ex very often, he text me once in a while to see how I'm doing and that's the end ...

A.   22 August 2008: I can understand where he is coming from, having being cheated on before. Reasure him you wont cheat, he may relax abit more let him know he can trust you. Everyone gets jelous. Its because he cares so much :). But yeah. If your ex boyfriend means ... (read in full...)

Why is "I Love You" so scary to say?

Q.   There’s a new term of affection out there in case you haven’t noticed. It’s a phrase rooted most likely in some rap song… I would appreciate it if someone could reference the first use if it, I know I am curious about it. Well the term is “Show ...

A.   22 August 2008: haha ... well love can be ment in different contexts. LOVE in a relationship is a strong word. Today you get people using it for the fun of it. you can also LOVE something. - it can be meant in different ways. It can be a strong word. Be careful how ... (read in full...)

My man is a people pleaser. How do I approach solving this?

Q.   My partner is a wonderful man however I have realised he is a people pleaser. In saying this he will go out of his way to do things for me or buy me things however I feel his resentment when we have a discussion and he throws all this back in my ...

A.   22 August 2008: discuss with him that you dont expect him to do everything. say you are able. tell him you can both do things for eachother but you are capable of doing things for yourself. say thanks but your okay with handling things on your own ... (read in full...)

I cry every night not knowing what he wants!

Q.   Hi I need help! big time!! Do u ever wander if u aren't the only one in his life? I do... I don't think I belong in his arms... I think He thinks I'm not that cute.. I don't know what he wants. I...I think I'm kinda pretty.. just alittle.. fo...

A.   22 August 2008: I know what you mean. I click with someone but they want other people and i dont understand it. Maybe he thinks were better off as friends Im not sure. Its hard. If your not sure if he likes you try asking him or get a friend to ask? If nobody s... (read in full...)

Is her new relationship a mistake? She doesn't know he is a lying cheater!

Q.   I need opinions on a new relationship a friend has gotten into! She is starting to date this guy from work since the very end of July, however, she doesnt know that he is a lying cheating type, but I do. He has had at least 5 other women in t...

A.   22 August 2008: You should warn her so she doesn't end up upset. Let her know what he's like. Then its up too her. If he does cheat or something it was her chance.... (read in full...)

I want to get back in touch with him without looking like a stalker! Any suggestions?

Q.   Hi everyone, here's my problem: A few years ago I went to school with this guy I had a huge crush on, and on the last day he admitted he liked me too but for some reason I never got his phone number or email or gave him mine. Recently I ran i...

A.   22 August 2008: If you really like this person make an account. Ask your friends if they have his info. Nothing will ever happen if you dont get his info. Someones gotta make a move. Don't be too haisty tho :P good luck... (read in full...)

I'm afraid I'll do something wrong kissing a boy who likes me.

Q.   Okay so me and all my friends are going out the last time before school and supposedly, we might play seven minutes in heaven. I've never made out with a guy before and I have a feeling I'm gunna get paired up with this guy that supposedly likes me. ...

A.   22 August 2008: Id say if you dont fancy him dont lead him on. Before you kiss tell him you don't fancy him, & ur just playing the game. ... (read in full...)

Ok I'm sooooo not gay or bi so what's the deal with these feelings I have about my teacher?

Q.   Just to Let You know that i'm not gay or Bisexual! Okay..I had a crush on this English Teacher. She is young and really pretty and in her 20s (But i'm not gay..i'm straight). this all started since the school trip last june. Yeah..i lik...

A.   6 April 2008: Maybe you are curious of being with this person? But it sounds like you have feelings for her. Or just attraction, but still feelings. It appears you are attracted to her and care for her. Maybe you are confused? there could be a slight posibility ... (read in full...)

Should I explore this side to discover what I truly like?

Q.   hey..i have a major problem.. i think i am bi..i love watching lesbian porn..i had boyfriends and i also have crushes on guys but deep indise i want to make out with a girl..do u think its k for me to see a girl..i am askin this because i am in the ...

A.   6 April 2008: I think your Bi-curious if your just wondering what its like .If you have feelings for a girl your probably Bisexual. Give it a try, see how you feel. I watch lesbian porn but im not Bi. Good look, keep an update x... (read in full...)

I'm looking at my best mate in a different way, what's wrong with me?

Q.   Hi I'm 14 and think I might be gay. Recently I've started looking at my best mate in a different way. I keep looking at him from behind and his crotch althogh this makes me feel dirty. Whats wrong with me? ...

A.   6 April 2008: you can be bi-sexual if you have feelings for other men. Or you could be bi-curious if you are just curious on what its like doing things with another person of the same sex. It depends on your feelings really... (read in full...)

This spot on my penis has me worried!

Q.   Ok, heres the deal.i just noticed a dark spot inside the skin on my penis. I dont know what it is but I think it may be blood or something. I dont jack off to much 1 or 2 times a day isnt bad. But I need to know if it could be some type of disease ...

A.   6 April 2008: Hi read this it might come in handy http://www.doctorslounge.com/fertility/forums/backup/topic-9700.html im not sure if its the same as you but give it a read. Hope its okay.... (read in full...)

I want to lose my virginity, what do i do?

Q.   Hi everyone. I kinda need help. you see im a virgin and i think im ready to loose it to this guy i know. I mean like he is soo sweet and he makes me feel sooo good inside. but the thing is hes not a virgin. we talk about the subject "sex" when we a...

A.   25 August 2007: I think sex should be kept in a relationship. You should like this person in the romantic way and make sure they feel the same. Best to be kept in a relationship because you may regret it afterwards. Or you could be heartbroken ect. Your choise but ... (read in full...)

He says he loves me but does he just want into my pants?

Q.   I have a friend from Spain who I have known for 5 years and he recently told me he loves me... and I think I've started to love him too... but I'm not sure if I believe him because we've been thinking of taking things further sexually and I would ...

A.   14 August 2007: I think sex should be kept in a relationship personally. Because you may regret it afterwards. Make sure he has feelings for you aswell before you do anything with him. Use a condom. Be responsible and have fun.... (read in full...)

Is this age difference wrong? She's 17 and wants us to have sex!

Q.   Hi Im 26 and a girl I have known who is 17 has let me know she is interested in me and wants to have sex! I told her she was too young and my friends and family would kill me but she said 'can you not keep a secret?' Im meeting her on Friday ...

A.   9 August 2007: I think when people have sex it should be kept in a relationship because if you like the person or they like you. it will be looked back on and ither could be regretted or you or her could get upset about it a relationships better not just a one ... (read in full...)

Have i been broken in?

Q.   Iv'e Had Sex...But I didnt Bleed...I Just Wanted To Know...Weather Or Not I Have Been 'broke in'...Thank You...

A.   9 August 2007: Sometimes if you have sex it could break a bit of your hymen and not all of it. Or it could of broke before hand. If your active doing sports or things. Horseriding, Gymnastics things like that. Not all women bleed but some do it depends. This site ... (read in full...)

My friend gave me oral sex and I returned the favour; does this make me a lesbian?

Q.   i'm not too sure whether i'm a lesbian or not because i slept around my friends house the other night. we had to sleep in the same bed as there wasn't anywhere else to sleep and we both slept naked. about an hour after we'd gone to bed, i got woken...

A.   9 August 2007: That depends if you have romantic feelings for her and if you have them for men aswell. If you only have them for women it could mean you are a lesbian. But if you have them for men also then u could be bi. But if you dont have romantic feelings for ... (read in full...)

His best friend is female.

Q.   MY BOYFRIEND HAVE A FEMALE BESTFRIEND, WHAT ADVICE CAN YOU GIVE ME?...

A.   9 August 2007: Mine did and she tried to split us up because she was accusing me of coming inbetween them. She seems to have a problem if he gets close with another girl. Although she doesn't fancy him she still has problems with him being with girls because she ... (read in full...)

Sex at 14.

Q.   Am i too young to have sex at 14 ?...

A.   2 August 2007: Im also 14. I don't think its too young but some adults would be like ITS TOO YOUNG!!. They don't think the same as we do. I say.. if you realy like the peron and u know they like you. Go for it. But if its only for fun I say save it for someone ... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin at 18 because i want to wait for the right person, is this a silly idea?

Q.   Hi, I'm a virgin at 18, because I'm waiting for the right person to have my first time with. Do you think this is a silly thing to do, and that I should have done it differently? I've had the opportunity to, but would rather have it with another ...

A.   31 July 2007: I think your being sensible and wize. Most people who have lost their virginity at an earlier age regret it and would go back if they could. Its also special to some people and with you waiting for the right person is good because its a special ... (read in full...)

SITE NEWS: Moderators needed!

Q.   Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING -- many moderators drop out after just a couple of weeks so if you're not committed please don't apply! ...

A.   23 July 2007: Hey I think this site is really helpful and I always try to help others. Being a mod would be really good and I maybe 14 but I understand peoples problems and have a better understanding of questions posted by people of my age therefor I could give ... (read in full...)

Do teen boys like shaved pubic hair?

Q.   I'm 14 and I'm wondering, do majority of the boys my age like shaved pubic hair or not?...

A.   1 July 2007: Hey im 14 too and I shave. Personally I feel more confident and not as embarrased. Its up to you, If your planning to do something with someone check with them what they prefer if your not botherd. But it should be your choise. If you are planning ... (read in full...)

Should I get to know him better?

Q.   I am 22 years old and work as a substance abuse/mental health case manager. I have been drawn to the helping profession not because I have a history of abuse/mental illness/addiction/abandonment, but rather because I am passionate about helping ...

A.   24 February 2007: He has been sober for quite a while, seems he has a grip on things seems like he is turning his life around for the better if you think he likes you try asking him out for a meal or something keep me updated, hope everything goes good x... (read in full...)

My girlfriend tells me she's 16, her mates tell me she's only 14, I'm 24. She never wants to see me and always has excuses, her mates tell me she's cheating on me, I don't know what to believe! Help!!!

Q.   I'm 24 Years old i'm dateing a 16 year old girlfriend who i never see. the problem, i never see my new girlfriend but i have a big heart to dump her for not seeing me. i kind of blame myself for us not seeing each over. v-day i lost the car ...

A.   24 February 2007: If her friends say she is cheating on you then they may be lying or something but going and sleeping with someone else maybe a mistake! you dont know if she is cheeting or not. Her age.. yeah ring up the collage its best to find out. Keep me updated ... (read in full...)

I broke up with my bf and now he has a new gf, but since then he and I have slept together. Should I remain as his 'dirty little secret'?

Q.   Ok so i am in a sticky situation me and my bf broke up nearly 2 months ago, we still have really strong feelings for eachother, only problem is he has started seeing someone else now. Me and my ex bf fell out for quite sometime things were really a...

A.   17 January 2007: I am having a simelar problem , theres a lad i really REALLY! love and we do things and then he goes off with other people and once he was with someone but was doing things with me but its obvious he doesnt want to be with me but we get along really ... (read in full...)

Never been kissed

Q.   dear cupid,im 15 and i am a virgin and i was windering if people think its still late to a be a virgin, also i have never done anything to snog a boy is this unusal for girls my age?. can any one let me know what they think plz thnx xxx...

A.   19 August 2006: Don't worry hun your time will come. Its good that your a virgin at 15 .. 16 is the legal age. You will find that special someone who you will share your first kiss with and loose your viginity to. Don't throw your virginity away to someone who you ... (read in full...)

Never been kissed

Q.   dear cupid,im 15 and i am a virgin and i was windering if people think its still late to a be a virgin, also i have never done anything to snog a boy is this unusal for girls my age?. can any one let me know what they think plz thnx xxx...

A.   16 August 2006: Don't worry hun your time will come. Its good that your a virgin at 15 .. 16 is the legal age. You will find that special someone who you will share your first kiss with and loose your viginity to. throw your virginity away to someone who you dont ... (read in full...)

Is there still hope for me and my love?

Q.   PLEASE help! This is a very complicated, frustrating, and confusing situation. I'll try to keep it as brief as possible. What I want to know is, is there still hope for me and my love? We have been together for a year. The first nine months or...

A.   16 August 2006: Aww ..well.. you both have done something wrong .. he signed up for an online dating so that might of bin telling you somethings not right in the relationship?..and you kissed another person :O.. This is about you and him put your family out of the ... (read in full...)

He wants me to spend every second with him! It's too much!

Q.   My boyfriend of 10 months seems to want to spend every second with me, everyday. I enjoy spending time with him but it seems like we dont do anything, we just hang out. How can i have my own space, but still spend time with him? And how do i tell ...

A.   16 August 2006: I think you should have a talk with him and say how much you love him but maybe he shoudn't be around as much. Or could you give me a little bit of space every now and again. something along those lines but try not to make it sound bad. I hope you ... (read in full...)

He no longer finds me sexually attractive so he wants my permission to find a f*ckbuddy

Q.   I have been married to my husband for 12 years, and we have been faithfully together for 16 years, Renently I was diagnoised with cancer, we made it through the post op and everything fine, unfortunatly I put on about 170 lbs and he dosn't find me ...

A.   16 August 2006: Thats horrible! You have just got threw your cancer and he is saying just because he doesn't find you sexually attractive he shall go off with other women! he should love you for who you are not because you have gained weight i think this man is ... (read in full...)

I have an embarrassing mole! Help.

Q.   im 15 and worried! i have a massive mole on my shoulder about the size of the tip of your finger! i dont wanna wear my bikini infront of the boys at school when we all go to the beach cos i think they will think its discusting :( its flat but i ...

A.   16 August 2006: I think people should like you for who you are and not judge you or change there point of view towards you just because of something such as a mole that would be silly of them. Gain more self confidence and dont be so worried. If you are really ... (read in full...)

Where do we stand? Should I ask him?

Q.   i have an odd relationship cont..... well things have taken a bit of a drastic turn here. Sunday I hung out with him again. I have been talking a little bit with one of his friends lately about us, and she came to me with some shockign news! I ...

A.   16 August 2006: I think you should start with what are your feelings towards me and find out if he likes you from what he says. If he says he likes you ask him if he has mentioned you and him dating in any such way. Say you dont mind but you would like to know ... (read in full...)

My friend wanted a picture of me naked. What the?!?

Q.   i am 14 and was texting my boy mate the other day. it was his birthday a few days ago and i didnt know so i didnt get him a present. he said dont worry about it. i said to him "i'll have to go now cos i'm going swimming wiv mates". then he said "r u ...

A.   16 August 2006: Lads love naked girls maybe he wants a picture of you because he likes girls bodies?..why dont you ask him if he fancies you or get someone else to ask for you? Then you will know. ... (read in full...)

I would like some of my own space, how can I tell her that without hurting or losing her

Q.   My fiancee of 1 year seems to want to spend every minute of the day with me, everyday. I enjoy spending time with her but it seems like she dont want to do anything else only wanting to be with me. How can i have my own space, but still spend time ...

A.   16 August 2006: I think you should have a talk with her and say how much you love her but maybe she shoudn't be around as much. Or could you give me a little bit of space every now and again. something along those lines but try not to make it sound bad. I hope you ... (read in full...)

Im only 13 and addicted to porn, but want to stop please help...

Q.   help me i am addicted to porn at age 13 plz help me i like it at first but then i feel disgusted and sick wid myself how do i stop lukin at it plz help me!!!!!...

A.   16 August 2006: I think its great and im 13 to. Whats wrong with it? But if you don't like your obsession try watching other things and doing activities to take your mind off it you can stop yourself if you try. When you see porn on the channel or something switch ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend thinks I am a control-freak, but I'm only making sure she's okay!

Q.   Am i being over possesive ? My Girlfriend/ ex girlfriend (current status unknown) tells me that i am a control freak and over possesive. It seams that my calling her during the day is causing this. I understand that basicly i should just stop...

A.   16 August 2006: Im like this with my x-boyfriend i want to know where he has been and trying to find out what i have done wrong.. this girl is sending mixed signals i think you need to have a word with her and say whats happening here? we need to sort things out ... (read in full...)

How many chances can one person get?

Q.   How many chances should you give to someone you love? If they mess up and you forgive them, won't that teach them that their bad behavior will be forgiven? How can you let them know it's not okay without breaking up with them, and ensuring that it ...

A.   16 August 2006: It depends what he has done ..if he cheated whats to say he isnt going to do it again?..you need to be more persific about your question. You should talk to him and explain the problems. good luck x... (read in full...)

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