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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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How many BJ's on average, is average?
Q. How many blow jobs does the average man get per week ? ...
A. 1 January 2007: Sickos!!
funny tho....... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 31 December 2006: What's strongbad when it is at home?... (read in full...)
If I leave my family it will cause hurt...will I regret not being with my soul mate?
Q. Sometimes we find what we are not looking for. My husband and I were in an alternative lifestyle, we were swingers. Well, we have been married for 17 years and had been doing that for 15 of those years. It has always ALWAYS been just fun on the ...
A. 31 December 2006: So to clarify, you have lived an alternative lifestryle with your husband for 15 years. Then you overstepped the boundaries of conventional society and had an 'experience' with your best friend and her husband. NOW, this guy who was 'only her ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 31 December 2006: Oh bugger old chap it appears to have gone orf!!!... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 30 December 2006: I am sulking.....and will be welcoming in the New Year in aforesaid frame of mind....
Actually, was gonna just do the family thing and take my son and hubby to Liverpool to see the firework display, but unfortunately due to predicted gale force wind... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I am overly obsessed with our young son...I'm beginning to wonder if he's right. Any advice?
Q. Nine years ago, I met my future-husband at the hospital where I worked, he was visiting his sister, who had just given birth. We fell in love almost instantly, and were married after a year of passionate love. We started trying immediately for a ...
A. 30 December 2006: Malyce - have sent you a PM, don't think this is the time nor the place.
x... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 30 December 2006: We were doing swapsies...I was having her little 'un new years day (football match) and she was having ours new years eve....hey ho!! So she can bugger off if she thinks she is going to the football now.
Friends and babysitters? Who'd have 'em.... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I am overly obsessed with our young son...I'm beginning to wonder if he's right. Any advice?
Q. Nine years ago, I met my future-husband at the hospital where I worked, he was visiting his sister, who had just given birth. We fell in love almost instantly, and were married after a year of passionate love. We started trying immediately for a ...
A. 30 December 2006: Malcye...are you a clinical psychologist? What exactly are the signs you believe are showing her 'obsession'. She doe not think she is obsessive, her husband does. Please, you have given advice that is blatantly going to create a sense of ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 30 December 2006: Saturday. The day before New Years Eve and our babysitter has cancelled.....
BAH HUMBUG!!... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I am overly obsessed with our young son...I'm beginning to wonder if he's right. Any advice?
Q. Nine years ago, I met my future-husband at the hospital where I worked, he was visiting his sister, who had just given birth. We fell in love almost instantly, and were married after a year of passionate love. We started trying immediately for a ...
A. 30 December 2006: For goodness sake!! Her son is three months old, he hasn't been out of her body for even the amount of time that he was created inside it.
This anxiety is completely normal. Your not wanting to go back to work yet is completely normal. Give you... (read in full...)
How many BJ's on average, is average?
Q. How many blow jobs does the average man get per week ? ...
A. 29 December 2006: Without being rude or crude (but very probably being both!) I would get LOCKJAW if I performed this 14 times in one week....
lol
x... (read in full...)
How many BJ's on average, is average?
Q. How many blow jobs does the average man get per week ? ...
A. 28 December 2006: Pete!! YOU WISH!!... (read in full...)
Did he cheat with the welder?
Q. My man has a girl welder helper and they were going on a trip for work. I got back some pictures and her arm was around him in one and in the other his arm was around her. also, pictures of her in her bikini.I had a feeling that she and feelings for ...
A. 28 December 2006: One answer I would like to give to the answerer below....my husband has taken a holiday with a non-relation/GF type person of the oposite sex on more than one occasion. It is called WORK!!... (read in full...)
Did he cheat with the welder?
Q. My man has a girl welder helper and they were going on a trip for work. I got back some pictures and her arm was around him in one and in the other his arm was around her. also, pictures of her in her bikini.I had a feeling that she and feelings for ...
A. 28 December 2006: One answer I would like to give to the answerer below....my husband has taken a holiday with a non-relation/GF type person of the oposite sex on more than one occasion. It is called WORK!!... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I am overly obsessed with our young son...I'm beginning to wonder if he's right. Any advice?
Q. Nine years ago, I met my future-husband at the hospital where I worked, he was visiting his sister, who had just given birth. We fell in love almost instantly, and were married after a year of passionate love. We started trying immediately for a ...
A. 28 December 2006: I have to answer this as honestly as I can. I DO NOT think you are of abnormal mind. I think you are totally besotted with your child having tried very very hard to have him with tragedy in the form of miscarraige along the way.
Yes, some of your... (read in full...)
How many BJ's on average, is average?
Q. How many blow jobs does the average man get per week ? ...
A. 28 December 2006: Sorry but I do not know of any statistics that tell us this!... (read in full...)
If I leave my family it will cause hurt...will I regret not being with my soul mate?
Q. Sometimes we find what we are not looking for. My husband and I were in an alternative lifestyle, we were swingers. Well, we have been married for 17 years and had been doing that for 15 of those years. It has always ALWAYS been just fun on the ...
A. 28 December 2006: I admire anyone who can stand up to have their own opinions counted, but not when they disparage others for having thiers. Please can we offer advice on this forum, not nastiness. Ok, I have been sarcastic at times, but just because the question ... (read in full...)
I am finding I have feelings for another man and I'm worried I will mess up my marriage. Help!
Q. Hi, i am married for just a few months now, my husband is such a wonderful guy, very good to me, the thing is, I have feelings towards another guy, nothing at all has happened. I really don't understand why ... i honestly don't want to be feeling ...
A. 28 December 2006: This is noraml for some people to feel when they sign that 'bit of paper'. You feel trapped and 'wrong' in your marraige so you project these feelings onto your husband...ie:if you feel like this then it stands to reason HE MUST as well....
It is o... (read in full...)
Is it still wrong to feel used?
Q. is it wrong 2 feel used if you give a blow job and then they leave..?..i duno if it that they got what they want now they can leave.or that they really do need to leave..but is it still wrong 2 feel used?!...
A. 28 December 2006: If he wanted to see you he would MAKE time. In my opinion yes, you are being used as a bit of a sexual plaything, a handy blowjob as and when he feels like it. Especially if he is not giving in any of the other normal areas of a realtionship.
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She said she was 18 and I found out she's 15! Can I get in hot water for having a relationship with her?
Q. Hi there, I'm 19 and I have been with my girlfriend for almost 9 months, and we are very happy together. There is a few problems though. She is almost 15, I did not realize this at the time, as she said she was 18, and by looking at her she could ...
A. 28 December 2006: Well look at it this way. She lied at the beginning, then as time went on she found she was trapped in the lie. Have you never told a white lie for it to come back and bite ya on the ass? I suggest that if you love her and can accept this then ... (read in full...)
This is the 2nd xmas in a row-I have slept with my married boss. But it gets worse-I think I'm pregnant! What can I do?
Q. Hi there... okies i think ive been really stupid. Last xmas i slept with my boss whose married and we didnt speak properly for ages afterwards, on my part i was embarrassed and wasnt sure what he was thinking but on his part i thought he regre...
A. 28 December 2006: Well I have to ask this? You slept with him THIS Christmas and you already think you are pregnant? I just get the feeling this is a bit of a fantasy and this is not a real post........ (read in full...)
Do some people become 'bi' or gay, later in life?
Q. i am a 47 yr old bi male, the attraction towards other men started around 30 and i explored those feelings. i know females think differently than men, my question is does the same thing happen to females, do some become bi or gay later in life....
A. 27 December 2006: Yeah, I believe so. As we mature I think we very often become much more open minded and mature in attitude towards sex and sexuality. Things we may not have accepted in our teens become a little more routine and acceptable. We start to accept ... (read in full...)
He said we would be together forever. What should I do?
Q. hey my name is whitney and im 13 and my b/f Evan is 14 and moved to phili and he hasnt talked to me for 1 1/2 days and he said he would call me like everyday and he said we will be together 4 ever and im so sad cuz when i dont talk to him i get sad ...
A. 27 December 2006: This must feel like the end of the world to you, BUT (and this is not meant to patronise) it really isn't. Allow yourself to keep up this freindship, even if it whittles down to once or twice a month letters or emails. Allow yourself to grow and ... (read in full...)
Do I tell the kid's the 'real truth' about why their Dad and I split up?
Q. Hi, my husband and I have recently split over his porn use.I dont want to have a debate here as I have seen a lot on this site of really good discussion...I am dead against porn and wont be changing my mind but my question is..should I tell my ...
A. 27 December 2006: Why tell them? YOUR realtionship issues do not need to be discussed with your children PERIOD. Don't do anyhting to harm their relationship with their Dad. If you do you will harm your own relationship with your children......tehy will judge you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is being abused by his parents!
Q. My boyfriend is getting seriously abused by his parents, physically and mentally. He's even been beaten up while we were talk on the phone, and has even called off dates after literally being in no condition to do anything but rest. I want to call ...
A. 27 December 2006: If this is something you believe to be happening then I suggest you talk to an adult you trust about it and accept their guidance. Chances are you will lose your BF 'cos he will find out. But tehn which is worse him being beaten to a pulp or ... (read in full...)
There's a sleepover soon, with alcohol. Should we do the nasty?
Q. I'm 15 and i really love this guy. Should i sleep with him? I know he feels the same way. There is a sleepover soon with alcohol and i dont know if things will just happen without me really thinking about it so i want to make my mind up before i go....
A. 27 December 2006: The very fact you have to ask that question on here would indicate that yes, you are to young to be considering this. When alcohol is involved you really should not be looking at having a sexual experience.
Why?
Why do you need to do somethin... (read in full...)
I had sex and now feel uncmfortable that I may have been too young to do it. Is this normal?
Q. i am a teenager and i have had sex and am not regreting it but now i just feel uncomfortable a little and as though i may be too young to have done it. i now cant stop thinking about him either. is this normal?...
A. 27 December 2006: Maybe it wasn't quite the right time for you to be experimenting. Don't be quite as eager next time, slow down, just in case you feel like this again.
Actually I am not sure if you mean emotionally uncomfortable or physically uncomfortable?... (read in full...)
He wants me to get bigger boobs and blonde hair and tells me if I get fat, he will leave! What should I do?
Q. Hi my boyfriend of 5 yrs wants me to get plastic surgery for my breasts and wants me to bleach my hair. I was always happy with my breast but he says they should be bigger and higher...he also wants me to become a blonde.....which I dont think would ...
A. 25 December 2006: Ah!! Now it's my turn is it. Have the balls to admit which agony aunt you are! It is disapointing to realise that some people do not have the courage of their convictions!!
Porn (as long as it is not EXPLOITATIVE) is a personal taste and also... (read in full...)
Does masturbating make you sterile when you're older?
Q. If you masturbate a lot when your a teenager, does it make you sterile whe your older(i.e. you can't have kids)?...
A. 24 December 2006: NO.... (read in full...)
I'm reluctant to have sex with my girlfriend because I think my penis doesn't measure up!
Q. I am 17, am dating a girl, I haven’t yet had sex, but the time is getting closer where it will happen, and I want it to, but I am very self conscious about the size of my manhood. I hear of the average size being 6.5 inches, but after measuring mine ...
A. 24 December 2006: Sorry to be negative but size DOES matter. But also what you do with it. To the feamle anon, do not presume to answer for all 'females' about what or how we feel, and if you do, quit hiding behind an anon stance.
You GF is not going to noti... (read in full...)
We had sex..no condom-now my period is 3 days late! Am I pregnant?
Q. Well my and my boyfriend had sex without a condom but he didnt ejaculate or anything but my period was suppose to start 3 to 4 days ago! Could be pregnant or am i over reacting? Please Answer As Soon As Possible!...
A. 24 December 2006: In answer to your question YES!
You have had unprotected sex you could be pregnant.
Go do a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
I was going to date her but my feelings have changed. How do I tell her this?
Q. I just want a girl to know that i was gonna ask her for relationship although the feelings are no more now..!!! Anybody could suggest something?...
A. 24 December 2006: Walk away. Why stress about it?... (read in full...)
He wants me to get bigger boobs and blonde hair and tells me if I get fat, he will leave! What should I do?
Q. Hi my boyfriend of 5 yrs wants me to get plastic surgery for my breasts and wants me to bleach my hair. I was always happy with my breast but he says they should be bigger and higher...he also wants me to become a blonde.....which I dont think would ...
A. 24 December 2006: Martini is right, this is no place for yet another porn debate. To tell you the truth I am sick of it. Porn seems to be a HUGE topic on here and many women and men wish to debate it. Take it too the forums PLEASE!... (read in full...)
My duaghter is being raised in another country by my parenst. She 14 and I worry about her now that she has a bf!
Q. i have a daughter left in my country she is now 14 years old,i was away from her for a very long time since she was a little baby and the reason is i have to work abroad to support what she needs since her father left us for a new woman. shes now ...
A. 23 December 2006: I am unsure what advice to give you sweetheart. I have a colleague who works here and her three children remain in the Phillipeans (is that spelt correctly?) Back home she has qualifications coming out of her ears, here she works for minimum wage ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 22 December 2006: I get sensible-r (!?!) the drunker I get (hic!).
Now I am off to shave the cat and stick the fur on my bald spot....
???
x... (read in full...)
He only went 'half' in - does that mean I'm still a virgin?
Q. Yesterday me and my boyfriend of one year and 4 months have kinda had semi sex. But I'm not sure if I'm still a virgin. He didnt go all the way in, just a bit, so he didnt break my virginity. I bled a little, but I'm pretty sure he didn't break it. ...
A. 21 December 2006: Pretty much, you have had a penis in your vagina. Makes you a non-virgin.... (read in full...)
He only went 'half' in - does that mean I'm still a virgin?
Q. Yesterday me and my boyfriend of one year and 4 months have kinda had semi sex. But I'm not sure if I'm still a virgin. He didnt go all the way in, just a bit, so he didnt break my virginity. I bled a little, but I'm pretty sure he didn't break it. ...
A. 21 December 2006: Pretty much, you have had a penis in your vagina. Makes you a non-virgin.... (read in full...)
Finding it hard to meet new moms my own age - 15... any tips?
Q. im a 15 year old who gave birth 9 weeks ago to my lovely little girl but find it hard meeting new mums my age any suggestions?...
A. 21 December 2006: I suggest talking to your health visitor. I am sure he/she will be able to give you some guidance.
x... (read in full...)
Can a Teenage guy get an erection just from hugging a girl ?
Q. hi. could teenage boys get an erection even from a girl hugging them? ...
A. 21 December 2006: lol eyeswideopen!... (read in full...)
He always 'conveniently' forgets to introduce me to friends, etc. What should I do?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a couple of years now. Most of our relationship is okay but one thing that bugs me is when we go out together, and we bump into women or other friends he knew form his single days he conveniently "forgets" to introduce ...
A. 21 December 2006: Can I just do something which MAY be in his defence. BUt is also my EXCUSE!!
I CANNOT remember names, I am perfectly dreadful at it!! But I also confide in my friends of this fact. So when I appear ignorant and clumsy at social introductions and ... (read in full...)
First time pregnancy and I am wondering about stomach firmness...any help?
Q. I am pregnant with my first child and I have a question. My stomach has started to firm at 4 months, but when I sit down it not as firm as when I stand up. Is this normal?? Please help...
A. 21 December 2006: Things in there are stretching and getting bigger. You think it is firm now....just wait til 8 - 9 months. All the very best and I wish you a healthy pregnancy and birth.... (read in full...)
First time pregnancy and I am wondering about stomach firmness...any help?
Q. I am pregnant with my first child and I have a question. My stomach has started to firm at 4 months, but when I sit down it not as firm as when I stand up. Is this normal?? Please help...
A. 21 December 2006: Things in there are stratching and getting bigger. You think it is firm now....just wait til 8 - 9 months. All the very best and I wish you a healthy pregnancy and birth.... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 21 December 2006: How sensible was THAT!!... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 21 December 2006: While we are at it may I wish you a very Happy Christmas and a prosperous and healthy 2007.
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SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 21 December 2006: While we are at it may I wish you a very Happy Christmas and a prosperous and healthy 2007.
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I'm ready to call our new marriage quits because he masterbates...
Q. How can I deal with husband masterbating instead of being with me? I am young and attractive, I have a very high sex drive and my huband who is 12 years older than me doesn't. I've caught him materbating numerious times and it disgusts me because of ...
A. 21 December 2006: Another set up. Why would being raped and being sexually abused as a child make you hate his masturbating (the correct spelling whilst we are at it :-)?)
Why should he stop something perfectly natural. If you are real and this is a real prob... (read in full...)
I am thinking about doing kinky photoshoots with my sister. What do you think?
Q. I know this'll sound really weird but here goes....my older sister works as an escort/adult model and,as i'm an amateur photographer,i've done some promo shots for her recently.no nudity or anything,just poses and some bondage stuff.i've got a real ...
A. 21 December 2006: To be honest I think this question is just another one of those set-ups we get on here from time to time.... (read in full...)
I am looking to marry before my baby is born. How can I organise this cheaply, but stylish?
Q. OK, dear cupid's I need some help, advice.... anything which my help!! me and my partner are expecting our first child in July! We are very excited about this. But we really want to be married before the baby is born! So we have set a date! 24th ...
A. 21 December 2006: Do things like they do it in Europe, have a Friday evening wedding then you don't have to do all that wedding breakfast malarkey! You can book your ceremony for later on four ish or five then go and have a big party somewhere (obviously depending ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of my spots? I can't get the girls anymore.
Q. Hi. about 5-6 months ago i had no spots what so ever and i could get pretty much any girl i wanted. but now i have abserloutly tons of spots and i can't get no girls no more. what can i do to get rid of spots or get a good lookcing girlfriend again ...
A. 21 December 2006: Try a trip to you GP. If you have acne then there are many many treatments that you can try. Mine cleared up with a long term course of antibiotics, but there are some topical treatments that work for other people. Your doctor is your first port ... (read in full...)
Hes going to be away for 3 months, will things be the same when he gets back ??
Q. My boo is away for 3 months, we've known each other for 3 yrs,we talk on the phone daily,will our relationship be the same when he gets back?...
A. 21 December 2006: Probably, but how long is a piece of string? You cannot be certain! But the indicators of him in constant contact and missing you bode well.
Good luck hon.
xx... (read in full...)
Can a Teenage guy get an erection just from hugging a girl ?
Q. hi. could teenage boys get an erection even from a girl hugging them? ...
A. 21 December 2006: Yes, frequently! I have five brothers and every one of them has said the little blighter gets a life of it's own when most males hit adolescence. Usually they get very embarrassed when it raises it's (excuse the pun) head when univited!!... (read in full...)
Disatisfied with life. (long but worth it)
Q. I am so confused about my marriage and lost dream, I can't focus on anything else! But, to warn you, I have cheated, my husband knows and he calls me a "classic bored housewife", even though I a very-well educated and have tried to resume studies ...
A. 21 December 2006: I understand that you have OCD? OCD can have periods where the obsessions and compulsions become worse, this can lead to what the uniniatiated can confuse with 'manic' symptoms. I have done quite a bit of study into OCD during my course, although ... (read in full...)
Is abortion right or wrong?
Q. abortion? wot does everyone think? right or wrong? i would love to know your opinions x x x...
A. 20 December 2006: Stina....no!! Not you as well!!... (read in full...)
Is abortion right or wrong?
Q. abortion? wot does everyone think? right or wrong? i would love to know your opinions x x x...
A. 20 December 2006: Martini, you are obsessed with Sushi!!... (read in full...)
Is abortion right or wrong?
Q. abortion? wot does everyone think? right or wrong? i would love to know your opinions x x x...
A. 20 December 2006: What is the difference between a clump of cells and a fetus? The ability to live and breathe for themselves. Now, please this will all at some point get out of hand. This topic is a personal one that each individual makes under (many times) ... (read in full...)
I was going to date her but my feelings have changed. How do I tell her this?
Q. I just want a girl to know that i was gonna ask her for relationship although the feelings are no more now..!!! Anybody could suggest something?...
A. 17 December 2006: Why?... (read in full...)
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