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writes: hi, need a bit of advice.... just come out of a 4 year relationship,not by my choice, and i hurt like mad. all i want to do is shut my self away from friends,work,everything. dont quite know how to deal with this. please can anyone tell me wots the best way to mend a broken heart??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (13 January 2006):
 Well it's happened to me alot. I do mean alot; so here goes the Ed's heartbreak mending kit. Drink till you get drunk, call everyone you ever knew, make a complete ass of yourself, cry some more, try and get her back (for the 15th time) cry some more, tear up her picture, tape picture back together, cancel credit cards and bank account, cry some more, hear love song, cry some more, throw something, cry some more, think of her, cry some more, get another dog, cry some more, have pitty party, cry some more.
NEXT DAY: Cry some more, go to mall, find cute blonde that looks at me, start to cry, realize she is still looking, smile, walk over and say hi, realize that 4 years didn't mean that much after all. Or keep crying till your dehydrated, eventually YOU WILL STOP.
SERIOUSLY: TIME HEALS EVERYTHING AND I MEAN EVERYTHING. Try going to the gym and taking it out on weights. Give her a reason to be sorry she dumped you. I've had four relationships that all lasted four years. I eventually decided four is NOT my lucky number and now I'm pretty built, he he he. Cheer up dude; almost everyone goes through one bad breakup. Some of us, learned the hard way.
By the way there are over 150 MILLION women in the United States. I'd say the odds are in YOUR favor.
Good luck
Ed
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reader, shania  +, writes (13 January 2006):
 Heres my tips to mend a broken heart,Dont take revenge,meaning-flirting with her friends,standing outside her house in the pouring rain or sending naked pics of her to your work mates,let that part go because it will feel natural to be bitter.2nd-Get distracted with something,whether its going out with your friends,taking up a new hobby,if you keep busy your not going to be sulking at home,3rd-Dont kick yourself when your down,telling yourself she dumped you because you were too needy or she didnt like your dress sense.There will be other girls to take your exs place and remember,you will get over her,time is a great healer,i know..... iv got the tee shirt to prove it!
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (13 January 2006):
 Just give it time. Time can ease the pain of almost any wound.
In the meantime, try not to shut yourself away from others. Your friends are one of your best resources at a time like this. Take advantage of the fact that you have them! I don't know how I ever would have gotten through a painful break-up (of a four-year relationship) last year at this time without the love and support of friends and family.
I know that you don't feel like focusing on work because it doesn't seem important in light of all of the pain that you are going through, but try to engage yourself in your work as much as possible. It'll occupy your mind and make time move a little quicker.
Best wishes.
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