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I feel I'm flat chested and I'm depressed and self harm...please help
Q. I am flat Chested and a 15 yr old, people some times directly say sumin to me, and i feel like i want to die, i also siffer from depression! Why cant i beat these bullies! What shall i do, how can i over come this? Please Please help me, because...
A. 2 March 2006: I totally agree with martini (i like his way of thinking) 1st of all...there is more to a woman then the size of her breasts...most men i know,prefer smaller,busted women...these silly little school boys have nothing in their boring little life so ... (read in full...)
I don't know where I stand with her and if she might use me...
Q. I have been really good friends with this girl for near 6 months now and we became close and helped each other out. I then wrote her a love letter saying i wanted more because i cared for her so much, for just over 2 weeks after that she basically ...
A. 2 March 2006: Basically this girl just sees you as a good friend and nothing more.When you wrote her a letter saying how much you cared for her,she started to back off and txt you saying ahe couldnt give you something more....the fact that she gave you a hug was ... (read in full...)
Playing it cold... But how *can* I win him?
Q. I'm at uni and I met a guy who was after me.. we would talk alot and got along well finally we kissed and got intimate a few times.. we took it a step further than friendship.. now all of the sudden there's another girl he kissed.. he stopped ...
A. 2 March 2006: This fella is playing games with you,one minute he is intimate with you...next he is kissing another girl...then he says he will call you...he cant make his mind up...i guess he is quite young so doesnt want anything too serious.If i was you i would ... (read in full...)
Should I eliminate contact with my ex?
Q. My boyfriend and I just broke up after three years. He was unwilling to move forward and forget the past. Initially we were not speaking, but now he's calling and I am willingly answering. Should I cut this loose and eliminate contact? I can ...
A. 1 March 2006: At 29 i would say that he is mature enough to handle a relationship and any problems that go with it...you dont say why you split up? Did something happen in the past that he cannot forgive? If he has started to call you again then its obvious that ... (read in full...)
How do we get back the spark?
Q. Okay well my boyfriend and i have been together 3months and have been having problems, we nearly broke up but agreed to give it another couple of weeks. We both agree we have lost our spark so to speak, can anybody offer any suggestions to get it ...
A. 1 March 2006: 3 months down the line and you nearly broke up...you are also arguing already and you say the spark is gone and you want to know,how to get it back.Im afraid your relationship is not looking good.The reason i say that is because at 3 months you two ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to respect me?
Q. I work for my partner and I also work part-time as a receptionist. I would consider myself intelligent and hard-working but my boyfriend doesn't show me much respect. He often criticises me and I really resent it when he does. He also has a secretar...
A. 1 March 2006: I agree with Smeedle....what on earth are you doing with that loser? His head is so much up his arse....he cannot see through the other end.Im sorry but this guy doesnt have a clue on how to treat a woman...particulary you.He is self absorbed...self ... (read in full...)
She expects me to wait for her...how can I get her to see how I feel?
Q. hi, my girlfriend recently returned from a year away visisting her dad in australia we were together for around 9 months and at the time both agreed that we would end the relationship when she left.we kept in touch and now she has returned were an ...
A. 28 February 2006: No, you are not being unfair,your girlfriend decided to visit her family for a whole year...then decided to come back and make another go of the relationship.Now she has dropped a bombshell,and has told you that she has fallen in love with someone ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish for wanting to see more of her?
Q. Please can you tell me whether you think this arrangement is fair. I have just started a relationship with a girl who has a young daughter. She has told me that I will only be able to see her one evening a week and every other weekend - when her ...
A. 26 February 2006: If she can trust someone to look after her daughter for one night a week...i cant see the harm in suggesting that.Mind you,she might say no....but you will have to go with what ever she wants as she does have the responsibility of her child to think ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish for wanting to see more of her?
Q. Please can you tell me whether you think this arrangement is fair. I have just started a relationship with a girl who has a young daughter. She has told me that I will only be able to see her one evening a week and every other weekend - when her ...
A. 26 February 2006: If she can trust someone to look after her daughter for one night a week...i cant see the harm in suggesting that.Mind you,she might say no....but you will have to go with what ever she wants as she does have the responsibility of her child to think ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish for wanting to see more of her?
Q. Please can you tell me whether you think this arrangement is fair. I have just started a relationship with a girl who has a young daughter. She has told me that I will only be able to see her one evening a week and every other weekend - when her ...
A. 26 February 2006: If she can trust someone to look after her daughter for one night a week...i cant see the harm in suggesting that.Mind you,she might say no....but you will have to go with what ever she wants as she does have the responsibility of her child to think ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish for wanting to see more of her?
Q. Please can you tell me whether you think this arrangement is fair. I have just started a relationship with a girl who has a young daughter. She has told me that I will only be able to see her one evening a week and every other weekend - when her ...
A. 26 February 2006: If she can trust someone to look after her daughter for one night a week...i cant see the harm in suggesting that.Mind you,she might say no....but you will have to go with what ever she wants as she does have the responsibility of her child to think ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish for wanting to see more of her?
Q. Please can you tell me whether you think this arrangement is fair. I have just started a relationship with a girl who has a young daughter. She has told me that I will only be able to see her one evening a week and every other weekend - when her ...
A. 26 February 2006: If she can trust someone to look after her daughter for one night a week...i cant see the harm in suggesting that.Mind you,she might say no....but you will have to go with what ever she wants as she does have the responsibility of her child to think ... (read in full...)
How should I help out my friend who wants to break up with her suspicious boyfriend?
Q. Hi. This question is to help a best friend of mine who is a girl. She has a boyfriend who she know longer wants to go out with. But she is to scared to finish him. She has the type of boyfriend that checks her text messages and doesn't like her ...
A. 26 February 2006: I think your friend should give it to her boyfriend straight.The longer it goes on the harder it will become,she is not doing herself any favours here.....her fella sounds controlling and insecure....if your friend really wants to end it then she ... (read in full...)
He used to send loving txt messages everyday but since we split he has put up a wall of silence!!
Q. My ex gay boyfriend, 21, has put up a wall of silence since our split after six months a month ago. I am 33 and was deeply shocked when he suddenly chose to end things, saying the relationship was not working for him. Instead of ending things f...
A. 25 February 2006: To put it in a nutshell Greg....he doesnt want to know.If he honestly,felt guilty about the way he ended the relationship....he would of made amends by now.He sounds very immature in some ways...by the way he handled the break up.He txts you then ... (read in full...)
I sent this guy a letter telling him I liked him and he still hasn't replied and its driving me nuts!!
Q. I recently sent a guy i like a letter telling him that i found him attractive and that id been thinking about him for the last year and would like to get to know him on a more personal level but not knowing his personal circumstances id understand ...
A. 24 February 2006: Ok....i think you should leave it now and see what happens.You have wrote him a letter,stating how you felt and that you would like to get to know him better...so now its up to him.If he is interested then he should contact you....if he doesnt then ... (read in full...)
Should I keep her or ditch her? I am not sure..advice needed
Q. Must I keep her of dump her? I am not sure. I am a 23 year old male dating a 16 year old girl. We are going out for almost 10 months now and have broken up twice. The thing is I am not sure of her feelings for me. Does she really love me as she i...
A. 24 February 2006: She seems to have the taste for older men and i must admit,this 33yr old who is still on the scene does look a bit suspicious....why should she still be in contact with him if they have split up? Who ended it? Was it her and he hasnt accepted ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know why my guy prefers text sex to the real thing?
Q. Help, my guy seems to want only text sex. I fell in love with him when we met back in September and he pleaded to meet again. I agreed to meet a week later but he cancelled at short notice, asking for another date. Eventually after stalling for 6 ...
A. 24 February 2006: It does sound like he has a intimacy problem....thats why he prefers text sex to the real thing.Personally....i think your wasting your precious time with him.This man gets turned on by txting,that is enough for him...and your feeding his kicks so ... (read in full...)
Me and my bf dont talk anymore although he insists he loves me!!
Q. Basically I have been with my bf for 3 months, but recently we haven't been talking much. I always talk to him online as well and he goes silent then and then after a while says he's tired or he's got to go. At college he seems distracted and look...
A. 23 February 2006: It does sound like he is getting restless with this relationship but hasnt got the nerve to finish it....probably because he doesnt want to upset you...but what he is doing is making the situation worse.I think you should call it a day....maybe the ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about his 'new' friend?
Q. Is it possible for men to be just friends with females? My boyfriend has recently become friends with a girl at work and I've found out that he has texted her 15 times over the past few days even though he works with her all day. He has always had ...
A. 22 February 2006: Possibly....the fact that he has txted her 15 times...even though he sees her at work,does seem a bit suspicious.Obviously it doesnt help if you get very possessive and jealous but this time it might be with good reason.While its perfectly ok to ... (read in full...)
How do I get her back?
Q. My g/f and I split up 9 moths ago but have been seeing each other as friends every few weeks. However, just as i thought she was showing signs of considering getting back with me I blew it by getting heavy, serious,clingy, heart on sleeve etc. Now ...
A. 22 February 2006: The fact that she hasnt bothered to contact you after 2 months...tells me that she isnt interested.I think you should stop all the chasing,you have made your feelings clear to her but yet she still doesnt want to know.Yes....she might start ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps wanting to meet up and then making excuses for not turning up. What should i do?
Q. I need a little help on how to tackle my gay ex. I am 33 and he is 21 and we have recently split after six months. He ended it by simply not turning up at arranged times - preferring to go out with his friends. He has had a lot of problems at work,...
A. 22 February 2006: This ex of yours is playing games.....if he really wanted to see you then he would of done...no matter what.He broke off the arrangement...and lied because he was in town with a girlfriend of his.You have done everything....i wouldnt txt him,even ... (read in full...)
We were going to have a break, but we met a week later and things led to sex. Are we back together or what?
Q. Hey everyone this is my first time ever posting on this board so I'm a little nervous, but need advice. A little over a week ago my fiancee and I decided to take a break - well actually he decided he needed time. He said he was definitely coming b...
A. 21 February 2006: Ok....iv got the full picture now.So the reason you split up for a little while was because of your insecurities.Do you feel jealous then if your boyfriend talks to other females then?...If you do then take a step back and ask yourself why?...is it ... (read in full...)
Is he seeing someone else for sex? Evidence says Yes, but he denies it...
Q. I'm a gay guy and have been in my first serious relationship for one and a half years. Eight months into the relationship I found texts from a guy arranging a meet for sex. He claims it was harmless banter between 2 friends. Two months into the ...
A. 20 February 2006: No your not going mad.....this fella of yours is messing you about...all the evidence proves it.Is he really worth the heartache?.....I suggest you walk away now and find someone else who isnt going to fool you around.You deserve better....and you ... (read in full...)
Since our relationship went long-distance, he only has time for a 3-minute phone call!
Q. My boyfriend has moved all the way across the country. Now every time we talk on the phone he says he has to go after only about 3 minutes. I love this man. Should I wait for him?...
A. 20 February 2006: No i wouldnt wait for him.If your boyfriend can only spare 3 minutes on the phone to you then im afraid he is being inconsiderate....and doesnt seem to care about you as much as he should.It sounds like he is ringing you out of duty and nothing ... (read in full...)
We were going to have a break, but we met a week later and things led to sex. Are we back together or what?
Q. Hey everyone this is my first time ever posting on this board so I'm a little nervous, but need advice. A little over a week ago my fiancee and I decided to take a break - well actually he decided he needed time. He said he was definitely coming b...
A. 20 February 2006: Talk to him and ask him where you stand.It sounds like he doesnt know what he wants.What puzzles me is after you two got intimate,he decided to leave you at 2am in the morning....that doesnt sound right to me......why? because if he really wanted ... (read in full...)
I like this guy and he knows how I feel but still he does nothing!!
Q. I've liked this guy for a couple months now and ive told him how ive felt but he still doesn't do anything. When we are together he'll be flirting with me the whole time.. why hasnt he done anything knowing my feelings for him?...
A. 20 February 2006: I tell you why...because he loves the power that he has over you.He knows how you feel but yet he doesnt do anything...which tells me that he doesnt want to take things further....if he did,he would of done something by now.This fella is playing ... (read in full...)
My family say I should be grateful for any girlfriend at all, but this situation doesn't feel fair to me...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years. She is the first I have been with, while I am her 6th. I could have got over this but she kept on going to her ex's house at least 2 times a week to cook him dinner and watch movies with him...
A. 20 February 2006: No you are not being unfair to her.....basically,she is being unfair to you.This woman of yours is seeing her ex behind your back and lying about the emails at the same time.....dont put up with it any longer.....why should you be grateful for a ... (read in full...)
Bad attitude.
Q. What to do about a boyfriend with a really bad attitude? ...
A. 19 February 2006: What would i do with a boy who has bad attitude?.....kick him up the arse! Sorry if that sounds rude but so is your boyfriend.There are plenty of nice guys out there who have a lovely nature....why hang round with a loser like that? Maybe if you do ... (read in full...)
Can I get over him cheating on me more than 80 times?
Q. Is it possible to get over a man cheating on you if he's done it over 80 times? I've thought of counselling but a bit scared of opening 'pandoras box'. I thought I got over the first few but the one's that involve people I know who were friends of ...
A. 19 February 2006: You dont need counselling.....you need another boyfriend! This fella of yours,cannot keep his trousers zipped up.You have given him so many chances....and yet he still sleeps with other girls,he hasnt any respect for you....if he did he wouldnt be ... (read in full...)
I got mad at him for talking everyday to his ex gf-so I pushed him. He got mad so should I apologize?
Q. Hello, I am a 30 year old female, my boyfriend is a 40 year old male. We have been involved in a relationship for 6 months now. 4 months ago his ex girlfriend started calling, stating that she misses him and wants to work things out. He claims he ...
A. 16 February 2006: You had every right to be mad.....how dare he treat you like this......if he really cared for you or loved you,he wouldnt hurt you like this.My guess is he either enjoys the attention from his nutty girlfriend or he is too weak to tell her to take a ... (read in full...)
My BF isn't ready to get married, but he thinks I am -- so he keeps breaking up with me!
Q. My boyfriend is 5 years younger and we both love each other very much. Problem is that he somehow thinks I'm ready to get married and now wants to break up because he wants me to find someone to marry. He says he still loves me, but we just can't be ...
A. 16 February 2006: If you didnt mention about marriage to him then it sounds like he is making an excuse up to finishing with you.Why he cant just say thats its over and feels that you and him should go your own sweet way...would be far more truthful instead of saying ... (read in full...)
I want our troubled marriage to work, but am I a glutton for punishment?
Q. In December 05 my husband told me he was unhappy and not sure if he loved anymore. January 06 I found phone calls to another woman. Approached him and he told me that are just friends. I kicked him out, but recently told him if he wanted to make ...
A. 15 February 2006: If this marriage is to work then your husband will have to be more honest with you....because without trust,your marriage doesnt stand a chance.Now you have a small child,so the welfare of your little boy or girl is paramount.Do you believe your ... (read in full...)
Why is it so difficult for us to be friends now?
Q. I am very confused at my ex's behavior. We broke up maybe 13 months ago because he got scared of how serious our relationship was and decided he wasn't sure how he felt about me anymore. He dumped me. Two weeks later he was with someone else and I ...
A. 11 February 2006: I know where you are coming from....you are wondering why he can talk to other people and his exes with no problems but when it comes to you...he ignores you,CHARMING....why waste your time and effort over him...he sounds insecure or down right ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and I have acne, am short and feel like the only single girl at school...
Q. Dear Cupid, I have lots of acne on my,and I'm short too and my friends always mock at me and called me names. I'm 14 this year. I have difficulty looking for a boyfriend, and i wanted to have a boyfriend who loves me for who...
A. 11 February 2006: Ok, your confidence has taken a good bashing....and what hasnt helped is your so called friends,laughing at you.If the acne is so bad and you have tried all the face creams on the market to no avail then i suggest you go to your Doctor who will ... (read in full...)
Is he avoiding me because I didn't 'wave' at him as he drove by?
Q. hi, i'm going through a divorce and was doing volunteer work at a sports event and ran into a guy i know from work, he was staring at me and i felt our eyes lock and felt very connected to him, turns out he's my neighbor that lives across the alle...
A. 10 February 2006: Personally,i dont think it has anything to do with you not waving.If a fella was keen on a girl i dont think that would put him off....besides ,he probably thought you were daydreaming or something.There might be an innocent explanation on why he ... (read in full...)
Why is it so difficult for us to be friends now?
Q. I am very confused at my ex's behavior. We broke up maybe 13 months ago because he got scared of how serious our relationship was and decided he wasn't sure how he felt about me anymore. He dumped me. Two weeks later he was with someone else and I ...
A. 10 February 2006: Just forget him...he sounds like another bloke who enjoys playing mind games.He suits himself when he wants to talk to you...but when the shoe is on the other foot and you want to talk,he runs a mile and acts weird.Personally i would just be ... (read in full...)
She's resisting my efforts to get her back. What can I do?
Q. Hello, Me and my ex had been going out for 11 months and it was going great. We both love each other lots. Then it became clear that we had lost something; we just kept arguing and not seeing each other as much as we did. We grew apart because ...
A. 9 February 2006: You have done all you can to win her back and so far it hasnt worked.If i was you,i would leave it a while and see what happens....that means no phone calls,emails or presents...give this girl space,she has made it clear that she needs time...but ... (read in full...)
Any way I can tell if the married man I'm dating will leave his wife, kids, for me?
Q. Why did i have to start dating a married man! It's been almost a year now, he's in his late 30s and says that, even though he loves me, he won't leave his wife because they have been together since she was 16 and they have children together and so ...
A. 9 February 2006: If this married man of yours has made it clear that he wont leave his wife...then you can bet your bottom dollar that he means it.If he truely loved you and wanted to spend the rest of his life with you then he would of left his wife by now...he ... (read in full...)
He can't make up his mind between me and his wife. Advice needed.
Q. Hi, I fell in love with a married man (no kids) in 2000. Please do not take me wrong..i know just because he was attached , I shouldnt have gone anywhere near him, but trust me did not plan to fall in love with him. He gave me a reason to love and ...
A. 8 February 2006: And how do you imagine a married man "proves" his love for another woman? There is only one way....to leave his wife for you.I think after 5 years,its highly unlikely he will give you that pleasure(or his wife that misery) Why should he? he was ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a married man at work-but will finding a new job help?
Q. I have fallen for a married man at work I know he likes me but he loves his kids I have liked him for 3 years and I have been in an unhappy relationship for on and off, 14 years. I have now split with my long term partner to look for a free agent ...
A. 8 February 2006: I think the best bet is to look for another job because sooner or later this married man is going to keep on at you to start an affair...or maybe just a one off fling.You want a man with no partner or wife hidden away somewhere....if you start this ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to send the newly widowed man I fancy an anonymous valentines?
Q. Dear Agony Aunt I am so mixed up right now, I came out of a long term relationship last June 05 after 19 and a half years and even though my ex lied to me for over 2 and a half years, I get on really well with him as we have a business togethe...
A. 7 February 2006: You could send him a card but would he really know that it came from you? You sound really keen on him and he seems to be getting good support from friends etc.As he lives only 5 mins from you,why dont you invite him round for coffee? or would he ... (read in full...)
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