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Is it wrong to send the newly widowed man I fancy an anonymous valentines?
Q. Dear Agony Aunt I am so mixed up right now, I came out of a long term relationship last June 05 after 19 and a half years and even though my ex lied to me for over 2 and a half years, I get on really well with him as we have a business togethe...
A. 7 February 2006: You could send him a card but would he really know that it came from you? You sound really keen on him and he seems to be getting good support from friends etc.As he lives only 5 mins from you,why dont you invite him round for coffee? or would he ... (read in full...)
Why won't the guy I've been speaking to online for five years meet me?
Q. i met this guy from the internet, we started talking and 1 year of talking became 5 years of talking. i really wanted to meet up with him just so i could spend time with him in person. when i asked him why he didnt want to meet, he said it was ...
A. 7 February 2006: My guess is, he is married or is living with someone.I would of thought after 5 years he would want to meet you by now.He definately has something to hide,and this excuse of you been a virgin is total rubbish...Its up to you ,but personally i would ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he bother to do anything special any more? He even cancelled on my birthday!
Q. I have been going out with my b/f for 7 months. In the beginning of the relationship we were all over each other, and although neither of us like talking on the phone, we talked often throughout the day. Then gradually the phone calls don't ev...
A. 7 February 2006: This man is a total jerk! He never had the balls to tell you its over,and to cancel on your birthday was totally unacceptable.I would txt him back and say that you have died of boredom and that you have had a better offer and that he is ... (read in full...)
He wants to marry me... But I'm not even sure I still want to be with him
Q. Dear cupid, iI have been with the man i love for two years now . Hes been a good friend for 12 years . he plans on marring me . But the fact remains is i don't want to married to tell you the truth im not so sure i want to be with him anymore ...
A. 7 February 2006: I think you have answered your question already,you dont want to marry him because you have doubts about him which is understandable.If you are getting more and more depressed then its pretty obvious that this man of yours is making you terribly ... (read in full...)
What does she really want from me??
Q. Dear cupid, What kind of relationship is this? Ok people we've probably remmeber that i broke up with my ex 4 weeks ago, an last friday we realized we both still had feelings for each other. This evolved into this: she sed she wants 2 be ...
A. 5 February 2006: Im confused as well.She said that she wanted to be more then friends but not as boyfriend and girlfriend...why? Well it seems to me that she is keeping her options open until another fella comes along...and in my book that is using someone.If i was ... (read in full...)
We've had phone sex and I would like more though I'm married...
Q. hi im a married women that met a guy while helping my cousins find a property i met this estate agent he i taught was nice anyways he gave us his no. and shortly after i began texting him and i told him who i was we began to have phone sex which has ...
A. 5 February 2006: I know what this guy wants....just plain old phone sex.He doesnt want a relationship with you because even though he knows your married...he gets his kicks out of you talking dirty to him....some fellas prefer the real thing but he gets turned on ... (read in full...)
What do you think is the definition of Love?
Q. I was told this, do you believe this is love or the starting point of it. “mmmm I don’t know what the definition of love is, but it's a feeling that you get for someone. Sometimes you don’t really notice it is there. Like when the person you l...
A. 5 February 2006: My definition of love is you would put them 1st before yourself....you miss that person when they are not there...you want to be with with them,all the time.....you cant stop thinking about them....your sad if they are upset.....but most of all is ... (read in full...)
My Dad reckons that guys only go for girls with big boobs no matter how pretty... Is it true?!
Q. ok, I'm 15 and I am just wondering, what is it that attracts most guys to a girl in the first place? I know the whole thing about how everyone likes something different etc etc, but my stepdad says 90% of teen guys want someone with big boobs no ...
A. 5 February 2006: Your stepdad is talking absolute crap! Iv have asked my male friends about this certain subject and they all said that if they were attracted to a girl then the bust size has nothing to do with it.I give you an example....if there was two ... (read in full...)
He stared at the 2 buxom girls and later admitted he loves big breasts! I am very upset..what should I do?
Q. i have been with my partner for a year now every thing was good we trusted eash other very much, one night we went out and 2 girls were there with big boobs and very low tops he spent all night staring at them, when asked about it he denied it. a ...
A. 3 February 2006: While its ok to look,he is showing you no respect for you by oggling other women with his tongue hanging out of his mouth.Of course its human nature to look at the opposite sex but he is just rubbing your nose in it....for a start he didnt have to ... (read in full...)
Christmas with him was forgettable, and our dates are a yawn. I don't understand why he still wants to see me!
Q. I met this guy mid October and we started seeing each other quite often. We never really did anything other than sit on the couch and watch TV or a movie (sports usually). Christmas came and I went to visit family out of province so we decided ...
A. 2 February 2006: The mans a 1st class prat! Im sorry but he is having a laugh,isnt he? He hasnt got a clue on how to keep a woman interested,it sounds to me that he is a selfish man and only thinks about he wants.I think his behaviour stinks! Get rid of him before ... (read in full...)
Split with my great new guy to try again with my ex... And regretting it!
Q. I really need some help here! My boyfriend and I were together almost three years and we broke up last September. Aged 25 and 26, not living together. He cheated on me (kissed someone else) and then told me he had been having doubts about us ...
A. 2 February 2006: Ok,so you made a mistake,you thought your ex was the one but its turned out that he is a miserable so and so.You dont need his criticism,his put downs and his mood swings...your not his psychiatrist....if he has family issues then thats down to him ... (read in full...)
Really like her but don't get turned on. What if I don't work when it comes to sex?
Q. hi everyone just a question. i've just started going out with this girl, i really, really like her and everything (we havn't had sex yet) but, when i see her i dont really get turned on, and im worried that when we have sex i wont be turned on then ...
A. 1 February 2006: Stress is making you feel this way,if you really like this girl then eventually it will all fall into place.If you are worried,depressed or stressed out over something then sex will be the last thing on your mind.1st of all,you have to sort out the ... (read in full...)
I want to know about my wife's sexual past and whether she's normal...
Q. I've decided to write this question after reading another members similar question. I know I'll get all sorts of replies saying don't go there, but here's hoping I'll also get some advise I can use. My wife and I have a good marrage but I have a...
A. 1 February 2006: Does it really matter how many fellas she has had? Your wife fell in love with you and she married you...those guys mean nothing to her now.I would say that 7 guys was average so i wouldnt worry.Has it always bothered you? You must of had ... (read in full...)
Suffered the loss of my baby-I'm worried of what is in store for his surviving twin brother. Please help!
Q. my five day old son passed away last night in my arms at home. it was completely unexpected. i was nursing him and his twin brother when i noticed that only Seth was awake and still feeding. i waited until Seth had finished (always takes lo...
A. 1 February 2006: I know exactly what you are going through,i lost my baby daughter many years ago and she would of been 14 this year if she had lived.When my son was born 2 years later i was very protective of him...i still am to a degree,so it is only natural that ... (read in full...)
What's all the attention from this guy mean? It's driving me crazy!
Q. I'm getting more and more confused. Does this guy I know like me? I'm 21, he's 24. He constantly teases me, asks me questions, and says random things that I believe he says to get a rise out of me. He also will catch my eye and stare at me intently...
A. 1 February 2006: Sorry,but he sounds like an odd ball to me.A normal guy (if he fancied her) wouldnt play these stupid mind games...he would ask her out and that would be the end of it.With him,he is just tying to intimidate you with his constant staring.If i was ... (read in full...)
He didn't answer my important question...does he really want to be with me?
Q. hi there i need advice from people i am in love with this really wonderful man but i asked him the real question " do you really deep down inside want to be with me?" the only reason i did that was because his moods to me lately have changed ...
A. 31 January 2006: If he has been in a bad mood with you and its been going on for a while then you are entitled to asking him that question.Trouble is he didnt give you a straight answer.Is he having problems at work? is he stressed out over something? If thats not ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being in limbo-should I just back off this relationship, once and for all?
Q. My girlfriend and I split 9 months ago after she said she was confused, spark gone, space etc. Since then we have been every few weeks but only because I initiated the contact, she has never contacted me but never declined my offers to go out ...
A. 31 January 2006: I think the relationship has ran its course,the reason i say this is because you are always doing the chasing.She doesnt make the effort of contacting you which to me sounds like she has lost interest.If i was you i would stop all contact with ... (read in full...)
I don't think it's fair of my ex to ring me up drunk and tell me how much I mean to him...especially when he has a girlfriend!
Q. Me and my ex were together, on and off, for about 9 months. He split up with me 3 months ago, because there wasn't anything wrong with me or our relationship, but he didn't want the pressure of a relationship. I'm still struggling to get over him, ...
A. 31 January 2006: It sounds to me like the drink was talking,he shouldnt of rang you because he is playing with your feelings and that is cruel.Once he was sober he didnt come running to you for a 2nd chance,did he? You deserve better then that....personally for you ... (read in full...)
There's 20 years between us and he's married, but it's only a bit of fun. Should we leave off?
Q. I'm 17, and after a drunken night I ended up fumbling in a back of a taxi with this 37 year old married man. We got intense but we didn't sleep together. I have started seeing him every Sunday, and things are getting more intense as time goes by. We ...
A. 31 January 2006: This married man is taking advantage of you.All he wants to do is have his bit of fun then go back to the stability of his wife and kids.Its called...having your cake and eating it.If you carry on with this you will probably start having feelings ... (read in full...)
Had a hunch about the guy who asked me out. Turns out he's engaged! How could he do that?
Q. I met a guy who I was interested in two years ago. We met for business reasons and soon as we looked at each other there was an immediate connection. For several months he emailed me, and had asked to go out. I suspected he was hiding somethin...
A. 30 January 2006: Because there is men out there that will take any opportunity when it comes to them.This fella used you and he knew it.You found out and it has shocked you,but dont feel sorry for yourself...you had a lucky escape...its the poor fiance i feel sorry ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship but I'm confused because I feel a strong connection to another woman...
Q. I'm engaged and I am happy in my relationship, but I recently felt a strong connection with another woman. I think about her and email her alot but I am not sure how to deal with it. I am very confused and any suggestions would help....
A. 30 January 2006: I wonder how happy you really are with your fiance? The reason i ask this is because if you were really that happy then why would you be emailing this other woman and having a strong connection with her? It might be a fleeting crush that you have ... (read in full...)
How do I win her back?
Q. My girlfriend left me 5 months ago and wouldn't really explain why. I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. We were planning to get married but weren't engaged. After she left me, she didn't want me to call, come over or email her (4 ...
A. 30 January 2006: If this has been 4 months ago and she still hasnt bothered to contact you,then im afraid the diagnoses doesnt look good.Yes you could send her flowers,buy her chocolates,perfume etc but it wouldnt change a thing.If she really missed you she would of ... (read in full...)
I don't feel the same anymore...what can I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out with each other for nearlly 2 years. I loved him once but i do not feel for him anymore. I would love to spend the rest of my life with him but i just can't figure out what is missing. I have been thinking it ...
A. 30 January 2006: Ask yourself this.....could you imagine life without him? If you dont think you can then your relationship might just need a jolt to wake it up again.Boredom can crop up anywhere and everyday life can seem pointless,just like your feeling now with ... (read in full...)
Haven't told her how I feel, and now she and her boyfriend are about to have sex. Anything I can do?
Q. Hey, I really really like this chick and I haven't really gathered the courage to tell her how I feel. I think she feels the same way. I found out recently she and her new boyfriend are going to have sex! Should I just let my feelings slip away or ...
A. 29 January 2006: I would leave it for now...and just wait and see.The relationship might fizzle out and with a bit of luck you two could get together.If you were to interfere it will probably make matters worse.If you cant wait to see what will happen then perhaps ... (read in full...)
Can I break up with him, even if he doesn't want to?
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend but he wants to stay together. What can I do? Any advice?...
A. 28 January 2006: Your feeling guilty in breaking up with your boyfriend because he wont let you go....and thats always hard.If you really mean it and you want to end this relationship then you will have to be strong and say to your boyfriend that you want to end it ... (read in full...)
We're still just friends-but I want more from him! Do I tell him what I'm feeling?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a problem figuring out this guy. I can't figure him out at all! When we first met we clicked so quickly. Slowly we started going out together as friends doing various things together. I could not help myself waiting for him ...
A. 28 January 2006: It might be a number of things.He might just want to be good friends and nothing more although i am puzzled that he didnt answer you when you told him how you felt...could be he is shy.Saying that....you said that you two are getting closer so the ... (read in full...)
He hits me, he hurts me but I can't see a future without him
Q. 6 months relationship, lifetime hell. Need help, advice, anything. I met this perfect guy. Love him to bits, really do. Given up every single thing for him. Stopped being close to people I used to be, willing to move away from my family for ...
A. 27 January 2006: Get out now....the man is a control freak.Why are you still with him? He is making you depressed and has robbed any self esteem that you had left.....your self worth and confidence has taken a battering...is this the life you want? He doesnt love ... (read in full...)
she got so upset by what someone said and now won't tell me how she feels...
Q. Hi, Heres the story: Last week i was waiting at the bus stop with my girlfriend, after leaving a pub. We are both 19 years old, but my girlfriend looks very young for her age. While we were waiting there, some guys who we were talking to earl...
A. 27 January 2006: She will probably get over it eventually,you have been supportive and you seem a nice caring guy so dont worry.Your girlfriend was obviously offended by what these guys said but sometimes in life you are always going to get small minded people ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for an egaged man to allow other women to feel his bottom?!
Q. Do you think its right for an engaged man to go around and let other women feel his butt? He works out alot, and tries to prove it to other women by letting them cop a feel. I don't think his fiancee' is aware of this....
A. 27 January 2006: She might be aware of it but then again she might not....who knows?....just thank your lucky stars that it isnt your fiancee.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my intelligent bf to stop with the insensitive, smart answers to my feelings. He can be insulting and it hurts. Help me here
Q. Help, My smart bf is always rubbing in my face how smart he is, and I always feel stupid and pissed off. When I'm annoyed with something and tell him, instead of him saying it's ok you'll get through, or just by saying it'll be ok, calms me down, ...
A. 27 January 2006: This guy of yours has his head so far up his arse he cannot see no further.The trouble with him is he thinks he is being clever with the smart ass comments... most women would find that a big turn off.If he is always talking down to you i suggest ... (read in full...)
My ex and I started sleeping together again-but now he doesn't want me anymore! Please help-how do I deal with this?
Q. Please someone help me, I started sleeping with my ex just after he finished with his girlfriend at the time. My ex started giving me the wrong impression. i thought he was still really liked me, so i made the first move and now he has told me h...
A. 27 January 2006: He took advantage of you... he knew you were still keen on him but instead of him walking away,he decided to sleep with you,the guy is a love rat.I know you are hurting and you are annoyed with yourself for whats happened but brush yourself ... (read in full...)
Any ladies got advice for a heartbroken guy? Is there still a chance?
Q. Hi Folks, I broke up with my girl in October last year after about six months. I let it go and I got on with things. Then we met up again in December and it was like we knew each other so much better, and I realised that I was more in love wit...
A. 27 January 2006: True love never runs smoothly...does it? Ok,there might be a small chance that you two might get back together...but in the mean time...dont call her or stand outside her house in the pouring rain...let her go...give her space...maybe in time she ... (read in full...)
He did x, y and z... Will he do it again?
Q. in the beginning my boyfriend left for for another girl and later on i took him back then he felt on a girls breast and butt, the last week he slept with his ex and told me. now he wants me take him back and i did. will he cheat on me again?...
A. 27 January 2006: He hasnt got a good track record,has he? This fella is a player.....any girl...any time...any place...anywhere.You deserve better.Drop the loser!... (read in full...)
Since I asked her to marry me, things have gone downhill!
Q. Dear Cupid, I appreciate the role your site is offering to so many who are faced with problems of their choice. Please i encourage you to keep ahead with the good job. I fell in love with a certain girl in 2002 and we have been going on well e...
A. 27 January 2006: Hey.....if you wont get out of bed,then i'm coming in with you..ok? Now i know you are hurting and i do feel for you but this girl isnt for you. She has made a excuse up to not marrying you and maybe she feels you are rushing in too quick. Another ... (read in full...)
Can our relationship survive despite the bad sex? Any ways to improve it?
Q. Hi, ive been going out with my boyfriend for approx. one and half years now. our relationship is very good apart from the sex bit. Hes in his late 40s, Im 40. He enjoys what i do to him but Im tired of initiating it all the time. he doesnt seem ...
A. 21 January 2006: It wont survive if the sex is bad,you obviously find it important to you and if one partner wants it more then the other....thats when the trouble begins.I suggest you speak to him again and say what you want from your sex life because after all,it ... (read in full...)
We broke up and I don't wish to receive his emails but what do I do??
Q. My ex and I broke up about a few months back. It has been hard as our ending was less than perfect but in that year I feel I have grown and moved on. I've dated other guys and feel like I am ready for a new long term relationship. The issue is t...
A. 21 January 2006: If it hurts you that much,i would send him an email back saying that you are happy for him but you have moved on and the time you had with him was special but you dont feel the need to stay in contact anymore.That then is short,sweet and simple.... (read in full...)
He rejected me so should I reject him too?
Q. Can you picture this scene... My boyfriend and I have had a stressful week with work and stuff. Today, I suggest making love in the shower and he is up for this idea. He needs me to wash him anyway because he's got an injury. Anyway, he get...
A. 21 January 2006: He probably felt like making love in the shower but i suppose the scene was ruined slightly because you got out due to the water being too cold (that was understandable) so he thought he might as well dry himself and get dressed.I think maybe the ... (read in full...)
He broke off a date with me after "commiting" to someone else. So why is he texting again?
Q. Hi, I went on a couple of dates with a guy and he made plans with me for another date. A few days before the date, he called to tell me he decided to make a commitment to someone else he was seeing. That was the last time we talked. Then a m...
A. 18 January 2006: He sounds a total loser.I expect things didnt work out with his steady girlfriend and he has decided to txt you,hoping that you will come running or he is still with his girlfriend but wants his cake and eat it.I think you should tell him that you ... (read in full...)
I have sexual feelings for my twin sister...
Q. Somebody please help me. I don't know if it's normal but i have started to have sexual feelings for my twin sister. My bedroom is being re-painted and i have been sleeping in her bedroom, i can't stop staring at her when she is asleep. She is really ...
A. 17 January 2006: Im afraid that this isnt normal.I wouldnt think that it would be in your best interests to tell her how you feel about her,she would be horrified.The quicker you have your room painted the better and my best advice would be to seek therapy.I dont ... (read in full...)
Things are great, except... he "forgot me on NYE, and he'd rather sleep than have sex!
Q. I have been with this guy for about 3 1/2 months now. We get along great but strange little things have been happening. We didn't spend any time together New Years eve because he "forgot" to call. He says he isn't seeing anyone else and that he ...
A. 17 January 2006: This bloke needs a good kick up the arse! If he is like that with you after only 3 months,what is he going to be like in a years time? Im afraid he is what you call a boring,useless specimen for a man! Ditch him,you can do better.He just isnt worth ... (read in full...)
Was I a rebound for him as he doesn't seem so into me as he was before...
Q. Is he losing interest already? I've been dating a man for about a month. The past couple- he has called or stopped by or both, every day... He even stayed a few nights in a row last week. From the beginning he was talking about 'wanting to settle ...
A. 17 January 2006: You might be reading in to it too much.....From wot you said,he does seem keen on you but he probably wants to take things more slowly.Remember is ex girlfriend is supposed to be moving out so lets see what happens.He could be on the rebound,its ... (read in full...)
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