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writes: Is he losing interest already? I've been dating a man for about a month. The past couple- he has called or stopped by or both, every day... He even stayed a few nights in a row last week. From the beginning he was talking about 'wanting to settle down'. He took me to dinner more than 5 times. Last week he decided to tell me that his ex girlfriend was still in the process of moving out of his home. Since then I became somewhat insecure. He still calls- stopped by this morning... but it seems something is different. He doesn't seem as 'into me'. I should add that we haven't had sex- so it's not all about that. I'm starting to think that maybe I'm some sort of rebound? This man sought me out from the start.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'd like to add that the man also has a daughter (whom he only gets to see once a week-usually). The woman moving out of his home is going through a divorce. She had a daughter (2) - who had moved in with her. I think maybe subconsciously he was trying to be the dad he couldn't be with his daughter with her. Did I mention that his daughter's mother(with whom he split 3 years ago) is now dating a man who was his good friend. Maybe I'm wrong. Just think a lot of issues for a man I just met. Then again- we all have issues... Think I'll distance myself- to let him figure out who he is.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (17 January 2006):
 If something feels different, then it probably is. Trust your gut instinct here. It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants and is juggling 2 women in the process. He most likely has you on stand by until she is out of the picture, because he is insecure and afraid of being alone. I would tell him that you just want to be friends for now. Let him know you have a life and he cannot just stop by when he pleases. It may help him to have a better appreciation for you. It would be best to be his friend for now, than to risk a broken heart since he sounds too confused.
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reader, shania  +, writes (17 January 2006):
 You might be reading in to it too much.....From wot you said,he does seem keen on you but he probably wants to take things more slowly.Remember is ex girlfriend is supposed to be moving out so lets see what happens.He could be on the rebound,its hard to say...did he end the relationship? Or did they decide to go their own way...if thats the case then theres hopefully no hard feelings and he is trying to move on.If i was you,i would take things slowly,just enjoy his company and who knows? he could be your last girlfriend.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (17 January 2006):
 I am not sure what you mean by sought you out but I would proceed with caution here. His ex is obviously still very much on the scene and he is obviously still in a tense and complicated situation. It may be you picking up on his tension and awkwardness. He may be scared you are not interested now knowing what you know.
I would be more inclined to view you as a potential rebound if you had slept together and were saying these things. My advice would be to proceed with caution dont invest too much emotionally in this relationship too soon.
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