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What's the difference between his flirting and teasing?
Q. One of my colleague always teasing me but means no harm, I suppose. Anyway,I don't exactly know what's difference between tease and flirt sometimes from his behavior? Besides, we are very good company and have some the same interests. He looks char...
A. 19 May 2006: I would just ask him out for a drink,just the two of you and see what he says.If he likes you alot then he should say yes,straight away.If he makes excuses up on why he cant see you...then its safe to say that he probably see's you as just a ... (read in full...)
I'm happily married but there's this attractive woman at work who likes me! What should I do?
Q. Hi There. I'm in a spot of bother at the moment. I'm married,quite happily and have 2 children and darly love my wife. BUT.... there's this girl (yeah I know!!!) whom I work with. We get along great and she's really attractive. She's engaged to...
A. 19 May 2006: Martini....ur a scream!...keep your answers coming in...your ratings should be sky high!!!...he he.... (read in full...)
He's putting cycling before me and our relationship. Should i end it?!
Q. Why does my boyfriend love his bike more than me? I have recently got together with a long term friend. We have known each other for sometime but have only recently realised our feelings for each other. I have always known that he is really s...
A. 18 May 2006: This guy would bore me stupid...im sorry but he is definitely,putting his cycling 1st.There is nothing wrong in having a hobbie but he has gone too far with this.You will have to have a heart to heart talk with him and compromise on what you ... (read in full...)
Shaving fantasy
Q. Why are guys so fascinated in women shaving? My boyfriend wants me to and he's given me a few reasons i just wondered if anyone could enlighten me further. thanks...
A. 18 May 2006: There is guys out there who get turned on if they shave you themselves.Some men like the thought of their girlfriend shaving because its showing that the woman is preparing herself for sex....there is men that love a very smooth woman and to see a ... (read in full...)
I feel sorry for him if i finish it!!
Q. hi i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now we live togther but the thing is i don`t know if i still love him i feel sorry for him if i finish it i am 27 he is 47. and fancy someone else now what should i do ???...
A. 18 May 2006: I certainly wouldn't stay with someone because i felt sorry for them,you would only end up hating them and losing all respect.If you want someone else then go for it....life is too short to be pleasing other people.No one likes to being dumped but ... (read in full...)
Calling all married couples. How do you feel about first loves and exs??
Q. Hi there. I'd really like to hear from the married amongst us. What feelings do you have towards your 'first loves' and exes. I'm getting married and I have a feeling that the argument about whether to invite his 'THE EX' is looming. ...
A. 18 May 2006: When i got married i invited my ex to my wedding....my husband didn't have a problem with it.When we broke up we decided to stay friends so it wasn't awkward when he was invited to my happy occasion.In your case,if you were still harbouring feelings ... (read in full...)
How does he feel? I think I love him!
Q. its me again, lol i met this guy about a month ago and we started txtin and id just broken up with a long term partener so i didnt know if i was ready for another relationship. we started getting really close and ended up sleeping together one ...
A. 15 May 2006: I would'nt confess your undying love for him just yet....after all,its only being a short while since you both got it together.If you want a proper relationship and i mean by actually dating each other then go ahead ask him...but if he just wants ... (read in full...)
I slept with my boss and I am marrying someone else!
Q. I love my partner very much and am due to get married in a matter of weeks. We have been under enormous pressure for the past few months with the wedding, money worries and my partners depression in a job he hates, resulting in his total withdrawl ...
A. 15 May 2006: Ok...you have made a big mistake by sleeping with your boss,you did it the once and you have realised that it was a silly thing to do.I guess you were flattered with the attention...it took your mind off the problems you were having between your ... (read in full...)
I fancy my female friend! She just wants to be friends
Q. well, ive known this girl 4 quite a few years ( about 12 ) and over the past few months ive really started to fancy her, but she just says she wants to be freinds, any ideas what i could do ?...
A. 15 May 2006: There is nothing that you can do im afraid....this girl either fancies you or she does'nt.Its got to be natural...you cant force someone to like you more then just being friends.I suggest you should look elsewhere but keep her friendship ... (read in full...)
Any advice on my depressed older partner?
Q. i'm with an older man i think the world of him, but he is so depressed. one day he is all over me he loves me and thinks the world of me,then others he is so quiet and ignores me.my confidence is so low he never says i look nice, there is a 24 yr ...
A. 15 May 2006: If he is suffering from depression,then he really needs to see a doctor.Sometimes depression can go on its own but other times it does'nt so thats when medication will help....he does'nt have to be on tablets forever but if you can find the route to ... (read in full...)
Men. They're there one minute texting and loving and the next they're gone. Why?
Q. Why is it alot of men show lots of intrest then all of a sudden seem to vanish of the planet? I have experienced this a few times. I have been dating someone for a few weeks and for the first few he was sending lots of lovey dovey and very f...
A. 14 May 2006: No its not you,what it is....there's a few men out there (not all) who are in love with the idea of being in love.Then once that heady stage of lust evaporates,then reality kicks in and lover boy is off.Fella's like that,dont have the maturity to ... (read in full...)
Tell me... Am I too young to be a mum?
Q. Hi. I need some advise. I am 22 years old, 23 this year and have been with my for a long time. I have always wanted to be a mother, but always wanted it to be later on ie 28years old ish! Recently I have beenthinking of nothing else, I want to ...
A. 12 May 2006: Its a matter of choice but i dont think you are too young to have a baby.When you think that there is girls as young as 16 having them,then starting a family at 23 yrs of age is probably considered average.One thing to remember though...if you want ... (read in full...)
How do I ask this (married) guy for his number?
Q. i work at a place that has a truck come deliever stuff to us once a week. im very attracted to this guy. but i found out that he won't be delivering anymore after next week. i want to ask him for his number but im way to shy and scared of what he ...
A. 27 April 2006: Sorry to be such a killjoy but you should leave well alone.This man is married and probably has 5 kids at home,waiting for him.Attraction is a powerful thing but this fella is well out of bounds.....Just forget about him.... (read in full...)
Wifes obsession with Madonna is spiralling out of control!! Any advice?
Q. I am 25 and my wife is 23. Recently she has become obsessed with Madonna, and has been playing her albums constantly etc. She's also been suspended from work for spending time downloading Madonna MP3's I've nothing against Madonna, but now...
A. 23 April 2006: Ha ha!....This is a wind up...right? Do you honestly expect us agony aunts and uncles to taking you seriously?..The only thing iv got to say is your wife has good taste.Tell you what....why dont you dress like her hubby Guy Ritchie...it will be a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is catholic and won't sex before marriage because of it. I don't feel the same.
Q. Hi, My girlfriend and i (both 20) have been together for just over 3 years now and we've hit a pretty big problem. She is Catholic and has a problem with sex before marriage. I am not Catholic so right now in the relationship my feelings are tell...
A. 23 April 2006: I agree with martini....you knew she was a catholic and if you loved her...then getting your end away shouldn't be the real reason on why you are still with her.... (read in full...)
Cant imagine being anything more than friends, Advice needed..
Q. I have know a man for almost 3 years and he is in love with me. He would treat my daughter and I very well and we can talk about anything. The problem: I can't seem to imagine us being intimate. What should I do? Just be friends with him or try to ...
A. 22 April 2006: Maybe you are a bit scared and unsure because he has been your friend for 3 years and thats all you have seen him as.If you are attracted to him then i think its worth taking the chance.He sounds like a wonderful bloke and it is your insecurities ... (read in full...)
Having an affair with a married man, feel used, What should I do?
Q. I am madly in love with a married man I work with and I don't know what to do. We were having an affair for two months, and I fell in love with him and told him this. He said that he felt the same but that he would never leave his wife for me, and ...
A. 22 April 2006: They say love is blind,and in this case it is.This married man is obviously having sex with his wife because they are trying for a baby and even when his wife found out,your married man still didn't leave his mrs once the truth was out....what does ... (read in full...)
I keep thinking of ex, Should I break up with my current gf?
Q. I use to date this girl and she cared for me more than the world, but I thought I needed to get out so I broke up with her along with breaking her heart. After a couple of months I realized I really loved her but she had moved on and didnt want to ...
A. 22 April 2006: You are in a right pickle,arn't you? I wonder if the reason you want her back is because she has someone else? Maybe she seems more appealing,now that she is with another fella? The reason i think that is because you wont finish with your present ... (read in full...)
Cant imagine being anything more than friends, Advice needed..
Q. I have know a man for almost 3 years and he is in love with me. He would treat my daughter and I very well and we can talk about anything. The problem: I can't seem to imagine us being intimate. What should I do? Just be friends with him or try to ...
A. 22 April 2006: I wouldn't start a relationship with him,just for the sake of it,ok he treats your daughter very well and he has told you that he loves you,But if you are not attracted to him and just dont see him as boyfriend material then you might regret ever ... (read in full...)
We had sex and he told me im magic but now it feels like I have been put on hold!!!
Q. Dear Cupid; I know this person for a long time, because we work in the same place, and i know he likes me we always talked when we have a break in some location. He kept inviting me to the movies, but we dont have the chance, but one day i accept t...
A. 22 April 2006: Ahh,you never said in your 1st question about this other fella so yes,he could be playing cool.Why dont you ask this new fella outright and tell him that if you finish with your boyfriend...would he consider a proper relationship with you?....if he ... (read in full...)
If someone splits up with you, but still comes back for a bit of the other, are they using you?
Q. if a bloke you've been seeing tells you he doesn't want to be with you,yet keeps coming back knowing full well that u love him to bits,and you cant keep your hands off each other is he just using you or too scared to face his true feelings...
A. 21 April 2006: Yes....he is using you,the fact of the matter is...he doesn't want a proper relationship with you but if you willing to still have sex with him,then he is going to take it.He is keeping his options open.If i was you i would stop having sex with him ... (read in full...)
I just have this deep feeling in the pit of my heart and soul that we are supposed to be together...
Q. Hi, first let me say that this question is going to be a really long one in order for you aunties to understand. I will try to make it as brief as possible. I was with a guy for three years. Three years of which, one we lived together and the...
A. 20 April 2006: Sorry if i appeared harsh...but im seeing it on how it is.Your suffering...and he's not.I agree with Irish49...if a man really loved you...wanted a relationship with you...then he would do anything for you...its simple as that...instead,he has sex ... (read in full...)
My 19 y/o bf was texting a 12 y/o girl, now hes stopped but is dissappointed in me!!
Q. Hi, A few days ago my boyfriend who is 19 started talking to this 12 year old girl. They text each other very much and it reminds me when i started talking to him as just friends and that makes me very jealous. And the thing that makes me feel the...
A. 20 April 2006: Im puzzled as to why a 19 year old man would be txting a 12 year old girl?...especially as frequently as this.If anything,he should be considering your feelings,i mean...what is the big attraction for him to txt her? I would of thought that your ... (read in full...)
I found another women at my bfs house and now I have found a birthday card from her with my special name!!!
Q. I have been with my partner for 8 years we do not live together, but stay at each others houses, in the fourth year I caught him with a woman at his house, he made an excuse about it and that was forgotton and now I am at his house regular and I ...
A. 20 April 2006: Sounds like your boyfriend is a committment phobic.If after 8 years he has told you that he wont live with you or marry you then it sounds like a dead end relationship going nowhere,now if you are happy with that,then thats fine but you have caught ... (read in full...)
My bf is in town but he is always too busy and I feel like his dirty little secret!!
Q. My boyfiend is in town because his brother will be having a child, so he drove all the way to be here when the child is born. We've been going out for 1year-6 months, long distance as he lives basically one days drive away. our relationship is a sec...
A. 20 April 2006: Well he probably is busy with family and stuff,and if he hasn't seen them for a while then he probably has alot of catching up to do.Saying that though,he should let you know when you two can meet up again...rather then,keeping you waiting.If after ... (read in full...)
I just have this deep feeling in the pit of my heart and soul that we are supposed to be together...
Q. Hi, first let me say that this question is going to be a really long one in order for you aunties to understand. I will try to make it as brief as possible. I was with a guy for three years. Three years of which, one we lived together and the...
A. 20 April 2006: I dont doubt that you love this man very much and while you are hanging on to hope or a miracle,your fella....emotionally is elsewhere.Yes he may talk to you 50 times a day,buys you nice gifts....txts you...sees you home...but he cannot give ... (read in full...)
We broke up and I don't think I have the same feelings for her....
Q. Hi, I split from my partner Five weeks ago, after two and a half years together, there is a sixteen year age gap between us, she has a 6 year old boy and me a 6 year old girl both from previouse relationships, everything was fine for 11 months, then ...
A. 19 April 2006: Your girlfriend has low self esteem and therefore takes it out on you when you want to show affection to your daughter,she has no right to do that,your child is the most precious thing in the world to you,and you have had to stop loving her to suit ... (read in full...)
We had sex and he told me im magic but now it feels like I have been put on hold!!!
Q. Dear Cupid; I know this person for a long time, because we work in the same place, and i know he likes me we always talked when we have a break in some location. He kept inviting me to the movies, but we dont have the chance, but one day i accept t...
A. 19 April 2006: There seems to be a lack of communication here,or he is playing games and has decided to not bother with you at all,but you need to know where you stand.You want a proper relationship with him but he seems very vague,i get the impression that he ... (read in full...)
My ex left me but broke up and now wants me back. But I'm with a new guy... And confused!
Q. I'm 32 and my ex is 22. We dated for a year and three months, and then he left me for someone else. After four months, they broke up and he came back to me wantin to get back together. He cried his eyes out, apologized profusely, and talked about ...
A. 19 April 2006: This is a difficult one,your ex has turned up because things didn't work out with his girlfriend,you have met someone else who seems to be on your wavelength but you have only being with him a couple of weeks.Lets say you took your ex back...could ... (read in full...)
He told me "I was too wet" for him to orgasm... Am I over-sensitive by being upset by this?
Q. I am divorced and 52yrs old, I have had few relationships. I have been on and off with a man who is widowed for a year, he is 65yrs old. I have struggled letting myself relax sexually, although he has been kind, considerate and generous throughout ...
A. 19 April 2006: Sorry...but i dont buy it....what a stupid excuse to say that your too wet,no im afraid this problem is down to him.When a man gets to a certain age he doesn't get an erection so quickly as when he was in his youth...and when he does it can take a ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing by asking this guy out?
Q. I met a guy a few weeks ago and we spoke by text message for a while. He said he would eventually meet up with me but it has not happened yet. Tonight, after talking to him for most of the day (via tx), I took the plunge and mentioned that I...
A. 19 April 2006: Well it could of been a number of things on why he didn't txt you back,my hunch is...he probably got very nervous at the thought of meeting you up with your mates,what i would suggest is...ask him out again but this time just you and him...if he ... (read in full...)
What signals is my ex giving me??
Q. I'm confused by the signals my ex is giving me. We broke up in January, he has a gf who he's been with since we've broke up. I'm still in love with him, and i accidentally told him this when i saw him a month ago (it was the first time we'd seen eac...
A. 19 April 2006: Then really its a waste of time giving you proper advice if you are going to refuse it.I would say that most of these agony aunts and uncles will agree with me and say...forget the guy,he is using you.He loves the fact that you still want him...it ... (read in full...)
Can a girl get pregant if there is no penertration??
Q. Can a girl get pregnant if there's no penatration? ...
A. 19 April 2006: Yes and no....sometimes a little bit of fluid can leak out before sexual intercourse or penetration but if in your case you inserted it in...then straight out again...then chances are your probably alright....but if you and your girlfriend did loads ... (read in full...)
Will my pill be effective, I was sick but then I took another one, need advice....
Q. Will the pill still be effective? Right okay, i am in a bit of a problem right now. Last friday i went out with friends and got a bit drunk and i was sick about 4 times, now i take my pill at 10:30pm every night so the last time i took my pill was ...
A. 19 April 2006: If you weren't sick after taking your pill,then you should be ok...but if you want to be 100% then ring up a pharmacy and explain the situation...and they will tell you...but im pretty sure that you are ok.... (read in full...)
I am really confused...does this guy want me as more than a friend??
Q. I’m close friends with a guy who’s 8 years younger than me; he’s early twenties. I’m getting very mixed signals from him as to whether or not he wants me as more than a friend. A few things he said left me confused: Firstly, when I mentione...
A. 17 April 2006: You two have the hots for one another but none of you have got the bottle to do anything about it.Well i think it will have to be you to get the ball rolling.Instead of all this ducking and diving....why dont you just come out with it and say to ... (read in full...)
Am I being naive in telling the guy what I want at the beginning of a relationship?
Q. Should you discuss the type of relationship you are after at the beginning of a relationship to avoid misunderstanding? You see, I am looking to settle down but I know that if I mentioned that at the beginning of a budding relationship most guys ...
A. 17 April 2006: Before you jump the gun,you have to get to know a fella 1st before you even think of marriage and kids,and even then there isnt any guarantees that he will be the one....you are still very young and i wonder why you want to get married so quickly? I ... (read in full...)
I'm bisexual but have a boyfriend, do I stay with him or go with the girl I like?
Q. hello im 16 and i dont know what to do. im in a relationship with my boyfriend and i just dont feel the same round him any more i know im bisexual and theres this girl i really like but i just dont know weather or not i should break up with my ...
A. 17 April 2006: Well,i wouldn't stay with my boyfriend out of pity or to spare his feelings because in the long run,you wont be doing him any favours.If you want to date this girl and you dont feel the same about your boyfriend anymore,then you will have to tell ... (read in full...)
Do you know what it feels like for a girl?
Q. Ok, so Madonna sang "do you know what it feels like for a girl".. and frankly as a guy, the answer is NO! I don't! So girls, what does sex feel like? Please describe. Thanks :-)))...
A. 16 April 2006: Well apart from having periods every month and PMT.....oh and not forgetting the menopause...i think its great being a girl.... (read in full...)
Why isn't she enjoying it?
Q. Everytime I try to finger my girlfriend, she doesn't seem to get pleasure. It's easy to get her off by her grinding on me, but neither of us can figure out why she doesn't get pleasure from me inserting my fingers. Any advice would help....
A. 16 April 2006: It might be because your inserting them in like a shovel...many men seem to think that if they put their fingers in,giving it a little tickle that automatically the woman is going to have an earth shattering orgasm...im afraid not.Whats probably ... (read in full...)
He's making me feel unimportant... Should we just be friends instead?
Q. Ive known Derek since Sept last year, we met three times and then he went scotland to work for 3 weeks. We missed eachother then when he returned, he wanted to meet me twice in one week. We met on the tues then we were meant to meet fri eve but i ...
A. 15 April 2006: It sounds to me like he is making excuses up.He says its due to a lack of money but he cant be that broke if he is going with his mates to Holland.Why should money be the issue? If someone is keen on you,it wouldn't matter if they were broke....you ... (read in full...)
The guy I'm seeing is everything I usually look for! He's sweet and caring, sensitive and generous -- so why don't I love him?
Q. I'm going out with a this lovely guy. The first night I (18) met him (19), we kissed and stuff, but for me it was only ment to be a one night thing, a last fling of the summer before I knuckled down to study for the year. But then he took my number ...
A. 15 April 2006: Well,i wouldn't say 7 months was a very long time in seeing someone and probably what happened was your boyfriend said he loved you....and you felt that you had to say it back,even though you didn't mean it.He does sound like a smashing bloke but if ... (read in full...)
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