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I was wondering if agony aunts get paid?
Q. could you please tell me do agony aunts get paid or is it a service they provide for free,thank you....
A. 25 October 2006: Not on here...but there is some agony aunts and uncles who are on the net and do get a wage but not on Dear Cupid...we do it out of the kindness of our hearts..he he!... (read in full...)
Does it mean anything when a lad gets a hard on thinking of you in your underwear???
Q. does it mean anythig if a lad gets a hard on over thinking of you in your underwear?...
A. 24 October 2006: Yes it does...it means that he is having sexual thoughts about you.... (read in full...)
Am I average height and weight for a 16 year old?
Q. hi can anyone tell me the average weight for a 16 year old. iam 136 pounds and 5feet 8 inches. is this normal?...
A. 24 October 2006: Im 5"8 tall and when i was your age,i was about that weight.I was on the slim side but i was healthy and eating well.You dont have anything to worry about as long as you are eating a balanced diet.... (read in full...)
Unsure I love my wife, but I fancy a work colleague. What do I do?
Q. Have been married 11 years and have a son who is 9. I have recently been having feelings that I no longer love my wife or even find her attractive anymore. I have told my wife that I am unsure whether I love her or not and she pursuaded me to ...
A. 24 October 2006: Oh dear,what a mess...I cant really add much to your problem because you have been given good advice from the other agony aunts and uncles here but maybe you should try marriage councelling like Relate,there is a waiting list but it will be worth ... (read in full...)
I want to know if Dear Cupid is a free chat room service or not!!!
Q. I want to know if the Dear Cupid is a "Free" chat Room Service or not. ...
A. 24 October 2006: Not to my knowledge....at present,it is a web site for people who have problems and just need some friendly advice.... (read in full...)
My brother has this 'tickling' thing going on and I'm not sure how to deal with it?
Q. Hya, i really hope that you can put my mind at ease about something i found out this evening that's got me very confused. My brother loves teasing and tormenting me, he's forever playing jokes on me and ever since our teens-we're both in our 20's ...
A. 21 October 2006: Your brother gets turned on by tickling women because the mags and the dvd's prove this without a doubt.Whats really unhealthy and odd is the fact that he wants to do this with you,of course you were not aware at the time but now you know,you must ... (read in full...)
Married but in love with a younger woman! Having a hard time with these feelings...what can I do?
Q. Hello, I am married since 1994, one son and living quite well with my wife up to now. Some 7 months ago I got acquainted with a younger woman (10 years; 40 versus 30 years old) and as I saw her for the very first time, I got a strange sensatio...
A. 21 October 2006: Your wife must be in turmoil over this,knowing that you still see this woman every day? How did she find out?...did you tell her?....Another thing is,how do you know that you are in love with her? You haven't had a intimate relationship together so ... (read in full...)
I love anal sex but I have concerns about cleanliness.
Q. I really love anal sex, but latley I have faeces still left in my rectum even after bowel movement and washing. Why is this? Is it to do with my diet? It's very embarassing and spoiling my fun. ...
A. 21 October 2006: While i was reading your letter i made the mistake of eating my sandwich at the same time,never mind.Anyway,i dont think its anything to do with your diet unless you were constipated,its probably because your boyfriend penetrates you quite deeply ... (read in full...)
Both married to other people and I want to stop this affair!
Q. How do we stop the affair? 11 months going ,sex 4 times a week ,but both are married to diffrent people not each other....
A. 21 October 2006: Simple...you stop seeing him.Remember,its only sex that keeps you two seeing each other,it only gets complicated if you both start having feelings for each other.Tell him that its over because people are going to get hurt and then if he starts ... (read in full...)
We split up and he still wanted to have sex....after turning him down he kisses someone else!
Q. i have been mates with a lad for over a year we met on line an recently met an ended up toghether relationship was brill then 1 day it just cum to an end so we stayed mates then few months ago he asked me for sex an no strings i ad to say no just ...
A. 20 October 2006: The guy is a loser and il tell you why...You knocked him back because he wanted sex with no strings and you didn't want to be just a sex buddy so you said no,i think thats understandable,considering you want more then just sex with him.Did he think ... (read in full...)
Is it safe for my gf to fart during anal sex or can this cause harm?
Q. Is it safe for my gf to fart during anal sex or can this cause harm?...
A. 19 October 2006: Ha ha ha ha ha!...It looks like we are getting the funny letters again,and its usually toilet humour.... (read in full...)
He's abit of a player and flirts alot so I don't know if his flirting with me if more than just that!
Q. I guess I'd like to know if this guy is attracted to me. He's kind of a player so flirting with girls isn't that meaningful, I think. It seems like he does things without thinking about them to me. He was comparing my hair color to someone elses ...
A. 18 October 2006: Yes,this guy has the hots for you but be careful..if he is doing it to other girls then he is a player,but if its just on you then it does look like he wants to get to know you more.Also,as long as he is not giving you quick gropes or touching you ... (read in full...)
It never seemed such a big thing when I was younger but now I worry if I will ever get married!
Q. i am already 35 years old and never been married. before it was simply ok for me to be with a man without getting married. but now in my age im desperately hoping for getting married thinking that at least before i get old or before i die, i will ...
A. 18 October 2006: Marriage isn't a fashion accessory and it doesn't have to be the end of the world if you dont marry.You have a boyfriend now so just enjoy what you two have and see what happens.There is a lot of women now who dont get married until much later ... (read in full...)
I asked if he's go back to his ex-he said 'probably' not! Why does this word 'probably' bother me?
Q. I've been dating a guy for about a month now. It's been going really great but about 2 days ago he talked to is ex of maybe 6 months on msn. Supposedly they were not talking no more but out of the blue there she was. She just broke up with her ...
A. 18 October 2006: Id be a bit wary....he said "probably" because he might be wishful thinking that he could get back with her,but it would be down to her,not him.The fact that they talk on msn sounds all very cosy and it doesn't feel right.If their relationship ended ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to snoop on my daughter's relationships? (via myspace etc!)
Q. I am a "way too overinvolved" mom as my 17 year old daughter puts it. But I need input from other parents as to my "over involvement". She has been "married", as she puts it, for the last 2 years, pretty much since she started dating, with 2 ...
A. 17 October 2006: Hi martini.....we got to chat soon.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to snoop on my daughter's relationships? (via myspace etc!)
Q. I am a "way too overinvolved" mom as my 17 year old daughter puts it. But I need input from other parents as to my "over involvement". She has been "married", as she puts it, for the last 2 years, pretty much since she started dating, with 2 ...
A. 17 October 2006: Yes,you are wrong to snoop as your daughter is nearly a woman and needs to make her own mistakes but obviously you are a very concerned mother and of course you are worried about her welfare,what mother wouldn't be.If you want to help your daughter ... (read in full...)
I feel like we are growing apart and have different things in common now, what can we do ??
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for about three years, including a break-up and separations due to school and work. We have always reunited and been very close to eachother - in love actually, I believe. Lately things have not been so good: ...
A. 17 October 2006: You cant be all that into her,otherwise you wouldn't be getting itchy feet.Your young and i can understand that you may want to experiment with other girls but dont do that at your girlfriend's expense.There isn't no easy way around this so you will ... (read in full...)
How can I get the approval of my parents and make them proud of me!?
Q. No matter how much i try, i cannot win approval of my parents, especially my father and this makes me depressed and i feel to be worthless and guilty. My father had huge ambitions from me which i find difficult to fulfil. Please advice....
A. 17 October 2006: At the end of the day it is your life and i find that pushy,ambitious parents who force their hopes and dreams on their off spring,tend to come unstuck when eventually the child rebels and does it own thing in the end.Im all for encouragment and ... (read in full...)
Shes says there is no spark!!???
Q. hi everyone what does it mean when a girl g/f says theres no spark...
A. 17 October 2006: Yes it does mean that there is no chemistry,no connection.You dont excite her,or she doesn't find you interesting enough...but i wouldn't despair too much because there is plenty of girls out there that will want you,and sail their boat as the old ... (read in full...)
How can I move on from him, been having an affair for a year, but he wont leave his girlfriend, but cant stay away from me!!
Q. I was seeing a guy from work for about a year although he has a girlfriend of 3 years. They have a weird relationship and hardly see each other and he has always said to me and others that he has never thought she was the one but he has been with ...
A. 17 October 2006: If your lover said that his girlfriend was never the one,then why on hell is he still with her? I could understand it,if he had children with her but he hasn't.You said he couldn't handle the guilt if he left her,yet he doesn't feel guilty by ... (read in full...)
He's 56 and in a loveless marriage. I'm 40 and he and I have had sex..am I doing the right thing?
Q. I am 40 well nearly 41 is it right to date a man of 56 (old enough to be my father) he is in a loveless marriage and loves me no worships me, we meet when we can in secret of course, we make wonderful love, we have so much ic common. We live in ...
A. 16 October 2006: Well if that was the case and he thinks the world of you,then why hasn't he left his loveless marriage? If being with his wife has become so intolerable then why on earth should he suffer anymore? Married men will use every trick in the book to keep ... (read in full...)
He doesn't say he loves me back and we only talk 3 times a week!!
Q. I'm very much in love with my boyfriend who I've been with for about a year now. We're taking things very slow and are still not having intercourse. The problem is that when I tell him I love him, he doesn't usually say it back. He explained to ...
A. 16 October 2006: Sorry to be blunt but if i was dating him,i would of died of boredom by now.It sounds to me like he is emotionally constipated,and has a fear of intimacy.You dont say how old he is but if he is a teenager then perhaps he gets nervous and ... (read in full...)
I am really attracted to my best friend but don't know if he likes me back!
Q. Hello, my best friend is a midget and i am really attracted to him, usually dwarfs and such scare me, but i made friends with him at college two weeks ago, but his really big hands are intimidating. but he is so beautiful. what should i do? please ...
A. 16 October 2006: This is a wind up...right?... (read in full...)
I'm comfortable with how things are...but I'm reaching a point where I would like more!!
Q. I think in my own mind I know the answer that this could never be anything more than casual but I'll ask it anyway. I've been seeing this guy for a year once a week or couple of weeks, nothing serious just great conversation and comfortable ...
A. 15 October 2006: Has he given you any hints that he might want to take it further? If the answer is no then he probably only see's you as a friend.A year is a long time to get to know someone,and to whether you want to take it further,obviously you do but it does ... (read in full...)
I've decided it hurts to much being with him but I don't know how to tell him without breaking down and crying infront of him!!!
Q. Hi, Can anyone offer me any advice on how to keep my emotions at bay? Tonight I am going to tell my ex (who I have been seeing occasionally over the last 3 months)that I feel too much for him to keep seeing him unless he wants to seriously work at ...
A. 15 October 2006: It sounds to me like you are having serious feelings for him but as your boyfriend has work commitments or excuses he is not giving you the time or energy that you would like.You said he was your ex so why are you still seeing him? I would of ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when someone blows in your ear??
Q. okay, well i was just wondering what it means when my boyfriend blows in my ear???...
A. 15 October 2006: He was probably trying to get some ear wax out but seriously though,he was trying to be friendly or seeing what your reaction would be like,who knows?...If he does it again,ask him why he does that?... (read in full...)
Question relation investigation
Q. Hi, Can you please answer the following: I had been accusing my partner of lying about why he had not answered me one night and I want to know whether his reply makes sense IN RELATION to the question being asked. I then asked 'How do I...
A. 14 October 2006: I think you need a shrink dear.... (read in full...)
Do you think he will leave his family?
Q. I have been married for 16 years and have a 14 year old son, I have been friends with a man from work on and off for 10 years, lunch now and then and friendly chats nothing more than that, although I have been attracted to him since the first day we ...
A. 14 October 2006: I doubt it...he said to you that he wouldn't put his children through that ordeal,although they are nearly adults now.What puzzels me is he was quite willing to have an affair with you,even though he stood the moral high ground when it came to the ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love one's 2nd wife more than the 1st wife?
Q. DO YOU think it is possible to love your second wife more than your 1st wife...
A. 11 October 2006: Yes of course...why would that be strange?...Your 1st marriage didn't work out so it looks like you were 2nd time lucky.... (read in full...)
I am 13 and in love with a 43 year old.
Q. i am 13 i am in love with a 43 year old we are getting on well we have been in a relationship for ten months i have asked him too always be honest with me and he is. to day he told me that he is in love with a woman 50000 miles away but he says ...
A. 9 October 2006: When i read this i felt physically sick.This man is a paedophile and should be reported to the police.What on earth would a man of 43 years of age,be interested in a 13 year old girl? Im afraid this man is breaking the law,he also says he loves ... (read in full...)
What does not being "in touch" indicate?
Q. If a person that you have a relationship with, apologises for not being "in touch" and the reason is that they have been absolutely swamped at work. Does this mean that they are not interested in you anyomore or do not want to speak to you for some ...
A. 9 October 2006: It depends on how long your fella has left it for? If we are talking a week or more then it does sound like he's not that keen on you.To me,if a guy is only half hearted about you then id look elsewhere...life's too short.... (read in full...)
I got drunk and allowed this other guy to finger me! If the truth comes out I will lose my bf...help!
Q. Okay, I have a boyfriend, but on saturday night i got really drunk and this boy who nearly all my friends fancy, fingered me and i tossed him off. I love my boyfriend more then anything - bit too much. But if the truth comes out i will lose my boy...
A. 4 October 2006: Oh dear!..what a mess.Why on earth did you do that when you love your boyfriend? Ok, you were drunk but you must of known deep down that it was very wrong.The only thing i can say is just keep quiet and hopefully you wont get found out,obviously the ... (read in full...)
How can a man have sex with someone else, while he claims he's in love with you?
Q. help me understand please why is that men can have good loving sexual relationships with other women when he is in love with someone else is it just the animal thing ? confused...
A. 4 October 2006: Its called having your cake and eating it.There is some men who cant resist the excitement of getting a woman into bed yet still go home to his partner.If you are with a man who repeatedly is chasing skirt then im afraid he cannot be in love with ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel that white women are more beautiful than black women like me? Do I need professional help?
Q. i am a single black woman and i have issues with beautiful women. my self image was destroyed a while back and now when i see that black women are not as beautiful as white women so basically what im saying is what could be wrong with me or do i ...
A. 26 September 2006: I have loads of girlfriends who are black and they are all beautiful looking...the actor Robert Deneiro goes for slim,black women,thats his taste...so dont think these thoughts,you need to seek a good therapist who will give you your self esteem ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 1 month tells me he still lives with his ex. He says this is purely for financial reasons. What do I do?
Q. my boyfriend, of one month, came up at the weekend, and he told me that he still has to live with his ex, he said it is over, but she stills wants to be with him. he says they sleep in separate beds, and he is only still they because he cant afford ...
A. 25 September 2006: He is telling you a lot of lies.If he wanted to move out he would because for starters,if his ex wants him back,he would feel too uncomfortable by staying there...and i put money on it..he's sleeping with her as well.Dump him,i dont trust him.... (read in full...)
Why do I keep getting pregnant to men I don't really love?
Q. I am 23 years old and have a 4 year old child. At the age of 17 I had an abortion and it was a really harrowing experience as I didn't tell anyone. Then earlier this year, I had another, but this time felt able to tell family and friends, although ...
A. 25 September 2006: I agree with David,if you dont want to get pregnant then you either go on the pill or use some other form of contraception.I cannot understand that you have unprotected sex with these men and then decide to have an abortion? While in certain cases ... (read in full...)
My friend knows I am in love with him, he gives me mixed signals but just does not seem to care. I really don't know what to do anymore.
Q. Hi, Im in a proper mess, im desperatly in love with my friend and he knows this, and I dont expect him to be in love with me back. It just no matter how much I tell him (in a text) he never comments, never runs a mile and well its destroying me ...
A. 25 September 2006: You need to stay away from him because the more you keep seeing him the worse it will be for you.If this guy really wanted you then he would of done something by now..and you know that.You will have to keep your distance from him by keeping busy.Go ... (read in full...)
His departure has taken a big toll on me
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about a year and a half now and he's always been more into me than I was into him. He treats me with so much respect and love and I don't know why but I sometimes find it hard to tell him I love him. I do love him to ...
A. 25 September 2006: They say that you dont know what you've missed until its gone,and in your case its happening to you.What are you scared of? Committment?..is that why you have cheated on him? He forgave you but there is only so many times a person can forgive.Ok..if ... (read in full...)
I am in love with 2 women in 2 different ways, how do I choose?
Q. I am in love with two women. one (A)whome I was in a relationship with for 15 months and another woman (B)whome I met through my ex. I started a relationship with B as i was unhappy in my relationship with A. After 4 months (although she did nothing ...
A. 25 September 2006: Ask yourself this...Losing one of them would be hard but which one would be intolerable to live without? You said you were in love with both of them but in different ways.My guess is you were bored with A and B gave you excitement and fun,trouble is ... (read in full...)
I caught my 12 year old son masturbating. How should I handle this?
Q. i am a father of a twelve year old boy, and i saw him masturbating,and i blew up, what should i do?...
A. 23 September 2006: Why did you blow up because your son was masturbating? Its a fact of life,most people have done it and its perfectly natural for a 12 year old to do it.I dare say you were embarrassed because you caught him doing it,hence you losing your temper.Its ... (read in full...)
How do I get a fair chance with a guy who just wants to keep things cool for a while?
Q. I just met a guy and we are getting along amazingly well. We jumped into the physical side of things pretty quickly which is unusual for both of us, but we are both very excited about getting to know each other better. I'm looking for a serious ...
A. 23 September 2006: To ask for a serious relationship would be a bit too quick as you have only started dating him,it only scares guys off,saying that he seems happy to have sex with you but nothing else,does he want to get to know you?...or just use you as a sex ... (read in full...)
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