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I'm confused... does he want to pop the question or not?

Q.   Outline: I'm 22 bf is 25 been together 16 months not living together but see each other every day. Moving in has been talked about but gonna wait. My bf been away work and I only see him at weekends which is hard. Recently we started talking ...

A.   2 October 2011: The 3 stone thing to do with both us losing weight he getting a car racing day it a inspiration thing not a weight thing... (read in full...)

He said his Dad is in the hospital - is he lying and just changed his mind about me?

Q.   ive currently going out with a guy i havent met yet (i know this sound stupid) we met on a iphone app and started chatting. i asked him to send a pic of him posing with a spoon to prove it was him and we been texting ever since. yesterday(saturday) ...

A.   2 October 2011: Update: I know it been ages but he never contacted me again and blocked my email so guess that answered the question... (read in full...)

Parent imposed curfew has destroyed my social life! Why have they turned against me?

Q.   I'm 20 years old but feel like a child as my parents treat me like one yet treat my younger brother like a adult. My parents brought my brother a house for him and his gf to live in but have raised my rent to pay for the mortage and the expensive ...

A.   16 October 2009: My brother just turn 18 a few weeks ago so he younger. I don't earn enough to even rent a room off anyone. If I had friends to live at I would of moved out ages ago... (read in full...)

How can I see if he wants to try again and should I give it time?

Q.   on sunday my bf dumped me saying that he doesnt love me but we only been together 6 months so love is not important at this stage in the relationship. he had a few problems before with his nan having a stroke and his brother breaking up with his ...

A.   16 October 2009: Sorry too so long for a update found out he left me because he was sleeping with one of my friends the got a sti off another girl he cheated on my exfriend with So turned out he was scum... (read in full...)

Why would he change so quickly?

Q.   ok sorry for the long message but this guy confusing me and it best if i explain what we did for dates then u can see why he suddenly gone off me day1 meet in town walked around went to his watched film had sex (weak moment from me)then he walke...

A.   1 July 2008: saw him in town yesterday told him i have a bf and he took it well even though he now call this guy a fish we agreed to be polite to ecah other if we see each other but not make plans for anything ... (read in full...)

Young People Having Sex

Q.   Does anybody else find it as ridiculous as I the age people nowadays are losing their virginity? I am sixteen and have no intention of having sex while I'm still a teenager. It saddens me whenever I hear of girls (and guys) my age running off toge...

A.   30 June 2008: i was 17 and wish i waited as i felt i was too young. i hate going town and seeing girls as young as 12 pregnant and the father of the baby being 19-22. these guys should be telling them not to do it not shagging them until they pregnant. i know u ... (read in full...)

Why would he change so quickly?

Q.   ok sorry for the long message but this guy confusing me and it best if i explain what we did for dates then u can see why he suddenly gone off me day1 meet in town walked around went to his watched film had sex (weak moment from me)then he walke...

A.   30 June 2008: im 19 i wanted to slow down after he tried to be controlling and when he kept calling me a fish even when i asked him to stop... (read in full...)

Why would he change so quickly?

Q.   ok sorry for the long message but this guy confusing me and it best if i explain what we did for dates then u can see why he suddenly gone off me day1 meet in town walked around went to his watched film had sex (weak moment from me)then he walke...

A.   30 June 2008: ok on saturday i thought we was moving too fast so i said i want to be friends he lost it and hates me calls me a lier and a user and wont let me have like a month to get ready for a relationship with him... (read in full...)

My body wants him but my mind doesn't. I don't know if it is the instinct to protect myself that's holding me back...

Q.   I met up with an ex this weekend that I hadn't seen for six years. It was always going to be a bit awkward at first and I expected that. What I didn't expect was this weird feeling in my head. My immediate feeling was that I wasn't attracted...

A.   23 June 2008: follow you head as you body wants pleasure but you head knows you will regret it after... (read in full...)

Why would he change so quickly?

Q.   ok sorry for the long message but this guy confusing me and it best if i explain what we did for dates then u can see why he suddenly gone off me day1 meet in town walked around went to his watched film had sex (weak moment from me)then he walke...

A.   23 June 2008: we meet up yesterday after he emailed me sayig he cant stand being apart too long and he said he wants to ask me out but waiting for both his head and heart to both say do it... (read in full...)

How can I get him out of this depression when he won't speak to me or see me?

Q.   i feel my bf is depressed but wont talk about it he is stress from money and family. he has huge bills to pay thanks to his mum stealing his credit card. i try and talk to him about his problems but his family turns him against me so he wont sp...

A.   7 June 2008: i forgot to meantion we been together around 1 1/2 years we had plans to move in together and we both 19. also im his first every thing... (read in full...)

He isn't paying attention to me. Should I do it to him?

Q.   My crush and I talk on the phone daily.Every time that I call him he sounds busy so I ask him "are you busy?" and he replies "no" but then in less than a minute he says "I'll call you back in a minute" which turns out to be hours later.Every time ...

A.   7 June 2008: be carful i had a bf like that and found out why he was always distacted he was online to another of his gf and when he had to go all a sudden his live in gf came home took me 4 months to find out about the other girls... (read in full...)

My GF's past is eating me up inside, partly because the long distance favours my idle mind to produce negative thoughts about her. Help?

Q.   My gf and i have been dating for the past 1 1/2 years. I has been long distance relationship since we started going out. Every month i make a trip to see her and she does the same. After our 1 year anniversary we decided to have a conversation about ...

A.   7 June 2008: dont let the past get to you she didnt know you and love you when she slept with these guys if she could see into the future and saw you she would have not done what she did as she would HAVE waited for you... (read in full...)

I feel really abnormal because I have never been kissed! I'm 15.

Q.   Ok, so Im 15 - 16 in a few months time - and Ive only ever had 1 boyfriend and never been kissed. All my friends have got boyfriends or have had them in the last year and all of them, with the exception of 1, have been kissed, so I feel really ...

A.   7 June 2008: i didnt kiss a guy until i was 17 and my bf never had a kiss until he was 18 i was his first every thing and hopfully his only so dont worry everyone is differant... (read in full...)

Why do boys/men ejaculate first?

Q.   how come guys cum first ???...

A.   5 March 2008: ive never had a bf that has done that... (read in full...)

He used a condom but I'm panicking in case I'm pregnant!!!

Q.   Hi. I'm seventeen, nearly eighteen and my boyfriend and I just started having sex about three weeks ago (it was my first time). I am not on the pill, but he has been using condoms (100% properly). I was worried about pregnancy so on February 29th I ...

A.   5 March 2008: the stress is making it later get yourself on the pill just to be extra safe next time... (read in full...)

My best mate is behaving strange towards me?

Q.   Hi, Ive got a best mate and we were so close, went out sumwer everynite, likes the same stuff, talked for hours on end about the randomest shit in the world, on the phone everynight ect. But scince two weeks ago when some lad who dosent like me ...

A.   25 January 2008: u need to sort out a few nights a week where it just you 2 to hang out as mates again do something like watch a film or go bowling... (read in full...)

My bf's ex is obsessed with ruining our relationship!!

Q.   ok my bf's ex is sending me mental she is still madly in love with my bf so is trying to break me and him up. here sum stuff she been doing looking at my myspace and texting him about any chnages i have done ( this one back fired when she told hi...

A.   22 November 2007: this is no longer a problem found out a 10 months ago he was sleeping with her so thats why he wouldnt tell he to get lost... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's mother hates me!

Q.   Boyfriend's Mother HATES ME I suspected my boyfriend's mother hated me when she repeatedly sang praises about his ex-girlfriend (two girlfriends ago) and how much the whole family loved her. It was confirmed when she began calling me NOT by my act...

A.   6 September 2007: my bf mum hates me too but ive learned to grit my teeth and just keep smiling as no matter what shes says my bf wont leave me coz he fully aware that shes like this so maybe you so do the same... (read in full...)

Can a guy and a girl be platonic "friends" and nothing more?

Q.   I need opinions here! Do you think it is possible for a guy and a girl to just be friends or is there always/almost always romantic feelings at some time for the other person?...

A.   6 September 2007: yeah im friends with loads of guys and only ever ha feelings for 2 out of like 50 guys ive been friends with over the years... (read in full...)

I thought having a baby would get me off the council estate. My married lover is married and has money. I wanted that lifestyle.

Q.   I'm 18 and I have been lying about being on the contaceptive injection. I have had a hard childhood on a council estate and I thought if I got pregnant to my older boss I would get a better life. I'm pregnant and he's staying with his wife that he ...

A.   5 September 2007: when the child goes to school get back into college and learn a skill and then get a job to get off the estate... (read in full...)

How can I tell my long distance boyfriend I'm having second thoughts about going to see him in 2 days?

Q.   How can I tell my long distance boyfriend I'm having second thoughts about going to see him in 2 days? I just been having visions of him cheating on me and I don't think I can face him until I get these stupid visions out my head. We haven't seen ...

A.   21 July 2007: id just like to say i went to see my bf but spent most of the time in bed as i was very ill during the first night i was there but lucky i was feeling better by the time we came back to mine and had a great week with him... (read in full...)

I think I'm too small and I'm worried she might want to do stuff!

Q.   hello im 13 and i think i am too small i am about 3 inch when not erect and about 4-5 wen erect i am seeing someone who i have been with 2 mnths and im worried she is going to want to start doing stuf but im scared i will put her off me if she ...

A.   11 March 2007: wait until ur older as u will be bigger then and at 13 u shouldnt be doing stuff as u still a child... (read in full...)

What is your definition of love?

Q.   My question is short and concise; What is love? I know that there is no text book definition of love, and that there's no right or wrong answer to that. I've always wondering and was just thinking what everybody else here thought. Thanks. ...

A.   5 March 2007: when you think of them all the time you cant help but smile when u see them. u notice the small things about them and u could be with them all the time and never get bored of them... (read in full...)

When I get erect, sticky water comes from my penis, is this sperm?

Q.   dear cupid i am 17 years old and my girlfriend is 18 years old, she want me to have sex with her but when i erect, some sticky water or what come out is that sperm? i didnt dare to buy condom so how can i sex with her? HELP...

A.   5 March 2007: first if u cant buy condoms u shouldnt be having sex and the sticky water is precum... (read in full...)

I haven't heard from him in 2 or 3 days, was it because I didn't tell him I felt the same?

Q.   I have been seein a guy behind his girlfriend's back and at first we both didn't mean anything, then he told me he loved me and since then i have started to get feelings for him, however since he said that and i didn't really tel him how i felt, he ...

A.   4 March 2007: this happened to me i was with a guy for 3 months and he had a gf at the same time. dont do anything with him until he leave his gf coz every week this guy would tell me he gona leave his gf and every week i was foolish to believe him and carry one ... (read in full...)

Need to advise my friend about her LD relationship. What can I tell her?

Q.   hey! i really need someones advice. My best friend lives in Chester, England nd she rly likes a guy who lives in Scotland. She is absolutley mad about him and i truly believe that he likes her back. I dont think she'll be happy till shes going ou...

A.   4 March 2007: well first chester is not 5 miles from scotland they can make it work by calling each other and contacting each other every day. im in a LDR and my bf lives 200 miles away but we phone each other when ever we can we text each other like 30 ti... (read in full...)

My boyfriend of one week is moving way to quickly! How can I slow him down a bit?

Q.   my bf of only a week has plans for us in the future he planned living together marriage and kids all ready im his first gf but i think he moving too fast any ideas how to talkabout this with him he also calls me a name from the ps1 game f...

A.   1 March 2007: well i told him that i dont like the name because im worried he forgot my real name and i dont mind all these plans now because i think the idea of marriage and kids with him... (read in full...)

Do you think he really loves me?

Q.   how can i tell if my bf loves me he says it all the time is this signs of love (we are a long distance relationship) when we call each other we talk for like 4 hours texts me i love you at random times of the day asking me to marry him ...

A.   1 March 2007: i do love him i did say no to his proposal though coz i think that was moving to fast and he is currently trying to move down because he been sending me links to flats he might rent... (read in full...)

He was shaking when we made out. Am I doing something wrong?

Q.   Hey all!! I was making out with my new bf the other day.. and he started to shake as we were making out... was this just nerves? or was I doing something wrong? love xx...

A.   3 January 2007: lol he sound nervous i bet he a great bf or ur turning him on so much me and my bf play a game for foreplay were we see who can turn the other on so much they shake ... (read in full...)

My bf's ex is obsessed with ruining our relationship!!

Q.   ok my bf's ex is sending me mental she is still madly in love with my bf so is trying to break me and him up. here sum stuff she been doing looking at my myspace and texting him about any chnages i have done ( this one back fired when she told hi...

A.   3 January 2007: we have been ignoring her for 2 months now i wont even give her eye contact... (read in full...)

My brother is physically intimidating my boyfriend!

Q.   i think my brother will compleatly destroy my relationship as he has threatened my bf a few times now last time he left my bf almost in tears i dont know what he is saying to my bf and neither my bf or brother will tell me wants happening ive asked ...

A.   25 December 2006: ok after a few drinks with my bro i got him to tell me what he did to my bf he told me he grab my bf by the balls and said this cock only goes in one place and that my sister and if u cheat on her and put it sumwhere else ill break it off... (read in full...)

My brother is physically intimidating my boyfriend!

Q.   i think my brother will compleatly destroy my relationship as he has threatened my bf a few times now last time he left my bf almost in tears i dont know what he is saying to my bf and neither my bf or brother will tell me wants happening ive asked ...

A.   24 December 2006: im 17... (read in full...)

My bf refused to pay for my food. Should I dump him?

Q.   I ordered a piee of pizza last night and the guy behind the counter looked at my boyfriend and said "it's ready". I looked at him and he looked at me and said, "What... aren't you going to pay?" I felt instantly insulted that he didn't offer to buy ...

A.   17 December 2006: my bf never pays for anything for me but i dont think about breaking up with him for it lots of people dont pay for other peoples stuff it just the way they are... (read in full...)

My bf sent his ex a christmas card...why did he do this as it upset me a great deal?

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. He was previously married for 8 years and his wife left him, 15 months ago. He tells me that he is in love with me. Although during a conversation earlier he mentioned that he had sent his wife a ...

A.   15 December 2006: well sending cards is like a tradtion i hate sum of my exs so much but i will send them a card i cant see wats wrong unless he wrote a letter to go with it or sumthing... (read in full...)

My BF broke up with me suddenly - was his mum to blame?

Q.   I really liked this guy and then we split up suddenly after i heard that his mum said i wasnt right 4 him cause i am stuck up my own arse! which is not true. He's 25 so do u think his mum had anything to do with our split?...

A.   6 December 2006: yeah most likely i know my ex broke up with me had sumthing to do with his mum as she disagreed with me dating him as i was a year old than him he was 16 and the fact my views on school was try u best but if u get a bad grade be happy because u ... (read in full...)

How long should you know an internet friend before meeting them in real life?

Q.   whens the best time to meet someone from the internet? how long should u wait before u meet them? ...

A.   29 November 2006: well depending on the age of both of you and what u have seen of them changes the situation like seeing no photos u should give loads of time compared to seeing them on cam you should really talk for around 3 weeks minmum and meet sumwhere busy and ... (read in full...)

I want to have a bf, but being a goth doesn't help as the guys I know , all dislike me! What should I do -any tips?

Q.   Hey need a lil advice from the guys really.... Um.. how can i start.... ive been single for a while now and i would really like a boyfriend but all the guys in my area/town hate/dislike me because i have a bad reputation (a castrator of all thin...

A.   29 November 2006: well im goth/emo and i have no problem getting guys and they many all been more on the chavy side just befriend the guy first coz then they see ur personiaty first more than ur looks... (read in full...)

The guy I date won't leave the place he lives because--he lives with his current gf and her Mother! and he'd be homeless!

Q.   i have this bf and i really like him as he like the male version of me we been together a month but the problem is he live with his other gf and her mum he says he wants to leave her for me but if he does he will be homeless also he good friends ...

A.   26 November 2006: oh i forgot to meantion the ages of us that might make sum changes to the problem im 17 still in school and living at home hes 18 with part time job and she 15 also still in school... (read in full...)

Problems with our first attempt at sex...any advice on how we can deal with this?

Q.   Hi, im 17 and my bf has just turned 18, we are 100% comfortable with each other. we tried having sex for the first time last week, i wasnt very relaxed and was shaking a bit but i new it was the right thing to do. when we tried to do it, it really ...

A.   25 November 2006: that happeden to me about 7 times until i got relaxed and lots of foreplay and a bit of lube thenit slipped in no problem it did hurt still but not as bad... (read in full...)

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