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Is it possible to go from being gay to straight?

Q.   I'd love to hear from a guy who has turned from being gay to straight. I think that might be happening to me and its driving me absolutely insane. Can it really happen?...

A.   18 August 2007: one of my close friends was a lesbian for about 25 years of her life, she had many female partners and was never intrested in men. oneday she had a messy break up with her girlfriend, the 2months later found a bloke she really liked, and fell in ... (read in full...)

I'm concerned that my 2 year old niece has been abused and therefore masturbates when she goes to bed.

Q.   My niece is 2 years old girl and whenever she goes to bed she puts her hand under her and humps the bed... kind of like mastubation. people always wonder why she does this and im not sure if she is being treated right. she is locked in the room ...

A.   5 August 2007: i totally agree with dr pete and love-him. i am a mother and my oldest is 2 and he touches himself. he doesnt know what sex is, and has never been shown how to or abused. its just a comfort thing. You may notice adults do it aswell, Many men have ... (read in full...)

Booked in to get a tattoo but scared of the pain... will it hurt?

Q.   im getting a tatoo on saturday and i am realy scared,i dont know how much it would hurt me i dont like pain, im getting it on the bottom of my back and i realy want one, i am going to get it because i have booked it now and i am going to keep in my ...

A.   1 August 2007: i have got one on the bottom of my back, had it done when i was 13 and it didnt hurt one bit. to tell the truth i almost fell asleep. They use two different needles (whuch are really little, you can hardle seem them)One to do the outter line with ... (read in full...)

At 12 weeks pregnant, is it okay for my boyfriend to ejaculate inside me?

Q.   we are expecting our first baby, i am 12 weeks pregnant is it safe for my boyfriend to ejaculate inside me, can it harm our baby....

A.   30 July 2007: I had sex all the way through my first 2 pregnancies and still having sex during this one (i'm 5months) Its safe to have sex all the way through your pregnancy up until the point where your waters have broken.unless your doctor advises you against ... (read in full...)

Is it easier the second time round.

Q.   I had a baby 3 1/2 months ago. I had a very tough labor. I was induced, and it didn't work, but the hospital staff refused to break my water until the 2nd day I was there. I had really bad nurses who seemed very inexperienced. I was in labor 40 hrs....

A.   25 July 2007: I know your going to hate me for telling you my experience, So sorry!!! any way my first labour was only 45mins long (yes the hole thing!)on only gas and air! when my son was 6months i fell pregnant again. i didnt think a labour could get any ... (read in full...)

His horoscope said 'an ex is back'! How much validity do you think this has?

Q.   Things have been going beautifully between my b/f and I for the past few months, after much stress over an ex-girlfriend that took him 4 years to get over because he insisted on remaining friends with her, even though she's manipulative, intrusive ...

A.   24 July 2007: I some times get myself worked up about horoscopes, and my husband always tell me to stop being so silly, He says do you really believe that 1 12th of the population will have that same thing that is ment to happen to you, happen to them. I stopped ... (read in full...)

I'm worried about the prejudice over the fact I'm having a baby so young

Q.   well im gemma,recently i posted a request for some advise on this and the people have really helped me loads!!you know who you are so thanks a million!but i have another thing i have been thinking about today,because i think i am pregnant,my ...

A.   15 July 2007: I had my first son at 16, second at 17 and now 18 and expecting my third baby(dont know the sex yet) in december (all 3 with my husband) No one has ever judged me and i dont care if they do. My friends and family all love me, my husband and ... (read in full...)

Does anyone know of any safe but effective slimmming pills?

Q.   does anyone know of any safe but effective slimmming pills? I exercise and am on a diet but nothings really happening and ive seen television adverts but im not to sure which ones to trust. thanks!!...

A.   4 March 2007: im using something called enlite. working really well lost a stone in just under 2 weeks. and my business sells it so i now i can trust it. if you want more information just send me a private message. xx ... (read in full...)

Shouldn't we both take turns getting up with the baby at night? Shouldn't he want to help?

Q.   If two people have a baby shouldn't both parents do work. I get up in the middle of the night with my 9 month old and he never does. I woke him up the smorning to ask him to watch our son and he wouldn't... shouldn't he want to help to? ...

A.   12 February 2007: i have a 21 month old son and a 7 month old son and me and my husband take it in turns every night. when my eldest was born i was the one getting up everynight til one night when my mum was babysitting and we were out having a drink i told i cant do ... (read in full...)

My friend who is only 17 is hell bent on having a child! But I think she's too young. What should I do?

Q.   well this is about my friend, i'm not quite sure what to do. She turned 17 in october. She is in a long term relationship and she recently told me her and her partner had fallen out.They are still together though I asked her why and she said because ...

A.   24 January 2007: i know your only being a mate but i wouldnt get to involved. im 18 and i have to kids (one 21months old other 7months). i love them to peices but its not always easy but i wount go as far as saying its hard anyhoo. my "friend" butted in to much ... (read in full...)

During pregnancy, when should a full figure woman expect to feel her baby?

Q.   Hi, i am 17 weeks pregnant but i am a size 18 in clothes and i dont think i have started to show yet and i dont know when i am suppose to feel the baby coz i am a quite fuller figure woman....

A.   19 January 2007: with my first child i was size 10 and didnt show until i was six months and my second about 3months (he was much bigger than my first son!). so dont worry bought that. and i didnt feel a butterfly likw people call it untill about 3,4,5 months tops. ... (read in full...)

I'm 16 and pregnant! My bf wants to keep the baby, but I don't know if I'm ready.

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have only been together for 4 months and im 16 and pregnet! I dont no if im ready to have a baby but he rele wants one he is 18 and has lived his teen life and mine has just started but i no that i want to be with him but im ...

A.   5 January 2007: hey i was 16 when i fell pregnant with my first child. when i told my ex i was pregnant he didnt take it as well as yours is, he hit me around threatened to kill me then he did a runner and decided to stay with his parents the other side of the ... (read in full...)

Any tips for flirting with older guys (I'm 21, he's 31)?

Q.   Im 21 and a guy that i like is 31. The problem is that he is a manager in one of the departments at my the store that i work at so he's not my manager. But i have been developing feelings for him that i cant explain. Its freaking me out cuz...

A.   22 December 2006: i honestly think you just need to be yourself. if hes gonna like you, its going to be for you and not someone you have made up if you know what i mean. be completly honest and tell the truth. jx (feel the fear and do it anyway.)... (read in full...)

Media images of scantily clad females, what do YOU think?

Q.   The Lynx advert; 'Spray more, get more...' with loads of scantily clad females leaping over rocks and parts of their bodies leaping around too, in which to race towards some rather gormless looking guy with a leery grin on his face. What do you thin...

A.   18 December 2006: i totally agree with you. i think its awful and unfair.... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and this man from Turkey tells me he loves me...on MSN. What should I do?

Q.   Ok, im 13 right? This man from Turkey added me on MSN and we have been speaking for around a month or two, and he tells me he loves me, he is 18, and i know he is because he showed me his ID and he also speaks turkish and lives in Istanbul, Digorlu....

A.   4 December 2006: I went though the same sort of thing on yahoo when i was about 13, 14 but a egyptian man who lived in the same town as me, anyway he lied about his age, started bugging my family starting hanging around outside my school and following me, i had to ... (read in full...)

Having a love affair with my ex teacher! And now..his kids won't speak to him because of me! What can I do?

Q.   Hi, i am writing this because i am having a relationship with my ex teacher. I left school 6 years ago and we have been in a relationship for the past two years. He is the best man i have ever met in my life and i love him to bits. He was married ...

A.   2 December 2006: i just wanna say im so happy for you finding someone who you loves and who loves you back, and who cares he may be older, happiness is the main this. and also i wanna say i totally agree with Martini and totally disagree with male anon who posted ... (read in full...)

I want to have a bf, but being a goth doesn't help as the guys I know , all dislike me! What should I do -any tips?

Q.   Hey need a lil advice from the guys really.... Um.. how can i start.... ive been single for a while now and i would really like a boyfriend but all the guys in my area/town hate/dislike me because i have a bad reputation (a castrator of all thin...

A.   28 November 2006: Im a full on goth and got a man. just be honest and yourself, there will be men out there who will love you for who you are. your just looking in the wrong places. xx ... (read in full...)

I'm a shy guy - so what's the best way I should hit on girls?

Q.   How to hit on girls? I'm shy guy and I don't know what to say to girls. Usually I say ''How're you doing'' and then ''you're beautiful''. Then I don't know how to continue.. What should I say to a girl if I want to hit on her? How do I approac...

A.   28 November 2006: I Agree with anon above. and i have a friend (guy who is my husbands band member) also be totally honest. everyone loves honesty. e.g hi there, im really shy. and im really scared to be talking to someone who is as beautiful as you, so please hellp ... (read in full...)

How do I find out who this phone number belongs to? It was in his phone and it's driving me crazy!

Q.   My husband left me a few weeks ago I thought everything was fine, we are back together now but while we were seperated the mobile phone bill came and I noticed a number so I went though his phone and found it under the name jon so I phoned it and ...

A.   28 November 2006: try phoning it from a phone box. or if you in the uk 141 is so it comes up as unknown. ... (read in full...)

When things are going perfect, he ignores me! He says it's just in my head - thoughts?

Q.   I'm very confused. I totally fell head over heals for this guy and everytime it seems things are going perfect he just all of a sudden ignores me at least for one day and then things are fine again. I think it is weird and I have brought it up more ...

A.   28 November 2006: Its a bit strange. but it is possible he likes you so much he's scared he'll do something wrong. keep at it and the closer you get you will find out if its for real or not. hope this helps? xx... (read in full...)

She's teasing me about my penis

Q.   hi there i am aged 19 and i have had sex for my 1st time just on thursday (23/11/06, but she wasnt a virgin and now shes teasin me about the length of my penis.... i have always have been worried about the size, and now im starting to feel self con...

A.   28 November 2006: Dont listen to the silly cow. and if she carrys it on just return with something like no im big enough your just to lose!!!!! hope this helps (feel the fear and do it anyway) xx... (read in full...)

He says the texts are from a coworker, but I know they're from another woman!

Q.   My husband and I have been together for 8 years, having just married 3 months ago. Recently, he has been sending/receiving several text messages on his phone from some girl on the other side of the country. He claims all the calls are from some new ...

A.   28 November 2006: i think you need to tell him because if you think about it prob he is cheating. for the second time. i think you need to think about weather you to are really happy together. think about your future and possible children that you to will bring into ... (read in full...)

18 and craving for a baby... how can I stop feeling broody?

Q.   Ok help. I'm 18, been in a very solid relationship for 2 years and everythings great. We're moving in together soon and everything. But I'm craving for a baby. I know I'm young and not exactly financially stable and all, but I really want a baby. I ...

A.   26 October 2006: theres nothing wrong with wanting a baby. i always really wanted one when i was little and used to pretend my dolls were real babies.. long story short. i'm 18, dont have much money, a loving husband (we got married in march)a supportive family and ... (read in full...)

He masturbates to porn, that's cheating right? what do I do?

Q.   I've recently discovered that my fiance is not only looking at Internet porn but masterbating to it. I can help but feel this is a form of cheating. It surprises me coming from him because this is very unexpected behavior for him. Do I confront ...

A.   20 July 2006: yes its a form of cheating. he's getting pleasure from other women. i have left all the men i have been with who have looked at porn because i think if they respected you and really loved you they wouldnt do it. my husband, the father of my two ... (read in full...)

Am I too young to get married?

Q.   do you think im too young to get married? i am 19 and me and my boyfriend are thinking of getting married pretty quick but is it the right decision dont get me wrong i love him to pieces but.......

A.   6 June 2006: im 17 and im married to the father of my two children (well one and a bit, my second is due next week) im so happy and i dont believe for one minute i have the wrong descion!!! ... (read in full...)

Ladies... Briefs or boxers?

Q.   DO girls prefer briefs of boxers???...

A.   30 May 2006: boxers!! tight ones though, not the ones that make a man look like hes wearing sports shorts under his trousers. xxx... (read in full...)

How do I ask this (married) guy for his number?

Q.   i work at a place that has a truck come deliever stuff to us once a week. im very attracted to this guy. but i found out that he won't be delivering anymore after next week. i want to ask him for his number but im way to shy and scared of what he ...

A.   28 April 2006: it doesnt matter if he isnt getting on with his wife all that well or if he is. hes married!! The vows he made to her do mean something to the both of them, there important. Every relationship goes through bad patches doesnt mean someone like you ... (read in full...)

How do I ask this (married) guy for his number?

Q.   i work at a place that has a truck come deliever stuff to us once a week. im very attracted to this guy. but i found out that he won't be delivering anymore after next week. i want to ask him for his number but im way to shy and scared of what he ...

A.   27 April 2006: i think it would be a really bad idea to ask him for his number... HES MARRIED. i dont see how you could be ready to destroy his marriage and relationship with his partner when you dont even know him. if he felt the same way he would of asked you ... (read in full...)

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