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He hates his ex and just wants to be friends...I want more!
Q. We have a strong emotional connection and both clearly like each other, but he has such a bitter hatred for his ex that he cant get over. They were together for three years and she cheated on him so they broke up this summer. Since then, we have ...
A. 23 November 2005: Right lets get one thing straight,you are not his psychiatrist your his girlfriend,or you WERE.This fella is still holding a torch for his ex and he was on the rebound when he met you.He just wants to be friends,i know you like him alot but theres ... (read in full...)
He doesn't think to send me cards or say nice things to me. Is it just a guy thing?
Q. I'm a 34 yr old women dating a 35 yr old man for about a year. We are very much in love and talk about our future a lot. I love to tell him how great he looks or how sexy or kind or strong I think he is (not all the time just a few times a week ...
A. 23 November 2005: Ok,this man your seeing is in his thirties,hes hardly a young teenager so he has had other relatinships so he must know what makes a woman tick by now,it is trial and error.You show him affection,how much he means to etc,yet he doesnt reciprocate.I ... (read in full...)
I can't understand why a woman who seems to like me keeps me at arms' length!
Q. At the start of October, I kept bumping into a girl when I was out at the weekend. After a few weeks, we started emailing each other. Then she came home from uni three weekends ago and we got on well. She asked me out to a gig the following weekend. ...
A. 23 November 2005: Give it one last shot,she might be genuine.Ask her if you could see her again,that you would like to take her out somewhere,if she says yes then great,take it from there and take it slowly.But,if on the other hand she makes another excuse up,like ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex says she's pregnant, and her family insist they get back together!
Q. Dear Cupid My boyfriend has now confessed to me that his ex girlfriend may be pregnant for him. Apparently they broke up when she told him that the child she was carrying was not his. That was the story until about a month ago when the story c...
A. 23 November 2005: What a mess,i do sympathize with you.From what i can make out your fella has been pushed from pillar to post but at the end of the day,no one can force him to stay with his pregnant girlfriend.Thats if it is his!I feel that he is weak and that he is ... (read in full...)
My new guy would be perfect... except he's married!
Q. I meet this guy, lets just say it's like the pretty woman movie. He buys me all sort of expensive gifts and such. It is so different with him, the other day we were making out for 4 hours straight without having sex at all in any way. He says h...
A. 21 November 2005: He may be in love with you but does he love you enough to leave his wife for? The trouble with some married men is they think the grass is greener,that there bored with their mrs and need the excitment.My experience tells me that most married ... (read in full...)
My partner has convinced everyone that I'm the mean and nasty one... but he treats me terribly!
Q. I have been in a relationship for over 15 years. Right from the start my life has been dictated to either directly or indirectly by his family. I am not allowed to enjoy anything that I used to love passionately (I still love, but scared to try and ...
A. 20 November 2005: You poor thing, if i was you i would get my hat and coat and run for the hills.You must get out of this relationship now,this man ia a control freak,he is jealous of your happy go lucky attitude that you once had.This man does not respect you,he ... (read in full...)
I'd swear my husband's buddy was flirting...even though he denied it!
Q. I am married for two years now and love my husband dearly. I have always been faithful to him and never thought of cheating or being with someone else. Last December I met his buddy, whom he has known since high school. He is an attractive guy and ...
A. 20 November 2005: This man probably did flirt with you,probably found u attractive but he was passing the time away.You spoked to him about it and it didnt mount to anything.He has a girlfriend anyway.I think that even though you love your husband and im not doubting ... (read in full...)
We both have had problems in dating... so I can't tell. Is James as interested as I am?
Q. I am a 33 year old single female- and I will be the first to admit- I am horrible at reading other people or understanding affairs of the heart (I’m a research scientist- therefore most of my thinking is overly analytical- I will confess). I have...
A. 20 November 2005: To put it in a nutshell i dont think you are going to get anywhere with this guy.He has made his feelings pretty clear.Think about it,he has had every opportunity to change his mind and tell you that he would like to take things further but he ... (read in full...)
I cheated, but promised my girlfriend I'd tell if I ever did. Now what do I do?
Q. This might be a long read, sorry about that, I hope Irish could advice on this, you seem like a very intelligent and mature woman. I'm a 25 year old male and I've quite recently messed up completely (like so many other stupid stupid men). Thr...
A. 20 November 2005: I did read your letter very carefully and the way i see it is your looking for a way out,for a start u have cheated on your girlfriend twice,what does that tell you? You are going round in circles.You say that you wished she cheated on you,is that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't follow through with his promises!
Q. I am in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend for 2 months tells me he'll do things and he doesn't do them. Is he trying to tell me he doesn't want to be in this relationship any longer?...
A. 20 November 2005: It does seem he is halfhearted,if u have been seeing each other for 2 mths,then it should be in the exciting period,saying that,it is a long distance relationship and that would add the strain.If i was you,i would cut my losses with this man and ... (read in full...)
We never realised the strength of our love until 10 years on!
Q. Dear Cupid I am puzzled and frustrated and I need some help. I don't know what to do about my former girlfriend. 10 years ago, she broke up with me. Before that, we lived together for a few years and we believed we had met our soulmate. We felt...
A. 18 November 2005: You left her to work in another country,she finished with you because she got fed up waiting for you.Then u turned up hoping she was still single but no,she moved on and went with another man.Now you have met up again but is her heart still in ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on him and everyone thinks we'd be a great couple, but I'm afraid to ask him out!
Q. I have a big crush on this guy and have done for five months! I have a reputation as being a swot and so does he. Everyone says we would be perfect together. The thing is I am afraid to ask him out! What should I do??? Luv Hannah...
A. 18 November 2005: Ask him out for a coffee or to watch a movie,do it casually. You never know, he might say yes but if you dont ask,you will never know,will you?... (read in full...)
She's married with kids and not in love with me, but I want more!
Q. Hi. I am a single 20 yr old Male. I am in love with a woman who is 40 yrs old. She is married with kids. But I am worried because we are best friends and have been for nearly 2 years now. I am certain she is not in love with me. But I want more. I ...
A. 18 November 2005: Wot does her husband think of all this? He doesnt find it strange that a single man like u is very close to his wife? Still, i wouldnt do anything hasty,not unless u want to eat hospital food from now on.You are getting a little bit too close for ... (read in full...)
We live 120 miles apart so when we get together and have sex... well, it goes too fast.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months and we live 120 miles apart. When we have sex which is once or twice a week, if that, he has this problem. He can't go very long and he says it's not my fault. He's had this problem before ...
A. 18 November 2005: How in the hell does his mum know about him not lasting? Is she in the room then when he is doing it? I would say that 7 mins of intercourse is average but its not fantastic either but everyone has their opinion on that.Have you tried different ... (read in full...)
Should I be bothered by her keeping a photo of her ex-boyfriend in her wallet?
Q. Hello. I am 24, as is my girlfriend. We've been dating for about 3 months now and things are going very well. The other day we were at the mall and when she pulled out her wallet to pay for something, she pulled out a photo of her ex-boyfriend...
A. 17 November 2005: I would place my bet that she probably forgot,that it was in there.If on the other hand the photo was displayed right in front of the purse then maybe i would get suspicious.She has taken the photo out and has put it in her album.I dont think you ... (read in full...)
I want to tell my wife how much I love it when she's dressed up, but I feel weird about it...
Q. Ilove my wife's femininity. I love when she is dressed up, her perfume, clothes, boots, nylons, sexy underwear, etc. I am unable to communicate this without fear to her and am afraid she thinks I am weird. I suffered abuse as a kid and fear this unc...
A. 17 November 2005: Wow! Will you marry me? You sound like a smashing fella! You are a lovely husband who really does appreciate his wife.It still shows,that you fancy your wife like mad,what woman wouldnt want that? I know you have emotional problems with abuse etc ... (read in full...)
My longtime boyfriend wants to experience sex with someone else, just so he knows what it's like...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 15 months. I'm 19, he's 20. We were both virgins when we started the relationship and it's also the first real relationship each of us have ever had. We are in love and even though we are both young we ...
A. 16 November 2005: He is having a laugh.Tell him that ,yes,he can shag about as long as you can shag,tom,dick and harry.Say that when you are 90 yrs old,you would like to compare those experiences and ave no regrets.Wot planet is your fella on? Wot woman is going to ... (read in full...)
I already have my suspicions about my husband and his female friend, so what happens when I have to leave them alone for a week?
Q. My previous question was "Are my husband and female bartender just friends or is there something going on? This was tagged "Three's a crowd" The reader's responses were very helpful but my next question is - next summer when we go to our cabin an...
A. 16 November 2005: Oh no! alarm bells are ringing in my ears.You will be offering your husband on a plate to that floosie. Please,please,please, dont do it.I bet the minute you are out the door,her knickers will be around her ankles.Im sorry if that sounded crude,but ... (read in full...)
Should I ask our a girl I only just met?
Q. Hi. I'm not really sure what to do about this girl I met last Saturday. She was really attractive and we had a nice conversation and I'd really like to ask her out but I don't know if I should because we just met Saturday and probably will never see ...
A. 16 November 2005: Ask her out,remember,faint heart never won fair lady.Chances are,she is going to say yes.Then again,she might say no.Nothing in life is guaranteed.Just say,would she like to come out for a drink,something nice and casual.If she says no then its her ... (read in full...)
Oh no... I got drunk and had sex with my brother!
Q. I am twenty nine years old. Last summer my ex husband had the kids away on holidays and I went to stay with my brother for a couple of days. His wife and kids were away. We went to a party and we both drank a lot, when we came home we drank a bottle ...
A. 15 November 2005: Is he goodlooking? Seriously though,your brother needs therapy and you could do with some as well!What were you thinking of? Dont sleep with your brother again.Its called incest,and you can get arrested for it.If you can put this behind you and move ... (read in full...)
I feel like my husband's maid... or his mum!
Q. My partner has never showed any affection or there has never been any romance in the relationship. He is not very thoughtful either. If I'm unwell he doesn't bother asking if I want a drink or anything. Sometimes I've known him not to even kiss me ...
A. 15 November 2005: This man of yours,needs a good kick up the a..e.What a self centred man you have got here! If,like you said,he has never showed you any affection or intimacy etc,then why in the hell are you still with him? You had an affair because basically,he was ... (read in full...)
My insecurity could make me lose the love of my life!
Q. please please help me!i really need you to reply to my email,im sorry that its so long,but i'm on the verge of losing my boyfriend who is the love of my life.All this is because i have a hard time trusting men,as i've been cheated on alot in the ...
A. 15 November 2005: Oh my!This relationship spells trouble.Yes,you are insecure with every good reason but i dont like the sound of your fella.He might be telling the truth but then again he might not.Please dont try for a baby,it would be crazy bringing a child in to ... (read in full...)
I want to break up with my guy. The distance between us makes me dread visiting him...
Q. This weekend, I am going to visit my long-distance boyfriend to tell him that it's not working for me and I want to end the relationship but still be friends. I love him but I'm not in love with him and I just can't deal with the distance thing. ...
A. 14 November 2005: Your feeling guilty and thats why you cant completely finish with him,but sweetheart,you cant keep going on like this.This fella of yours will have to accept it,he is in denial.You must either face him once again and tell him its over for good or ... (read in full...)
How can I know if he's really into me?
Q. Hi! How would I know that my new bf is really into me? He is a very busy person and I understand that he has less time for me. We are on our two weeks. We just went out for three times. Is it normal? I wanna see him and yet he can't make it al...
A. 14 November 2005: I can understand if he is busy with work but what bothers me is that he has let you down 4 times already! you have only been with this guy for a short while,so dont get too carried away.I dont feel like he is keen enough and i wouldnt say he was the ... (read in full...)
When I try to spice things up with my man, he comments on it, like I'm doing something wrong...
Q. I have been with my man for 17 years. Our sex life is getting a bit dull. I am trying to spice things up, but every time I do something new, he comments on it. This is making me a bit uneasy about carrying on. I have only ever slept with him. I a...
A. 14 November 2005: Whats up with him! Doesnt he know that it takes the both of you to make your sex life work,or does he expect you to do it all? This man of yours,seems insensitive.Yes,after 17 yrs your sex life can go a little bit stale but you can improve it with ... (read in full...)
He says that once my kids are grown, he'll leave his wife and we'll be together...
Q. I'm married with 3 children but for the last 2yrs I have been having an affair. He has a partner who is 25yrs older then him and he has noticed the age difference. They dont have sex anymore, so it's more of a platonic relationship. I have hinted t...
A. 14 November 2005: What you dont need is sarcastic comments but constructive advice.No one chooses who they fall in love with.We are all human! You cant be happy with your husband if you have been having a relationship with another man,and we dont know the full ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help my wife reach orgasm?
Q. I have been married for 2 years now. My wife is Japanese. I can't make her cum. When we have sex we can't try different position because I hurt my wife. I just wanted to know how we can help and work out this problem and what can I do to help the ...
A. 14 November 2005: I suggest you use a vibrator,and hope for the best,seriously though,havent you heard of foreplay? Or is it wam bam thank you mam! It sounds to me, that she is completely bone dry when you enter her.Stop thinking about your own pleasure and read up ... (read in full...)
What would YOU do in my situation?
Q. What would you do? I am shocked that I am struggling in this area but I really am having a problem. I know it's not right so I am not wanting to know if it's right or wrong. I am just curious to know what others would do in this situatio...
A. 14 November 2005: This is just a crush,of course you are attracted to him and just because you are married doesnt mean that you are immune to other people that you are physically drawn to.If you are finding it difficult,working along side him, then it would be best ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family I'm gay so I can be with the man I love?
Q. Hello, please any ones help and advice will be greatly appreciated. I have a huge problem and a severely broken heart. How do I tell my parents and family that I am gay, when Nobody suspects a thing -and I know that for a fact - and they are ...
A. 14 November 2005: This is a tricky one but for the sake of your wellbeing i think it would be best if you tell your sister first as she would seem more understanding and it would break the ice.Yes your parents will be shocked and saddened but once its all out in the ... (read in full...)
My co-worker keeps her attraction to me a secret, but not her flirtations with other men...
Q. I am interested in a woman at work who has given me cause to believe that she is interested in me as well. This has been going on for several months and I have specifically told her how I feel about her. There are definite feelings being shared and ...
A. 13 November 2005: This woman is a 1st class tease and loving every minute of it.If she really liked you she wouldnt be so aloof with you when in public and flirting with other men as well,COME ON thats not on.I would drop her like a red hot brick,sorry if i sound ... (read in full...)
Is the bartender really just my husband's "friend", or do they have something going on?
Q. My husband of 6 months suddenly became really good friends with a female bartender in our neighborhood bar near our summer cottage. When I went back home to work while he stayed there, they became better friends. He says that they are just friends ...
A. 13 November 2005: This woman is definately after your husband,whether your husband has done anything about it is another thing.It does seem strange that he calls her after working hours,he is probably flattered that she fancies him,but and its a big but,you got to be ... (read in full...)
Is my ex just playing me, or could his advances be for real?
Q. Dear Cupid, My ex-boyfriend recently began making contact with me after about 18 months since we split. We work together and it had been fairly difficult at times to avoid him. I was utterly heartbroken at the split, he had cheated on me with m...
A. 13 November 2005: Dont fall in to the trap of going back to him,he will cheat on you again,i put money on it!This man is playing mind games with you,he doesnt have anyone else to pursue at the moment and he is getting a buzz out of chasing you again,knowing that he ... (read in full...)
I didn't do anything wrong. My girlfriend says she just doesn't feel the same...
Q. My girlfriend doesn't want me anymore. I didn't do anything bad. She just doesn't feel the same anymore. I'm having a hard time letting here go. In fact, I don't want to let go of her. It feels so hard for me. I really want to be with her. I just l...
A. 13 November 2005: She has made it pretty clear that she doesn't want u anymore,rejection is a horrible thing to experience but everyone has been through it one way or another.You obviously love her,perhaps but you cant force someone to love you.When you meet someone ... (read in full...)
In the 15 months I've been with him, I've been overtaken by sport and school in importance!
Q. I need help. I've been with my boyfriend for 15 months. He is the love of my life. I would do anything and everything for him. I actually want to marry him. In the beginning of our relationship, he was absolutely amazing. But lately, he doesn't seem ...
A. 12 November 2005: Sounds to me like he is going off you.If he said that school and sport came first then if i was you i would do my own thing and start meeting new people and going out more.Once he finds that you dont need him he might wake up and realize what he ... (read in full...)
We've broken up a number of times over his womanising and lying...
Q. I’m a 50 year old woman and I’m going out with my best friend’s brother who is 56 and a widower. He was married for 20 years to his wife and he used to be unfaithful to her. He’s a musician. He was married previously twice and his marriages never ...
A. 12 November 2005: Get rid of that loser.The onley person he is in love with is himself.He is addicted to other women.He loves the chase then once he has had them he is on to someone else.Aman never changes his spots.Find someone else who will show you respect.... (read in full...)
Am I a fool to be with a man who is still in contact with a woman he loved?
Q. I have been dating a guy for about 8 months. We spend a lot of time together but he has an emotional wall up with me, that hurts me. He is also not as intimate physically as I would expect from a man. He has always refused to talk about the past, ...
A. 12 November 2005: This man cant let go of his ex,its so obvious.He definately has feelings for her and thats why he cant be intimate with you.His ex girlfriend calls him up because she cant let him go completly.You are not getting the emotional and loving ... (read in full...)
I met him online 9 months ago. Now his church commitments take up all his time!
Q. Been with my boyfriend for nine months now. Met him through a Christian dating website and met him not long after. The problem is that was nine months ago and I haven't seen him since. He lives 2 hours away on the train so not very far but he's ...
A. 12 November 2005: This fella is not interested.If he was really keen on you he would of done all he could to see you.This man is stringing you along and he hasnt got the guts to tell you.How can it be a proper relationship if you havent seen him for over 9 months.Im ... (read in full...)
Neither of us expected our affair with married partners to become so intense...
Q. I have been having an affair with a married woman for nearly 18 months. I am also married and my wife is away a lot of the time. We were together one evening when she started crying and said she didn't want to go home. Then, the following day she ...
A. 11 November 2005: It seems she has made her mind up and that she has decided to stick with her husband.I know that you are hurting but its not a good idea to stay friends with her,it would never work because you would always want more.She cant expect you to hang ... (read in full...)
Does he love me or is he scared he was going to get hurt, or is he a jerk?
Q. With this guy I cheated on my boyfriend for, we got together, For a year three of those months were actual non cheating. Intro to the fam, said they loved me. then he says he doesn't trust me because I've lied about still speaking to my ex. I ju...
A. 10 November 2005: you sound quite young.Your new guy is jealous and probably feels threatened that your speaking to your ex and wondering if it really is over between you two.If you want this guy then stop all contact with your ex then have a proper talk with your ... (read in full...)
In love with a married man, but how do I cope with our break up?
Q. Hi, i hope you can help me out of this absurd situation. i fell in love with a guy i work with in the same office, he is married, with two kids. out of guilt we both called it a very close friendship, then he called me his soul mate and then his...
A. 10 November 2005: A married man never leaves his wife,you might get the odd few but its rare.Married men who have affairs,want their cake and eat it.They get caught up with the thrill and the excitement but still want the love and the stability from their wife.If the ... (read in full...)
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