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If it's true he hates me (as he tells other people) why does he get with me when drunk?

Q.   Theres this guy I like, I've liked him for over 2 years now. At one point about a year and a half ago he was interested for a few months, but nothing ever happened coz my mate liked him too, at this point I was 14 and he was 16. Now I'm 16 and he's ...

A.   16 September 2007: ask yourself, do you really want to be with a drunkard for the rest of your life, just to be appreciated by him? i dont think so. think carefully again, there is so many people out there, how can you be so sure?... (read in full...)

Why do I always talk to my parents about my girlfriend?

Q.   For some reason after everytime I see my girlfriend when I return home I have to let off steam and talk to parents about her. The thing is most of the stuff I say is not neccesary but other things are. I think I have gotten into habbit but there are ...

A.   21 May 2007: are you upset about telling your parents without stoppng yourself or are you upset about your girlfriend? i dont understand your question sorry.... (read in full...)

I had unprotected sex in a pool. Is there a chance she might be pregnant?

Q.   This evening I was engaged in unprotected sex in a pool. I did not ejaculate at all, but I had done so erlier that afternoon. I showered after I ejaculated that afternoon, but I did not pee. Could any of my precum have actual sperm becuase I didnt ...

A.   21 May 2007: Yes, i agree as well. whenever unprotected, you have a risk of becoming pregnant.... (read in full...)

She's a fantastic woman..but I just can't get into loving her in a physical way! What is wrong?

Q.   I have recently met a fantastic woman who ticks every box that I could possibly think of. She is loving, not at all clingy, makes me laugh, is considerate, loved by all my friends (already), and is someone who I feel that I can open up to about ...

A.   5 May 2007: hm. from what you said, i think you like her, but more of as a friend ya? there are some cases like these, rest assured. tell her how you feel, dont be afraid, she may feel the same. good luck.... (read in full...)

She smiled then looked at me again and again. Could she like me or fancy me?

Q.   The other day caught this girl looking at me several times. She smiled then looked at me again and again. Could she like me or fancy me? I'm unsure of what these signs were. ...

A.   5 May 2007: smile back!! argh. haha. probably too late. anyways, she could be smiling for alot of different reasons. if you are seeing her again, see whether she smiles at you again. wait, i just re-read your question... this girl, just a random one? like... (read in full...)

I am not his priority..his band and his friends are...what should I do?

Q.   Dear Cupid, i am really sad and brokenhearted by the fact that my boyfriend, the love of my life doesn't have time for me. He always promise me to visit me and he keeps me waiting in vain.. I know he's not cheating with me yet i know that i a...

A.   5 May 2007: hey, keep holding on. this is coming from a guy's point of view, not many guys can put their girlfriends first in front of their main interests like soccer, or jamming, or anything else. i cant say much, because ive never been in a relation... (read in full...)

Should I lose my virginity to him?

Q.   I'm 16 and all my mates have lost their virginity to their long term boyfriends. I have been going out with my boyfriend for just over three years. I love and i know that he loves me back. We haven't gone any further than kissing. Should i lose my ...

A.   5 May 2007: hello, in my view, id say no. yes, i know you love him, and you see your peers losing your virginity at such a young age and you want to as well, but think ahead girl. what if you break up 1 month later? i can assure you, alot of regret follow... (read in full...)

Our sex life was red hot but now she's introduced all these "sex rules"!

Q.   hi...ive been married now for about a year and a half and before my wife and i were married our sex life was hot and exciting. but now that we are married things have cooled off and she has started with all these rules. like no sex after 10pm and ...

A.   5 May 2007: hello canada guy, maybe she's been busy and tired? anyway, not everything is about sex.. so no sex after 10..do it earlier? or in the afternoons? or just at weekends. good luck.... (read in full...)

My bf is asking me about this other woman at my work.

Q.   My BF was asking me alot of questions about a woman I work with (who is divorced and attractive). I was just wondering why this was because he claims that he doesn't think much of her although he doesn't know her well. He was asking what she ...

A.   5 May 2007: sorry to ask, but are you bi? and i think your boyfriend is pretty stupid to ask these questions straight up to you.. :( if he goes overboard and starts bombarding you with really personal questions about this collegue, i think he really likes ... (read in full...)

I just wondered the feelings someone goes through when they have cheated on there partners and if this kind of relationship ever last?

Q.   My partner split up after 17 years together. She moved on within a week of the split. I didn't get any closure and I suspect some form of cheating. I just wondered the feelings someone goes through when they have cheated on there partners and if ...

A.   5 May 2007: im very sorry to hear that. if it was a lasting relationship, most probably yes. a human's brain dosent exactly forget things. lets say, its stored in a subconcious. you won't notice it. example is like a computer. you have deleted a few files, b... (read in full...)

Recently I heard that an old teacher of mine has cancer and wants to keep it secret. He lives a long way away from me. Last night, late, I received what appears to be a farewell email from this teacher. He has not mailed me in 3 years! I replied imme

Q.   Hi all, I have posted here before and need your help again. An old acquaintance of mine has cancer, I'm not supposed to know, but I do. Years ago, when I was married, I was involved in a sports club, and went on not just to local levels but also to ...

A.   5 May 2007: farewell letter? as in, his last message he writes for his life? im very sorry to say, but i think it is probably too late. if it helps, visit him if he is still there, but if he isnt, attend his funeral and such. then again, if you cant find... (read in full...)

As a guy, all i would need is reassurance from the girl that she understand it is going to be painful for her, but she wants to do it with me and trusts me for that. Haven't really been able to find such a girl yet and all the pressure mounts on to m

Q.   I read a question earlier about the nervousness of the girl over the pain she has to face when losing virginity. Sometimes, it gets so nervous that she would constrict herself so that nothing can enter inside her. Now this are the reflexes of a ...

A.   5 May 2007: if a girl is scared to lose her virginity, you can be sure she won't get married any time soon. to me, if you arent going to lose your virginity to have children its really a shame. people are built in such a way that they are MEANT to ... (read in full...)

Im in love with my friend and dont know what to do!!

Q.   I have fallen in love with my friend, and things have been gettting really difficult for me. He doesnt know how i feel at all. I sometimes think he has feelings for me to coz of the way he is with me (we have a close friendship). We dont have any ...

A.   23 March 2007: hmm, jinx? maybe, maybe not. it happens to me most of the time as well. you dont exactly have to "arrange" to meet. if you know where he is, why not give him a suprise visit? even if its 15 minutes or less, you are still MEETING with him arent you? ... (read in full...)

She assures me she loves me, but Im not sure how to act as she keeps feeling suffocated!

Q.   Hmmm. I'm a little confused here. So around January, the most amazing 6 or 7 months that I've had w/ anyone. My girlfriend broke up w/ me almost w/o a warning. No fight, no bad feelings, nothing. She freaked out on the phone and after crying hys...

A.   23 March 2007: heya, maybe she seems to feel insecure abot herself because of the past. dont act differently around her, be yourself, what i think is that she is afraid that you are not the guy that you really are, so in my opinion, be true to her yea. good luck ... (read in full...)

I want to put ON some weight! Anyone any suggestions?

Q.   hi just after some advise on diets i don't want to lose weight i want to gain it im 18 run and out eat any fatty and have hovered around the same weight for about 2 years i am 6.2 foot and weigh 9.4 stone i just want to get up to about 10 maybe a ...

A.   24 February 2007: do you want muscles or just plain growth? for muscles.. eat..meat..meat..fibres and vegs/fruits every other day. as for grwoth..i *think* its fibres.. not too sure. you could try eating more than you usually do.... (read in full...)

Please can anyone give me some good flirting advice?

Q.   even if i flirt with guys, they dont seem to ask me out. and all my friends can. i dont seem to have anything wrong with me so whats the problem? please give me some good flirting advice!!...

A.   22 February 2007: just be yourself in front of guys, its not worth lying or behaving differently from what you really are. also, it dosent mean flirting will get you your partner straight away, it takes time.. so be patient :)... (read in full...)

I have a bf but I really like my male housemate! What should I do?

Q.   dear cupid, i have a boyfriend and i am at university. however i have recently become attracted to my housemate George, when we're out we dance together and he makes me laugh, i get on with him like i used to do with my boyfriend. others in my house ...

A.   18 February 2007: youre not being loyal to your boyfriend now are you? did you stop to think what would happen to your boyfriend then? take these things into mind first.... (read in full...)

For some reason I seem to still be a virgin. Is there something wrong with me?

Q.   I'm 23 years old, soon to be 24. I have just finished university. I don't think Im THAT bad looking, but for some reason I seem to still be a virgin. I know that I"m supposed to wait for the right person and all this, but I fear that there is no ...

A.   18 February 2007: yup doc is right. enjoy life, take things slowly and enjoy life. your missus right will come when it is right :) ... (read in full...)

It hurts like being stabbed when I orgasm... !

Q.   For about 3 or 4 years, when I have an orgasm, its extremely painful and I don't know why. I've talked to my gynecologist but she says nothing is wrong with me. This still bothers me because I want to be able to understand why I have this pain. ...

A.   18 February 2007: hmm. what about a doctor then? then again, were your orgasms like that when you were younger?... (read in full...)

My girlfriend stopped liking sex, out of the blue!

Q.   ok heres my problem.. about a year or so ago my girlfriend just stopped liking sex out of nowhere, and not just intercourse either, at the same time she stopped liking giving and/or receiving oral sex and weve talked about it and neither of us know ...

A.   18 February 2007: first things first, is she having any from of stress, sickness or the like? very unusual in my opinion. maybe you could take her to a psychologist or something. good luck... (read in full...)

Is this true love?

Q.   hey guys I have an important question. I love this guy named Josh Thompson we have been boyfriend and girlfriend since 7th grade now we are in 8th grade and we are still togther he says he loves me and i love him is this true love? i'll take any ...

A.   16 February 2007: as what doc said you never know. relationships can start and end at anytime, anywhere. what i suggest is you enjoy your time with him , and together, see what happens in the future. good luck... (read in full...)

He has lost trust in me because of my past. How can I make her see I would never cheat on her?

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 months and she just broke up with me because I lied to her about my past. I had told her that I cheated on my gf that I had in high school(4 years ago) but left out until now that I cheated twice and I ...

A.   16 February 2007: you cannot hide the truth forever you know. might as well tell her everything now, than let wounds heal then open up again. tell the truth now, the truth sets you free. whether or not she believes you or not, you will feel lighter. its up to you ... (read in full...)

I think I am losing her big time! Does anyone have any ideas how I can prove I love and want to be with her?

Q.   Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for just over a year, i am 20 nearing 21 and she is 25 nearing 26. We met on a work night out and we wheve been in love ever since. From the start she has always asked about my ex girlfriends, what i did ...

A.   16 February 2007: sorry to say this, but you cant really do anything now coz she already has her mindset that way. did you REALLY tell the truth? the whole truth? maybe you left a few points out.. remember, true relationships rely on trust, and if you dont have that, ... (read in full...)

How do I get him back or do something to get over him?

Q.   Me and my ex boyfriend have been dating off and on for about a year and a half a total of eight times, this last time, he broke up with me and now he is dating another girl who he seems to like alot and it kills me to see them together, But all i ...

A.   16 February 2007: your ex dosent seem like a really good boyfriend to me. he sounds like someone who goes to another girl, and goes with another, and another, and another. you should break up with him, and dont accept if he asks you to be together again, its not ... (read in full...)

I get really nervous and self conscious around girls, any advice agony uncles?

Q.   help me. every time i get close to girls and make good conversation to them, and i know they like me, although im not sure as a friend or more, i get stuck. i start getting really nervous around them, well not in class talking and all, but like ...

A.   16 February 2007: well i had this problem a year ago.. i finally learned how to conrol that emotion. dont get it into your head that girls "like" you whether for a friend or more, as that will change your perspective of them totally. think in your mind as the same ... (read in full...)

Me and my ex are friends with benefits... And now my forthright text made him uncomfortable!

Q.   Me and my ex are friends wit benefits. Niether of us dont want a relationship or are messin with no one else. Well earlier 2day i txt him sayin i wanted his body and that i was horny and wanted to gave him head and i asked him if i could. Well he ...

A.   15 January 2007: erm..you mentioned "take this", well what this this refer to? a relationship with him(gf/bf) or a sexual one?... (read in full...)

His mum hates me. Is it because of religion?

Q.   ok this is an odd one to ask but i would like some help as im a little lost as to what i can do or say to help im very upset at mo i found a friend had died this morning and i have another problem thats weighing heavy on my mind.. , my bf loves me ...

A.   9 January 2007: religion tends to be a firestarter in young relationships, as of now youre experiencing. however, it might not be religion that is playing havoc, it could be other things, maybe his mum didnt expect a gal like you, as she had imagined her son with. ... (read in full...)

Nearly a year since we broke up... do I try to win her back? How?

Q.   It has been nearly a year since my girlfriend of ten years broke up with me and it is still beating me up. We had dated through college and were engaged to be married once. Up until the break up, she was the one. She was the only girl I had ever ...

A.   3 January 2007: well. getting her back..totally depends on you.. and whether shes ready to as well. maybe she fell for another guy? or lost intrest? you gotta know the factors before doing anything else yea. alright, if you do..that part im really not sure.. its ... (read in full...)

He believes in "mates before dates"...

Q.   Im 16 but pretty mature for my age and i have had boyfriends a few years older than me and so i have been treated good. At the moment im going out with some1 and hes 18.. hes a real 'bloke' sort of guy and he has lots of friends. he has told me ...

A.   3 January 2007: maybe he just isnt ready for a serious relationship..think about it..are you just going to live life having boyfriends and not serious partners? if so then in this situation its fine.. but if you want a serious one.. he aint for ya.. both of you ... (read in full...)

My friend is cheating on her boy with her ex... and getting us involved in her lies!

Q.   My friend is cheating on her b.f. with her ex. She's been telling everyone (including me) a whole bunch of lies just to keep both the guys. She's used mine and another female friend's names everywhere to cover her a**. Now her b.f. thinks badly ...

A.   3 January 2007: yes, tell it to her, but not the bf. if this persists just refuse to talk to her. let her solve her matters by herself.... (read in full...)

Girlfriend thinks i'm a emotionally needy pansy boy!

Q.   Please help me ladies on this! If my girlfriend thinks I'm a pansy boy, emotionally needy etc..and I wasn't that way initially, how do I show her that i'm not that type of guy (i'm REALLY not) i've just had some trying times as of late, and I've o...

A.   24 December 2006: hmm..what you say now is merely because of the problems you just had right? you have to get over them first, you'll find yourself getting back in no time. as for the woman..it depends. some get bored of the regular average kind..so yup.... (read in full...)

I can't get over my girlfriends kissing past!

Q.   Things my girlfriend did in her past are really bothering me. We have been together for 3 months and though we are quite different in many aspects we get along great. Every now and then she tells me about things she has done with guys that bother me ...

A.   24 December 2006: well its behind you two now, she's changed i think :) merry xmas!... (read in full...)

Our relationship is getting violent and I feel it's her fault for making it violent. What should I do?

Q.   hey this is regarding my last message and well i can remember what i exactly said and yea, well she has already cheated on me twice and were constantly argueing, and our relationship is getting violent, i feel its her fault for making it violent, ...

A.   14 December 2006: sorry man, but...im seeing this relationship going down already... there is not supposed to be hitting at all(even if you did hit her), she did cheat on you, not once, but twice. geroff the relationship, pronto. please. no offense, but its pretty ... (read in full...)

I have fallen for my internet guy and I am jealous of his friendship with other girls. What do I do?

Q.   I'm friends with this guy over the net and kinda has fallen for him by accident and I'm jealous of his friendship with this other girl he talks to, I really don't want to be jealous and just ignore the feelings I have for him. Plus I'm quite ...

A.   12 December 2006: er...how DO you fall in love over the internet...its not healthy being jealous of someone you dont know, better yet dont exist. that guy you're talking to might be making it up.. for one, you dont know how he looks like right? and two, do you REALLY ... (read in full...)

Why was he afraid to hug me?

Q.   ok my ex and i break up a few wks ago. We remain friends for now. Well he got into a fight with his ex bestfriend/roommate. Of course me being the kind of the caring wonderful person that i am went to comfort my ex. Well trying to comfort hi...

A.   12 December 2006: well, he was afraid to hug you because he could have felt a little weird being close to you(ex). well, he does enjoy the feeling again, especially after a fight with his recent gf.. thats probably why he hug you tighter. well, all i can say is, if y... (read in full...)

My relationship seems totally one-sided. What can I do?

Q.   I am 19 (turning 20 in 2months) and I have been in a relationship with this guy for 2yrs now. He was the first guy I had a sexual relationship with and I really love him. But for the past 6 months all we've been doing is arguing, well i'm usually...

A.   12 December 2006: hello, what i suggest is that you try to see your boyfriend's perspective of the relationship. take note of his behavious more than usual. he's not exactly ignoring you completely, but he's not with you most of the time as well?... (read in full...)

I choke the chicken over my friend's younger sister!

Q.   I'm 19 and I was round at my friends house who's the same age as me for the first time and I met her sister there. The problem is that she is 14 (in year 10) and I find her attractive. I've ended up thinking about her when I'm masturbating! But, ...

A.   30 November 2006: hello, i wouldnt say you are falling for your friends sister, more of fantasazing the way she looks..there is no connection between you and her. the only thing i can see from what you have written is that you mainly fantasize about her, nothing more ... (read in full...)

What should I say to my ex (23 years ago!) who wants me back?

Q.   hi there please could you help me my ex wants me back. i have been with my husband for nearly 17 yrs. my ex and i parted 23 yrs ago.i just want to be friends nothing more but he dont what should i do?...

A.   30 November 2006: hello, what i suggest is that you say no to him nicely. 23 years is a very long time, and if a man cant get over a lost love for that long, somethings is really wrong with him then.. 23 years if a very very long time.. plus your relationship with ... (read in full...)

I'm 25 and fit... She's 23 and has piled on the pounds... how do I fix this?

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years now, earlier this year we unepectedly had a kid. I love my daughter and girlfriend very much but my girlfriend and i are suppose to marry next year and my girlfriend has piled on the pounds like no business ...

A.   30 November 2006: you could encourage her to work out with you as well. is she eating alot because of stress or something?... (read in full...)

how can I tell if a guy is interested?

Q.   how can I tell if a guy is interested?...

A.   29 November 2006: woah. baby girl sure knows boys.. well yea. usually we do most of that. however, most of the time the average boy does this to flirt. they love the feeling of getting girl's attention you know? so you can be mixed up between flirting with and real... (read in full...)

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