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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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Girlfriend dlept with guy over 2 years ago! I can't get him out of my mind!
Q. hi there. please help me get my head around this, as its making me completely miserable and paranoid! i have been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now. we are really close and most of the time it is perfect. However before i met her she slep...
A. 5 January 2007: Can I butt in. Now having read the post can I just point out that the question asker only mentions that they feel insecure because of the other fellas skin colour. Does this not mean that he wishes he was like this becasue she liked it? Where ... (read in full...)
Walked in on my boyfriend bashing the bishop...
Q. I went into the room that my bf was at and caught him masterbating. He had pictures taped on the wall, all of them with blonde hair. (his ex gf has blonde hair) He got upset with me, like I was interupting him!! I went out of there real fast. Was ...
A. 4 January 2007: Firstly a lot of PEOPLE masturbate --not just men. Secondly this is a normal natural and physical urge that cause no harm to the individual. Some people are turned on visually, some mentally thru the written word and some thru listening.
S... (read in full...)
In in love with four of my cousins! What do I do about my feelings?
Q. what do i do? i feel like im in love with my 16yr old cousin i just want to hug her and hold her and talk. but every time i see her i just like get shy and horny. i feel the same about 3 outher cousins. what do i do about my feelings?...
A. 4 January 2007: Expand your circle of friends honey. I think you need to get out more, are you family the only people you see?... (read in full...)
Someone in my family is watching animal porn. Is there something wrong with him?
Q. Should I be concerned if someone in my family is watching animal porn? Is there something wrong with him or is there a reason why they like to watch that? It makes me feel sick about it, but i'm not sure what i'm supposed to think about that. ...
A. 4 January 2007: How about minding your own business. Sorry to sound harsh, but this is their problem not yours is it not?... (read in full...)
He says he's learning to prioritise between me and his ex-wife and kids... I feel he's lost his spark and changed
Q. Hi all, Would really appreciate some advice on this, especially from any men out there! I met a guy last September and we hit it off immediately. We are in the same industry, we like the same things and I really thought I'd found someone special....
A. 4 January 2007: I think you might find that his wife divorced him because of the sort of behaviour you have mentioned, but because of the family context. No time for his family as he cannot 'concentrate' on the two things at once type of thing. Pity you cannot ... (read in full...)
We cry all the time b/c we live 60 miles away and rarely see each other. Any advice?
Q. i have a girlfriend that i have not seen in almost a year, we talk a lot over the phone and have done since we last saw each other, the reason i have not seen her in nearly a year is ecause she lives 60 miles away, we love each other very much but ...
A. 3 January 2007: I thought when I read this question I would be answering a young teenager, say fifteen with no sourse of income. BUT you are in the late twenties age group...so WHY THE HELL HAVE YOU NOT MANAGED TO GET TO SEE EACH OTHER!!... (read in full...)
Feel slighted by my girlfriend's attitude to who paid for this "family" meal!
Q. Some opinions please. I feel very slighted by the following situation. My girlfriend asked me if I wanted to join her for dinner with her younger cousins. This was my first time meeting everyone but her sister ... So, besides her little cousins, ...
A. 3 January 2007: It would appear she is trying to make herself look good with your money. You HAVE to talk to her about this. Please tell her how you feel, if you don't then resentment will eat away at you and the relationship will implode anyway!... (read in full...)
He says he's learning to prioritise between me and his ex-wife and kids... I feel he's lost his spark and changed
Q. Hi all, Would really appreciate some advice on this, especially from any men out there! I met a guy last September and we hit it off immediately. We are in the same industry, we like the same things and I really thought I'd found someone special....
A. 3 January 2007: This is long and complicated. I will offer you my opinion for what its worth, and will tell you what I think.
This guy you have now got is in showing his true colours and yes I think he was in 'pitch' mode. I do believe he likes you a lot, but... (read in full...)
I 'm getting a discharge and after we have sex i'm swollen the next day. Does anyone know what could be wrong?
Q. I (24) have a problem which i have never suffered with untill the last few months. Whenever my bf goes down on me, it makes me itch, sometimes more than others. And i get alot of discharge, i mean alot. It has no oder etc but its starting to ...
A. 3 January 2007: I would (just to be on the safe side) go to the GP or GUM clinic with him and get the pair of your tested. Also are you using any form of lube or condoms? You could have an allergy. Get a check up at your GP with him. It makes sense to be ... (read in full...)
I'm terrified that this marriage is a mistake - 3 months in and it's already a nightmare!
Q. Sorry this is VERY long!! i am 29 and married just 3 months. My hubby is 24 and we were dating nearly 7 years before we got married.The first few weeks after the honeymoon were great but the past few weeks have been a nightmare. I feel so down, an...
A. 3 January 2007: To the anon poster below --how negative are you, you base your opinions on marriage and seek to give advice from your one pitiful experience. I feel for you that your experience was so bitter, but it is not the truth for all. i for one am not in ... (read in full...)
Turns out my husband had a bj in the toilets at work because "it was on offer"... can men just not say no?
Q. I have just gone back to my husband following a break of 2 years. I left him for various reasons but i have never really got over him. We have a child and both want whats best for her obviously. I have had one serious relationship dur...
A. 3 January 2007: I can't get it? Why would anybody do this? I mean, in a toilet? Urgh! In work, you telling me that NOBODY else noticed? No stains anywhere? Triple urgh. Have no problem with BJ's as a rule, but if you saw the toilets where I work and the people ... (read in full...)
Turns out my husband had a bj in the toilets at work because "it was on offer"... can men just not say no?
Q. I have just gone back to my husband following a break of 2 years. I left him for various reasons but i have never really got over him. We have a child and both want whats best for her obviously. I have had one serious relationship dur...
A. 3 January 2007: To the question asker, ahve you ever thought that maybe you and your hubby should not be together. All you seem to be doing now is dishonouring your vows and scoring points off each other....
I do not think this is a man thing, any more than givi... (read in full...)
Turns out my husband had a bj in the toilets at work because "it was on offer"... can men just not say no?
Q. I have just gone back to my husband following a break of 2 years. I left him for various reasons but i have never really got over him. We have a child and both want whats best for her obviously. I have had one serious relationship dur...
A. 3 January 2007: Pete normally I would agree with you, but the fact you have just 'classified' women as 'slags' is just a bit offensive. this whilst defending men who WOULD accept a BJ in the toilets of a woman they work with! Please this is a little closed minded ... (read in full...)
Do I tell him his mother ruined his proposal?
Q. My boyfriend (now fiance) and I took a trip to Australia with his family last March. The day before we left for the trip his mother e-mailed me and added the words "almost mother in law" beside her name. Well this was pretty much a dead give away ...
A. 3 January 2007: Oh c'mon. Are you already looking for reasons to fall out with her or pick a fight. You need to learn to live with it. She did not spoil one of the most importnt moments in your life. She was just excited and probably didn't realise you where ... (read in full...)
My cousin and I are having sex! Is this okay?
Q. is kissing my cousin ok? I mean she beautiful we both have feelings and we had sex is that ok?...
A. 3 January 2007: What is it with people on here. It is not incestuous to have relationships with a cousin first or otherwise. PLEASE people get your facts straight before posting. Take care when offering opinions on stuff you find 'disgusting', this is people's ... (read in full...)
My cousin and I are having sex! Is this okay?
Q. is kissing my cousin ok? I mean she beautiful we both have feelings and we had sex is that ok?...
A. 3 January 2007: What is it with people on here. It is not incestuous to have relationships with a cousin first or otherwise. PLEASE people get your facts straight before posting. Take care when offering opinions on stuff you find 'disgusting', this is people's ... (read in full...)
I have touched my sister
Q. i love my sister,she is younger than me with 10 years she is 26 , i had touched her twice during her sleeping and she had feel me but she made her self sleeping,and we touched each other in the swimming pool,but as we having fun in the water, please ...
A. 2 January 2007: Is this Borat?... (read in full...)
I slept with a coworker, but now I feel there's tension between us. How do I break the ice with him?
Q. Dear cupid to cut to the chase, i slept with an older guy at work, we're both single but ive not seen him since it happened before xmas. Ive been back in work today and he wasnt, he phoned to speak to one of my colleagues but she wasnt in and i ...
A. 2 January 2007: Why did he not get in touch with you over christmas or you wiht him? It never ceases to astound me how people can be physically intimate with one another yet not have the guts to TALK!!
Please get his number and ring him. Ask him if all is ok betw... (read in full...)
I'm only 28 and I have a low sex drive! What can I do?
Q. i have been married for 10 years and have a very low sex drive me andmy husband are happy but this is really starting to afect us i am only 28 years old what can i o about this thank you...
A. 2 January 2007: Ok, what have you done so far? Have you ruled out any physical or psychological causes yet?... (read in full...)
His ex texted him to wish him a happy new year - I'm livid! But should I really be concerned?
Q. An ex i was worried about contacting my b/f on new years eve did text him. I guess i just dont like the idea that some girl he slept and went out with sometimes is in contact with him. It was like 12:45 am. The text i guess was sent to a lot of ...
A. 2 January 2007: You have to be the same poster who left the question which was worrying about what to do 'if' the ex sent a text? Now she has can you not see how badly you are over-reacting.
WHY are you so insecure about an ex? This is all to do with your inse... (read in full...)
Preganancy and abortion help, please!
Q. I am 18 and normally my boyfriend and I take care to use precautions when having sex. I am on the pill, but recently due to exam stress I have happened to miss approx. 3-4 pills in a row and we have had 'unprotected' sex twice(without hi...
A. 2 January 2007: Have you any further updates for us?... (read in full...)
My 15 y/o daughter is now partying, drinking, skipping school and more! I miss the old her so much. Please help
Q. Im using a friends account.. I have a problem that will effect a great deal of things. Im starting to hate my 15 year old daughter. Well not hate, but becoming more and more disapointed in her. I feel she has no future as she skips school and...
A. 2 January 2007: First and foremost you need to talk to her Mother. The two of you should be pulling together on this not in different directions. This girl knows she can play her parents off agaianst each other to get what she wants and it sound like she is using ... (read in full...)
He has no paternal responsibility for their child, but wants it. Can this be done outside of court?
Q. A friend of mine is not married, but has a child. Him and his partner split up and the child lives with the mother. He has no parental responsibility for his daughter. How would he go about getting it without having to take her to court? She is ...
A. 2 January 2007: In the UK he can go to a solicitor to arrange 'parental rights'. This has to be done with the consent of the Mother of the child though in cases where they are not married.
If the mother does not want to give consent the only way forward is thro... (read in full...)
Period is late, not sure whether condom split! What are the chances of me being pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had sex last week and I am worried as I am 2 days late on my period. we used a condom but I am worried that it split although I didn't hear it. What are my chances of being pregnant?...
A. 2 January 2007: You need to go and see your family GP and tell him of your fears. I suggest also buying one of the very early pregnancy tests. They are extremely sensitive to the hormones created during pregnancy and can be used from the first day of a missed ... (read in full...)
Why in the world are adults now checking out teenagers?
Q. I was out with my 15 yr old niece the other day and I was a little disturbed by what I saw. Shes growing into an attractive young lady. A lot of teenage boys were checking her out. I became kind of protective of her but I guess its natural. Howe...
A. 2 January 2007: This is in no way a new phenomenon. Unless we all hold a sign above our heads stating our age, many men and women can't tell the age of an individual they are checking out anyway! Puberty is starting at a chronologically younger age now - so people ... (read in full...)
My daughter is dating a man I disapprove of and it driving a wedge between us! Help?
Q. Hi, please help. My daughter is 18 almost 19 years old and dating a really old guy, he's 27 and I disapprove very much. My daughter lives on her own and pays her own bills so she assumes this means that i have no control over her. she's been seein...
A. 2 January 2007: Well said Malyce.
She is not 'some baby teenager' she is a woman of 19.
Get a grip.
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What are the exact number of 'safe days' after a women's period?
Q. I need to know the number of days one should count as her safe days,that's after receiving your monthly periods....
A. 1 January 2007: Like I said before the only completely 'safest' method is not to bother. There is no 'safe' period unless you ahve no problems with getting caught out!... (read in full...)
Do her glances at me..mean that she likes me too?
Q. There is this girl that I fancy (she doesn't know this) and everytime I walk past her she looks at me. I look at her everytime I walk past her and she looks at me to. Could this mean she fancies me? Thanks for yiur help. ...
A. 1 January 2007: Chances are she likes the look of you. Why not just bite the bullet and start speaking to her....?... (read in full...)
Our daughter is going through puberty and my husband refuses to hug her..he thinks it's inappropriate. What can I do?
Q. My husband and daughter have always had a close relationship. However now my daughter is 15 now and is going through puberty and growing breasts. I don't know why but my husband has stopped being physically affectionate with her. It really hurts ...
A. 1 January 2007: Dad is probably just having a little difficulty in accepting that his 'baby girl' is not his little one any more. That she is becoming a woman, with everything that means. Did he have sisters when he was growing up? Just asking because I wonder ... (read in full...)
You ever feel that your boyfriend is gay?
Q. Has anyone been in a relationship where you feel that your boyfriend is gay? What are the obvious signs?...
A. 1 January 2007: Can't give you any? What makes you think this?... (read in full...)
Why are girls who sleep around called sluts, but guys who sleep around called studs? Is this fair?
Q. Why are girls who sleep around called sluts, but guys who sleep around called studs? And why do women enforce this stereotype? I mean when a woman sleeps around she is called a slut and looked down upon by men and women. Men love her because they...
A. 1 January 2007: Stop using it yourself and don't tolerate any use of derogatory terms to men or women in your immediate circle of friends and family. Then hopefully this circle will widen! We should all try it. Another persons sexual beahviour is their choice ... (read in full...)
Do her glances at me..mean that she likes me too?
Q. There is this girl that I fancy (she doesn't know this) and everytime I walk past her she looks at me. I look at her everytime I walk past her and she looks at me to. Could this mean she fancies me? Thanks for yiur help. ...
A. 1 January 2007: If you are standing in her way she is gonna look at you!!
But does she hold eye contact? Does she smile? C'mon, more information!
xx... (read in full...)
Together 7 years and we live together but we have big problems. Should I move out?
Q. Q: Should I move out? Here's why... about two months ago, my boyfriend of 7 years became very protective over his cell phone. When I questioned him, he told me it was just texts from his male friends. I should have known better at that point, but ...
A. 1 January 2007: I think that maybe they had an emotional connection and this would have led to a sexual connection at some point.
But the question you must ask him and yourself is why he couldn't discuss his problems with you. Where has your communic... (read in full...)
Want to end it but worried aobut his reaction...
Q. I want to leave my current BF alone but dont know how to do so! He is a very sensitive guy and he told me when his last GF called it quits he got depressed and even suicidal. We have been dating for eight months know and I don't see it going ...
A. 1 January 2007: You must tell him. He must not be allowed to emotionally blackmail you into feeling bad about wanting to split up. He has already set the scene for this by telling you how he reacted to his ex splitting up with him.
Tell him when he is not unde... (read in full...)
He says that relationships never work out... how do I convince him otherwise!?
Q. So I like this guy and he is the same age as me and he likes me too. But the problem is he doesn't want to go out because he believes that relationships never work out and that we will probably end up hating each other. I want to convince him that ...
A. 1 January 2007: You are both very young to be thinking of a relationship. But that said, in answer to your question you can't change somebodys mind. Chances are if you try you will kill your friendship! I suggest going along and enjoying the friendship, he ... (read in full...)
New bf doesn't respect my boundries..should I cut him loose?
Q. Am I over reacting or is this a warning sign? My new boyfriend spanked my bum last night. At first it was just along to the rhythm of the music in the pub and it made me a little uncomfortable but I didn’t want to say anything while we were in...
A. 1 January 2007: This is your body and your limits and if this makes you uncomfortable you must NOT put up with it. If he does it again then yes, blow him out because I think the chances are he will not listen. I think maybe this may be a habit he developed whilst ... (read in full...)
I really like him but the problem is he is just like family to me?
Q. ok i like this guy and i know he kind of likes me back. but the thing is, he is like family to me and i care about our friendship. what should i do?...
A. 1 January 2007: Can we have a little more information please. He is like family to you? How? Please tell us a little more....
x... (read in full...)
I lied to my best friend when she asked me if I had sex with her bf! How do I tell her the truth?
Q. I had sex with my best friends man and she found out about it.I told her it was a lie and that i never had sex with him.I dont want to keep hiding it from her so how do i tell her?...
A. 1 January 2007: Right when did you have sex with him? If it was when she was together with him, unless your friend has the biggest heart in the world you have pretty much stuffed up this friendship, because the chances are she will never forgive you. I would find ... (read in full...)
Happy New Year! From South Africa!
Q. HAPPY NEW YEAR! from South Africa everybody! All the best for 2007 everyone and thank you for making 2006 special. God bless y'all! If you're from SA or an ex-patriot drop me a private message....
A. 1 January 2007: A Happy and Prosperous 2007 to all on Dear Cupid from the Wirral (sticky out bit between Liverpool and Wales....)UK.
xxhugs and kisses to allxx... (read in full...)
How many BJ's on average, is average?
Q. How many blow jobs does the average man get per week ? ...
A. 1 January 2007: Sickos!!
funny tho....... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 31 December 2006: What's strongbad when it is at home?... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 31 December 2006: Oh bugger old chap it appears to have gone orf!!!... (read in full...)
What are the exact number of 'safe days' after a women's period?
Q. I need to know the number of days one should count as her safe days,that's after receiving your monthly periods....
A. 30 December 2006: As said before the only completely fool proof method of not getting pregnent is to not have sex. failing that, using a relaible barrier method of contraception such as the condom or cap, or chemical methods such as the pill or depo injections, ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 30 December 2006: I am sulking.....and will be welcoming in the New Year in aforesaid frame of mind....
Actually, was gonna just do the family thing and take my son and hubby to Liverpool to see the firework display, but unfortunately due to predicted gale force wind... (read in full...)
My daughter is dating a man I disapprove of and it driving a wedge between us! Help?
Q. Hi, please help. My daughter is 18 almost 19 years old and dating a really old guy, he's 27 and I disapprove very much. My daughter lives on her own and pays her own bills so she assumes this means that i have no control over her. she's been seein...
A. 30 December 2006: Madam and mother of this 19 year old - you are a control freak. let your grip on your child go. Sort out your own issues, like repairing your own marriage and asking for help with your 'control-freak' tendancies.
Please let your daughter do her ... (read in full...)
My daughter is dating a man I disapprove of and it driving a wedge between us! Help?
Q. Hi, please help. My daughter is 18 almost 19 years old and dating a really old guy, he's 27 and I disapprove very much. My daughter lives on her own and pays her own bills so she assumes this means that i have no control over her. she's been seein...
A. 30 December 2006: Madam and mother of this 19 year old - you are a control freak. let your grip on your child go. Sort out your own issues, like repairing your own marriage and asking for help with your 'control-freak' tendancies.
Please let your daughter do her ... (read in full...)
My daughter is dating a man I disapprove of and it driving a wedge between us! Help?
Q. Hi, please help. My daughter is 18 almost 19 years old and dating a really old guy, he's 27 and I disapprove very much. My daughter lives on her own and pays her own bills so she assumes this means that i have no control over her. she's been seein...
A. 30 December 2006: She loves him, you cannot accept him. It is not her behaviour that is driving the wedge between you, it is yours. She is adult enough to make her own decisons.... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 30 December 2006: We were doing swapsies...I was having her little 'un new years day (football match) and she was having ours new years eve....hey ho!! So she can bugger off if she thinks she is going to the football now.
Friends and babysitters? Who'd have 'em.... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 30 December 2006: Saturday. The day before New Years Eve and our babysitter has cancelled.....
BAH HUMBUG!!... (read in full...)
How many BJ's on average, is average?
Q. How many blow jobs does the average man get per week ? ...
A. 29 December 2006: Without being rude or crude (but very probably being both!) I would get LOCKJAW if I performed this 14 times in one week....
lol
x... (read in full...)
How many BJ's on average, is average?
Q. How many blow jobs does the average man get per week ? ...
A. 28 December 2006: Pete!! YOU WISH!!... (read in full...)
How many BJ's on average, is average?
Q. How many blow jobs does the average man get per week ? ...
A. 28 December 2006: Sorry but I do not know of any statistics that tell us this!... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 22 December 2006: I get sensible-r (!?!) the drunker I get (hic!).
Now I am off to shave the cat and stick the fur on my bald spot....
???
x... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 21 December 2006: How sensible was THAT!!... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 21 December 2006: While we are at it may I wish you a very Happy Christmas and a prosperous and healthy 2007.
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SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 21 December 2006: While we are at it may I wish you a very Happy Christmas and a prosperous and healthy 2007.
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