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writes: hello-i am 15 years old, and this is going to sound a bit odd...but i cant stop playing with my vagina. i get the urge to just slip my fingers in, even at inapropriate times! its becoming embarassing and people ask what im doing...sometimes i dont really i start it! im scared people are going to hate me, is this a problem that can be solved?
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reader, 123KID  +, writes (4 November 2008):
I'm a 21 year old christian male and i've tryed to stop for 8-9 years it is extremely hard to stop espically when theres nothing to do and some of the writers up here are right it starts with images in your mind then pics of nude people then porn over the computer and you want so hard to stop and know being a christian its wrong but you just can't stop. Maybe if we just instead of masterbate take the time that we would be doing that and read the bible or pray try and pray hard or workout. As far as doing it in public i'd do the same pray and mean what you say when you pray.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): im a guy, i do it up to 6 times a day, daily...i like it and it feels good. there is nothing wrong with it..it is safer than actuall sex..i have a friend that does it in school, once he was caught by the teacher, anyways..just do it. if u like it then there is NO reason to stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): Umm.. I'm a dude... but don't let anyone tell you dat it's normal so go ahead and do it(especially at night). Rather..a closer relationship with Christ is the only way out.. Because u can't stop it by ur own power.You can choose to make urself busy.. that works for a time.. but u'll always return back to it. soon it'll be porn.. and then the downward spiral starts.. and before u know it, you'll have a seared conscience trust me.. it doesn't work at all.. Just ask for help.. he's more than willing to help u.And once he sees ur willing heart to genuinely stop, he'll help you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): You are NOT alone. I am turning fifteen soon and I started masturbating at a very young age. Being Christian, it is a very very wrong thing to do and I've been trying to stop. It's hard. One thing that helps me avoid this is I read a book, go online and chat with friends and anything else that can make your hands active and help you not think about masturbation. It works for me(sometimes).
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): 1 of every ten females masturbates, yeah right give me a break, its more like one of every ten ADMITS masturbating. Look this is just perfectly normal and there´s absolutely nothing wrong with it, just don´t do it in public, not because there´s anything wrong with the fact of masturbating but because it is a private thing, you don´t pee in front of strangers you don´t touch yourself in from of strangers. And then if you enjoy and have orgasms feel lucky cuz that is indeed something quite rare in woman these days.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): There was a show on the other night on ABC. News show can't remember which one. I think it was friday night about this. Its not your fault there is a medical answer and some drugs like prozac helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2007): I think if we are going to broach such topics of conversation; we need to inject some respect into it as referring to a woman's genitals as a 'dirty cave' only perpetuates it is wrong and evil and not something to be doing.
I, personally don't think it is something to do to help one feel momentary happy but...I do know that respect needs to be evident when talking about someone's body.
Correct terms for such topics will encourage respectful, open dialog.
I don't know about people hating you rather that they just see it as inappropriate.
This could be a form of a cry for help but you get to decide why you would do this by focusing on where you are when you feel this desire, what you are feeling-are you lonely, scared, unhappy...and why you would want to do it, the obvious would be to feel good, sexual gratification but...there must be something else linked to this behaviour.
It is inappropriate to engage in such a private act in public. We do have to take in consideration other people.
So...if you see it as a problem in that it is out of control and want help, I would suggest speaking to a counsellor.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (27 January 2007):
 Sweetie you just have to explain what you mean by inappropriate times. I just have visions of you doing this in the queue at the Post office or something.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2007): Well, I know this sounds bad, but Im 14 and I have the same problem. I would do it once a day, like a horrid habit. but What I did was I wore heavy clothes at night, I stayed around people as much as I could, and I stoped the porn, hentai, and all that. if the worlds biggest pervert can stp, so can you. trust me, its not only normmal, its natural. so do nt ever think your alone, or outcasted. your just normal. be carefull though, you alwasy make sure not to put dirty fingers in your cave!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): Hun... Don't feel bad. The reason that you probably feel isolated is because most girls aren't able to admit that. But I masturbate, I know for a fact that almost everyone one of my friends masturbates, including girls and I've seen them doing it at "innapropriate times." Sweetie, it's a fact of life. If your friends judge you any differently, then I'm not sure they're such great friends. Your still as great of a person as you would be if you didn't masturbate. 3ps. I went through this period for a long time. I had these thoughts. Just know, it's universal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2006): Heya! You've got nothing to worry about. I read somewhere that 1 out of every 10 girls masterbates (or thereabouts) so you are completely normal; as normal as a left handed person! But seriously, you're reaching the age where you start wanting sex and when hormones are raging throughout your body so it's natural you want to experiment a bit. You might always masterbate but it's probably just a phase doing it in public.
If you do at night in bed then perhaps you won't feel the urge to do it as much during the day; maybe you will. Try not to think about it too much but think of ways you can stop yourself like putting some double sided sticky tape on the outside of your pants (so you don't feel it) and then when you absent mindedly put your hand there the sticky tape will remind you. This is just an example, there is lots of things you can do but you really have to try and stop yourself from doing it in public. Think about how you'd react to see someone masterbating in the maths classroom! It's not exactly the most hygeinic thing to do in the world!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2006): its very natural to wnat to touch yourself, after allits your body and you should enjoy it.
But I strongly agree with Toria you need to rstrain from doing it in public, besdies obvious hygene resaons you dont want people to think that your strange.
I think you should maybe try to get as much masturbation out of your system before you leave the house!, maybe then the urge wont be as strong.
But seriously if you are seriously concerned about it maybe you should speak to a concilor to get to the bottom of your inappropriate urges.
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reader, Toria +, writes (24 October 2006):
 I think when alot of people start learning to masterbate they enjoy the feeling it gives them so they continue to do it it's like a thing I'm sure alot of people go through and I'm sure there will come a time when you don't want to as much.
Surely you can find other things you can be doing with your hands when your not in an ideal situation to be masterbating as not only is this going to be embarrassing for you but also for the person that discovers you doing it.
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