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The guy I'm seeing is everything I usually look for! He's sweet and caring, sensitive and generous -- so why don't I love him?
Q. I'm going out with a this lovely guy. The first night I (18) met him (19), we kissed and stuff, but for me it was only ment to be a one night thing, a last fling of the summer before I knuckled down to study for the year. But then he took my number ...
A. 15 April 2006: Well,i wouldn't say 7 months was a very long time in seeing someone and probably what happened was your boyfriend said he loved you....and you felt that you had to say it back,even though you didn't mean it.He does sound like a smashing bloke but if ... (read in full...)
My affair ended, then she married her boyfriend... and I'm miserable!
Q. I'm a middle-aged male whose 2 year affair with a woman at work has recently ended. Both of us were in other long-term relationships, mine is still good but sexually unfulfilling, hers was on and off during our affair largely because I couldn't then ...
A. 14 April 2006: What did you expect?....Did you think that your lover was going to be your bit on the side forever?...She made it clear that she wanted a proper relationship with you but of course...you didn't want to leave your cosy set up with your long term ... (read in full...)
I want to take things slow and not jump straight into a sexual relationship...
Q. I have just started seeing this guy for the second time around. The first time I broke things off becuase he seemed to be going too fast. I don't want to sleep with him until I know him well because I'm really self concious but I can't bring the ...
A. 14 April 2006: I think you have made it crystal clear that you dont want to sleep with him just yet so he should of got the message....but if its going in one ear and out the other,you might as well be talking to a brick wall...or he is suffering from selective ... (read in full...)
He dumped me, but when we met again we kissed, and then he said he wanted another go! What's going on?
Q. On Tuesday my boyfriend of 4 months dumped me over the internet. Wednesday we met, coz he and I felt he should tell me his feelings in person. We broke up because he didn't see it going anywhere. He was scared that it was getting too serious ...
A. 14 April 2006: I think it was a bit coward of him to dump you on the internet then to change his mind the next day.Anyway...putting all that to one side...he said he wanted to give your relationship another go,so it sounds like he wants to keep seeing you but is ... (read in full...)
I was so sure she liked me but she said 'no'. Is she surpressing her feelings??
Q. Hi. I've had a crush on a girl who used to go to my old school since she returned from Italy (she went for 2 years). I decided to ask her out over MSN; I couldn't take it anymore. She said no, even though I ewas so sure she liked me. Her friends ...
A. 13 April 2006: If she has asked another guy out then the reason she turned you down was because she liked the other bloke 1st.If she really liked you,i cant see how you being friends with her brother would make any difference.The kisses at the end of a txt doesn't ... (read in full...)
In love with a woman but she is going to marry another bloke!!
Q. I am i love with a woman but she is going to marry her bloke, why can't i except this and why do i feel like someone has died? ...
A. 13 April 2006: Im afraid there is nothing you can do,she has chosen the man she wants to marry and you will have to accept that.Wouldn't life be wonderful if we could choose who we want to be with...and they felt the same,but im afraid life isn't like that.You are ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that he's just not interested in me anymore or is it something else?
Q. this is kind of embarassing..but ive been in a long distance relationship and havent had a chance to see my boyfriend for a couple months but we used to cyber and have phone sex quite often but now he seems to have no interest in it and the only ...
A. 10 April 2006: Long distant relationships can be a strain to some couples.....others can cope with it while some people feel its all or nothing.I think in the beginning,cyber sex and phone sex was probably exciting at 1st but i dare say the novelty has worn ... (read in full...)
It felt as though he still have feelings for me. How can I reveal this?
Q. Hello, After a nasty break-up from my ex i decieded to move away from that particular group of friends. It has been agaes since i last since them and him, and i got on with my life fine, although the odd time i did think about about him. So...
A. 10 April 2006: What a charming young man....not only did he sleep with you he also said that it meant nothing and that you were no more then friends.So in his eyes....friends have sex with each other? I dont think so.I take it,he ended the relationship,and then ... (read in full...)
Am I a 'zoophile'? I saw two dogs mating and it gave me a thrill! Help
Q. I think i might be a zoophile... Yesterday I was in the park watching 2 dogs mating and I got this rush, like when I kiss my boyfriend. Now I'm terrified that I'll start getting feelings for the animals themselves. What should i do?...
A. 9 April 2006: Good breeds......i can see why.... (read in full...)
Is her exhibitionist tendencies a red flag? Should I be worried?
Q. My girlfriend was telling me yesterday that when she stays in hotels she has always been somewhat of a casual exhibitionist. She says she walks around naked in front of the windows and has even masterbated in front of it before. When we were t...
A. 9 April 2006: Women can fantasize about other men through masturbation while still being happy with their boyfriend,it doesn't mean that they think less of you but what worries me is she likes doing it in front of windows in hotel rooms.That would be my main ... (read in full...)
Is her exhibitionist tendencies a red flag? Should I be worried?
Q. My girlfriend was telling me yesterday that when she stays in hotels she has always been somewhat of a casual exhibitionist. She says she walks around naked in front of the windows and has even masterbated in front of it before. When we were t...
A. 8 April 2006: Its normal for women to masturbate,just as it is for a man to do it,i guess she gets very turned on when she starts talking to you but most of it is to turn you on...thats why she tells you.I wouldn't recommend her doing this kind of thing in front ... (read in full...)
I don't want to only meet a**holes, what can I do to prevent that?
Q. Separated and it isnt fun! I wanted to separate from my unhappy marriage last year. My ex wasnt a bad man just that I didnt find him attractive anymore in an emotional or physical sense. Anyway, Im an attractive 33 year old and should be having...
A. 8 April 2006: Right...today is saturday (well it is where i am) and has he contacted you yet?....if this chap hasn't then it looks like,he has lost interest in you,now i could be wrong but in my book if a fella is keen enough on a woman he would make sure that he ... (read in full...)
Extremely confused, does he like me or not?
Q. I have a complicated question to ask. If a man thinks that all the boys fancy you, he finds you attractive he checks you out and gazes at your breasts when he thinks noone is looking does he fancy you? If a man tells you you're lovely and tries...
A. 8 April 2006: Im trying to figure out this question you asked.Is there a fella you fancy then,but you want to know the tell tale signs? If it is then i would say that this guy does seem very interested in you.I would say that he has a caring nature but you will ... (read in full...)
Am I a 'zoophile'? I saw two dogs mating and it gave me a thrill! Help
Q. I think i might be a zoophile... Yesterday I was in the park watching 2 dogs mating and I got this rush, like when I kiss my boyfriend. Now I'm terrified that I'll start getting feelings for the animals themselves. What should i do?...
A. 8 April 2006: What breed were they?... (read in full...)
My bf has turned into 'someone else' and he is so confused!!
Q. My boyfriend and I dated for 2 years never got in a serious agruement. All of a sudden we start fighting and he stops calling me. I find out he has been talking to a girl that lives in a different country I called the number shes in a different ...
A. 8 April 2006: It sounds to me like he is carrying some kind of guilt around with him.Usually,if there is someone else involved then the partner who is cheating is the one who starts to change in character such as.....difference in behaviour,being argumentive and ... (read in full...)
My ex is messing with my feelings but I love him so much!!
Q. I just need a little help. My gay ex (21) and I (33) have been split now for two months after five months together. He recently told me that he left me to be with his best friend, who is also 33 and has just left his wife after 10 years. This blo...
A. 4 April 2006: If my memory serves me well,i do recall...answering this problem before.I think you are finding it hard to let go of your ex lover.This man couldn't make it any clearer but yet he gives you a few crumbs,when he says that things are not working ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to stay with him or not!
Q. Please Help Me !!! I have been in a relationship with this guy for about a month now and it's not going so well. I was trying for a long time to go out with this guy and now I'm finally going out with him , But the problem is he treats me like ...
A. 4 April 2006: You have already been going out with this fella for just a month....but already the rot has set in.Im sorry to say this but your boyfriend,really doesn't care about you at all....he turns up late...he cannot hold down a conversation,only wants to ... (read in full...)
Why the hell did she buy me soap!
Q. my girlfriend forgot about our first month. and she got me bath and body works hand soap for our first month as a gift and a disney pin. about 20 bucks. she spent 300 on her brother. umm ok money doesnt matter... but soap? i think its just because ...
A. 4 April 2006: I wouldn't make too much of an issue on this.If you like buying presents every month for each other then that is fine,the only problem is,it can get to being expensive if eventually you run out of funds.Maybe she spent $300 on her brother because, ... (read in full...)
I'd don't care that his marred... But does he like me?
Q. I like a guy who is married and he flirts with me majorly. does he really like me or is he just flirting just for fun? and he is always giving me those looks like "i want you" and today we saw eachother and he got a huge smile and waved and stared ...
A. 4 April 2006: While you dont seem to care that he is married,i think his wife will.Now while im not here to judge you and you obviously find it flattering that this married man has taken an interest in you,the problem with this situation is you are both attracted ... (read in full...)
What can I say to shut him up?
Q. He got back together with his ex-girlfriend months ago. He is now consistently emailing me a one-liner about once a month, apparently so I don't forget about him...gag. I know the best thing to do is nothing, but I'd love to reply with something ...
A. 3 April 2006: yes...but only reply the once and thats it......try this: If you had any brain cells,it would die of loneliness,im with a fantastic boyfriend now and your one-liners are boring us.....you should get out more!... (read in full...)
His lack of emotion and intimacy is driving me nuts, shall I stick it out?
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for almost six months. We enjoy each other's company very much and I like him, even thought I loved him at one point. The trouble is we have never indulged in full sexual intercourse just blowjobs and handjobs - which ...
A. 2 April 2006: He sounds like he is emotionally constipated.The problem with this guy is he contradicts himself,he says he fancies you,yet just wants to remain friends.He enjoys the sexual things that you do to him yet says that its going too fast.I must admit,it ... (read in full...)
Our emotional affair (never had sex) ended two years ago. Now he's back in contact shall I savour the moment? (editor: long but worth it)
Q. Can anyone help me? I am a single woman, aged 32, who fell in love (unintentionally) with a man I met 4 years ago. He was 31 at the time and had a girlfriend of 10 years - he had just started living with her. As much as I tried to walk away, th...
A. 2 April 2006: For a man to be totally in love with a woman,he would leave his wife/girlfriend and spend the rest of his life with you,full stop.It doesn't matter how much you dress this up....making excuses as to why he cant leave his girlfriend,the fact remains ... (read in full...)
He just goes soft and doesn't come... Should I walk away now?
Q. I'm a 30 year old female and I am dating a 39 year male. We have been having sex for two weeks now (about 8 times) and are not using a condom because we both got checked for STD's. My problem is, and I have never had this happen before, that no ...
A. 1 April 2006: There is a condition for what your fella has,its called Retarded ejaculation,its where a man has sex but cannot climax.It is usually down to nerves and his anxiety about being good in bed.Tell him to take a trip down the doctors,they should be able ... (read in full...)
My mummys boy won't commit!
Q. im 43 and my boyfriend is 51, we are back to the same problem, hes always lived with his mum who is 90 now and she has spoilt him, we have split up in the past and got back together, the problem is always his lack of committment to me, mention the ...
A. 1 April 2006: It sounds to me that his life revolves around his mother and his job,you come 3rd down his list of priorities.While it is good that he cares for his mother,there shouldn't be no reason why he cannot have a life with you,meaning,having a committed ... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to make the moves?
Q. Hi All, Recently I have told a 28 yr-old guy about how I feel about him, basically I like him. He told me it was very flattering and that he admired my courage of telling him. He told me not to worry since I have done my very best and it is his re...
A. 30 March 2006: In my opinion,this fella doesn't consider you as a girlfriend in a romantic way,only as a good friend.When you told him how you felt about him....what he did was let you down gently by saying he was flattered but wasn't ready for a relationship.What ... (read in full...)
He shouted at me, didn't apologize, we ended it and now I think he fell out of love with me!
Q. Heartbroken I have just broken up with my boyfriend of one year. We have had our ups and downs this last while and we seem to spend less and less time together, but the end was for me when I went to lift him and his friend at the local bar where ...
A. 29 March 2006: You are better off without him.He is rude,arrognant,self centred moron.....why are you apologising to him....or asking him to still stay friends? He has made it clear in front of his mate that he does'nt care about you,doesn't want to go on holiday ... (read in full...)
My son strips down to his underwear in school. Is there anything I can do?
Q. I am a father of two, married 18 years. My son is 15 years old, and sitting his GCSE's. Recently we got a phone call off his school, informing us that he'd been stripping to his underwear in lessons, and even in the outdoors. The school want...
A. 29 March 2006: Has he done anything else that seems abit bizarre,apart from that episode from school? If he has been under alot of stress with exams,then it could be why he is doing silly things,saying that....if his behaviour starts to worry you as time goes by ... (read in full...)
He asked me to visit him in the summer... Where, if anywhere, is this heading?
Q. Hi, I've been watching a guy at a social group I go to every week, for the past six months. During that time, in my opinion we've been playing the eye game/ coy smiles and casual "hello's". It's only recently that we got acquainted throu...
A. 28 March 2006: What puzzles me is...why do you have to wait until the summer to visit his place? If a fella is keen enough then he would ask her out straight away,is he a bit shy? If he is then why dont you ask him if he would like to go out for a drink?...if he ... (read in full...)
I told my male friend that I loved him and I think I scared him off....
Q. i told a close male friend that i loved him, but i didnt mean to make him uncomfotable, he didnt say it back he just said 'thats sweet of u'. i feel abit embarrassed now, but i thought we were heading towards that, as he said he really liked me and ...
A. 28 March 2006: Dont worry....its not the end of the world,ok so you told him you loved him,at least he knows how you feel.Obviously you are embarrassed because he didn't say it back....never mind,maybe in time he will say it back,in the meantime i wouldn't say it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to aggrevate me about my breasts, why does he do this?
Q. my boyfriend of almost 2 yrs. will make jokes about my breasts. saying they are little and all, but then when I try to ignore it he will make another joke, then it bothers me and he will apologize and say he is just joking and that my breasts are ...
A. 28 March 2006: Your boyfriend is insensitive.Tell him he is a stupid little man with a small dick!.....that should do it.... (read in full...)
Can a first kiss tell a relationships future??
Q. Is it possible to tell how a relationship will go from the first kiss?...
A. 28 March 2006: The answer to that is no.Nobody can predict how a relationship will turn out like by just one kiss.Once you get to know this person and see if you two are compatable then you might have a rough view.But with relationships its a gamble....some last ... (read in full...)
Does he really want me or is he just lonely??
Q. This guy I had dated a few months ago just started texting and calling me again. The reason he's contacting me again is because he broke up with the girl he was dating. Do guys normally go back and call girls they formerly dated? I can't tell if he ...
A. 28 March 2006: Sounds like he has no girlfriend and as you were still single,he thought he would give it another go....until someone else turns up.He would have to do better then that if he thinks he can just swan in and expect you to drop everything for him.I get ... (read in full...)
Is it good to be thinking about her ALL the time? And I mean, like, 24/7!?
Q. Hi, Im 19 and have been going out with my girlfriend for nearly 3 months now. It occured to me the other day, that i think about her ALL the time, and i really do mean 'ALL' the time! Theres not a moment when shes not on my mind! I was j...
A. 28 March 2006: Sounds like you are falling in love with her.So what if you think about her all the time....enjoy it!... (read in full...)
Why do guys say they will call and leave it a few days?
Q. Why do guys say they'll call a woman and then wait a few days before calling? Do they really not think of you for those few days, or do they just not want to seem desperate? And why do some guys tell the woman to call them instead of just calling ...
A. 28 March 2006: If a guy calls you after just a couple of days then i would say he was keen enough,he just doesn't want to look desperate...especially in the early days of a relationship,and if a guy tells you to call him,that usually means that he likes you lots ... (read in full...)
Where is the *proper* place for a gentleman and his mistress to do their business?
Q. Hi, i live in nw england and i`m having an affair with a lovely woman, trouble is where can we sleep together during the day i`m fed up with quickies in the car, any suggestions?...
A. 28 March 2006: Ha ha!....i had to laugh at this problem because you sent it in without any guilt on what you were saying.Now i wont preach to you about the rights or wrongs on having an affair because you two are grown up adults and thats the choices you are ... (read in full...)
I have two problems, in need of advice!
Q. I have two major problems. I have been with my boyfriend for a month, and recently, some things happened, and he's got a lot of things going on in his head. He's been making excuses not to see me now. Is this normal? Is it just because he needs...
A. 28 March 2006: I would of thought that dating a guy for a month,you should be in the honeymoon period,it seems to be strange that he has become distant with you,he says he doesn't want to split up with you but he might as well do because you hardly see ... (read in full...)
He don't want a girlfriend, then why does he want to touch me and treat me like one?
Q. hey guys. My ex and i broke up about 2 months ago. His little bro got sent 2 juvie and a few other things happened that wasn't so great, but he said he was too stressed to think about anything and didnt want a gf for a while. We're both 17 n had ...
A. 28 March 2006: I think for your own peace of mind,you should sever all links with him,i can understand that he has had family problems etc but its not fair on you that he keeps stringing you along when it suits him.He ended the relationship so therefore he doesn't ... (read in full...)
He keeps driving by my house and work, but never makes a move...
Q. i can't figure this single guy out, when we first met the sparks flew, until i brought up his daughter who was standing with him and then he turned cold. fastforward 2 months of having him driving by my house constantly , i came out of work and it ...
A. 28 March 2006: This problem sounds familiar because i remember answering another one like that.I dont know what problem this guy has but he sounds a bit weird.Why did he act strange when you had a chat with him?....he might be very shy and lacking in self esteem ... (read in full...)
What were his real motives for this break-up?
Q. My boyfriend and I have recently broke up after six months except that I'm confused as to why. He broke up with me as he said he was unhappy, not with me but with his life in general and that he needed time to work out what was going wrong. He said ...
A. 27 March 2006: I wish i was 25 again,i agree with suorpio though....it does sound like he is depressed.....but that doesn't give him the right to mess you about,he cannot expect you to hang around while he makes up his mind.If i was you,i would walk away and let ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my friend but is he viable?
Q. I am gay(19) and in love with my friend, how should i play the situation? He has behaved in many ambiguous ways and although i have told him my feelings we have always been under the influence of E. He has suggested that although he doesn't find men ...
A. 26 March 2006: This friend of yours seems very confused with his sexuality.He is fighting his feelings for you or he is trying to get you worked up because he gets the buzz that you like him alot.....either way,he is playing games with you because he is not being ... (read in full...)
Is it right that my bf should spend some private time with his ex? How should I handle this?
Q. My boyfriend recently got in touch with his Ex. After they spent a day together, the Ex made the offer to my boyfriend that he could spend a week at the Ex's house so my boyfriend could visit his family. I wasn't invited. I told my boyfriend that I ...
A. 25 March 2006: I totally agree with smeedle,it is not acceptable for your boyfriend to stay at his ex's,what on earth is he playing at?...His ex definately wants him back and he is not exactly fighting her off.Another thing is,do you want a boyfriend who doesn't ... (read in full...)
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