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I have man boobs, how can I fix this?
Q. i am a teenage boy and i am fat and i seem to have my man boob stick out, and i want to ask 2 questions: is it normal?? how to i get rid of it?...
A. 9 June 2006: Its not unusual to have "mans boobs" if you are very overweight....the only way to get rid of them is to lose weight.... (read in full...)
I haven't talken to him in 3 weeks and I keep thinking about how happy we were.....I'm so hurt...
Q. well, i know this may sound really silly but 2months ago my bf lost a very close relative, he said to me he wants his space from me i haven't spoke 2 him for 3 weeks, his mum and dad have kicked him out his house cause of his lies, i guess he has ...
A. 9 June 2006: It sounds like he has moved on,i wouldn't try to contact him,just let him get on with it.I know he lost a relative but he still should of treated you with a bit more respect plus he has moved in with his ex...sounds all very cosy.Heartache hurts ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my ex, I love him, but I am married
Q. i am inlove with my exlover but i am married what can i do i had sex with him and i still love him i dont know what to do...
A. 6 June 2006: Oh dear...this is a tricky one.Why did he become your ex in the 1st place?...Im asking this because when couples break up,its so easy to remember the good bits and not the nasty times you had together. I take it your not happy with your husband ... (read in full...)
I slept with a new guy after the shock of a break up
Q. Did I give the wrong answer to his question? I have posted a few questions on this website before as have had a very difficult three months trying to get over the shock of my 4 year live in boyfriend dumping me out of the blue. Following advice I ...
A. 5 June 2006: You didn't do anything wrong...you met this guy,you both wanted sex and enjoyed the moment.This fella only wanted sex...nothing more...thats why he didn't respond to you when you asked him out on a date to see a band...no strings attached.You say it ... (read in full...)
Am I gay, straight, bi? I'm attracted to men, but this woman in the magazine...!
Q. Sexually related question. I'm majorly confused about my sexuality. I'm turned on by men when I see a hot guy, and it takes a very special kinda woman to catch my eye and when I see my kinda girl I get all excited. Recently I was paging ...
A. 2 June 2006: You dont say how old you are?...If you are in your teens then it is quite normal to be attracted to both sexes until you decide on what you prefer better.Its possible that you are bisexual but still have a preference to one sex....in other words,you ... (read in full...)
How can I profess my love to my ex... without sounding desperate?
Q. how do you go about telling your ex that you love her? without her thinking that you are desperate....
A. 1 June 2006: You cant....it doesn't matter what you say,if she finished with you and you want her back,so you confess to her that you love her,then she will know that you are desperate to win her back....but thats not a bad thing.If you think you have a chance ... (read in full...)
She started out as a hot lover, now shes not interested at all, is it too late to get it back ?
Q. I wrote earlier today about the not so steady decline of sex in my relationship. The advice was sound in most cases, but not mine. I am very romantic and very patient, I have tried to speak with her first before seeking outside help. I have tried so ...
A. 1 June 2006: It could be a number of things on why she has lost interest in sex, 1)Depression...2)Not enough foreplay...3)She doesn't feel attracted to you anymore....4)She has a low sex drive etc.They are just a few reasons,but what is really lacking here is ... (read in full...)
Am i too young to understand?, or are there men out there that only love one women and not be intrested in others?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over two years. We love eachother, there is no doubt about that, but he has done some things i can't seem to forget about. He's never cheated on me (that i know of) but he admitted to asking for a girls ...
A. 1 June 2006: I might sound harsh here but if a woman is offering herself on a silver plate,i would say most fella's would take up the offer (if they knew they could get away with it).. However your boyfriend is being immature and insensitive for taking other ... (read in full...)
He treats me horribly when people are around, what can I do?
Q. I am confused. I really like this guy at work who is senior to me. We had an instant rapport and I feel very close to him which is quite a lot for me as I do not let people get emotionally close to me easily. We have confided bits and pieces to each ...
A. 31 May 2006: This man seems shallow because he worries about what other people think and puts them 1st before your feelings....it sounds weak to me.....Since when was it a crime to get on with your co workers?....He listened to the gossip and decided to drop you ... (read in full...)
The sight of showing skin makes my boyfriend cringe, what's wrong?
Q. My 26 year old b.f. cringes when he sees anything that remotely show cases anyone showing skin. He tells me he does not know what kind of women he is attracted to. Is this normal???? ...
A. 30 May 2006: When you say your boyfriend cringes...do you mean when he see's people's skin on TV or in real life as well?...There is loads of people out there,that have all sorts of phobias,from being scared of heights to being scared of baked beans...yes as ... (read in full...)
I talked to her online and now I think I have fallen for her
Q. This is gonna sound really stupid. I have been talkin to a girl on the net for approx 2 months, she is a friend of a friend, but we had never met face to face until yesterday. I bought her flowers and chocolates an a card sayin what i was feeli...
A. 29 May 2006: You wear your heart on your sleeve.I wouldn't say you were totally in love with her because to really be in love with someone,you have to be actually dating her and getting to know her as a real person...faults and all.It does seem that she is ... (read in full...)
Does she want me to keep giving her space, try to restart our relationship... or what?
Q. I was seeing an older woman. The age thing never bothered me, and at first it bothered her but she soon got over it. Everything was going great with our relationship. Then about 6 months into the relationshipIi was a couple hours late getting ...
A. 28 May 2006: I get the impression that this relationship is all one sided.Your lady friend is quite happy for you to cut her grass,for you to get your wallet out and pay for everything and then when you want to be intimate with her....she backs off and says you ... (read in full...)
My Bf seems lost and cant finish anything he starts, its costing money now, what do I do ?
Q. My boyfriend never finishes anything he starts! I love my boyfriend very much, we been together for nearly 9 years and we’ve had lots of fun. Because of him we went abroad and taught English for three years and had a fantastic time. He’s funn...
A. 27 May 2006: Its all down to compromise....no one is perfect and i know a few people like your boyfriend who starts a project...gets all enthusiastic then gives up half way.I think if a person keeps doing that then im afraid its one of these traits you probably ... (read in full...)
Am I misreading signals, just imagining things, or is my lecturer interested?
Q. I am a mature student and I am having trouble diciphering the behaviour of one of my lecturers. For example he makes a point of stopping to speak to me frequently in corridors and asking me how I am getting on. When I have been in his company ...
A. 27 May 2006: It does sound like he fancies you.....are you attracted to him? or is he too old for you?....If you dont want this kind of attention then the only thing you can really do is ignore him,chances are,he will get the message.Its down to you on whether ... (read in full...)
Ladies... Briefs or boxers?
Q. DO girls prefer briefs of boxers???...
A. 27 May 2006: I agree with Sexybum......definately boxers.......if a fella got his trousers off and he was wearing Y fronts,im afraid i would piss myself laughing because only old men wear them.... (read in full...)
In an on-off relationship with a man who doesnt love me, help
Q. hi there, iv been in an on off relationship for the past 12 years , i think i still love him (not sure im a bit confused) although we get on well most of the time hes not very interested in me , if i am enthusiastic or happy about anything he just ...
A. 24 May 2006: Get your hat and coat and tell that loser,you are off!...What are you doing with this man? He said he doesn't love you.....the sex is crap because he is only interested in his own pleasure....he has zapped all your confidence and self esteem....but ... (read in full...)
He wants me on top, but it just doesn't work!
Q. My Boyfriend always likes me to be on top when we have sex, but I honestly can't do it! His penis keeps coming out and I can't keep control and rhythm at all. I've tried it a few times and I just can't do it. I hope this question gets posted o...
A. 24 May 2006: It sounds to me like he isn't fully,sexually aroused,thats why his penis keeps coming out.To have sexual intercourse,your boyfriends penis has to be rock hard...so foreplay is crucial.You are not doing anything wrong...just need a bit of ... (read in full...)
He likes me shaved, but it hurts....what can I do?
Q. My bf has a shaved pussy fetish. I met his needs, but it bleeds a lot when i shave and it stings. I want to keep it up for him though. What do i do? ...
A. 23 May 2006: When i read this....it made my eyes water......Tell your boyfriend to shave all his pubic hair off until he is bald as a coote....see how he likes it! Ouch!!!... (read in full...)
Did he mean no when he said yes?
Q. I have really fallen for this guy that I met a few weeks ago, I dont know him very well but from what I do know he seems like a really lovely guy! I asked him out a few days ago and he said yes!! but now im thinking maybe he only said yes because it ...
A. 23 May 2006: If you asked him out a few days ago and he said yes...then lets presume he meant it....now all you have got to do is plan the date together...whats stopping you?... (read in full...)
I have a partner but I flirted with the girl from work
Q. Hi there, Im 37 and live with my partner of 14 years and have two sons aged 6 and 11. Let me start by saying that I am a flirt, but with no intent on hurting anybody, just friendly. I wish I could say the relationship was flawless but as we all know ...
A. 23 May 2006: Im a bit confused here?....Did you tell your partner to "fff ooo?...or the girl that was after you? Either way,you didn't handle it very well.Ok,so you had a few to drink,but you should be still aware of your actions,and what you are doing with this ... (read in full...)
I want this boy but I hate the thought he has had previous girlfriends
Q. i am 16 and this boy that i really like has been the only person i have fancied in my life. i will ask him out soon but the problem is i dont want him to have ever had a girlfriend before. i want to be the only girlfriend he has had. i want us to ...
A. 23 May 2006: Im afraid you are asking for the impossible here.If this guy you like is the same age as you,chances are,he probably has had a few girlfriends...there is nothing you can do about this...unless you wanted to date a monk! Look at it this way,when you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend moved for a job and now he wants to finish our relationship
Q. have been with my boyfriend for 6 mths . 2 of those mths he has moved away to a new job. literally half an hour away by plane. he has decided to end it cause the distance is to far and his feelings are not strong enough he won't talk how can I get ...
A. 23 May 2006: From what you are saying,it sounds like the distance is too far away for him to put his energies into,he is probably too preoccupied with his new job...new home and the relationship didn't feel that strong enough to with hold.Saying that,he might ... (read in full...)
I find sexual activities disgusting! How do people bare it?
Q. i have a question that is really confusing me. why would anyone want to finger someone? or have oral sex. it is discusting. tell me why people want to do this. how can they bear fingering someone?!?...
A. 22 May 2006: I think in some cases if you love someone then you dont mind giving oral sex....even if you dont really enjoy it....its to please the person you love and feel an emotional bond with.On the other hand...you dont have to do anything that you dont want ... (read in full...)
Can I prevent my cheating GF from getting hurt by her guy-on-the-side?
Q. My girlfriend has been cheating on me for 6 months behind my back. We took a break over Christmas, when she met this guy and continued to see him when we got back together in February. She told me last week and said that she loved him but loved me ...
A. 22 May 2006: Yes he is using her but as the old saying goes,she has made her bed...so let her lie in it.Does that sound harsh? Perhaps...but she didn't think twice on cheating on you so i wouldn't be too sympathetic with her.Your a decent guy and its obvious ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he liked the bj I gave him... and does he shave his "shaft" ?
Q. hi, i gave my boyfriend a blow job recently and im not sure how he felt about it. It was my first time so id like ta know how it was for him but we havent really talked about it. We've been together awhile and can talk about almost anything but i ...
A. 21 May 2006: I doubt it....its perfectly normal for hair to be around the penis and smooth everywhere else,so i would say he doesn't shave his "shaft".As for the blow job that you performed on him,it doesn't sound like he was disappointed...so i wouldn't worry ... (read in full...)
Should I worry that a married, flirting friend now wants to get at job at my company?
Q. Background Male acquaintance who is married, And attracted to. I've known him about 18 months. Started off flirting and teasing me. Didn't know he was married to begin with, but when I found out, stopped the flirting, just acted friendly. Couldn...
A. 21 May 2006: If he does take the job,the ball is really in your court.Sexual attraction is a very powerful thing and clouds all judgement.This man is obviously pursuing you,and because you appear interested in him you haven't taken the bait so therefore he finds ... (read in full...)
Desperately seeking love
Q. Hi there. im 22 years of age and never experienced a serious relationship, all my friends are in serious relationships now and im getting tired of their "love stories". I've been set up on blind dates, i go out with my friends regulary and ive even ...
A. 20 May 2006: Hey! you are still young...ok so you haven't met the ONE yet....it doesn't matter,your friends maybe happy with their partners and you feel the odd one out...but,your time will come.Why dont you try and concentrate on having a good time when you are ... (read in full...)
My married boss wants sex...I love my job and don't want to leave. What should I do?
Q. At the xmas party, i slept with boss, it has taken me a while to get over my own embarrassment and get on with my job and we both agreed to put this behind us. However we still exchange certain looks and yesterday he asked me if I fancied doing so...
A. 20 May 2006: You have made it clear that you dont want to continue this situation but if you keep exchanging looks then eventually your boss is going to think that you want to start it up again...but you are right,it will be only for sex...he will do whatever he ... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends son but he has a girlfriend
Q. I recently had a one night stand with my friends son who I haveknown and liked for a long time.He has a girlfriend,but he told me he had always fancied me etc etc now I dont know what to do I really like him and this was my first time....
A. 20 May 2006: I agree with bonym....how old are you to be sleeping with your friends son?....im very confused.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has commitment issues
Q. ive been with my b/f for nearly 4 years, he is an amazing guy and i couldnt be happier, but there's just one thing, he says he has been engaged before but he broke it off cause he felt trapped, but i would love to be his wife and i dont want to look ...
A. 20 May 2006: You dont say how old you are?...If you two are in your late teens or in your twenties then for some guys that would be considered young to settle down,you have been with him 4 years so it looks like he is serious about you but obviously doesn't want ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't believe me
Q. i need help understanding why my boyfriend dont believe what im saying...
A. 20 May 2006: Could you be more precise in what you mean? Are you saying that everything you say he just calls you a liar or what?... (read in full...)
Should I keep texting him???
Q. I asked this guy out and he said yes but I constantly get the urge to text him-when I do text he texts back but he never initiates the text. He would never randomly text me-is it a bad idea for me to be constantly txting him, could it scare him ...
A. 20 May 2006: I agree with Dr pete,some people like to txt more then others,i wouldn't read too much into it though.Send him txts by all means,at least he does reply back....i would only worry if he never responded to your messages.... (read in full...)
He wasn't ready for a gay relationship-so we ended it and I need advice on how to cope. Please help
Q. Hello everyone, this might be very long, please be patient, but I have finally gotten a SERIOUS WAKE UP CALL, and this is really hard to write but I know that what is happening is for the best-I'm shaking, and I'm completely scared and i need as ...
A. 19 May 2006: I remember your letter and i think i did respond to it as well.You did the right thing in ending it...you weren't getting the love and commitment that you needed in this relationship and it seemed that you did all the giving while your ex did the ... (read in full...)
Text Rejection
Q. I asked a boy out a few days ago and he said yes. He said he is going to be busy with work for a while so we decided not to go out until early june, he then asked for my number, i didnt have my phone with me at the time and so i got his number off ...
A. 19 May 2006: Well he could be very busy and got side tracked but if it is bothering you that much...then send him another text to say whether he got your last message or not? If he still doesn't respond then maybe he had a change of heart.... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend like men?
Q. How can u tell if your boyfriend is gay? Umm all my friends think he's gay, although i thought he was just camp but its making me wonder, so can anyone tell me? I know it's stupid and he's probably not but i have to know. I already asked him but he ...
A. 19 May 2006: If he was gay then why would he be dating you? Maybe to cover up his real sexual preferences? Some men have a feminine side to them hence the camp behaviour but you cant go by that.Anyway,if you are happy together then why should you listen to what ... (read in full...)
Feeling the blues
Q. I get so upset alot. I'm young and depressed! Is that normal? It doesn't feel like it, but, I do really well in school, have lots of friends, but get so depressed! When i am depressed i write in my book, or write songs, do art. None of them seem to ...
A. 19 May 2006: Im sorry to hear that you are feeling low...have you tried talking to your parents or a close friend that you can confide in? You dont say how old you are but maybe it would help if you spoke to your family doctor? You say that you do well at ... (read in full...)
How can I make him dump her?
Q. I like a boy,but he already has a girlfriend.How do I get him to dump her and make me his girlfriend?...
A. 19 May 2006: You cant...it would be down to him on whether he wants to finish with his girlfriend or not.... (read in full...)
My husband likes porn and I am in an abusive marriage
Q. I have been with my husband for over 20 years and have experienced an abusive marriage with regards to his alcoholism, infedility, mental and physical abuse, masturbation, sexual demands as well as him being able to carry out conversations and ...
A. 19 May 2006: Christ!...he sounds like the husband from hell!...Why on earth do you put up with him? This man has no respect for you whatsoever,because if he really loved you he wouldn't hit you...any man who hits a woman is a coward and basically low life.Also ... (read in full...)
He is not my intellectual equal
Q. so im with this great guy...problem is just(this is going to sound harsh)that he is not very intelligent. He is nice, sweet, caring, affectionate, tolerant and not jealous at all of my male friends. I am also very attracted to him physical...
A. 19 May 2006: Well physical attraction wont keep a relationship together because after the honeymoon period is over and the lust fades (which it does) what is left after that? You have to have a connection here and if you find him irritating then it looks like ... (read in full...)
I fancy someone from work but does he fancy me?
Q. ok - this is daft, as I am a fully grown 32 year old woman but I have a major school girl crush on one of my colleagues - actually I'm kind of his boss. We get on really well and he was really kind to me when I split up with my husband last summer - ...
A. 19 May 2006: He might be quite shy with women in a sexual sense but if its just a friendship thing...then he probably feels more confident and at ease with himself without the heavy stuff...but i might be just guessing.Its obvious that he enjoys your company but ... (read in full...)
What's the difference between his flirting and teasing?
Q. One of my colleague always teasing me but means no harm, I suppose. Anyway,I don't exactly know what's difference between tease and flirt sometimes from his behavior? Besides, we are very good company and have some the same interests. He looks char...
A. 19 May 2006: I would just ask him out for a drink,just the two of you and see what he says.If he likes you alot then he should say yes,straight away.If he makes excuses up on why he cant see you...then its safe to say that he probably see's you as just a ... (read in full...)
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