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After this last week he has scared me a little, should I stay with him and get married or leave?
Q. Dear Cupid I am involved in a gay relationship with my best friend. He is married but now separated. We have been together about 1year and 5 months. We have never had sex as yet but we do sleep together in the same bed when I go spend the night ...
A. 4 January 2010: Thank you paulofessex....:)... (read in full...)
Why didn't he kiss me after our first date?
Q. I just went out on a first date with a guy I met last week. I was so excited to see him because we had a great conversation and he is very nice and attractive. I had a great time on our date and I would really like to see him again, but I'm afraid ...
A. 2 January 2010: Are you seeing each other again? ... (read in full...)
After this last week he has scared me a little, should I stay with him and get married or leave?
Q. Dear Cupid I am involved in a gay relationship with my best friend. He is married but now separated. We have been together about 1year and 5 months. We have never had sex as yet but we do sleep together in the same bed when I go spend the night ...
A. 2 January 2010: Walk away...this guy is not making you happy, he's making you sad, frustrated and frightened...is this what you want in a relationship? This guy is a tease..he throws you a few crumbs by sharing your bed and with great promises of Canada and ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend not replying to my texts?
Q. my boyfriend went to his dads for new years and because of this he had to break off a date. he didn't text me at all or call and i texted him 2 times with no answer. then at new years he texted me happy new years and i told him that back and th...
A. 2 January 2010: Fellas dont respond to words...they respond to no contact.
In other words, dont text him again..dont email him or hang outside his house in the rain.You see the trouble with young teenage boys is they get so distracted with playstation, tv..... (read in full...)
He asked me to wait for him but I can't wait around forever!
Q. well my boyfrined and I finished 4 months ago. we were together for a year and a half almost. we finished because he had feelings for someone else and about a month later they started seeing each other. he'd still text and phone everyday however as ...
A. 2 January 2010: Lose him...this guy is not in love with you, just the idea of it.He is keeping his options open just in case it goes all pear shaped with this other girl he is with.Do you want to be 2nd best?...a back burner? This guy is just not into ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to tell me? Does he love me or not?
Q. Hi all so the guy im seeing told me he loves me but is not in love.But then he said he used to think he was in love with me.He also said he has deep feelings for me.What is he saying?...
A. 2 January 2010: This fella who i take it is only between 18 - 21...is probably not in love with you, if he has said it to your face then accept it.Does he still want a relationship with you?... (read in full...)
How do I find a good strong man?
Q. How can I find a good, emotionally strong man for a shoulder to cry on, hold me, listen, etc? I'm 5oish woman in southern California, USA....
A. 31 December 2009: Good question...but i will let you into a secret..men are far more interested in an independant woman who has a mind of her own...isn't too needy, has self confidence and a good sense of humour...so if you like yourself..then other people will ... (read in full...)
Foreskin problems
Q. when i masterbute my foreskin doesn't go back what should i do.....i don't want to go to a doctor....
A. 26 December 2009: Is it painful? does it feel too tight? if it does see a doctor.... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me and breaking my heart! Help!
Q. I've known this guy for three weeks we were together for two weeks solid and then I left to go home. he said he would call me. he didn't and just left for his sister in min but he didn't say he was leaving but since he's been gone I've text him alot ...
A. 26 December 2009: This fella is not interested anymore, you saw each other for a couple of weeks and that was that for him.If he was that "in to you" he would of contacted you, either by calling you on the phone or texting you, no man is too busy to do a simple text ... (read in full...)
If a guy says he's been really busy, has he?
Q. I met a guy from a dating site. We talked a lot over the span of two weeks. Then I went to go stay with him for the weekend. I even met his friends and family and he bought every meal for me over the weekend. He even told me, before I left, to let ...
A. 26 December 2009: Big deal, so he sent you a message on facebook...woopee! This guy is not interested in you, he has no desire to continue with the relationship but he's softening the blow by sending you an email....No guy is too busy if he wants someone so badly, it ... (read in full...)
I am not sure if I am getting the brush off or if he is waiting for me to text!
Q. Hi My boyfriend is in a band, and last week had two shows in our town and then left out of state for a week. He always takes me along to the shows they play but this time I had to ask to come along, he acted weird and was drunk (I had to pay to...
A. 17 December 2009: Sounds like he's not too bothered because if he was really missing you he would be texting you as much as he could...no matter what it took, yes i know he's busy and plays in a band, but he doesn't do that 24/7...I wouldn't bother with him...he ... (read in full...)
If a guy says he's been really busy, has he?
Q. I met a guy from a dating site. We talked a lot over the span of two weeks. Then I went to go stay with him for the weekend. I even met his friends and family and he bought every meal for me over the weekend. He even told me, before I left, to let ...
A. 17 December 2009: I agree with Ask oldersister, if he really was keen on you then he would still make regular contact.No one is too busy to text or email...it doesn't take weeks to do....and even if he did talk about you to his mother, that doesn't mean anything, ... (read in full...)
What is the fastest way to get over someone?
Q. what is the fastest way to get over someone? especially someone you loved and see all the time because you have to? (school) ...
A. 7 November 2009: Dont play sad music, dont visit places you two used to go too...dont txt him or email him...just like Gina said and keep busy...that way you have less time to think about him and believe me, you will get over him...time is a great healer.... (read in full...)
What do you think she's playing at?
Q. i am a man of 57years and work as a plumber and in the last 9 months have had a 21year old female working with me and we have been getting on like a house on fire but she has been constantly flirting with me ie touching my arms, gentle punching and ...
A. 7 November 2009: She sounds like a prick teaser....she has a boyfriend yet wants more male attention off you. She is a flirt and no doubt, your one of many...... (read in full...)
How can I overcome irritation when she doesn't call as promised?
Q. Women not returning calls. I would like some advice on what do when a lady promises to call even though she knows she won't call. I have a friend who is a girl. Whenever she has an academic need she bombards my phone with calls. In fact one day ...
A. 4 November 2009: Forget her....she's just not that into you...and do you want luke warm relationships? There's a user born every minute...Lose her and meet someone who will treat you with the respect that you deserve.... (read in full...)
Is he not that interested in me or is he bad at staying in touch for other reasons?
Q. I work with a guy whom I am interested in. Lately I have shown this by meeting up and spending a few hours together. Problem is, he's got a history of depression (which he has apparently got over now) and bullying which makes him rather reserved, ...
A. 4 November 2009: Its hard to say, it could be the depression thats making him act the way he is with you, but if you want to test the waters, i suggest you invite him out for a coffee or a meal, nothing too heavy and agree to meet up, rather then pussyfooting around ... (read in full...)
Do you think I am a slut?
Q. Do you think I am a slut? I have been flirting with this guy for years, he likes me because I am shy, we have kissed a couple of times, we get on really well and very recently we were kissing and as we were kissing he asked me to make him cum, wh...
A. 23 October 2009: No, your not a slut, you have been interested in this guy for years and only now it went a step further and become more sexual,trouble is i think this fella is using you....Reason being,he hasn't asked you out on a date even though its obvious that ... (read in full...)
I came clean to him about how I felt, and he still hasn't replied! I thought we were friends!
Q. i have been seeing a man for two years, i suppose u can call it friends with benefits, i have always felt he only wants to see me for a quicki. but we have built a good friendship up, i have had a 6 month relationship during this friendship, with ...
A. 15 October 2009: I shall tell you why he hasn't responded to you...the man doesn't give a damn about you,im sorry to be blunt but he see's you as just a leg over...you have been pregnant twice by him and all he does is sends his regards....who in the hell needs ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me saying "she just doesn't want to be in a relationship"..I don't get it!
Q. Dear Cupid, I met the love of my life 14 months ago. At first I wasn't sure I wanted to get involved. But she did all the right things to woo me, until she got me to fall for her. After I fell in love with her, she started distancing herse...
A. 8 October 2009: Its hard isn't it? You fall in love, you expect your partner to feel the same,and when they dont, your lost..you feel empty and i know you feel very sad.This woman should of had the decency to tell you face to face but instead she took the cowards ... (read in full...)
This married man has really got me confused big time.
Q. No moral judgements please it's to late for that. 30yrs ago i met a married man we had a 3yr affair,i moved away that ended it. now 6yrs ago we catch up again and we have started this all over again,he is still married i am not,the thing is i have a...
A. 5 October 2009: I cannot add too much to your problem because most of it has been said by the other agony aunts and uncles...BUT to be honest with you...there's not many married men who do leave their wives for their mistress and if he has children then its mostly ... (read in full...)
I was doing so well getting over him but all my hard work has been undone
Q. 2 years ago i fell in love, it was amazing, i had never met anyone like him,. everyone said we made the perfect couple, and we were so happy. we went out for a year, but towards the last month he said that it was going to quick, he was too young ...
A. 5 October 2009: Cant you see a pattern here?...your ex throws a few crumbs and you come running.He is without a doubt, using you...Please, please, stop sleeping with him...how will you ever get over him if you are having sex together? You are too emotionally ... (read in full...)
It appears to be over, but I have no closure...
Q. Okay, so a beautiful relationship I was in ended badly. We were together for a little over two months, but I poured my heart and soul into the realationship during that time. After she did many hurtful things to me in the last few weeks, she call...
A. 11 September 2009: Looks like she has changed her mind about you but didn't have the guts to tell you,thats why she is ignoring you.She would of got your emails and definately your text messages but she has had a change of heart. Long distant relationships can work ... (read in full...)
Hung up and don't know what to do...
Q. I have a situation with the girl I am in a relationship with. I am 40 and she is 43. Most of the time she is very sweet, has a tone about her that is just so cute to me. But other times she gets in a mood where she just demands that I do things, ...
A. 21 June 2009: Have you always had trouble with getting an erection or was it after meeting her? Either way you need to see your doctor and he will help you with the best treatment.Your girlfriend isn't very understanding so is it any wonder why you dont get the ... (read in full...)
Am I being too cold towards him?
Q. Hi, I had met a wonderful guy from internet, we date once, on the whole it was nice, he's a gentle and caring guy, I shall say he is a potential guy that I'm longing for...as I'm a abit shy towards new friend, most of the time he talked and I jus...
A. 16 June 2009: Im taking a wild guess here because i dont know what this guy is thinking but i really dont think he's that into you.The reason i think that is he's not consistent enough. He says one thing then does another. If i was you i would stop all contact ... (read in full...)
Together for 3 years and still no sex, what should I do?
Q. So I have been dating a girl for almost 3 years. From day one she was against oral sex, which is fine. But I believed that after dating for a while she would be willing to have sex....3 years later an this has not happened yet. Basically, I am ...
A. 14 June 2009: I must admit, its abit strange that after 3 years she wont have sex with you, is she religious and only believes in sex after marriage? You really need to talk to her because your both adults and you are definately not a pervert, i think you have ... (read in full...)
Had a great time together, but he didn't text me later. Now what?
Q. i'm 15. ok so my friend told the guy i liked that i liked him. me and the guy i liked texted all day and he asked me out by text. i told him i wanted to be asked in person. so then he took back the question. the next day he didn't text me at all so ...
A. 14 June 2009: Im so glad im not 15 anymore, you see the trouble with 15 year old male teenagers is they say one thing and do another, he probably did enjoy your company but if you dont hear from him after 3 days or so then i say he has lost interest...or the guy ... (read in full...)
Is he just using me to get physical?
Q. I just wanted some advice, because I really feel like my bf is jst using me. We knew each other really well b4 we went on our first proper 'date' and by the end of it we were snogging. Since then we have had abt 5/6 dates and every time he just ...
A. 12 June 2009: Does this fella take you anyway? or is it up a back alleyway somewhere? It does sound like he is using you and why should he be disappointed if you dont put out? He should be happy enough just to get to know you first, but all he wants to do is ... (read in full...)
She is a liar and a cheat but I am madly in love with her
Q. I am having an affair with a married woman . I was working on her home and she began to tell me that she was very unhappily married and that her husband had not given her a sexual orgasm in 8 years . I told her that she should get counseling but She ...
A. 12 June 2009: She's playing you for a right sucker. Walk away and find someone who will appreciate you. This woman is going nowhere, and if her husband was that bad she would of left him ages ago, in fact i bet she is still having sex with her hubby and you are ... (read in full...)
He Cheated on me for months & lied about it: Do I end it?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me and I cannot continue to be with him. Am I doing the right thing by ending it? We fell in love and lived together for several months, but he had to move for job reasons. Ever since that time, we have been lon...
A. 7 June 2009: Unless you can forgive and forget and move on,i think you will always wonder if he will cheat on you again? He said it meant nothing, but they always say that, maybe it was just sex on his part but he still lied to you, personally i would end it, ... (read in full...)
I want to harden the skin on my penis how could I do this?
Q. I want to harden the skin on my penis how could i do this? I've heard that surgical spirit is really good at hardening skin would it be okay to put some on a piece of cotton wool and rub it into my penis head?...
A. 7 June 2009: This is a wind up, unless this fella wants his cock to fall off.... (read in full...)
Why do men not break up with you?
Q. You've helped in the past so here we go again. The NAVY man. I send him texts saying its over, then he reels me back in and i fall for it. Then he ignores my texts over and over again and reels me back in again. Today I told him he was a jerk, bu...
A. 7 June 2009: Get rid of him, the man's a user, he only wants you when he needs sex, after that he disposes you like a piece of nothing, dont be treated like this, your worth more then that.... (read in full...)
I love him but he's changed
Q. been dating my boyfriend for the past 2 and a half years.....i am 25 and he is 37 and has 3 children never been married ... i been in love with him and had the biggest crush on him since i was a teenager for 6 years before we ever even spoke.... he ...
A. 6 June 2009: Sweetheart, i know your hurting here and its obvious that you truely love him but he doesn't really love you, because he is treating you very shabbily.You said you only had sex twice within 6 months with him and when you try to touch him or show any ... (read in full...)
My g/f is spending time with her questionable uncle
Q. Hi i'm very confused and need some advice about my girlfriend. I have been together with my partner for 4 years now. She is younger than me and is now 24. When she was growing up she received a lot of attention from her mother's brother who live...
A. 3 June 2009: Sorry but her uncle is a pervert, who has an unhealthy interest in his neice....the fact he asked her to go and get undressed tells me he is sexually interested and thats incest. You will have to tell her straight that it is very wrong to be having ... (read in full...)
What kind of gift would be fun and nice for a young lady?
Q. I am going to be home from uni over the summer, so I won't be seeing the young lady I like until possibly until September (though as I only live a couple of hours away I will probably try to visit when I can) Our current situation is that we have ...
A. 3 June 2009: Give her perfume, i wouldn't refuse it, most women love scents...or a book she might like to read? What is she into? what is her interests? that should give you some idea....but please...no tacky see through underwear or crutchless knickers, that ... (read in full...)
Wife, lover or solitude?
Q. married. long time. beautiful home, animals, no kids. love her, really really do, just never developed much sexual chemistry, when that was something really important for both of us before we got married. felt lonely, sad. years later - last year - ...
A. 1 June 2009: Ok, if you really do miss your lover, you want to be with her 100% then go and be with her...life is too short,and also...if your willing to take on her children then you must be really keen on her.....Remember it takes alot of serious thinking and ... (read in full...)
Wife, lover or solitude?
Q. married. long time. beautiful home, animals, no kids. love her, really really do, just never developed much sexual chemistry, when that was something really important for both of us before we got married. felt lonely, sad. years later - last year - ...
A. 31 May 2009: These are the questions you have to ask yourself........
1)Can you imagine life without your wife?
2)Can you imagine life without your lover? what pains you more?
3)If it was just sexual boredom that was causing you to stray, then you have ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend really love me?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we were 8 months together now, we were leaving in one house, he had a wife but their relationship is on the rock,. My boyfriend had the attitude that he dont care others at all, but when we leave together he started to change ...
A. 31 May 2009: Im abit confused here, is your boyfriend living with you or his is still with his wife? because if he is now with you then why in the hell is he going on holiday with his wife? Cant he make his mind up? sounds like he's dangling you both on a piece ... (read in full...)
She's with a new guy but I want her back!
Q. me and my girlfriend was going out for to years one day we split up i begged her to come back i pushed her to a point where she asked for no contact i left her alone for about 3weeks i didnt ring her or text her she told my friends she hated me...
A. 28 March 2009: You didn't say on why you split up? Did you dump her 1st? Either way she's with someone else now....but if i was in your shoes then i would text her again but this time just saying that you are very sorry for what has happened and that if she ever ... (read in full...)
We're both married to others, but can he really love me?
Q. can a married man ever love another woman. i am a married woman who still lives with her husband and kids but have told my husband ive been seeing someone else. i met this other man through a work conference. hes married for 16 yrs me 9yrs. at ...
A. 12 January 2009: Probably both, he did leave his wife and asked you to leave your husband so the ball was in your court at that time but i guess you felt pressurized to just walk out on your husband, would your lover have taken your kids on? Im thinking that nothing ... (read in full...)
13-household items & sex
Q. im 13and a boy and i want to use house hold itams to wank cuz im bord of using my hands im also wondering if i shud try and have sex yet cuz i rilly one two its just if i have sex now i wouldent have it with any older girls so thay would have to be ...
A. 31 December 2008: Crikey, what happened to childhood? why is kids so anxious to grow up quick? Let me know when you get a 13 year old pregnant, then it wont be wanking with different household things that will be your problem.....Happy New Year!... (read in full...)
Trapped in my marriage and tempted to cheat again....
Q. I am currently seperated from my husband. We met when I was 17 years old, I got married to him at the age of twenty. I thought that I was mature enough to handle something like marriage. However three years later I am realizing that we are ...
A. 31 December 2008: I think you miss your husband because your not there with him, he probably seems more attractive now your not living as man and wife, i dare say you would probably feel jealous if he was to sleep with another woman? But you say you are in love with ... (read in full...)
He didn't text me for 4 hours! Am I wrong to be hurt by this?
Q. I've been having a long distance relationship with a guy for just over a year and I felt as if I liked him more than he liked me.... So I asked him and he said that could be true, that was about a week ago and everything's been fine recently. By ...
A. 31 December 2008: Fellas get side tracked....i wouldn't worry too much about it, you two are very young and a long distance relationship can be very testing...have fun and go out yourself, i know you are very keen on him but you need to focus on yourself for a ... (read in full...)
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