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Is it right that my bf should spend some private time with his ex? How should I handle this?
Q. My boyfriend recently got in touch with his Ex. After they spent a day together, the Ex made the offer to my boyfriend that he could spend a week at the Ex's house so my boyfriend could visit his family. I wasn't invited. I told my boyfriend that I ...
A. 25 March 2006: I totally agree with smeedle,it is not acceptable for your boyfriend to stay at his ex's,what on earth is he playing at?...His ex definately wants him back and he is not exactly fighting her off.Another thing is,do you want a boyfriend who doesn't ... (read in full...)
First he wasn't interested in me, so he was seeing someone else. Then he came back, hinted he wants a relationship... and disappeared!
Q. I met a guy who I really clicked with, had a couple of nice dates, then he told me he was getting into a relationship with someone else. I was so disappointed, because I thought we really had a good connection, but we'd just met, and he said he'd ...
A. 22 March 2006: What a weasel! This bloke is playing you around,and if i was you i would forget about him....he is a user.If he really liked you he wouldnt be playing these pathetic games.Next time he comes to see you....tell him that you got bored of waiting and ... (read in full...)
How do I stop my boyfriend "tapping" me?!
Q. My boyfrined of two months has a habit of "tapping" me which is beginning to drive me nuts! He taps me when he puts his arm around me, when I wake in the morning for a cuddle, he taps me. I've tried to make a joke of it and ask him if he's sending ...
A. 22 March 2006: I agree.....it would get on my nerves as well,its obviously a habit and he cant help himself.If i was you i would tell him firmly,not to do it...or if he still keeps doing it then everytime he does,just tickle him under his arms really hard....that ... (read in full...)
Should I date or wait for her? HELP???
Q. Sorry if this is long... Last July I met the Girl of my dreams... It was really love at first site for both of us. I rememeber it like it was yesterday when my buddy and I dropped her off at her house I was thinking about how wonderful that Gi...
A. 22 March 2006: You have got it bad,havent you?....to be fair,five and a half months is not really that long to get over someone....especially if you had strong feelings for her.You didnt say why you two broke up,but it looks like she was the one who ended ... (read in full...)
I really would like to get over him, but I don't know how....
Q. well my ex i think is still in love with me. he's showing all the obvious signs and i love him to peices and have been to hell and back when he dumped me because he fancied my best friend and now i really want to be more than that, but he said he ...
A. 22 March 2006: I dont think your ex is still in love with you,reason being...if he was he wouldnt of said that he wouldnt go back out with you again,that tells me,he isnt interested.You might be picking up signs that he is still interested but action speaks louder ... (read in full...)
He says they didn't do anything, then why did she call it a one night stand?
Q. Me and My boyfriend have had a rocky relationship for a while. Despite this we've always made up, when I am with him, in his arms I am so at peace and happy. We have real passion between us, and affection and have quite a deep understanding of each ...
A. 22 March 2006: Ok,if you dont want to send the letter then thats just fine,the fact that he cannot be trusted is enough for you to walk away.Personally....if you see him again,you just make it clear that it is over between you and him and that you have moved ... (read in full...)
Would you keep cheating if you could get away with it?
Q. Here is one for the girls and the lads.... If you cheated (whether you were drunk or sober, intentional or unitentional) and you got away with it. I mean either your partner didn't find out, or your partner did find out and either forgave you or d...
A. 22 March 2006: You didnt go wrong anywhere.You are only guilty of one thing....and that was loving him....he didnt deserve you.Well done!...you were strong enough to walk away.Fellas like that cannot help themselves....you are better off without him.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still loves his ex, what can I do?
Q. real problem, im with my partner 5 months and love him so much, problem is i found out that he is still in love with his x he was with her for 9 years and they are split up a year and a half ago. he says he loves me and does not want to go back to ...
A. 21 March 2006: If he has told his ex just recently that he is still in love with her then that gives me the impression that he wants her back...otherwise,why tell her? He cant be totally in love with you if he is telling his underlying love for her....can he? Did ... (read in full...)
I don't believe he will change and I can't stand it any longer!
Q. hi everyone,im really fed up with my boyfriend and in need of some advice. iv been with my him for 8 month,i really dont know how we have lasted that long to be honest!!!!! he is 2 year older than me but not wanting to sound big headed i am a lot ...
A. 21 March 2006: You have answered your problem,you dont want to stay with him and his traits irritate you.You could wait forever to see if he will change,but i reakon you would die of boredom.You are just not suited to him ,full stop.Walk away now before you end up ... (read in full...)
My husband's always off with his male friend, what should I do about this?
Q. Hi, I am a 32-year-old woman and my husband is 35. We've been married 8 years. Recently my husband has been off on trips with a male friend of his - who I've never met in person, or even spoken to on the phone. If he's not golfing in Manch...
A. 21 March 2006: I find it very strange that you have never met your husbands friend,who he has known for 3 years.....why has he hidden him up?...Have you ever asked your husband why you and his pal havent been introduced?...does he exist at all? Im suspicious ... (read in full...)
How do you know a lady is interested?
Q. Need Help Ladies. What signs do you give out when you like a guy? What are the things you do that us men should be aware of when you are attracted to us. I know you must act a certain way, do certain subtle things, etc. Looking for any types of...
A. 21 March 2006: It varies from one woman to another,some make it obvious that they like a fella and others are not so forthcoming.If a woman is attracted to a man,she does give out certain clues......playing with her hair is one sign,like flicking it or twirling it ... (read in full...)
He says they didn't do anything, then why did she call it a one night stand?
Q. Me and My boyfriend have had a rocky relationship for a while. Despite this we've always made up, when I am with him, in his arms I am so at peace and happy. We have real passion between us, and affection and have quite a deep understanding of each ...
A. 21 March 2006: Yeah....send it but then dont wait for him to make an excuse up because he will.If he has cheated on you 22 times then you really are better off without him.... (read in full...)
My friend's wicked ways are getting me riled up.
Q. hi! i'm wanting some opinions on a matter thats been bugging me! basically i've got a male friend who's got engaged to this woman i've never met, as he doesn't live in my area and he only comes up every now and again on his own to visit mates or ...
A. 21 March 2006: Well its pretty obvious to me....he is playing away and while he can get away with it then he will.In his eyes he is probably thinking that he is technically single and doesnt feel guilty when he sees this other girl.I pity his poor fiance,just ... (read in full...)
Could it be third time lucky for us?
Q. Ok, me and my boyfriend were together for a while, and i believe it was special. He cheated on me and i was heartbroken, although after a while i chose to put it in the past and forgive him. we had another long relationship before splitting up, ...
A. 21 March 2006: It depends on what the real issues were about,that drove you two apart.If you never forgave him for cheating on you and you have tried to put it behind you but it didnt work then i dont think it could work a third time,because it will always be at ... (read in full...)
Would you keep cheating if you could get away with it?
Q. Here is one for the girls and the lads.... If you cheated (whether you were drunk or sober, intentional or unitentional) and you got away with it. I mean either your partner didn't find out, or your partner did find out and either forgave you or d...
A. 21 March 2006: You are going to get different answers to this because some people would still cheat if they could get away with it....while others would feel very guilty and probably just do it the once...or not at all.If you wanted to cheat on your partner then ... (read in full...)
My live-in lover wants to take the weekends off!
Q. my partner and i live together and he has just told me he wants to spend monday-thursday with me then the rest of the time with his pals and that if he wants to stay out all weekend then he will.Do you think he wants out of the relationship and is ...
A. 21 March 2006: Have you tried asking him...whether he wants out or not? What i find a bit bizarre is its all on his terms and that he has made his decision and you have got to along with it....now,if you are happy with that arrangement,then thats fine,but if you ... (read in full...)
He says they didn't do anything, then why did she call it a one night stand?
Q. Me and My boyfriend have had a rocky relationship for a while. Despite this we've always made up, when I am with him, in his arms I am so at peace and happy. We have real passion between us, and affection and have quite a deep understanding of each ...
A. 21 March 2006: I think you should call it a day with him.Your relationship...i think,has ran its course.Your constantly arguing and now he has started to cheat with you as well....doesnt sound good...does it? I dont believe for one minute that she just passed out ... (read in full...)
Why don't she realize I am what she wants?
Q. Hi, I have a very dear lady friend, whom i have harboured feelings for for over a year now. At first she seemed interested, but now says that she values me so much as a friend, she would be devasted to lose me. She says that she always mes...
A. 20 March 2006: She values you as a friend and thats all.If she felt anything else then im sure she would of made it plain by now.Its difficult when you have feelings for someone but they dont feel the same.I think the best bet is to accept her friendship and look ... (read in full...)
When I see the guy at work, he looks at me like a rabbit in the headlights! Why?
Q. At work there is a guy who I shall call X. We have spoken to each other a couple of times in the past but he is quite shy. The problem is that every time I bump into him at work it catches him by surprise and he stops in his tracks and looks ...
A. 19 March 2006: It could mean anything,if he is very shy then it might be because he isnt sure how to approach you...hence the staring or it might be because he likes you and he is trying to make eye contact...but if it does make you uncomfortable then maybe its ... (read in full...)
We've fooled around, but now it's stopped and I don't know how to mend things.
Q. Im a 17 year old boy.Me and my male friend have been in a sexual relationship. we used to do it every now and then, but now we completely stopped, and havent done it in months.I cant stop thinking about him, but i also cant tell how he feels about ...
A. 19 March 2006: The only way to find out is to ask him.If you two have been intimate with each other then you shouldnt feel uncomfortable when you want to talk to him...on a personal level.Were you a proper couple?....is he near enough the same age as you or is he ... (read in full...)
I can't stay away from my ex. What can I do?
Q. Hi, I could really do with some advice concerning my now ex girlfriend. To cut a long story short, we broke up about a week ago after a very on off relationship (more off from her point of view). One minute she would confess her undying love for...
A. 18 March 2006: This has got out of hand...your girlfriend doesnt want to see you anymore,yet you keep stalking her....that is very unhealthy,how will you get over her if you keep hounding her all the time? If anything....you are making things 10 times worse and i ... (read in full...)
Do his glances mean what I hope they mean?
Q. Dearest Cupid, I really love/fancy (I think it's love at first sight. I've had other boyfriends but have never felt this way about anyone.) This guy who used to go to my school, though left last year because he is a year older. But the thing is...
A. 16 March 2006: Hey!...dont get depressed over this,what you need to do is make it very clear that you are interested in him and that you would like to go out on a date with him.See,while you are just popping in and out of shops and hoping to catch a glance at ... (read in full...)
Do his glances mean what I hope they mean?
Q. Dearest Cupid, I really love/fancy (I think it's love at first sight. I've had other boyfriends but have never felt this way about anyone.) This guy who used to go to my school, though left last year because he is a year older. But the thing is...
A. 16 March 2006: Hey!...dont get depressed over this,what you need to do is make it very clear that you are interested in him and that you would like to go out on a date with him.See,while you are just popping in and out of shops and hoping to catch a glance at ... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me with SEVEN other women!!! Is he worth it?
Q. i have been with my man 5 years hes cheated on me with seven other women and his only defense is that i flirted with his friend when we'd only been together a week ,i am trying to forgive him but is he really worth the upset as we have two children ...
A. 14 March 2006: This man is trying to justify his actions by blaming you for his womanising.Im afraid it looks like his weakness is women and he either loves the chase the excitement and everything else that goes with it....and he cant stop....its an addiction,and ... (read in full...)
He was cheating on me with the girl next door!
Q. Hi there i've been involved with this guy for 7 years now, we were so in love and we were both committed to each other. last year i found out hew as cheating on me with a girl from next door, he says it was just plan sex , he doesn't love her,i ...
A. 14 March 2006: While it is tempting to get your own back by dating other guys,it rarely works out for the best....revenge may make you feel better in the short term but the effect doesnt last long.Now your boyfriend said that it was just plain sex and didnt mean ... (read in full...)
Says he's not ready for a relationship and it's up to me what I do next. But all my choices end with no him!
Q. I'm datin this guy for about 5 months. We have only made out with each other and we spend almost every day with each other. He calls me every morning and night and always texts. He says he loves me a lot and always talking lovey dovey with me. We m...
A. 12 March 2006: Basically...what he is saying is he doesnt want to be the bad guy and finish with you 1st...thats why he has left the ball in your court,but he hasnt given you any option...but to finish with him.If he really loved you...he wouldnt want to finish ... (read in full...)
Says he's not ready for a relationship and it's up to me what I do next. But all my choices end with no him!
Q. I'm datin this guy for about 5 months. We have only made out with each other and we spend almost every day with each other. He calls me every morning and night and always texts. He says he loves me a lot and always talking lovey dovey with me. We m...
A. 12 March 2006: Basically...what he is saying is he doesnt want to be the bad guy and finish with you 1st...thats why he has left the ball in your court,but he hasnt given you any option...but to finish with him.If he really loved you...he wouldnt want to finish ... (read in full...)
She said she was happy to see her ex and that makes me feel awful...
Q. My girlfriend says she was really happy when she saw her ex boyfriend today. I felt super bad. Is it okay for her to say those kind of things? She never says she is happy to see me....
A. 12 March 2006: Well it depends on how she meant it?.Did they split up,but remained good friends?...also,have you got worries over your relationship with your girlfriend? Are you two getting on just swell?....or are you having rows every so often? Your girlfriend ... (read in full...)
I'll keep this one simple...
Q. my boyfriend avoids sex and love with me. and he tells lies should i get rid...
A. 12 March 2006: Yes,you should get rid of him....he is a waste of space.What are you getting out of this relationship?...absolutely nothing!...Dump him.... (read in full...)
He's talking to some girl, but I can't get it out of my mind, who and why! HELP PLEASE!!!
Q. I am 21 and have been in a serious but steady relationship for two years,we both live with our parents. I try to have an open relationship with my boyfriend and always tell him how i'm feeling and i feel he isn't giving this back in return,i hope i ...
A. 8 March 2006: Sounds like he is playing away.The fact that he takes his phone to the bathroom and late night phone calls to this woman doesnt sound too good.Im afraid you will have to confront him...and ask him who this woman is....he will probably give you some ... (read in full...)
Did I step on K's toes by kissing X in the club?
Q. Hi, I have written lots of responses on this site myself but want to remain anonymous for this I hope all the pro’s like Bev and Irish49 can help me with this one, as well as anyone that can give me a thoughtful response, I am a guy in my lat...
A. 6 March 2006: You and your friend Ms X,are two grown adults,she didnt have a gun to her head when she ended up kissing you.I think your other mate (k)is overreacting.Surely its your business whether you end up having a relationship with this other woman or not? ... (read in full...)
Since an unexpected pregnancy, I can't stand intimacy with my partner!
Q. I had an ectopic pregnancy last summer. It was a shock as I din't know I was pregnant as I had a coil fitted. Since then I have had no desire for sex and I have panic attacks when my partner touches me intimately. This of course is putting a strain...
A. 6 March 2006: I really do feel for you....my dear,you have had a micarriage...a still birth and a ectopic pregnancy...no wonder you identify sex with that.You must get professional counselling...a trained bereavement counsellor who will get you through this.A ... (read in full...)
I love her but she can't trust me. What should I do?
Q. I am in love. The woman of my dreams just broke up with her boyfirend. I did not realize I love her till recently. I kissed her last night she did not resist but later that night she burst into tears and left. She says she can't trust me and does...
A. 4 March 2006: She has just split up with her boyfriend...so she is upset and vunerable,if you were to hit on her,you picked the wrong moment.Ok...you kissed her and she responded,but she later regretted it...dont forget,she has just come out of a relationship so ... (read in full...)
Not sure I can cut my ties to this married guy who I've been a friend and lover to all my life...
Q. I am 37 years old and have had a male friend for approx 20 years - for a number of these year we have been romantically linked and he has lived with me for a while - my sister is married to his brother. Two years ago, he left me and has married ...
A. 4 March 2006: This man has been using you for the last 20 years...dont you think that if you were the one for him...he would of built up a future with you by now....he has got you dangling on a string and you are letting him.He is married with a child...his wife ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a lady to be willing, wet, yet get no pleasure at all from sex?
Q. Ladies... A girfriend told me that she had sex but it did not feel good. Never; now I replied that that is rediculous because sex always feels good if the woman is a willing participant. Excuse me for my ignorance but I think that when ...
A. 4 March 2006: To put it in a nutshell....a woman can be wet but thats not because you are having sex with her....its because some women have vaginal secetions...depending on her monthly cycle...discharge can be mistaken for general wetness.If a woman doesnt have ... (read in full...)
In love with my husband's friend... Was this "gaze" a sign?
Q. I'm married and I'm in love with my husband's friend. Last time I saw him I just couldn't take my eyes off him till he looked at me and we made a very strong, long eye contact. I had never looked into someone's eyes like that before. The gaze was ...
A. 4 March 2006: I would say that he does find you attractive...the fact that he made eye contact suggests that.Trouble is your married.His friend does like you but would he betray his friend so that he could have his wicked way with you? Dont you love your husband ... (read in full...)
Married, but seperated, now in love with a married man!
Q. I am a married woman, but separated from my husband. I have stupidly fallen deeply in love with a married man. We spend as much time together as possible, not sexually we just love being together. He says that he loves me and I have replied those ...
A. 4 March 2006: While he sounds honourable to his daughter and that he puts her 1st...which is understandable....i feel that he is still leading you up the garden path.Why?....well he says that he loves you and maybe he does in his own way...you are expected to ... (read in full...)
I made a terrible mistake while blacked out drunk and slept with my boyfriend's brother...
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for i would say 6 months. It feels longer than that though because we were basically dating before but he just never asked me out. My mom let my boyfriends brother stay at our house because he got kicked out. ...
A. 3 March 2006: I think in future,you should stay away from the drink because it alters your way of thinking....people can take advantage of you and before you know it,your doing things your later regretting.These fellas took advantage of you while you were very ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me with her ex!
Q. my fiance cheated on me with her ex i forgave her she now tells me she doenst love me i feel so hurt yet i love her more than life what should i do?...
A. 2 March 2006: When you meet someone you take a chance with them.You fall in love and hope that they feel the same...some relationships work out and some dont....its a lottery.Your fiance cheated on you and you forgave her...now she has told you that she doesnt ... (read in full...)
Am I paranoid or just right about his possible straying?
Q. ok, so we have been together 6yrs. married for two yrs. we have a two year old daughter. I am just wondering if i am paranoid or what. my husband works alot of weird hours. which is ok becauase i don't work. i noticed on when i look on the ...
A. 2 March 2006: If you are getting strange vibes then i would act on them...but with caution,you dont want to start accusing until you have total proof that your husband has been playing away.You dont say what the weird incident was at your house? If i was you i ... (read in full...)
I feel I'm flat chested and I'm depressed and self harm...please help
Q. I am flat Chested and a 15 yr old, people some times directly say sumin to me, and i feel like i want to die, i also siffer from depression! Why cant i beat these bullies! What shall i do, how can i over come this? Please Please help me, because...
A. 2 March 2006: I totally agree with martini (i like his way of thinking) 1st of all...there is more to a woman then the size of her breasts...most men i know,prefer smaller,busted women...these silly little school boys have nothing in their boring little life so ... (read in full...)
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