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Ahoy! Meow! *licks paw and rubs ear*

Being a good listener doesn't necessarily translate to being good at helping people, but I can give my pennies and nickels if people are willing to listen themselves.

I live in Western Canada.

Cho makes me tick.

I'm single.

What else? *wink* I'm the more 'angelic' alter ego of my 'deviant' side. 'Renewal' if you can call it that.

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How can we try and get on par sexually together ?

Q.   I have a problem with my boyfriend. I am 19 and have a very high sex drive. He is 28 and doesn't. We've been together for a year now and it's driving me mad! Sometimes, he doesn't want sex at all and just does it to shut me up! I've tried ...

A.   14 July 2006: Another thing to think about is the other parts of your life. I find that sex gets a lot better when the other parts of our life gets better. Travelling together more, doing sports and other hobbies together, getting out with friends and family, ... (read in full...)

How can we try and get on par sexually together ?

Q.   I have a problem with my boyfriend. I am 19 and have a very high sex drive. He is 28 and doesn't. We've been together for a year now and it's driving me mad! Sometimes, he doesn't want sex at all and just does it to shut me up! I've tried ...

A.   14 July 2006: A few things to look at here: 1) is he over-worked? 2) stressed? 3) loss of appetite - possibly from depression or worries, and/or 4) maybe sexy lingerie and videos aren't things that turn him on? Another thing to consider is why you're with him... (read in full...)

He finds the woman body beautiful, but I don't like feeling that I'm just another one....I want to be special!

Q.   Hi. What do people think of this? My guy says that he thinks all women are beautiful - fat or thin. He says the womanly shape is beautiful, and he has paintings and statuettes of female nudes dotted around his apartment. He also says he thinks ...

A.   14 July 2006: He sounds inconsiderate, but then again, he might be a visual artist. Is he an artist of some sort? I realize that his behavior may cause you some grief, and I think you really need to talk to him about this. If he brushes it off repeated... (read in full...)

Wondering about my "banana bend"...

Q.   My penis bends to the left a fair bit making it kinda banana shaped. Is this normal?...

A.   12 July 2006: My penis is straight when erected but it points exactly 45 degrees left from the base. This is possibly due to sleeping on my right side when I was a baby to when I was a teenager.... (read in full...)

My ex rebounded, only to marry someone else 3 months later!

Q.   I was in a relationship for 3 years with my boyfriend- we both has a healing time of 6 months and now after only 3 months he is marrying another woman. Is there a psychological explanation for this? I have seen this happen over and over again with ...

A.   11 July 2006: Do you really need a explanation for this? The bottom line is that you two are separated officially for 3 months, BUT how long ago during your relationship with him, was his heart already removing itself from you? It could well have been 6 months ... (read in full...)

We were making out and he called out someone else's name!!

Q.   Hi, am a 28 year old single mom. I am in a two month old relationship, but the guy doesnt cum whenever we have sex. We have never discussed it though. Yesterday while we were making out he called me someone else's name. I am so devastated....

A.   11 July 2006: This may sound off-topic, but sometimes, I call out a different name when I address a friend or a colleague. Usually this is due to stress and pressure. It's true that when someone is doing something intimate with u, you 'should' be on his/her ... (read in full...)

I think I've caused all his problems... Is divorce the answer?

Q.   Hi, I am writing because I have a huge problem and need some advice! I have been suffering for the past weeks lack of sleep and anxiety. I am 41 years old, 10 years married, no children, living over seas since 2002 in a country where my husband´s ...

A.   11 July 2006: The words with the poster below is one perspective, but as I grew up around people with a slew of problems through dating and marriage, I can see otherwise. Just because two people are together, certified by the state that they're married, doesn't ... (read in full...)

Kissed someone else and felt terrible, so why do I keep giggling when we talk it about it?

Q.   I cheated on my long term bf last Sat and just didn't realise I was kissing another bloke cuz I was really drunk. But as soon as I realised, I pushed the bloke away and ran off crying cuz I couldn't believe I had done it. I told my bf the next...

A.   11 July 2006: People often laugh at something they have done negatively to mask their embarrassments or discomfort. This can be a psychological instance rather than a manual action. I suggest you stop bringing up the topic.... (read in full...)

She's 14. I'm 16. Are the two years too much?

Q.   Well. There is a girl of 14 who I fancy and am not sure she fancies me back. But anyway I am 16 and have left school, and my mate keeps taking the mick because I want to go out with a younger girl who is the same age as my sister. But I don't know ...

A.   11 July 2006: This is up to you to decide. You know her a lot more than anyone here. If she is someone you like and fit your interests, etc, then I say go for it. Other people who dish out grief to you are just ignorant of what really is with what they think. ... (read in full...)

I slept with my ex and it didn't feel wrong, even though I love my current BF...

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for two years but the other week I slept with my ex. My ex wants to give it another go and I was tempted but I realised how much I love my boyfriend and how I couldn't be without him. But when I'm with my ex it doesn't ...

A.   11 July 2006: People often associate sex and love/companionship as one and the same, but as you can see, that is a deception of social acceptance. It's true that when you're in love, you want to make your partner happy, pleasure him/her, give him/her your all, ... (read in full...)

Next time he asks me who I love more, what should I say?

Q.   my boyfriend keeps asking who i love more me or my best friend ... i never know what to say but it makes me really angry that he asks that type of question next time he askes what shall i say ? i want to get the message across that its a stupi ...

A.   11 July 2006: To keep this simple, you can simply tell him that your love for him is different than your love for your best friend. There is no measurement of love here. It simply is a connection of minds, emotions, and spiritual lines. If he still doesn't ... (read in full...)

I'm married but my school crush is back in contact, 15 years on...

Q.   I've recently been contacted by an old school mate who I had a crush on 15 years ago. We've been chatting online frequently and he has now told me he is in love with me and wants us to meet. I'm married but can't stop thinking about him. What ...

A.   11 July 2006: Everyone here has their positive views and I commend you on that. However, I advise a different approach. Why don't you test your marriage. People would advise you to forget about the crush and concentrate on the marriage. The thing is, how can ... (read in full...)

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