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Do you think doggy style is romantic?

Q.   honestly ,do you think doggy style is romantic or it`s just for fun ,animalistic passion . would you have doggy style with a woman that you`re in deep love with ,if she `s the sweet n nice type ,if not which position would u choose ? think u g...

A.   11 March 2011: Doggy is more about the fun and animalistic pleasure and it was a favourite for me and me ex. If we wanted to be closer we stuck with missionary or the legs over the shoulders so we could see eachother.... (read in full...)

I am always horny

Q.   I'm a 15 year old boy I get horny for most of the day thinking about having sex with girls. I can't help it, but i love thinking about sex and thinking about having it. I masturbate at least 4 times a day I need a girlfriend How can i try and st...

A.   8 March 2011: Its normal and we all end up there. As time goes on and puberty ends it becomes more managebale.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend lied to me about being a virgin and its really eating away at me now

Q.   Hello all, I am in a comiteed relationship from last 4-5 years. When i had sex with my girlfriend for the first time i knew that she is not virgin, i often used to ask but she always refused, but some time back because of my forcing she told me ...

A.   8 March 2011: Your insecurities, your problem. Its harsh but ultimately she has done nothing wrong and you are just eating at yourself for no reason.... (read in full...)

Doctor cut out part of cervix and now I've lost sensations!

Q.   I have a problem ever since my OB cut part of my cervix out i have lost sexual sensation. She was tring to to a biopsy in the uterus i could never deliver vaginally and she insisted on going through the cervix. Now I have lost sensation and she ...

A.   7 March 2011: Im afraid that this is something only a medical proffesional can give you advice on. I would speak with your doctor.... (read in full...)

The myth of "best friends" of the opposite sex

Q.   OK, I know I am going to get a lot of flack for this (assuming anyone read this) but from my experience and observation I believe that a heterosexual man and woman who claim to be "best friends" without any romantic feelings...is a myth. Almost al...

A.   6 March 2011: I have a female best friend and im out of this game at point 1, lol. I control how I feel though and at times it can be a little difficult but i'm lucky to have such a special friend and I wouldn't risk it for anything.... (read in full...)

Is it okay for me to "pop the question" on the night of our friends' wedding?

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over two years now. We've known each other for about 3.75 years. One of my best friends is getting married to one of my gf's best friends in August and yes, we're both in the wedding party. I know my ...

A.   6 May 2010: I would leave it until after the wedding. A wedding is all about the couple involved and you don't want to steal their thunder. ... (read in full...)

I slept with my cousin, should I bring up relationships?

Q.   Ok so my two nights ago at my 18th party I slept with my cousin, we had an amazing night together the whole night before that happened. and we were very close last year when he visited. appart from lat year i dont ever remember meeting him. we ...

A.   4 May 2010: Its not that uncommon for cousins to end up in this situation, i've read more than my share here. It seems to be a caught up in the moment thing. You certainly aren't going to have an intimate relationship. You had a good night and i'd let it end ... (read in full...)

It was just supposed to be a rebound thing, but she might be pregnant

Q.   i need help, a girl i started going out with a few days ago(less than ten) might be pregnant because of a burst condom and i don't love her, this was just suppose to be a rebound thing, last a few weeks at max, she cant have an abortion or anything ...

A.   22 April 2010: If she is having the baby, then im afraid there is nothing you can do about it. If it is under 72 hours since you noticed the burst condom, get the morning after pill immediately. ... (read in full...)

How do I explain my born-again virginity to my boyfriend?

Q.   So my boyfriend and I are moving in together in 2-3 months. He is a warm, wonderful person. I recently decided that I want to abstain till marriage. Reason? I hit rock bottom last year. I was partying and drinking excessively, and I acci...

A.   21 April 2010: I haven't seen the reason you are doing this. From what I can tell you need A) The pill, B) Condoms or C) both of the mentioned. You should definitely tell him where you stand. If he decided to go a separate way, it doesn't mean he just wants yo... (read in full...)

Feeling a little jealous...

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year now, and things are going very well between us. She is attractive, and gets approached often by guys. This makes me a little jealous, but I've told her it doesn't bother me. I don't want to be ...

A.   20 April 2010: You just need to trust your gf that she isnt interested in any of the general guys that approach her. Its just one of those things you need to deal with. As for her male friend, does he have a gf ? If not, perhaps you should drop a hint to y... (read in full...)

Unsure if I should go meet this guy! Help!

Q.   hi this 19 yr old guy (and im 13) likes me and i like him back and he is planning for me to go to america to meet him when im 18 and im unsure whether to go coz of age differences and that ive never met him before, Sounds like a really sweet, ...

A.   7 April 2010: A 19 year old guy showing that kind of interest in a 13 year old girl just spells pedofile. Im surprised neither of the previous posters mentioned that. If you were ever going to try to meet this guy you THINK is who he says he is, make sure you... (read in full...)

Do men only want women in their 20's?

Q.   Do men only want women in their 20's? What happens when you get to 30, 40 or even 50? What happens then? Will all the guys be busy chasing all the hot young 20 year olds and ignore the older women? So guys- who do you prefer?Women your own age...

A.   6 April 2010: My last girlfriend was 5 years older than me. Age to me is fairly irrelevant to a point. It comes down to: Do I find them attractive ? Do we get on well and have a connection ? If yes, then it doesnt really matter. I find that older men a... (read in full...)

I'm 14, he's 15, LDR and he proposed to me but I know my parents won't like it!

Q.   Well ummm, my internet boyfriend and me have been going out for two years now, we met on imvu, he lives in south grafton, nsw, and i live in adelaide, sa. While we were on facebook one day, he proposed to me (he's 15 turning 16 and i'm 14 by the w...

A.   6 April 2010: Well there is no easy and gentle way to break it to you, so im just going to lay it out. 1. It isnt a real proposal. You will not end up getting married. You are just kids who have gotten all caught up with one another. In a few years you will c... (read in full...)

How old is too old to be a virgin?

Q.   Hello, Just a quick question: how old is too old to be a virgin? I am 24 but still have not met the right man to become intimate with. I am not in a rush but I would like to know how old is too old? 25? 40? ...

A.   5 April 2010: There is no too old. It comes down to finding someone you feel comfortable with. ... (read in full...)

How big a deal IS sex and fidelity in a marriage?

Q.   Hi, I am a 24 year old married girl. I got married 2 years ago. I dont have any kids and my husband is away for the past year. I want to know how big a deal is sex. I love my husband, but i do not think that I should only have sex with him. I occa...

A.   30 March 2010: Im assuming that it is okay for your husband to be sleeping with his female friends ? But I can assume he won't be happy. It is afterall the wrong thing to do. The only person in your bed should be your husband, its called marriage.... (read in full...)

I need your advice guys... What to do for the best???

Q.   I recently accepted to myself that i am in fact bisexual, but haven't really figured out a way to tell my very very conservative family just yet. My question, however, is not really about this. A part of my acceptance of myself involves a girl. I ...

A.   30 March 2010: If you are just thinking of H as a safety net for your family, I would avoid that. Your family will know you are bi when you tell them. The fact you quite possibly might end up with a girl is part of what they will need to accept. Now or later, o... (read in full...)

Can I call him my boyfriend? Or what? Are we going out?

Q.   Ok, we have been going out together since the end of Jan. He hasnt made a move on me physically until now. However we have amazing conversation and we know everything about each other. I thought I was more into him but recently he invited me to a ...

A.   30 March 2010: If he is shy its likely he is waiting to see where you stand. Sit down alone with him one day and tell him you like him (in a more than friendly way) if he says the same, give him a kiss to break the ice. It sounds like he is waiting to make sur... (read in full...)

My molester is going to be at this dinner. Should I go?

Q.   today me and my boyfriend will be going out to dinner along with his mother and brother it was all payed for his brother's company. ok here is were it get's interesting i found out last night that my mother whom i dont get along with will be there ...

A.   28 March 2010: You should use your best judgement. I think it is unfair for your family to put you in that situation. It is acceptable to tell them you are not going and why.... (read in full...)

Have we been friends too long for anything more to develop?

Q.   I have guy issues at the moment. Is it possible to like a guy for over a year, they to (possibly like you) and then get together later. I hope it is but have a feeling we've been friends too long so won't ever be able to move from that phase. I do...

A.   27 March 2010: Why should he need to ask you ? If you are good friends the chances are that if you asked him and he didn't want to get that involved he would just say so and the both of you would move on. There is a chance he likes you too and is in the same boa... (read in full...)

Is virginty that important?

Q.   My friends make me feel like still being a virgin is something to be ashamed of. most if not all have had sex before and whenever they bring it up they always make it sound like whoever hasn't yet is either ugly or an outcast...it's not like i ...

A.   18 March 2010: It's nothing to be ashamed of. Your friends are either: 1) Still virgins who are talking it up to save face and seem experienced and somehow mature 2) Not virgins who regret losing it in a whim I never lost my virginity until I was 21. I ... (read in full...)

Can you die in real life if you fall in your dream?

Q.   Right i know how stupid this sounds but i really must ask. Surely all of you have heard of the "if you have a dream that you fall(e.g off a cliff) and u hit the bottom you die in real life" which is why you always wake up. Well i also heard one g...

A.   18 March 2010: If you are in a deep dream and fall from a great height and hit the ground, you will notice that your heart beat increases dramatically, causing you to not only wake up but jump. I believe its possible to die when you hit the ground, not by the d... (read in full...)

Should I let him take my virginity?

Q.   Right I really need help! I just turned 18 and I really want to lose my virginity but I don't/ never have had a boyfriend... I'm not sure why and alot of people think I'm lying when I say I'm a virgin (mainy becuase of my huge 34J boobs) b...

A.   14 March 2010: To be honest you seem to be running out to lose your virginity and dont care who its with. If thats all you want, make sure you arent going to regret it. If its any help I never lost my virginity until I was 21, and it wasn't due to lack of opert... (read in full...)

I'm having trouble with my virgin boyfriend!

Q.   Hi i am 17 and i need help. im not a virgin and my boyfriend is and we were planning on haven sex one day but he chickened out, and then told all his friends that we had sex and i was wondering what to do about it? and also how do i give him ...

A.   27 February 2010: Planning on having sex, especially since it is his first time can make him shy away. Believe it or not, Guys can feel shy and nervous like alot of women when it comes to first time sex. Socially it is unacceptable for a male to express these th... (read in full...)

Please someone help, I'm scared I'll fall pregnant!

Q.   please somebody, im begging you for urgent help :( im due on my period on the 3rd march, but tonight (23rd) i had sex with my partner and for some stupid reason i had unprotected sex with him - we never do, please don't ask my why :( he didnt pul...

A.   24 February 2010: Emergency contraceptive always. Hoping for the best is too late to change anything if you do get pregnant. Hopefully in future you will remember the condom :P Have you also considered alternative contraception such as the pill or an implan... (read in full...)

What does he really mean when he says that he values our friendship too much to be in a relationship?

Q.   Why would a guy want to keep you as their best friend, so they do not ruin what they have with you? Is it that they just do not want to have a relationship with you, or that they are not ready or, that they value you too much to lose you from the...

A.   18 February 2010: It could be he isnt interested. It could also be that the risk involved is too high. He could try to move beyond the friend barrier, but as everyone knows, once you cross that line, whatever came before is gone. Sometimes it is better to have som... (read in full...)

Could our different experiences in dating cause big problems down the road?

Q.   I'm very interested in a 23 year old guy who hasn't had a girlfriend before... and I'm 24 and have been dating for nearly 8 years. There are a few things that concern me about us and I'd love your thoughts on any of them: - would he likely be put...

A.   18 February 2010: It sounds to me like he is unsure of how to proceed. I've been in that boat. Take the initiative and be a little more bold than you would normally be. It might take a little time for him to settle down and be comfortable, but if you like him enou... (read in full...)

I feel deep in my soul that he's "the one". Why won't he ask me out on a date?

Q.   What is it about when a man has been showing interest in having a relationship with me for over a year and a half but won't ask me out for a date? He is going through a divorce after a long term marriage and having a very hard time of it. I am...

A.   10 October 2009: Crazy Idea. Ask him out instead of waiting.... (read in full...)

Been on two dates. How do I get him to sleep with me?

Q.   We went out on a first two dates a few days ago and i just found out that we have so much in common. Today he invited me to his house for tonight ... but since we went out on a first dates and he wasnt making any moves towards me and when it came to ...

A.   22 September 2009: I would wait a little and stick to things like kissing etc as he may be wanting to take it a little slower. Then I would just turn round one day and tell him that you think he is a nice guy and that you appreciate he dint just want you for sex ... (read in full...)

Guys: pretty face? or fit body?

Q.   This question is directed to guys on the site really...but I was just wondering whether guys are more attracted by a pretty face or a fit body? ...Not that it matters eventually when you find love but which is initially more attractive?...

A.   23 August 2009: Both are evenly balanced.... (read in full...)

What do I do when my daughters are being sexually molested!

Q.   i dont know what to do when a father is sexually molesting my two daughters. [Moderator note: more information would be helpful for the aunts to give advice.]...

A.   21 August 2009: All I can say is Police. Everyday you leave them there is another day of torture and abuse.... (read in full...)

Perverts on the train!

Q.   Hi Im 15 and everyday i go on this one crowded train to go to a main public place that me and my friends like to hang out. i am always on the train alone (because none of my friends live near me). One day i was wearing a skirt(it was a mini ski...

A.   14 August 2009: Stop wearing provocitive clothing. Ditch the mini skirt and see how things go. I don't agree with thats going on, it is wrong that anyone is taking advantage of you. Plus, mini skirts are trashy if you dont mind my saying so, nothing spell... (read in full...)

Used just for sex?

Q.   why are relationships so hard to maintain? how can you tell when a guy is only using you for sex? can a boy be to good to be true? -help? xxxx...

A.   14 August 2009: To be honest the easiest way is to leave the sex part at the start of a relationship. Get to know eachother, date and spend time together. Ask him questions about things he likes etc and really get to know him. Im not saying wait months but ... (read in full...)

I'm falling for this boy on Habbo and not sure if this is normal because I've never met him! What should I do?

Q.   Q1. Hey, im 15 yr old female, i went on habbo few months back and i met this boy tht was just interested in talking to someone and we got chatting. I was bored and just felt like meeting new people and we've got to know eachother quite well and we w...

A.   11 August 2009: All I can say is if you are planning on meeting this person take an adult or a friend with you. In my work I see kids playing on Habbo and I've had to report more than one groomer on Habbo so be careful.... (read in full...)

Questions about sex!

Q.   I'm not sure what is wrong with me? After sex, I don't want to see the person anymore or have any sort of contact with them. I don't even care if they don't want to ever see me again as well. When they do contact me, I feel so disgusted and I end up ...

A.   7 August 2009: It sounds like you are only interested in sex with these people. Once you have it you just want to discard them and get on with things. Perhaps if you invest yourself into a relationship and leave the sex until you are close and comfortable with... (read in full...)

I love to pursue men, it's a part of my personality, yet I am afraid of how others think

Q.   I've got a guys (player's) mentality towards sex and relationships. I'm ashamed to say i sometimes have more than one guy on the scene at once. Just for sex. But i don't get much emotional attachment to them. I make them feel like princes treating ...

A.   14 July 2009: Nothing is wrong with you. In fact something is very right. Since the dawn of time its been Men who are charged with pursuing Women and you are breaking with tradition. I wish there were more women like you.... (read in full...)

The Most Amazing Guy I have Ever Met

Q.   Everyone has been there. You fall in love with someone who you couldn't be with. Yet, you still love him and thinking about him from time to time brings a smile to your face. My time with this particular gentleman was relatively short and we never ...

A.   5 July 2009: Im currently in a similar situation. When im with her I feel the happiest ive ever been in my entire life, when im with her all my problems are forgotten for that brief time we spend together. Even though im sad at times thinking that the woman I... (read in full...)

She agreed to not hang out with guys but she still does!

Q.   I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year and a half. She kept a lot of things from me about her past and what she has done with other guys, and there have been a few times where she broke promises to me. For example she went out ...

A.   29 June 2009: You just need to get over your insecurities. She is well entitled to have friends of both sexes and believe it or not, if they are close friends the chances are they do not want into her pants. If you feel uneasy get to know them.... (read in full...)

Hes clearly not going to stop. How do I tell him I know hes still watching porn?

Q.   I'v written on here before, and the advise I've been given is sound advise... It's about porn. My boyfirned used to watch a lot of porn. I'd talk a lot about it to him because I've never undertood the attraction myself. I'd tried watching it with...

A.   17 June 2009: Nobodys perfect, sometimes in a relationship you need to accept things that don't always please you. Porn is just something we watch. We enjoy it but we do not under any circumstances think it is a substitute for our partners. ... (read in full...)

Why are the majority of men bad in bed?

Q.   If all men supposedly view porn (which seems to be the consensus on this site) and it is supposed to give you hints and tips to spice up your sex life (isn't this what all guys say), then why is it the majority of men are crap in bed. This was a ...

A.   16 June 2009: First thing, you took a poll on men being bad in bed but asked heterosexual women. How many people do you know that would freely say "im rubbish in bed" ? 1. It could be the woman thats bad in bed 2. Women won't tell a guy hes bad in bed, ... (read in full...)

Female professor in love with me?

Q.   I have a big problem. It's been two years know since I've been seeing my professor. In the beginning I felt extremely strange being that I never had inclinations towards the same sex. She started by asking me to stay after class to help. I found it ...

A.   25 May 2009: This sounds like you might just be curious. Just do what feels natural and comfortable, nothing else matters.... (read in full...)

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