I feel deep in my soul that he's "the one". Why won't he ask me out on a date?
Q. What is it about when a man has been showing interest in having a relationship with me for over a year and a half but won't ask me out for a date? He is going through a divorce after a long term marriage and having a very hard time of it. I am...
A. 10 October 2009: Crazy Idea.
Ask him out instead of waiting.... (read in full...)
Been on two dates. How do I get him to sleep with me?
Q. We went out on a first two dates a few days ago and i just found out that we have so much in common. Today he invited me to his house for tonight ... but since we went out on a first dates and he wasnt making any moves towards me and when it came to ...
A. 22 September 2009: I would wait a little and stick to things like kissing etc as he may be wanting to take it a little slower.
Then I would just turn round one day and tell him that you think he is a nice guy and that you appreciate he dint just want you for sex ... (read in full...)
Guys: pretty face? or fit body?
Q. This question is directed to guys on the site really...but I was just wondering whether guys are more attracted by a pretty face or a fit body? ...Not that it matters eventually when you find love but which is initially more attractive?...
A. 23 August 2009: Both are evenly balanced.... (read in full...)
What do I do when my daughters are being sexually molested!
Q. i dont know what to do when a father is sexually molesting my two daughters. [Moderator note: more information would be helpful for the aunts to give advice.]...
A. 21 August 2009: All I can say is Police. Everyday you leave them there is another day of torture and abuse.... (read in full...)
Perverts on the train!
Q. Hi Im 15 and everyday i go on this one crowded train to go to a main public place that me and my friends like to hang out. i am always on the train alone (because none of my friends live near me). One day i was wearing a skirt(it was a mini ski...
A. 14 August 2009: Stop wearing provocitive clothing.
Ditch the mini skirt and see how things go.
I don't agree with thats going on, it is wrong that anyone is taking advantage of you.
Plus, mini skirts are trashy if you dont mind my saying so, nothing spell... (read in full...)
Used just for sex?
Q. why are relationships so hard to maintain? how can you tell when a guy is only using you for sex? can a boy be to good to be true? -help? xxxx...
A. 14 August 2009: To be honest the easiest way is to leave the sex part at the start of a relationship.
Get to know eachother, date and spend time together. Ask him questions about things he likes etc and really get to know him.
Im not saying wait months but ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for this boy on Habbo and not sure if this is normal because I've never met him! What should I do?
Q. Q1. Hey, im 15 yr old female, i went on habbo few months back and i met this boy tht was just interested in talking to someone and we got chatting. I was bored and just felt like meeting new people and we've got to know eachother quite well and we w...
A. 11 August 2009: All I can say is if you are planning on meeting this person take an adult or a friend with you. In my work I see kids playing on Habbo and I've had to report more than one groomer on Habbo so be careful.... (read in full...)
Questions about sex!
Q. I'm not sure what is wrong with me? After sex, I don't want to see the person anymore or have any sort of contact with them. I don't even care if they don't want to ever see me again as well. When they do contact me, I feel so disgusted and I end up ...
A. 7 August 2009: It sounds like you are only interested in sex with these people. Once you have it you just want to discard them and get on with things. Perhaps if you invest yourself into a relationship and leave the sex until you are close and comfortable with... (read in full...)
I love to pursue men, it's a part of my personality, yet I am afraid of how others think
Q. I've got a guys (player's) mentality towards sex and relationships. I'm ashamed to say i sometimes have more than one guy on the scene at once. Just for sex. But i don't get much emotional attachment to them. I make them feel like princes treating ...
A. 14 July 2009: Nothing is wrong with you. In fact something is very right. Since the dawn of time its been Men who are charged with pursuing Women and you are breaking with tradition.
I wish there were more women like you.... (read in full...)
The Most Amazing Guy I have Ever Met
Q. Everyone has been there. You fall in love with someone who you couldn't be with. Yet, you still love him and thinking about him from time to time brings a smile to your face. My time with this particular gentleman was relatively short and we never ...
A. 5 July 2009: Im currently in a similar situation. When im with her I feel the happiest ive ever been in my entire life, when im with her all my problems are forgotten for that brief time we spend together. Even though im sad at times thinking that the woman I... (read in full...)
She agreed to not hang out with guys but she still does!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year and a half. She kept a lot of things from me about her past and what she has done with other guys, and there have been a few times where she broke promises to me. For example she went out ...
A. 29 June 2009: You just need to get over your insecurities. She is well entitled to have friends of both sexes and believe it or not, if they are close friends the chances are they do not want into her pants.
If you feel uneasy get to know them.... (read in full...)
Hes clearly not going to stop. How do I tell him I know hes still watching porn?
Q. I'v written on here before, and the advise I've been given is sound advise... It's about porn. My boyfirned used to watch a lot of porn. I'd talk a lot about it to him because I've never undertood the attraction myself. I'd tried watching it with...
A. 17 June 2009: Nobodys perfect, sometimes in a relationship you need to accept things that don't always please you.
Porn is just something we watch. We enjoy it but we do not under any circumstances think it is a substitute for our partners.
... (read in full...)
Why are the majority of men bad in bed?
Q. If all men supposedly view porn (which seems to be the consensus on this site) and it is supposed to give you hints and tips to spice up your sex life (isn't this what all guys say), then why is it the majority of men are crap in bed. This was a ...
A. 16 June 2009: First thing, you took a poll on men being bad in bed but asked heterosexual women. How many people do you know that would freely say "im rubbish in bed" ?
1. It could be the woman thats bad in bed
2. Women won't tell a guy hes bad in bed, ... (read in full...)
Female professor in love with me?
Q. I have a big problem. It's been two years know since I've been seeing my professor. In the beginning I felt extremely strange being that I never had inclinations towards the same sex. She started by asking me to stay after class to help. I found it ...
A. 25 May 2009: This sounds like you might just be curious. Just do what feels natural and comfortable, nothing else matters.... (read in full...)
How do I snog with tongues?
Q. My boyfriend wants to snog me at my birthday disco with tounges (tonight) and i don't have a clue how!!!...
A. 15 May 2009: Take it slowly and relax. You will soon get the right idea :)... (read in full...)
Should I let her give me a bj? Or just say no?
Q. I have a bad situation, my date which i was taking to prom just as friends really likes me now when i still feel the same about her. We hung out yesterday and she was hitting on me really hard. She just does a lot of things i don't approve of and im ...
A. 11 May 2009: Glad to see things are going well. Best of luck to you.... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty about losing my virginity?
Q. Hello. I turned 16 in April. i lost my virginity summer of '08. i was 15. i am so confused on whether or not to feel guilty or pleased or secrative or URGH i just don't know. i told my mother today that i've had sex. the thing is- when it happ...
A. 10 May 2009: You already answered your own question. You said you were ready "emotionally, physically, mentally. everything. i didn't feel bad or guilty afterwards, it didn't hurt, everything was jsut wonderful. he was a virgin too. so it wasn't like he was sure ... (read in full...)
I'm considering becoming sterile just soI don't screw up here life
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating just short of a year now. We're both 16 and just starting having sex about a month ago. We've only done it a few times. Both with and without condoms. For some reason she hates condoms and doesn't want to take ...
A. 9 May 2009: Tell her its either a condom or the pill, end of story. She is not the only one at risk here and if shes mature enough, she will see the point. You need to be firm about this, do not get caught up in the moment and stand your ground. She is be... (read in full...)
What to do to tighten up?
Q. Ok well I haven't had sex in a year because I'm scared to w/my husband b/c we've had 2 kids my last 1 3mos ago. But the reason I haven't is b/c after my 1st child my vagina was very. Loose to him. Now to me nothing changed it was still great but he ...
A. 9 May 2009: Have you tried different positions ?
If not, i'd look up different sexual positions which might help.... (read in full...)
I saw her with a guy uglier than me and I don't feel bad
Q. OK I'll make it quick. I dated this girl for about 5 months, very pretty and cute. About three months into our relationship, things went a little sour when she told me she was missing her ex boyfrienda lot so we took a 2 week break from each other. ...
A. 9 May 2009: It seems like you feel insecure to be completely honest. To me this reads like "What does he have that I don't". People are attracted different people, not everyone wants a gym freak or a scruffy guy. You have put alot of work into your physical ... (read in full...)
Should I let her give me a bj? Or just say no?
Q. I have a bad situation, my date which i was taking to prom just as friends really likes me now when i still feel the same about her. We hung out yesterday and she was hitting on me really hard. She just does a lot of things i don't approve of and im ...
A. 8 May 2009: She might feel that if she does this for you it will bring the two of you closer. I'd go to the prom and if things stray let her know you like her as a really cool friend and dont want to risk your friendship. Also whatever you do, do not get caught ... (read in full...)
We passed 100,000 questions published on DearCupid
Q. Today is another milestone in DearCupid history: Over 100,000 questions (100,020 as I write this) have been published! Wow. Thanks to the aunts, the moderators and everyone who shares their problem. As always any ideas on how to improve the s...
A. 7 May 2009: Great to see things going so well !
... (read in full...)
Getting back deleted history on the computer?
Q. Dont know if any of you out there can help but i have been wondering how can you get back things that have been deleted on the history on my computer?...
A. 6 May 2009: Im not 100% if you can get them back or not. As Love4Life said the information is pushed aside until written over, which may have happened more than once.
If its in regards as to what someone has been looking at, try sifting through the cookies.... (read in full...)
Getting Over Unrequited Love!
Q. “GET OVER HIM/HER!” It’s not as simple as some people put it! People tell you to move on “There’s plenty more fish in the sea” but your heart screams that one dreaded name…your true love who never felt the same way and nothing in the world except ...
A. 5 May 2009: Great article.... (read in full...)
Trouble in the bedroom with my new partner
Q. hi i've recently started to see this guy who i adore he is 33 and i'm 25 we slept together for the first time a few weeks ago and he was a little nervous.. so one minute he had an erection then it would go this would happen through out the ...
A. 29 April 2009: I agree with previous posters, performance anxiety seems to be the problem. He is now most likely worried that it will happen again. I would advise foreplay to not only get him aroused but taking it slow will help ease tension.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend her boyfriend tried it on with me?
Q. I was staying at a friend's house after a long night of drinking, she went to bed and passed out leaving me and her boyfriend together. We were casually talking and all of a sudden he tries to kiss me. I had bruises up my arms where he was hol...
A. 22 April 2009: You must tell her everything. You seem to be in a dangerous situation and its important you feel safe.
Maybe next time he won't stop at a kiss.
This has danger written all over it.... (read in full...)
I am fearful that I will end up alone later in life. Am I the only one?
Q. I am 19 years old and I have never had a boyfriend. I have gone on dates and kissed a couple of guys but nothing more than that. It makes me sad and depressed knowing that all of my friends have/have had boyfriends and have been in serious ...
A. 22 April 2009: I somewhat understand your situation. Im just starting down the road to relationships myself. Try asking a close friend to help you. Tell them how you feel and ask them if they can help you, if a relationship is truely what you want. A clo... (read in full...)
I don't want to lie to Mum anymore
Q. There is a guy i have known for years and recently we have fallen for each other and and been sleeping together. My parents like him but i don't know how to tell them that i am not a virgin and have been sleeping with this guy. Im sure my mum susp...
A. 19 April 2009: Since when is your sex life part of your mums business ?... (read in full...)
The adults on this site are so annoying!!!
Q. God, can I just say. Adults on this site are so annoying. I am 13. I haven't asked any... I dunno, sex related questions personally. But looking at the responses for people who are 13 and having sex issues like that girl with the vibrator ect. You ...
A. 18 April 2009: We are responsible adults, sometimes we need to divulge other information that you don't want to hear. While we try and help and be direct we have a conscience, and to ease that conscience sometimes we need to share extra wisdom.
Children do not h... (read in full...)
Is it weird to fancy someone so young?
Q. In a nut shell was with a guy for 3 years, he treated me like shit, you name it he did it!! Met a guy thats 18, I'm 22!! Fancy him like mad but he's four years younger then me, is it weird to fancy someone so young?!...
A. 13 April 2009: It comes down to maturity with a small age difference like that. The gap itself is nothing, so just be happy :).... (read in full...)
Teen mums!
Q. I'd just like to know your opinions on "teen mums". If the legal age to have sex (in the UK) is 16, why do parents age 16-20 get frowned upon? Also what age do you think is appropriate to be a grandparent? ...
A. 25 March 2009: Sex and having a baby are 2 different things.
A child cannot support a baby because they do not have the following:
Maturity
Real World Understanding
Financial support
Education
These are all very important things that any parent sho... (read in full...)
Trippin out!!!
Q. In the middle of February I had unprotected sex. I got my period at the beginning of that month, but now is March 23 and I haven't gotten my period. It's already going to be April and I am worried and stressed out. HELLPPPP:)...
A. 23 March 2009: I know, why dont you just wait until you give birth ?
on a serious note, get a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
What kind of woman/girl would you go for?
Q. For a while now, every guy that I have seemed to like is interested in that stick thin, big boobed, blonde haired type, and seeing as I am a size 10/12 [in UK sizes] brunette, I just wondered.... this is one for the guys, but women feel free to ...
A. 20 March 2009: Well heres a rough guide I suppose, but you need to remember that there is no set standard. Different men like different types of women and vice versa.
1] What colour hair would your perfect woman have?
Red/Brunette
2] Would she be stick t... (read in full...)
Would you say find love first?
Q. Mums, If your daughter has children and is on benefits and is very attractive to men. What would you say to her if she said she will look for a man with a good financial position and chose him over love? obviously both would be ideal! but ...
A. 9 March 2009: It depends. Luring a man by showing genuine feelings is a cruel thing to do. But if both are happy then anything goes.... (read in full...)
He tricked me & now I think I'm pregnant!
Q. Hey, im in a bit of a problem. I had sex about 2 weeks ago, it happend a few times, we used protection, but he said it split. But we both thought nothing of it. Normally my periods are regular, and i havn't come on this month, ive been googling ...
A. 9 March 2009: Well when he said it split you should have been all over it. I advise you to get a pregnancy test to confirm if you are pregnant. Thats the first step.... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to get his grandma to let us sleep together?
Q. My boyfriend and I are goiing to his grandma's house this weekend and we may be taking his little brother. We lived with his grandma for a few months and always slept in separate beds... but the little brother will make it so we are 1 bed short. ...
A. 19 February 2009: Tell her you are both adults and you are more than capable of sharing a bed without jumping on eachother.... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and really want a baby! I'm depressed!
Q. hiyyahh help me i realy want a baby and i'm 13 all my mates are sick of me twisting about it i feel depressed because i want one that bad i crave it ive saved money up and thought it through the only thing i dont want to tell my perants i k...
A. 19 February 2009: You are way too young to have a baby. You cannot even begin to imagine the work that is involved.
It sounds to me like puberty is the key factor here with all those hormones kicking in.
Think of all the hardship you would put your family thro... (read in full...)
They say age is just a number so why is this wrong?
Q. Okay, I'm 13, almost 14, but I am VERY mature for my age. Well, there's this guy, whos name I refuse to mention, and he's freaking amazing. We have so much in common, and he likes me, well, from his behavor I can tell. So, here's my issue, he's 18, ...
A. 16 February 2009: Age is just a number but it only becomes a number when both people are on the same page.
You are a child, even if you are more mature you are still a child.
He is a young adult and on a different level. If he was 30 and you were 21 then tha... (read in full...)
Do guys find nose piercings attractive?
Q. Hey :) Was just wondering if guys found nose piercings attractive? My friend is worrying about it at the moment as she is thinking of getting it done. Thanks x...
A. 15 February 2009: I personally dont. I have rescently found out that I think tongue piercings are attractive.
Every guy is different tho.... (read in full...)
No valentine...
Q. If a guy (who you are supposedly seeing) didn't send you a Valentine even though he got one in return - does this mean he just doesn't care??...
A. 15 February 2009: Fact: Valentines Day is a womans day. This is a holiday that just doesnt jump out of the calendar for men. If the only thing that makes u think he is not interested is no valentines day gift, then that doesnt mean anything. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
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