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writes: Hi, I dont understand, my boy mate has ginger hair and he finds it really dificult to get girlfriends. but I dont understand it, I have been out with ginger boys, I love ginger hair :D so why wont other girls go out with ginger haired boys???
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reader, kirst28  +, writes (8 February 2013):
Well I have only read a few responses so far, but I just want to add my opinion. I'm a 26 year old female, with auburn hair, or as people say 'ginger' 'ginga' 'ranga' and so on. I got hassled in primary and high school for it and so as soon as I turned 14 I started dying my hair. Only recently within the last 2-3 years have I let my natural colour grow through and it has only got worse. I have never been given so much rubbish talk in my life, and people always say a joke about gingers then look at me and say no offence. They talk about giving their children away if they have ginger kids, and just constantly put me down for being ginger. I know that's why I've been single for so many years because I do have low self esteem and it's those assholes out there that cause it. Yes I know you have to fake it to make it but it's not always easy. Anyway, that's my thought on the ginger situation.
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reader, ginger lover  +, writes (7 May 2010):
 there are girls out there who date gingeer guys I'm 17 and I've dated over 3 gingers I think all of em are hott so there are ginger lovers out there just tell your friend not give up and keep looking there is someone out there
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): Im 17 and Ginger... I have to deal with "Anti - Ginger" people all the time... So what? Im ginger big deal. It like taking the piss out of someone for having white teeth... It dosent make sense...
Personally i think girls with ginger hair are stunning. But its all about confidence and personality. I lack Confidence but i keep on going. Just ignore the idiots and follow your instincts thats how i get by... And you know what? I love being ginger...
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reader, harry_scrinson +, writes (31 March 2010):
long running topic!
I dont get this ginger problem. alot of blokes say they cant get a girl because they are ginger, or even they have been dumped because they are ginger.
Im sorry but this is pathetic. It might be true pulling in a club once in a while. But who doesnt get the odd knock back. But to the extent where people whine that they will never get a girl. no.
If a girl knocks you back within two seconds because you are ginger she is obviously not worth it anyway. But there arent many girls that shallow. i dont know wehre you are looking.
If you are continually gettin knocked back and think its becaus you are ginger its probably because you are so hung up on it. Just have some confidence man! If you are getting no where or even getting ditched straight away you are probably have self confidence issues from all this 'thinking you are ugly' crap society puts on you. On the other hand you might just be ugly. You dont have to be ginger to repel women!
Thre are plenty of ginger celebs who do well. I am the same ginger as prince harry or chris evans and have never had a problem with women. Sure you get a bit of stick at school from insecure kids. I' 25 now, average looking at best, and could probably stand to lose half a stone. I have never had a girl say she is put off by my hair colour, its all about the banter. I'm no player but i certainly cant complain about my success with women, I have loads of friends. Now im engaged and expecting my first child and cant wait. dont have nay problems if the little lad is ginger too.
Its not a big deal. Its only ap roblem if you dwell on it. Get on with your life!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): I am 16 ginger and occasionally i get taken the piss out of. I am hoping that as I get older people will get a life and see past this. My friends don't have a problem with it but sometimes make jokes about but then again so do I. I like my hair and if anyone else doesn't like it then they aren't worth it because at least i look different. BE PROUD!
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reader, Nabs92 +, writes (16 March 2010):
My boyfriend is very ginger... he is also very nice, very funny and very attractive :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): im 14 and i am ginger. i continuously get made fun of just for being ginger. Wont people realise it is just a hair colour nothing else. I remember there was this girl i really liked and i think she really liked me because we got on really well together. she said that i was really funny and had a nice smile. but when i asked her out she simply said no your ginger. if i new she was like that in the first place i would of never gone near that bitch.
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reader, jimbob1234 +, writes (15 January 2010):
Im 19 and ginger and personally my life is pretty crap because of my hair, im depressed almost all the time because of the abuse i recieve, the fact it has turned into a prejudice itself is just annoying. I dont know if ill ever find a girl that will like me for what I am and that depresses me even more. Ive got close to girls before and sometimes over heard them gossiping about guys and sometimes it would be "ew hes giner" or whatever and thats that. My mum cant work out what is wrong with me sometimes and it hurts me to see her annoyed and i dont want to tell her why because i know she wont understand. Maybe someday ill find that girl im so desperately searching for because right now i hate my life and have no motivation to do anything.
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reader, Rubaaaay +, writes (1 January 2010):
Heyya :) Theresnothing with gingers; i think their hot ;) But maybe other girls dont like them; personally; their the best :D tell ya mate not to get down about it and he'll find the right girl one dayy :D
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reader, shadow fox +, writes (13 December 2009):
i like ginger bisquits tho :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): yes he mite be shy i am ginger too but i have no problem in finding a gf ????? i think he mite be shy or gay
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reader, Chris_x +, writes (5 November 2009):
Hi.. I'm A 16 Year Old Ginger And Proud To Be. I've Only Ever Been Bullied Once About My Hair Colour And To Be Honest I Don't See What The Big Deal Is. ITS JUST A HAIR COLOUR MATE!! :D So If Your Ginger Be Proud Bruv ;) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): OMG!!! I really fancy this guy at my school who has ginger hair and its sooo cute ! I love all his lil freckles on his face and hes got a great body too :P I dont get it why people dont like gingers? i have brown hair but i have about 3 friends that have ginger hair and there sooo cool and ginger is just a natural hair colour and id rather go with someone with ginger hair than dyed blue hair or green or pink even ! :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): hello, i am a 13 year old girl from liverpool and i have ginger hair but its not like your typical ginger, i have a deep, natural, tan and have no frekles and my mum dad or sister dont have ginger hair. also my hair is a wierd type of ginger it is very dark.
i have never ever been bullied and i am one of the poplular people in my school and the guys love itt !!
anyway if anyone is insicure dont be, most people say stuff to make all of the problems in thiere life go, trust me
GINGERS ROCK MY SOX XX
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reader, Gingetastic(Luv God)  +, writes (15 August 2009):
Gingers are amazing. I m a very proud Ginger and see absolutely nothing wrong with ginger hair. Personally I think anybody that has a prejudice against the most awesomly coloured hair off all time(seriously) should go and eat a dick.
Even though I have Ginger hair and have also dated woman that are fully Ginger..... I can't see what people have against the obviously greater species that is Ginger. We are as loving if not even more loving the the less superior non-ginger species. Plus we also have amazing personalities.
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reader, madmax2k4 +, writes (9 July 2009):
hi i have a ginger boyfriend and i think gingers are more sexyer than any other coloured hair
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): hello, im ginger
& i dont see a problem at all with my hair colour.
i will admit i have had highlights
but my favourite part of my hair, is the natural parts.
tbff.
people who cheek gingers are low lifes
& i dont really understand why they do.
nobody actuarly cheeks me,
well i get the odd giggle.
& people asking me pathetic questions.
im sort of used to it.
i dont think that your friend should be the slightest bit embarrssed of his hair colour,
& i think he should show it off.
&& if someone doesn't want to link with him, bcus of his hair colour..
they'm complete and utter bitches.
i hope it helps you :)
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reader, TheSuperPIggy +, writes (11 October 2008):
Im Ginger and Proud. i Know about 20 people at school because of my hair colour. Im an EMO which doesn't help be i have long hair. I also supposedly fancy a ginger girl at my school and I have to sit next to her in french. i have considered dying my hair black but im not going to.
If your ginger, BE GINGER AND PROUD
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Ginger boys are the sexiest trust me ive been out with one omg he was like so buff its hard to imagine so sexi it is unbelivable! i just wanted to stroke his hair like all the time like all of his hair lol like everywhere hehehe perhaps its less of a like or dislike of ginger hair but more a fascination/hang up if you will. xxGingers go In fact ive got a right mind to ask my current bf to go ginger love it hehehe
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Woohoo im ginger i get bullied at school for having ginger hair but i dont care .. im proud to have this coloour hair
woop :P
Go gingers bby :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): I LOVE GINGER GUYS!!
I'm 1 16-year-old girl, but I can't get a BF...i'm blonde but I guess it's my face that scares people.
ANWAYS... ginger guys are the best (Y)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): Hi my names Emma..And there are some shallow people out there who dont like the ginger haired variety. However i have a secret (not so secret now) liking for ginger men. I love all kinds off ginger hair. Sometimes in fact i look at brunette or blond haired men and think there not attractive but if they were ginger... maybe , just maybe. Tell your ginger friend to get in touch :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): I think ginger is the best hair colour ever :-) I have black hair but i think that ginger hair ROCKS :D x JKD x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Hi,In my opinion you have made a valid point.However ginger aren't real people... They will undoubhtably be extinct in the next 13-14 years
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): yeah i agree with you iim ginger and i have had 2 girls in the past month weird
but there are some people making a treaty to sign to ban gingers from living!(or something like that)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): i don't get it ginger is ok but i think its the stero type [soz can't spell] and i am blonde so i am ment 2 be a slut which i am not
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): Hi
I'm a ginger hair addict.
Copper, auburn, red, strawberry blond and any other kind of ginger. I love how it comes packaged with really dark brown eyes and freckles or blue eyes and pale skin. and Im really in heaven when I see a guy with ginger or blond eyelashes.
I'm now in my 40's and 75% of my boyfreinds have been ginger, although admittedly the current one isn't!
I think the less woman there are to fancy ginger haired people the more there are for me! Hehe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): okay, so im 15 years old. and untill i was 13 i had ginger hair. but then you know the whole teenage angst stage. lol. i rebelled agaist my parents and died my hair black and have been for 2 years now. and im sick of it. so im getting my hair stripped and going back to my natural colour. i love gingers. i love the skin complextion i got frm my red hair to except i burn really easily. i love frecles. :p
ruby-tuesday
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): Whoever has a problem with ginger and/or red hair is just plain outright stupid, first of all!Second of all, there is absolutely nothing wrong with either color. I find redheads/ gingers to be quite attractive. Sadly, there aren't that many redheaded/ ginger-haired guys where I live. :( Anybody who is dumb enough to make fun of somebody's hair color [or just somebody else in general] is quite stupid!If your friend has a nice personality, then he shouldn't have a hard time finding a GF. The girls he's looking at are shallow bitches if they hate him because of one difference. If he doesn't, than maybe the problem isn't on his head, but in his head. I'm sure he's probably a nice guy though. Tell him that I wish him the best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): I'm a 17 years old red haired man,i have pale skin but not so much as the average "ginger",i have only a few small frakels(english is my second language,sorry for the typo) and strawberry blond hair.My looks are absolute,meaning women love it or hate it,i consider myself good looking,and i would like to say to the op,looks have very little to do with your trouble in your love live,from your post i would say you have a problem with self confidence/esteem,woman sense that from a mile a way,accept yourself for who you are,try to improve your skills and apply them accordingly to each situation and your self esteem will go up,and all will be well,i wish you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): okay people, im not ginger, im brunette, but im stickin up for all the gingers in the world!
im 14 and ive dated 2 gingers in my short life time, and ive only regretted one! and that wasnt because of his hair colour either, it was his personality.
bein ginger dusnt bother me or a lot of girls i know in the slightest! i dont see the hair, i see the inside because that's what it's all about isnt it?
"dont judge a book by its cover"
so i think every single 'gingerist' person in the whole entire planet should shut up, wake up, and get out of their dream world because its not what is on the outside that counts!
K33P YUR H3ADS UP HiGH GiNG3RS!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007):
im a full blooded ginger (not strawberry blonde). of course i get stick sometimes for being ginger but the best thing is to laugh it off.
gingers of course have a more fiery attitude and tend to show their anger in more ways then anything but as everyone says we come from the celts, and thats our fiery gene.
some women think that gingers are totally seperate species however we're not, we're the same, we're more endangered than others, and more attractive (underneath the covers in the movies).
my understanding of being of being ginger is grow a bushy beard, have a good tempement, always enjoy ur local ale (celts), be good at sport (professional athlete - croquet champion, 5 years in a row, oh i forgot, doubles champion this year). social life is hanging in there but love lads nights out (not gay).
Oh my friend says hi ladies
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2007): Hey I am 15 and I'm a sort of emo I gues. I like the way I dress (black) but the only anoying thing is my ginger hair. I'd really like black hair, but I can't dye my hair coz it's ginger. it dosn't really sute me, and yes, boys get turned of becouse of my hair. But I actually like ginger hair. I think it really suits some people, so don't get unconfident! Live your life no matter what haircolore! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH GINGER PEOPLE THEIR GREAT.i am 12 years old and have ginger hair ive really never had any trouble with getting boyfriends and not one of them has been ginger(not by choice)but now in secondary school 'my hair has took a turn for the worst' i am bullied at least once every day. i feel quite sad that ginger people get alot of stick for their hair. some people are quite shaliow and will turn you down for you hair(male or female)but their just not worth the time.lets face it there are alot of not so good looking people out there but its the personality that matters and if you go for the personality you will be the one who ends up with the most dates in the end!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): Hi, my names Sarah, and I'm addicted to Gingers...I started liking gingers when I was about 13 and quickly got addicted. Since then I've always been really attracted to the red haired ones...Really I am it is bad...my last boyfriend of 2 years was ginger. I'm going casual with a new ginger at the moment but also flirt with another ginger...And that's my story...and I am never going to consider going cold turkey ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): I am 14 years old. Throughout my life i have been bullied for having ginger hair - mainly from guys. Shallow minded? I guess so, but i have learnt to live with it. For a while ive been depressed, i never seem to be very happy. There is a girl who likes me, and at one time i dated her - but it felt like she was embarassed to be with me. Maybe im just paranoid? Maybe i coulden't beleive that a girl that is geniuinely good looking could fall for me. I, personally, would never dye my hair though. At the end of the day it is what i have - i'm not going to change it, even if i have to stay isolated and alone for the rest of my life. I am not overweight and freckly as many ginger haired people are - i am skinny and quite short. Probz a bit smaller than the average 14 year old male. Either way puberty really dosent help either...lol. All i can say is that it's easier when you don't actively try to find a girlfriend, when in my situation. If you are actively looking for a gf - your actively looking for dis appointment. I have grown to come to terms with that. Granted, there may be certain individuals out there who love ginger hair, i have grown to hate it - simply because its the way it is viewed by society. I am sure many people will slander me for my "emo" views on life. But guess what, you can't be emo without black hair (y) - one less insult. Horray.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): I'm 17 years old and have ginger hair.
All through school, i had no problems whatsoever, i was rather popular and everyoen liekd talking to me. I've had girlfriends who are really good-looking. i think its because since i was little, i've always been confident and not bothered what people think. I recently grew my hair longish and have styled regularly and all my mates want my hair. Most people think about gingers has really spotty, fat, full of freckles and very pale. Thats not like me at all, i'm not that pale, don't have many freckles, yes a few teenage spots here and there but nothing serious and cause of all the sports i do, i like to think i have a great body :P girls love my 6-pack :P
Anyways to the point, theres nothing wrong with being ginger, just don't let it botehr you if someone 'calls' you ginger, there basically stating what you have, they might aswell be saying you have a nose :S lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): i was bullied at school as i had ginger hair, it ruined my confidence. But at the end of Year 10, i, had a boost of confidence as you say, and i got much more confident. it isnt that bad now, but i still hate the memories of being in year 7. I get respect now, forgiven but not forgotten
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): I actually have ginger hair and I find it really hard to get boyfriends but I when I am interested in someone I seem to put myself off about the hair. Personally I don't have a problem with it but I don't know why people do?
I used to get teased at secondary school and it really got me down because I had spots and big boobs so I used to have a big thing about my body and used to envy girls who were pretty AND had a good body
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): Gingers are the sexiest creatures.... totally commendable ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): Im 19 and have ginger hair. I have been dyeing it for the past 3 years to brown. Yes u may say im not true to my colour but it really is absoultely frikkin amazin at how ppl change their views on u. I went from not havin a gf and being insecure to having a very good looking gf with bags of confidence. Still i get asked out by women when im out. I agree with people who say its all about confidence, it really is.
Im a little over 6ft, and slim, now if ur tellin me a 5 ft 6 darker haired man is better looking, u can think again, its all to do with society. U can get arrested for calling somebody a "nigger" (im not racist im just clearly stating) but its perfectly ok to call somebody "a ginger ****, its pathetic, ill end up goin bak 2 my natural colour at some point, just wish society wasnt so pathetic!
Half the girls who take the piss clearly aint seen a mirror before, id rather be ginger then, small and fat and with a shit sense of humour
Take care chaps
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Im Ginger and happy... Red hair is most commonly found at the western fringes of Europe. It is associated with those in Scotland, Ireland, and Wales, and less so in England. This matches the movement of the Brython tribe (native Britons, also known as Celts or Picts) as they were pushed out of England and into the Celtic regions by the Roman conquest of Britain.The United Kingdom is the country with the highest proportion of redheads in the world as 13 percent of the population has red hair and approximately 40 percent carries the recessive redhead gene [5]. Ireland has the second highest number of redheads worldwide; as many as 10 percent of the Irish population have ginger, auburn (red-brown) or strawberry blond hair.[6] It is thought that up to 35 percent of the Irish population carries the recessive redhead gene. Red hair reaches frequencies of up to 10 percent in Wales.[7] In England, the county of Cornwall and the far north, near the Scottish border, also have significant proportions of redheads.In the United States, anywhere from two to six percent of the population is estimated to have red hair.[2] This would seemingly give the U.S. the largest population of redheads in the world, at 6 to 18 million, compared to approximately 650,000 in Scotland and 420,000 in Ireland.Red hair appears amongst Ashkenazi Jews.Red or reddish-tinged hair is also found in other European populations particularly in the Nordic and Baltic countries as well as parts of the Netherlands, Belgium, France, Northern Spain, Italy, Germany, Russia and Southeastern Europe.The Berber and Kabylie populations of northern Algeria and Morocco have occasional redheads.[8]In Asia, darker or mixed tinges of red hair can be found sporadically from Northern India, Iran and Pakistan, and in rare instances in Japan[9] and the South Pacific. Red hair can be found amongst those of Iranian descent, such as the Pashtuns....We are every where :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): So here's the thing.... I love ginger hair... ginger men with big shoulders and ginger beards are the ultimate in my opinion. No I don't have ginger hair, I'm a brunette, but I can't seem to get enough of the ginge.
Red heads produce different pheromones from your normal blondes and brunettes, this is why some people really like them and others tend not to. It's all in the chemistry! Any ladies who turn their noses up at red headed guys... well I don't mind, it leaves all the more for me :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): I just think that a lot of people in this life just wanna look the same and conform to the "norm" you know? I think that it is very shallow and kind of spiteful if a girl thinks going out with a ginger guy is a no no. You go out with somebody for who they are, not just how they look any way. My brother is ginger and has had a lot of stick for his hair, but he is such a nice guy who everyone gets a long with and that's the most important thing. I honestly wish ther wasn't such a stigma attached to red hair in the UK...it's totally wrong and makes a lot of red heads insecure when they shouldn't be cos they as just the same as everyone else! it's just cos people in general find it hard to adapt to something "different" so they choose to make fun of it instead....all you redheads out there, you are beautiful! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): HHHHHHHHHMMMMMMM how can i add to this epilogue of answers and if so does anyone still read this taboo question board.Oh well anyways im a ginger , GWA ( Ginger With Attitude ), Carrot top well not so much im strawberry blonde honest. The point is hair is hair man you carn't change it unless you dye it or cut it ( well maybe u can ) but it depends on the personality and the individual. In my experience at school i took some flack being ginger but hey now i joke along with them its not a illness its who you are. Ok ill shut up in a min but the point is if your ginger that doesnt matter what does is if you take pride in yourself and your personality. Women won't be attracted to someone who just doesn't care about himself or his appearence no matter what your hair colour so just keep trying not everyone is going to find you attractive i dont care who you are or how much you fit in so keep trying if that fails call girls are pretty cheap nowadays. PEACE
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (22 August 2007):
 it is true gingers get a raw deal. being a ginger male i noticed alot of girls get turned off by them, but eff them, if theyre that shallow about a hair color than they arn't worth bothering with.
atm i got a beautiful girl who loves ginger, which i never thought would happen, your friend just needs to wait it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): Hey Everyone, I am a 21 year old ginger male. Its true that gingers do get a lot of stick, but as a ginger I just ignore it or laugh. Some girls dont like gingers, but many do. I have a gf and she is stunning, one of the best looking girls at uni, it has alot to do with confidence (Dont let the man let u down). Be proud.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): can see why a ginger person would not go into the big brother house would get to much stick and people would get away it,, but would not get away with calling other peolpe names who are a bit different they would be taken of the show
it would be good to see a person taken of the show for calling someone ginger names and saying its not correct to call these names
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): I think it is stupid prejudice why people hate ginger hair, and I just cant understand it. People make out like its only in UK ginger is a stigma and I htought it was too, but then I lived with met an American girl who was ginger, she died her hair to hide it, and used to lie and say she didnt. So I think there is ginger prejudice in the States too.In UK inner cities alot of the white men who date black women are ginger, and my friend said that was becuase their hair colour is a bit of a taboo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): first i must say its bad we are talking about this about red haired people we should have moved on.. we dont look at black people in that way as we used to years ago.. being black today looks good..if you go to a night club a black man has better chance meeting a girl than a ginger man.. i have seen it for myself.. when going to met girls in a night club i am not bad looking but have red hair never used to meet girls but couple of years ago i started to wet and jell me hair to make it look darker and alway go to the toilet to wet it more.. my results meeting girls went up 100% but when meeeting them on the date they used to look at my hair or say i did to know you had red hair and never see them agian...ps i am still single had a few long term girls friends but you have to forget you have red hair and then you feel better about your self and will start meeting girlspps we are like the modern black people
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): I'm a female ginger teen... already I've built up a thick skin because of all the stick I've got for being ginger, and I don't understand it. My brother and sister (both blondes) always used to tease me about it, and I thought it was just a sibling thing until going to school. That's when I realised it's really not... it's quite wide-spread, sadly.One of my friends (male), is a serious gingerphobe, though admittedly, all the gingers he's known have been nasty to him - with the exception of myself. He now likes me, and has conceded to me (I say with pride) that it wasn't the fault of the 'gingerness', so obviously, I don't think there's anything wrong with gingers - and this proves it.In my experience with dating, however, I've noticed my hair colour does have an odd effect. Either guys love it, or they hate it, and unfortunately, it's almost always the former. However, I'm proud to be ginger, and I'd suggest to your friend that he not worry about it at all - the person he does find that doesn't judge him on his hair colour (Please GOD let there be people like that, haha) is one to keep.Rae xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): i love gingers i realy do..i find their hair so sexy..i think it comes down to what you prefere ..and i realy love ginger hair but thats just me a few of my friends find it funny but im not botherd ..they have all something they like thats what i might not like in a man
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2007): I am a 28 yr old male ginger and i have faced much harassment because of it. My neighbours kids used to call me a "red headed monster" and i was in many fights as a kid. I recently lost many friends and a job because of being a Ginger. I could never prove it but i think that is the reason. Now i try to be more reserved and logical to try to keep my Gingerism at bay. Some women do like ginger men you just have to keep looking.
Be Still, Be Empty
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): Hi, interesting thread... i am white, green eyed redhead but not from UK - but recently moved here for work. There does seem to be a weird thing here about redheads/gingers to a degree that I have not seen elsewhere. My take on the dating thing is its personality etc... and the red hair is an excuse either that or could be insecure because of it and is showing. Although just like there are people that won't date Asians, or Blacks/whites that won't date the other there are others that won't date redheads. Personally never really had a problem with with relationships. I used to be a bit insecure and get teased at school but now am proud of the fact i don't look like a lot of the population.
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reader, akbar32 +, writes (3 June 2007):
This is the strangest thing about Britain. I cannot for the life of me see what difference the hair colour has to do with anything. Is it because the "ginger" hair colour comes out of the viking bloodline that raped and pillaged their way across the UK? A belated getting back at the despoilers of the nation perhaps? I was totally shocked when I heard that redheads were discriminated against in the UK but that must be on the wain surely by now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007): I like your question, it is 100% true, whats wrong with ginger its a great colour. my friend hated her ginger hair and died it brown! But i told her there was nothing wrong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2007): There is nothing wrong with being ginger, I am 21 and 100% ginger. I used to have insecurities about my hair because people took the p*ss at school but now it doesn't matter. The main reason people with ginger hair feel isolated and like they cant get a girlfriend is because that it what society has told them when they were young!!
Since leaving school I have no problems getting a girl, the thing that holds most 'gingers' back is their lack of confidence and insecurity. At the end of the day confidence is attractive.. if you are confident about who you are then it doesnt matter what colour your hair is. Unless you are genuinely a knob, but it doesnt matter what colour your hair is then!!
Positive mental attitude
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): why are people so bothered about ginger hair?
its no diiferent to any other hair colour so why are people isolated and bullied for being ginger! my boyfriend is ginger and i love him sooo much! im ginger too and i think its great. people are so nasty puuting others down for their hair colour.
ITS SO STUPID!
tell ur mate to just be himrself, never change for anyone and if they don't like it tell him to tell them to f**k off!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2007): At looking a lot of (recent) responses and actualyl discussing society, I have to say with a lot of people (and yes, I was born and bread red, which has given me the ultimate unluckiness with other members in soceity. (Please rememberm this is my view on the issue, I don't represent any one elses views in any form or matter)
I am probably not the only one, but it is made worse in some individuals, that some conditions within the particular individual, like myself, actually make the situation far worse and society often has difficulties coping with this, which leads to further individual isolation. (For me, have been considered to have/actually have (delete as appropiate) Aspergers Syndrome, a communication disorder in a nutshell.)
So, individuals may feel isolated, bullied, harrased or even depressed in modern society, because the individuals wishes to appear and intergrate normally within society, is often ignored. I am now 21, only had 2 previous relationships, both scumbled to the rocks quite quickly, one a lot less than the other. However, both have one thing in common. The fact that both girls actually approached myself to begin with, rather than the other way round, which I thought was rather odd. And, to make matters worse, what about those that don't drink, smoke or take drugs? (Yep, I am one)
Even though (yes, guys, there is luck, even for a college student that doesn't even have a proper job!) I have been approached by a few in life, 3 girls in total, 2 I haven't really felt that atracted to. One I wished to say no to begin with, but felt rather sensitive for her feelings and that I was in a very difficult position to begin with, the other I wish to know more about, even though my eyes on others, which are around my height. However, I have concluded that life at the moment, at this time, or until such time exists when soceity does bother to change, it would not be a good idea to look for a partner as I can gaurentee that I would end up with someone totally undesirable, either both or either physically or mentally.
The next problem, is that every girl I have approached, the answer has been a flat no, from day one, which is fine for most, but 2 have created adverse effects for myself, both I ended up on the NHS, with mental health issues, relating to the condition I have or have been considered with. I won't repeat their names here, both don't know this yet, either.
And if everyone else thinks that I don't get heckled with my hair, then you are wrong, I have been, several time, shallow members of society taking the mick out of my hair for their own fun and enjoyment, which is often short lived anyway, because the gaurenteed respose they will get, is virtually nothing anyway, which is really the only reasonable way to deal with it.
Oh yes, and I find it far easier to get on with mature women, than those of my age group or younger, men are a completely different question altogeher however, friends with them, tends to be far and few between, but it all depends on our definition of relationships, some think that friends are often people that are at arms length, others think that those that relate to them, are far more closer, therefore, they have fewer friends in their lifetime, than those who hang around with many.
I thought this would interest many readers, even though it is late (thanks to Google!)
The "Wessex_Electric_Nutter" and all shortented (logically) variants of that nickname (which is a Googlable nickname, don't be supprised where I am usually found! :) ), from way down south of the UK
BTW, for those wondering what I look like, well, I am 6ft 2in heigh, quite thin for a bloke IMHO, with ginger (copper shade?) hair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2007): well im ginger, and if anyone has seen the bbc 3 documentry "f*** off im ginger" it highlights the stigma related to red heads...especially blokes. girls get the whole fiery exciting/adventurous sort of comments (although im not saying red headed women dont get stick), but blokes get seen as if they are diseased or something. i havent travelled abroad as of yet, so cannot comment too much here but the bbc program i mentioned earlier seemed to highlight the fact that this "ginger phobia" is mainly in the uk. Other blokes take the mick as if having ginger hair is a weakness, whilst women (although i appreciate not some) dont even give red headed blokes a second look. I believe that in the uk, there is a very copycat culture were if you're not with in crowd, your nobody i.e. if you dont have the right clothes/attitudes/hair etc and dont act like everyone else, you get targeted for abuse. So whilst some women may be physically attracted to a red headed man, they are more worried about what their peers/friends will think of them and so stay well clear.anywho, at school i used to think it was me (as a whole person) that caused the difficulty in the girlfriend situation but i now realise its not me but the people who dont like ginger hair for the simple reason its ginger. People seem to be very ignorant and narrowminded nowadays (shallow is the word that comes to mind). If people dont like me cause i have red hair, thats their problem and their loss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007): I'm ginger and i don't mind people calling me ginger pubes because they are just jealous deep down. I think that your friend should just ignor the plastics or shallow ones because they are not worth even looking at.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007): I'm 13 and i live in the uk. I have ginger hair and i like it. Its just the fact that (not to offend anyone) all of the asians at my school bully me for it and i'm starting to hate the colour of my hair. I think that its unfair that asians can get away with descriminating gingers while ginger people can't say anything back to them. Being "Gingerist" should be put under a form of "racism" because it is literally the same thing as beating someone up because of their skin colour. Another thing that is really p****** (i dont swear) me off about my hair is girls.. Its always the same thing! "Sorry but your ginger" and "No way ginge". There are no ginger girls at my school and not a single decent non-shallow person. I don't get why people are so shallow! I better stop writing this now because its getting me wound up about my hair colour. lol. Maybe theres a sight that hooks gingers up lol. (I'm not desperate) lol. :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): Hiya there.
My boyfriend has ginger hair and i think he is great. I am 32 and he is 18 and when i first met him 5 weeks ago i saw the person that he is not the hair colour.
People in society are very shallow and i pity the fact that they are so taken by society and its "whats acceptable or not" is a load of rubbish. Some people are very ignorant.
I would never want my boyfriend to change his hair colour as he is gorgeous the way he is appearance and personality.
Lori
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): I have ginger hair and I find it hard to get girls... I've only ever had one girlfriend and I'm 22. Although I put it down to my introvert nature and being really picky rather than my hair colour.
There was a comedy-documentary on BBC three a few weeks ago about ginger hair and how it's not considered sexy for men. Apparently it's something that only exists in England... in other countries it's considered attractive.
I like the colour of my hair. Any girl shallow enough for it to be a problem isn't worth my time anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): hiay i have ginger hair im 14 and im really sick of being treated like a idiot. i mean some girls are just very tight and are not worth the time but ive like fallen in love with a blond and wonder if any1 could help me out. shes really popular but u now gingers are so apparently rejects. so any1 who can help me please do. by the way we barel talk. thanks wb
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): "women are not shallow enough to care about hair colour. There's much more to it than that."
To Be Hones what this person said IS TOTAL BULLSHIT, ive been a ginger all my life and i hate it with a passion!! belive me there are such women...
each girl ive asked out reply's with "its not the hair" or "i like everything about u but..."
i cant stand it wen i get close to a girl and they turn around look at my hair and say sorry, im very sorry for the girls that arent like this please dont be hurt.
i asked a few girls why was ginger wrong and they replied "Just Is"
im honestly sick of the ammount of girls that just never look at anything else but hair.
Face it girls half of you if have gone out with a ginger person hav thaught "why are people looking?" and got embarrassed along the way because of it, i try to hide my emotions but it never works, its realy starting to bug me.
i appreciate the people who are female that like gingers but these people ive found are mainly older, if love for someone to be with right now but its just not simple :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2007): Personally I'm a Red Headed guy and find it pretty ridiculous that some chicks can't see past the hair.
If a girl is going to judge me based on the color of my hair, then she's not worth the time it would take for me to introduce myself.
And for the record, I'm damn proud to be a fire crotch.;D
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reader, Keria +, writes (20 April 2007):
That's like asking why blonds have more fun. People might tease because it is uncommon. Lets face it, look around the office, and how many ginger or red heads do you see? But when it comes right down to it, women are not shallow enough to care about hair colour. There's much more to it than that.
My god, this discussion has been going on since 2006??
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): I am Ginger an i get bullyed for it. I just dont see the point though. None of the boys like me because of my hair colour. they are just shallow. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): hi! im 13 years old and im ginger!! i dont get wots wrong with girls!! i have been rejected so many times just because of my ginger hair!! I have never been rejected in a kind way either. its always: "ergh no way ur ginger". there are no ginger girls at my school so im doomed to be single all through high school and sixth form!! i dont know why people are so shallow and i think that this should be labelled as racist or discrimination.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007): To all those people who said ginger hair is less prevelent in the UK, that's completely wrong. We actually have one of the highest percentages. Type 'red hair' into wikipedia for all the info.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): i dont know ive never been out with a ginger guy, but if i liked someone and they had ginger hair i would not care one bit!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): i am ginger and i find it easy gettin boys. i hate bein ginger tho, ppl take the mic n im lyk whats the point? so what we have ginger hair, we are not aliens and we SHOULD NOT be treated differently, right?
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reader, danger +, writes (29 March 2007):
hrm..if there is a shortage of dates for the red haired ladies in the UK. im moving there now.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (1 March 2007):
 How is ginger less prevelant in the UK? I dont follow this line of argument, where did you information come from?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): In the UK, ginger hair happens to be lees prevalent, therefore less people experience relationships with ginger haired people. Types are based on experience and if there is only a small percentage of people who are ginger, then there won`t be many people who have ginger as their type.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): i have red hair and i hate it, i wish wish wish with all my heart i had any other hair colour, but hey thats just my opinion. i hate it, but thats because i have it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): Hey, Im a girl i have ginger hair to, so does my brother and hes never without a girl.So they obveiousley like his ginger hair. Ive never really liked the colour of my hair but ive learnt to live with it i guess. There is a possability that i could dye it another colour but i dont see why. A friend of mine had a really nice red hair but she dyed it blond and now she hates it. When she tryed to find a dye that looked like her natural colour of hair she couldnt find one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2007): Well im ginger myself although it is dark. Im 20 years old about 6 feet 6 and well built but hey i still get abuse off shallow people about my hair colour!
In the UK ginger hair is often frowned upon however i would say it's down to a persons own insecurity which is why they give abuse to gingers.
But if someone does not like you because of your hair colour they are not worth liking back!
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reader, willywombat +, writes (27 January 2007):
I am a gingerphile (if there is such a thing) I ADORE every shad of red hair. I have been out with red haired men, but married a man with dark hair and now have a red head for a son!
Ginger is THE nicest colour. It is also the colour I continually attempt to dye my naturally blonde hair.
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reader, Seratuki +, writes (27 January 2007):
 I live in the states, and I spend quite a bit of money trying to get rid of my brwn hair color for ginger...but thats the way it is around me. The more you can make your hair stand out, the better! :)
My mother is a natural ginger-head..and she was teased for it growing up, but now has guys lined up around the block for her.
Don''t worry, sounds like he's low on self confidence. I really doubt it has much to do with his hair.
When I was younger I thought, "if only I were thinner, or taller, or had blonde hair, or blue eyes."
The fact is that I wasn't happy in general, it had nothing to do with those things, and changing them would have made no difference!
He's looking for a reason...ANY reason, why he's not getting dates and GF's
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2007): why dont you date him then?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): well coz everyone think ginger is a horrible colour but im a girl and i have dark ginger hair well it basilly brown but there nothing wrong wiv the colour ginger anywell if a gir lwill not go out wiv u coz ur ginger well there thick coz people should go with the attuide not the way they look so theres nothing wrong wiv ginger people
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2006): just happened upon this page
i have ginger hair & am a man...
i am rarely without a girlfriend for long :-)
yes some girls dont like ginger hair, so what, they certainly all give you at least one look - like an beacon on your head
maybe i break a trend in attracting women
i do like girls with redhair but not too much, only slept with one and it was great but dont think i'd like a relationship with someone who looked like the sister i never had
but i am tall and relatively good looking (by my own admition)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2006): It just looks funny...sorry - like marmite I guess ? ?
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reader, kat14 +, writes (2 September 2006):
 There is no problem with is my best mate is like crazy about ginger guys. Over here ginger is even kinda fashionable as some of teh popular scene kids dyed their hair ginger. I tried to dye my fringe blonde but it went wrong and ended up ginger i do get the odd people saying stuff but i just forget about it. I like it and so do my mates.I think its about confidence if he likes it and doesnt care what people say he will get girls easily.
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reader, angel frm above +, writes (31 August 2006):
 hiya hun there is absolutely no problem with ginger haired people i have alot of friends with ginger hair. but people these days are reli low and shallow and wont see past the hair colour because hair is so noticable people usually notice your hair then your face but tell him not to worry there is someone out there for him. Also people can be very shallow and would worry about what other people will say if they were seen witha ginger ahired person. i think it is reli low but i praise you hun u can look past a hair colour and see the person for who they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): First of all, I would like to point out that people who only bother about the way somebody looks are shallow people!
My boyfriend has ginger hair, and in my opinion, he is a very sexy guy. He never had much luck with girls in the past either, but he is the most caring, sensitive and loyal person you will ever meet. Never base your thoughts on how somebody looks. Get to know them first, because they really could be a nice person, regardless of their hair colour.
The girls who don't like your friend because of his hair colour are very shallow hun. He will find someone right one day, i promise.
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reader, b3x +, writes (30 August 2006):
 Jessica Rabbit is hot! She's a red head too!
I think though the main point here is she's a cartoon and her 'assests' tend to be the focus point for her? :p
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): hiii, i asked this question: hi maxsteel86! well he only likes me as a friend :( so i cant go out wiv him, i would love to though. and have asked him out... twice.
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reader, bonym +, writes (30 August 2006):
 I think you are right Ponungalungb, maybe its just an ignorant phase that started in England! I dont know!!! I actually think "ginger" haired people are very attractive men and women, I had a beautiful friend with thick, curly, gorgeous "ginger" hair and men were after her left right and centre!!!!! xxx
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (30 August 2006):
 Wow. I never knew there were people that disliked red-heads, because of their red hair! I have a nephew who is a big strapping lad, 6' and 190 lbs and he's only 14 (and he's not Irish). He has the ladies (girls) chasing him. But that's in the U.S. I guess red-heads are viewed differently on the other side of the pond. You learn something new every day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): Ginger nut anyone? Mmmm I like ginger nuts...biscuits that is...but no, sorry ginger headed males do nothing WHATSOEVER FOR ME...they seem to smell funny, and the thought of all that ginger body hair...yuckkkk!....but I don't like black guys either, so you could say I am a racist, gingeristic gal...!!
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (30 August 2006):
 I find ginger quite sexy can you introduce him to me????serious I think sexy is a personality thing not to do with colour, maybe he is shy or not used to dating I wouldn't blame it on being ginger, many ginger men are absulutelly good lookinglove
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (30 August 2006):
 Hmmm you love red heads, and he's a red head without a girlfriend... I see a pretty simple solution there:-P (unless boy mate means boyfriend then forget I said anything!)
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reader, Yos  +, writes (30 August 2006):
 Well I am a ginger haired male. Certainly growing up you get a lot of stick for it from some people. I always figured that if thats the most original insult they can come up with, then they are the ones that are lame.
The girls never seemed to have an issue with my hair colour. If your friend is having trouble with girls, then I doubt it is to do with the colour of his hair.
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reader, bonym +, writes (30 August 2006):
Thats true Dr P because technically the colour is not ginger its more reddish than anything, so it is derogatory. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): Ponungalungb 'ginger' is more of a derogatory term used to describe people with red hair. It's particularly derogratory when pronounced 'gin-ger' (Sounding a G rather than a J)
To the question asker: Are you young my dear? A lot of children and teenagers (and some adults!) belittle minorities, whether it be people with red hair, overweight people, people with ache or people of an ethnic minority. They do it because they are insecure themselves and don't know how to respect other people.
I'm glad you arn't like those bullies, and tell your mate he'll one day find someone who loves his hair just the way it is.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (30 August 2006):
I like Ginger, from Gilligan's Island. LOL. I assume ginger hair is a Queen's English term. Being from the states, I'm not certain, because I've never heard of ginger hair before. I assume it is reddish-brown hair. I don't know anyone that discriminates against someone because of their hair color. Maybe your friend could use a boost of confidence. I like women of all hair colors, not because what's on their head, but what's in their head. I assume it works both ways.
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reader, bonym +, writes (30 August 2006):
Well, everyone has their own preferences! Each to their own as they say! I am not particularly fussed about hair colour,I try to see beauty in everything. My personal preference is men with dark hair, but that doesnt mean that I dont like other hair colours. I have been atrracted to men with all sorts of different hair colours. There is a stigma attached to gingers and thats down to the ignorance of some people.
Its a bit like people who dont date outside their race, because they dont like this colour and that colour and some people are so ignorant as to say to me, why do I like white men, I like all types of men, black, white, Asian, Mediterranean, ALL!! skin colour and hair colour mean nothing, they are just colours!!!
If someone has an attractive face, I dont see why hair colour needs to be an issue!!! Thats just my opinion. xxx
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reader, stina +, writes (30 August 2006):
 My take on this is that either it's really not his hair that's turning the girls off or else he's trying to get with some pretty shallow-minded girls. Someone nice and genuinely interested in him as a person will come along sometime, though. :)
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