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Was I a rebound for him as he doesn't seem so into me as he was before...
Q. Is he losing interest already? I've been dating a man for about a month. The past couple- he has called or stopped by or both, every day... He even stayed a few nights in a row last week. From the beginning he was talking about 'wanting to settle ...
A. 17 January 2006: You might be reading in to it too much.....From wot you said,he does seem keen on you but he probably wants to take things more slowly.Remember is ex girlfriend is supposed to be moving out so lets see what happens.He could be on the rebound,its ... (read in full...)
Which would be worse: a boyfriend who can't show affection, or no boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend says he loves, me but rarely shows affection or sex. We're 22, been together 4 years. It's hurting me. When I talk to him he just says he's not affectionate. I don't want to end it but I'm unhappy, but will also be unhappy without ...
A. 14 January 2006: If your fella truely loved you then surely he should meet you half way at least.He says he is not affectionate,has he always been like this? Maybe when he was growing up his parents never displayed any emotional feelings so therefore he has ended up ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to give up on their friendship but its hurting our marriage...
Q. Hello, I have a problem. My husband has friend who is a married female. They call each other several times a day and when I was away at a conference they talked often and evenmet to discuss the fact that I did not like thir friendship. He ...
A. 14 January 2006: I find it quite bizarre that your husband is going around like a love sick puppy.He is saying that they are just friends but im afraid i dont believe it.Why do they feel the need to call each other on the phone every day? And all this dagger and ... (read in full...)
He's moved back in with his wife!
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month, at first he told me he was divorced, now he just blirted out he moved back in with his wife. I am in shock, how can I get over feeling so used and lied too?...
A. 14 January 2006: Please think twice before you call his wife up,remember, she is the innocent party also,yes i know you are very hurt and revenge is on your mind but what will it achieve? He wont come running back to you,and he is more then likely to make a good ... (read in full...)
He's moved back in with his wife!
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month, at first he told me he was divorced, now he just blirted out he moved back in with his wife. I am in shock, how can I get over feeling so used and lied too?...
A. 13 January 2006: Im afraid these type of fellas come and go like the wind.He also lied to you and didnt have the guts to tell you that he was married,id say you had a lucky escape.I pity the wife,she has her work cut out for her.Dont worry,you will get over it,... (read in full...)
Any tips on mending a broken heart?
Q. hi, need a bit of advice.... just come out of a 4 year relationship,not by my choice, and i hurt like mad. all i want to do is shut my self away from friends,work,everything. dont quite know how to deal with this. please can anyone tell me wots the ...
A. 13 January 2006: Heres my tips to mend a broken heart,Dont take revenge,meaning-flirting with her friends,standing outside her house in the pouring rain or sending naked pics of her to your work mates,let that part go because it will feel natural to be ... (read in full...)
I love a married woman...
Q. "am in love with a married woman and she show me that she also loves me what can l do to bring her more close to me ??...
A. 13 January 2006: If she loves you then she would leave her husband and run in to the sunset with you,right? Wrong! My money is on your lover staying with her husband,why? because deep down she probably loves him and when she met you,it was sexual attraction,yes she ... (read in full...)
He chased me but now has decided he wants space...what is going on?
Q. Long story short. My boyfriend is finishing up with his divorce (which by the way I was unaware of for the first 3 months- they've been separated for 2 years), we have been together for 7 months. After a drunken night on New Years (i was the drunk ...
A. 12 January 2006: His divorce is nearly at a close and now he has taken a step back,and has looked at your relationship with him and he is probably wondering,Is this what i want? Trouble is,it hasnt helped you because you know what you want but he is not sure.All i ... (read in full...)
Oops! Did I call him too soon and appear desperate?
Q. Im confused.. I went to a club the other night and I was dancing with this guy.. He was really dirty dancing with me and he was kissing me.. He then later bought me a drink and we kinda talked. However, it was kinda hard to talk in a club.. .at the ...
A. 11 January 2006: I think if a fella calls you within 3 days then he is keen,if he doesnt bother calling you then he is not too bothered.Now you called him the next day,ok thats no big deal,did he seem interested? or was it all you doing the talking? If that was me ... (read in full...)
I'm hyper-sensitive and dwell way too much, on what others say. I need help dealing with this.
Q. Heres my problem, I have a tendency to get realllyyy upset about things, even 'little things'. Especially when people make jokes about me, it gets me so down I dwell I will probably dwell on it for the next few days. For example, I made a mistake in ...
A. 11 January 2006: Ok, so you maybe sensitive to peoples remarks even when they are joking,but hey! so what.I think what happened in your past with those group of so called friends making sarcastic comments didnt really help,did they? So are you going to let them ... (read in full...)
He thinks it's best that we just remain friends..how can I get him to change his mind?
Q. I know this has probably been asked many a time and i've driven my friends crazy about this but when i fall for someone i fall bad, anyway does a guy really mean it when he says 'he thinks its best we just stay friends'. i really hope i can change ...
A. 11 January 2006: If a fella says that he just wants to be friends,then that is what he means,i think you just dont want to believe it.If he changes his mind then great,but until then you would be better off looking else where.... (read in full...)
My ex wants me back but he's controlling and makes me cry. Should I go back to him?
Q. I am still in love with my ex boyfriend who would take me back in a second, but when I am with him he often talks to me badly, tries to control everything I do and often makes me cry. I know he loves me alot but I do not know if it is worth putting ...
A. 10 January 2006: This guy is nothing more then a control freak,he likes to make you cry then split up with you.Plus you start running back to him and its the same old cycle once again,after awhile you will end up with no self esteem,no confidence no nothing.He ... (read in full...)
My husband is a neanderthal! He thinks that sex is for a man's pleasure only... Help!
Q. Is it concered a crime to want love returned ? my husband thinks it is good enought that he climaxes during sex and he thinks i should just be happy because he cums any so what if i dont plz tell me if this is a good sign in our marriage.he thinks ...
A. 10 January 2006: Oh my god! I couldnt believe it when i read this letter.What on earth are you doing with him? This man is a selfish,self centred,self absorbed PRATT! The next time he wants sex,tell him to go in to the garden and use the hole in the tree.If you have ... (read in full...)
For the sake of my little girl should I try to make a go of it with this ex-drinker, computer game playing, lazy, unemployed, emotionally incompetent and verbally abusive man?
Q. Ok, I am a 22 year old single mother of a beautiful 19 month old girl. I am currently with a man who is 10 years older than me, emotionally incompetent and verbally and emotionally abusive. He used to drink alot and spend 98% of his time playing ...
A. 10 January 2006: I dont care if this guy is Brad pitt! This man is low life,he has no respect for you or your daughter.Do you want her to be brought up with a man who is violent,who hits you and gets drunk when the slightest pressure comes up? Do yourself a favour ... (read in full...)
First time rejection but I think she likes me..so how should I ask her out again?
Q. I asked my really good friend out who is a girl and she rejected me but I think she may like me, so how should I ask her out again?...
A. 10 January 2006: Ok,this girl has turned you down,but you still think that she might be interested? Well if i was you then give her a second chance and ask her out again,if she still says no then im afraid she just isnt interested.... (read in full...)
Don't want to hurt my boyfriend, who I've been friends with for 10 years, but this other man makes me feel... Alive!
Q. Dear cupid, i ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years now . We have been friends for 10 years . But im secretly falling for some one eles and hes been wanting me for as long as me and my boyfriend have been dating. we're having a little trouble ...
A. 10 January 2006: Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind,it seems obvious to me that you dont want to be with your boyfriend anymore,it has simply ran its course.You are probably trying to hold on to this relationship because you dont want to hurt him and that you ... (read in full...)
We let the attraction get the better of us and slept together, but he's already married, and now things are uncomfortable between us!
Q. Hi there! I want somebody I can't have! I have been flirting over emails with a guy at work for a few weeks and a couple of weeks ago we let the tension get the better of us and slept together. Now I know it was wrong and I'm sorry but couldn...
A. 9 January 2006: If i was you i would just forget it and put it down to a moment of madness.This married bloke has probably realized that he shouldnt of gone this far with you and doesnt want to put his marriage in jeopardy.For all you know, this man might be a ... (read in full...)
Girls, your help is needed. Is the girl in my life playing hard to get?
Q. Women/Girls....PLEASE HELP!!! Game Playing!!! A girl I absolultely LOVE plays the hot/cold game with me (at least in my mind). I gave here this xmas gift (nothing serious,,just simple gift....and she absolutely loved it and gave me so, so much ...
A. 8 January 2006: This girl is playing good old fashioned mind games.Save your money and forget this person.She loves the attention you are giving her but soon gets bored.You deserve better,trust me.... (read in full...)
What balance should I strike with this "friends just for now" girl?
Q. I have met this girl in a nightclub over three months ago. I'm 39 and she is 30. She has recently come out of a relationship. She has clearly stated to me that she wants the friendship first then will consider a relationship. We havent't gone out as ...
A. 8 January 2006: I think what your doing at the moment is fine,but while you are waiting for her to make her mind up i suggest that you should stop waiting by the phone for her and get on with your life.Did this relationship she had with her last boyfriend serious? ... (read in full...)
What can I do to keep my mistress's interest in sex alive?
Q. I am in my 40s and have been married for 26 years. During this time i have had a number of affairs but now i have found a woman i have been in a relationship with for over 3 years. My wife has poor health and I have work related ties. I have ...
A. 8 January 2006: The reason your mistress is losing interest in sex is because after 3 years you have made no commitment to her,you run back to your wife and you are using your work ties as a smoke screen.You cant love this woman enough because you would of been ... (read in full...)
Feel like I'm nothing more than a pay cheque to my wife! Is an affair the answer?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a man in my early forties. What shall I do? I am told I am still attractive, but my wife has lost interest in me. I feel like a pay cheque! Should I wine and dine her, or buy her flowers everytime I want affection? I'd soon be ban...
A. 8 January 2006: Have you actually sat down with her and asked her what she wants from this marriage? Do you still love her? It sounds like you want to make a go of it but your wife isnt too forth coming.You dont have to wine and dine her every night,maybe she wants ... (read in full...)
I'm going to list a dozen reasons I believe my partner is cheating... But is he?
Q. He says he loves me and never cheated on me. He gets upset when I ask, says I'm accusing. Yet we haven't made love for over a month. Has women friend and text messages them 15 and over times a day. Leaves late and says he has alot of work to do ...
A. 7 January 2006: He is cheating on you because im sure these women are not round your fella for baking tips.He is treating you like dirt and you deserve better.He doesnt spend anytime with you,instead he is shagging about.Get rid of this man and meet someone who ... (read in full...)
Why does he build me up only to let me down?
Q. Hello, Right so there's this guy, let's call him Brian. We got talking through a friend of a friend about 9months ago via instant messaging. I really liked him, as more than just a friend. But nothing happened, he had the habit of making me really...
A. 6 January 2006: This fella loves himself.I wouldnt waste anymore time on this bloke,he gets a buzz out of you been interested in him.Go and get yourself a fella who will want to be with you and not play these pathetic mind games.He sounds like a bore to me.... (read in full...)
Is it odd that my teen son stashes salt & vinegar crisps in his room...for "historical importance"?? What should I do
Q. I was cleaning the house one day, when I found 20 packets of uneaten salt and vinegar flavoured crisps in my 16-year-old son's bedroom wardrobe. I then found another 40 up in the loft in his bedroom. I have asked him why he had the crisps ...
A. 6 January 2006: I see what you mean,it is a bit bizarre that he didnt bother to throw them away,it might be because he couldnt be bothered to throw them out,he is 16 after all.Did you buy the crisps for him or did he? Watch and see if he does anything else that ... (read in full...)
My relationships only last a few weeks at the most. What can i do to improve my love life?
Q. im 18 and had many boyfriends but my relationships only seem to last a few weeks at most. i met a really nice lad and we spent a whole weekend together but out of the blue he dumped me over a text. what can i do to improve my love life?...
A. 6 January 2006: Right,you say your relationships are only lasting a few weeks,is it because they want to sleep with you and you ablige because you want to please them and once they have got what they wanted,they fly off.I think it could be two things that are going ... (read in full...)
He verbally abuses me but wants to marry me. But I'm not sure I love him! Help!
Q. Hi,i have been with my bf for about 8 months and we were really serious and he's all introduced to the family and said to my momma he wants to marry me and he loves me but i have a prob. I dont know if i just love him or if i am in love with him. ...
A. 6 January 2006: listen honey,you have only been with him 8 months,you should still be in the honeymoon period but instead he has started to verbally abuse you already.If you are already questioning your feelings for him and you are in great doubt then i think you ... (read in full...)
We lost the sex and I am so sad about it...
Q. Hi. Have a question about sex with my wife. We've been married for 8 years, together for about 13 total. Sex has always been great. Up until maybe 3 years ago. She started losing interest in sex and seemed to only want to do it to please me. ...
A. 5 January 2006: Is your wife depressed over anything? That is the biggest killre in a sexual relationship,is she stressed over anything? Its good that you two are talking and you are trying to give her space.Sometimes if a woman isnt turned on enough when it comes ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated twice this last summer, but thinks I should be over it by now!
Q. I found out a few months ago that my husband of over a year cheated on me at least twice over the summer. I had moved out of our apartment but we sort of reconciled and he acted and talked as if we were back together. He went away on a trip and...
A. 4 January 2006: A leopard never changes his spots.This husband of yours has no will power when it comes to the opposite sex,he is weak,self centred and self absorbed with himself,he uses women like trophys except he married you.My dear,he has cheated on you twice ... (read in full...)
My husband asked me if he can sleep with other people..I am horrified! But I'm wondering am I being a prude?
Q. my husband asked me this week if he can sleep with other people and would i mind as our sex life has gone flat. we have been married for six years and together for eight. i was horrified now i wonder if im just being a prude? am i?...
A. 4 January 2006: No of course not.Your husband has a nerve,asking you that insulting question.Would he of liked it if you suggested that you wanted to sleep with other men because he was crap in bed? It does take two to tango.Does he still love you? If he does then ... (read in full...)
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Q. I just wanted to say a belated Happy New Year to all the people who visit this website, whether it's people asking for advice or the agony aunts who give it. The things being achieved on this site are amazing - I think it is the best site on the ...
A. 4 January 2006: HAPPY NEW YEAR TO EVERYONE.Im glad that you have found this web site so comforting and helpful,us agony aunts try to help anyone who has a problem and hopefully give wise advice,its funny how we can help other people but when it comes to your own ... (read in full...)
Feel like I'm emotionally cheating by being attracted to my friend's husband!
Q. Help! I'm married and am very attracted to my friend's husband. It didn't start out like that, but we have taken our kids to the pool a few times and we share many interests, and occassionaly he will say things like "I should have married you" or ...
A. 4 January 2006: Ok,you are attracted to this friend of yours and you are flattered by his comments and kind gestures but please take a good few steps back,he does know that you are a married woman with children but yet still wants to pursue you without thinking ... (read in full...)
My husband has a married female friend and I find their friendship too excessive. What should I do?
Q. Husband had female friend - is she after him? My husband of five years has a female friend (she is married also) that he met at his new job. We recently moved to a new area and he says she is his only friend. They talk at least once a day, call...
A. 28 December 2005: When i read this i couldnt believe what i was reading.I tell you something,this woman friend is without a doubt,after your husband,no questions asked.Now what worries me is she calls him when you are on holiday,why? How odd,he buys expensive ... (read in full...)
I've been dumped but the texts from my ex keep coming!
Q. My ex boyfriend dumped me four weeks ago. We texted each other every day for the next three weeks because he agreed to stay in touch. Then one day I did not reply to a text he sent me. I left it three days. Then I textd him back. He replied but I ...
A. 28 December 2005: This is a classic symptom of a bloke who doesnt really want you but still gets a kick out of txting you because he likes the power he has over you,its as simple as that.He dumped you 4 weeks ago,come on, he has had plenty of time to change his mind ... (read in full...)
I've tried to leave him but he always has a reason for me to stay!
Q. i have been dating my boyfriend for 4.5 years. for the last year and a half i've been trying to leave him for various reasons (unfaithfulness,backstabbing,lying,etc). every time i tell him this, he has a better reason why we should try and work it ...
A. 28 December 2005: The trouble is,your relationship with this fella has become a habit.At the time you have the best intentions on leaving him but when your boyfriend turns up and persuades you to make a go of things you get easily drawn in to his charms and you are ... (read in full...)
I'm confused why she wanted to spend the night with me, the night before her graduation?
Q. I have been dating this lady for a month. I am 30 she is 28 or 29. She spent the night at my house the night before the graduation (masters degree). She asked me if she could. Nothing happened sexually. I just thought it was different. She can ...
A. 23 December 2005: Why not? She probably had nerves the night before,and she needed the company,i wouldnt make a big deal out of it.Do you want it to go further? If you do then ask her out,nothing ventured,nothing gained.I get the impression that you want to.You seem ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me...do we stand a chance now?
Q. Hi, About two years ago I was in a lesbian relationship, but we split up because she cheated on me. It was a drunken one night stand that ended up going further because she thought I wouldn't forgive her. We were together for nearly 2 years. ...
A. 23 December 2005: It can still work out with a little bit of effort.Ok, she cheated on you and she was wrong,if she was sorry and regretted it then she deserves a second chance.But,if she was to do it again then i would leave her because she took advantage of your ... (read in full...)
Dating someone older???
Q. hi i was wonderin what everyone thought about datin older ppl??? im 14 and datin a 28 year old man. what u fink??...
A. 23 December 2005: He is far too old for you.This man is fast approaching his thirties and what worries me is why would someone of that age would want to date a 14yr old? You are not yet a woman and he ia abusing your age and lack of experience.If he was to have sex ... (read in full...)
Two breakups in just 4 months! My guy doesn't know what he wants, except "space", so he keeps walking away!
Q. Hi, I had been with my boyfriend for 1 year 3 months when he decided to break up with me because we couldn't seem to compromise on when both of us would be available to meet up. I tried to set another day when we could meet up, but all of a sudden...
A. 22 December 2005: I tell u why a young guy like that,acts so confused in a relationship,his immaturity,and his age.He just couldnt make his mind up and when he did he blamed you for the problem,why? because it eased his guilt.Just except the relationship is over,i ... (read in full...)
He meets his ex gf for intimate dinners-he says I shouldn't be upset! Is this normal?
Q. Dear Cupid I've been in a commited relationship for 10 months. My problem is my boyfriend meets with his ex for 1 on 1 occasional dinners exhcanging birthday/Christmas presents which upsets me a lot. I've explained to him that although I trust...
A. 22 December 2005: I must admit,most women wouldnt put up with that,i mean would he like you to meet up with your ex boyfriends? I bet he wouldnt.If he has nothing to hide then why dont you ask f you could tag along because you would like to get to know her better.If ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend, who prefers to masturbate rather than have sex, going to marry me or is he waiting for a "better deal"?
Q. My bf of 4 years prefers masturbation than sex and is not committing in our relationship. He tells me that masturbation is easier, and that we don't have to have sex everytime we see each other, and that he gets tired when having sex. We only have ...
A. 22 December 2005: The man is a tosser.Tell him that you have had enough of his selfish ways and that there are plenty of good looking guys waiting to date you.He has no interest in getting married to you,he cant be bothered to make love to you so he uses his right ... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting or does my new boyfriend just not care?
Q. Hello everyone, Well I have been on a few dates with this guy, and he recently spent the night at my house and we had sex. He then asked me to officially be his girlfriend, but now it seem like he is ignoring me. I called him to just talk, bu...
A. 22 December 2005: The world is a big wide place,your young,you have youth on your side,enjoy it while you can.Have a brilliant time travelling and forget that loser.If he was keen enough he would of contacted you.He seems to have had a change of heart and he needs to ... (read in full...)
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